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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I would like to get a verification meet on my profile and I was chatting with a lady last week who lives in Reading. She said she would meet me for a coffee when I'm here and since I've been here she hasn't seen my messages  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not the messages. It's the profiles that get most women's attention more 
Holly"
Hmm but it's allways men who have to make the first move.. So I'm thinking the first message has to be good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the messages. It's the profiles that get most women's attention more
Holly
Hmm but it's allways men who have to make the first move.. So I'm thinking the first message has to be good. "
The message will get someone looking at a profile. If the profile is shit, the majority of women will disregard the message, regardless of how good it is. The profile and message need to go hand in hand
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not the messages. It's the profiles that get most women's attention more
Holly
Hmm but it's allways men who have to make the first move.. So I'm thinking the first message has to be good.
The message will get someone looking at a profile. If the profile is shit, the majority of women will disregard the message, regardless of how good it is. The profile and message need to go hand in hand
Holly"
I know but I wouldn't like to take pictures of myself looking super hot in case I am deceiving women in reality. I mean anyone can look good on cam, ya know.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I usually open with a Sky remote penis pic. Works a charm"
Maybe for some. It's weird online though.. I mean I once chatted with a man who was very well endowed and he wasn't having as much luck as I was I just can't work it out sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the messages. It's the profiles that get most women's attention more
Holly
Hmm but it's allways men who have to make the first move.. So I'm thinking the first message has to be good.
The message will get someone looking at a profile. If the profile is shit, the majority of women will disregard the message, regardless of how good it is. The profile and message need to go hand in hand
Holly
I know but I wouldn't like to take pictures of myself looking super hot in case I am deceiving women in reality. I mean anyone can look good on cam, ya know.. "
I dont think many who have super hot pictures look drab in real life. Not unless they are filtering them to within an inch of their life. It's just about taking a few pics of yourself and choosing the best ones to upload. There's nothing wrong with that and not deceptive at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's not the messages. It's the profiles that get most women's attention more
Holly
Hmm but it's allways men who have to make the first move.. So I'm thinking the first message has to be good. "
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
The trick is not to "try" to get their attention, more just be yourself and not go in expecting to meet right off the bat - and make sure you back it up with a profile and pics that are appealing.
I've had conversations that have led to meets spring out of all sorts of things, usually a comment on a forum post that has then sparked a conversation that has nothing to do with meeting initially but as time has progressed and a connection has been established the suggestion to meet has arisen, and not always me suggesting it either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely send first messages and even then it is generally on the back of something in the forum. I have no success garnering interest through searching profiles and sending messages. So my forum presence is the main way I get noticed or on the very odd occasion after I have posted a new picture and someone has found my profile amusing. I get so few views that I know of, and let’s face it most women are in stealth mode, to stop the ‘I see you looked at my profile messages’ that having a bit of fun of the forum is my predominant way of interacting with women. I’ve tried the chat rooms but they’re like shouting from the bottom of a deep ocean and expecting someone to hear you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to fab they're pics and send a wink. I never really know what to say... "
Done both of those and in 9.5 years on here it has never once led to a conversation, except one wink on the back of a winking thread on here. I can’t remember who winked first though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tend to fab they're pics and send a wink. I never really know what to say...
Done both of those and in 9.5 years on here it has never once led to a conversation, except one wink on the back of a winking thread on here. I can’t remember who winked first though."
Women winking me has worked though, one nice conversation started from a wink very recently when ai responded with a message.
That was on the back of me saying that winking has never worked for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to fab they're pics and send a wink. I never really know what to say...
Done both of those and in 9.5 years on here it has never once led to a conversation, except one wink on the back of a winking thread on here. I can’t remember who winked first though.
Women winking me has worked though, one nice conversation started from a wink very recently when ai responded with a message.
That was on the back of me saying that winking has never worked for me "
I have had a few meets throw it but when you read profiles they sometimes ask for the most random of pic ups.. Some ladies seem nice but they ignore you... I'm polite and respectful but get annoyed someone just deletes your message when when you follow the criteria they have put in place. It's a little disrespectful considering you've gone through the effort to read and acknowledge their requests.. Sticky toffee pudding... Good idea.. Ha ha |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
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I have had a few meets throw it but when you read profiles they sometimes ask for the most random of pic ups.. Some ladies seem nice but they ignore you... I'm polite and respectful but get annoyed someone just deletes your message when when you follow the criteria they have put in place. It's a little disrespectful considering you've gone through the effort to read and acknowledge their requests.. Sticky toffee pudding... Good idea.. Ha ha"
It's standard practice and an acceptable way of saying "No thanks" (per the site FAQs) to delete a message without response though.
While you may think you meet someone's criteria, or are what they are looking for, they may not - add to that the level of *abuse* some users send back when they get a message saying no thanks, and that by replying it bypasses any future filters someone might set and you get an idea why people (me included) just straight delete a message if it's of no interest.
Don't take it personally is my advice, just accept it happens and move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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It is annoying when you do all they say and then just get deleted without even a no thanks back.
But I guess ladies are getting bombed with messages 24/7 so they haven't got the time to reply to everyone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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It is annoying when you do all they say and then just get deleted without even a no thanks back.
But I guess ladies are getting bombed with messages 24/7 so they haven't got the time to reply to everyone.
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I get hardly any messages (usually) and I never reply to anyone either. You could have what you think is the perfect profile, message etc, and no one owes you a reply. If I’m not interested (I don’t find them attractive, distance, or whatever reason) then I won’t reply |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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It is annoying when you do all they say and then just get deleted without even a no thanks back.
But I guess ladies are getting bombed with messages 24/7 so they haven't got the time to reply to everyone.
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From other posts you've indicated you're in sales in some respect - try thinking about it from that perspective - when you go to a client to try and sell them something, or send them details of a promotion and they either don't buy anything or don't respond - do you find that annoying, or just accept it and put it down to the nature of a role in sales i.e. that you won't always make a sale?
Same principle here really |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to fab they're pics and send a wink. I never really know what to say...
Done both of those and in 9.5 years on here it has never once led to a conversation, except one wink on the back of a winking thread on here. I can’t remember who winked first though.
Women winking me has worked though, one nice conversation started from a wink very recently when ai responded with a message.
That was on the back of me saying that winking has never worked for me
I have had a few meets throw it but when you read profiles they sometimes ask for the most random of pic ups.. Some ladies seem nice but they ignore you... I'm polite and respectful but get annoyed someone just deletes your message when when you follow the criteria they have put in place. It's a little disrespectful considering you've gone through the effort to read and acknowledge their requests.. Sticky toffee pudding... Good idea.. Ha ha"
If they don't fancy you though, you dont fit their criteria. There are a lot of people who might fit into what a person is looking for based on personality, but if that initial attraction to your pics is not there, then you are not their physical type. Try not to get annoyed. See it as a person's way of saying "No Thanks, not for me". It would be so much easier to have a button that did this, but as we don't, that's what a no reply or delete means. It's in the sites FAQ's.
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