"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all 
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x"
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on "
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x"
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is"
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x"
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests  not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x"
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x"
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps "
You know for me that's what it's about, that's what drew me to fab. Openess, honesty I thought it would be a good starting point for great experiences. |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps
You know for me that's what it's about, that's what drew me to fab. Openess, honesty I thought it would be a good starting point for great experiences."
It is, just gotta work up the courage to start going to socials and clubs to meet more people, I’m not that popular on here unfortunately but oh well  |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps
You know for me that's what it's about, that's what drew me to fab. Openess, honesty I thought it would be a good starting point for great experiences.
It is, just gotta work up the courage to start going to socials and clubs to meet more people, I’m not that popular on here unfortunately but oh well "
Well it's not a popularity contest..unless someones a complete ass of course for me it's about doing me. Socials are a good way to go and sound fun. : |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Of course it isn’t .
You don’t miss what you’ve never had do you ?
Or do you? I would not have wanted to not experience it"
Well you tell me then !
Everyone is different and I know plenty of people who say they will never fall in love as to them it isn’t worth the heartache . And they seem happy enough ..... |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps
You know for me that's what it's about, that's what drew me to fab. Openess, honesty I thought it would be a good starting point for great experiences.
It is, just gotta work up the courage to start going to socials and clubs to meet more people, I’m not that popular on here unfortunately but oh well
Well it's not a popularity contest..unless someones a complete ass of course for me it's about doing me. Socials are a good way to go and sound fun. :"
Mainly someone to talk to haha, not all about the sex is it even just someone to have the talks to explore what I like and stuff |
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over a year ago
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps
You know for me that's what it's about, that's what drew me to fab. Openess, honesty I thought it would be a good starting point for great experiences.
It is, just gotta work up the courage to start going to socials and clubs to meet more people, I’m not that popular on here unfortunately but oh well "
You don't have to be popular on here. A social or a club it's real people to interact with. Go for it you'll be surprised, trust me |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
This!!  "
It’s all situational of course but that experience shook me through and through |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x
I believe I am over it just certain things cause a relapse, certain triggers, but I hope they don’t follow me for life, I’ve struggled enough as it is
It's good to recognise triggers. We all deserve a bit of happiness. Many of us have fought the good struggle x
That’s one of the reasons I’m on fab, try to inject some happiness into my life with other people who have similar interests not that I ever have time to meet, or anyone for that matter hahah but it’s good to feel sociable on the forums and know others have suffered like I have x
Yeah me too..it's good to talk x
It is good to have everything on the table with someone, the ability not to be ashamed or embarrassed really helps
You know for me that's what it's about, that's what drew me to fab. Openess, honesty I thought it would be a good starting point for great experiences.
It is, just gotta work up the courage to start going to socials and clubs to meet more people, I’m not that popular on here unfortunately but oh well
You don't have to be popular on here. A social or a club it's real people to interact with. Go for it you'll be surprised, trust me "
Don’t have the confidence, plus the nearest club for me is a fair distance on public transport, never mind getting home afterwards haha |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Of course it isn’t .
You don’t miss what you’ve never had do you ?
Or do you? I would not have wanted to not experience it
Well you tell me then !
Everyone is different and I know plenty of people who say they will never fall in love as to them it isn’t worth the heartache . And they seem happy enough ....."
Everyone is different that's for sure. I don't think love has to mean heartache and I don't think that you need love to be happy either. I think happiness comes from within. I would rather be happy by myself than miserable in 'love'. I suppose some people do want what they have never had and others don't. I know people who want love who have never been in love. |
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Love is like a pube on a toilet pan, sooner or later you get pissed on
Seriously I have am a better person for experiencing the rollercoaster of love, the ecstatic highs, the heart-breaking lows and the middle ground of contentment and everything between. Archetypally I am a Lover so unsurprisingly I agree with the statement. |
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I wouldn't know don't even really know what love is to be honest. Bounced around care homes since birth.
I think I read somewhere that we feel and experience love from our mums and dads and close ones, so look for that feeling as adults, to build relationships and attachments, never had a relationship with anyone that's lasted more than a few months, in during these times am I experiencing love, or is it having a void of emptiness being filled, and the parting is just the anxiety of being alone again.
It's confusing. |
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"Love is like a pube on a toilet pan, sooner or later you get pissed on
Seriously I have am a better person for experiencing the rollercoaster of love, the ecstatic highs, the heart-breaking lows and the middle ground of contentment and everything between. Archetypally I am a Lover so unsurprisingly I agree with the statement."
I have taken that same ride Doc...and I'd ride it again with the right person. |
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"I wouldn't know don't even really know what love is to be honest. Bounced around care homes since birth.
I think I read somewhere that we feel and experience love from our mums and dads and close ones, so look for that feeling as adults, to build relationships and attachments, never had a relationship with anyone that's lasted more than a few months, in during these times am I experiencing love, or is it having a void of emptiness being filled, and the parting is just the anxiety of being alone again.
It's confusing."
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"Love is like a pube on a toilet pan, sooner or later you get pissed on
Seriously I have am a better person for experiencing the rollercoaster of love, the ecstatic highs, the heart-breaking lows and the middle ground of contentment and everything between. Archetypally I am a Lover so unsurprisingly I agree with the statement.
I have taken that same ride Doc...and I'd ride it again with the right person."
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Yes if course because no matter how painful it is experience and experience equals growth"
Yes..When the dust has settled, hopefully something positive can be learnt for our own well being |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Same here!! "
And me
Love is too much drama - I prefer the mundane than the soul crushing emotions that go hand and hand with 'love '
It's taken me a long time to realise that it's OK to be on my own and not need anyone.
Love steals your independence.
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Definitely, everyone needs to have experienced it once
for those who wish it ...I hope they find it."
Do other people refuse to allow themselves to feel this way in case they get hurt again |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Same here!!
And me
Love is too much drama - I prefer the mundane than the soul crushing emotions that go hand and hand with 'love '
It's taken me a long time to realise that it's OK to be on my own and not need anyone.
Love steals your independence.
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Alternatively it can transform our independence into interdependence - mutuality between two autonomous people. |
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"It seems that 'love' leaves leaves so many of us with battle scars. It's just not how it's meant to be is it. For me even through it all I still feel lucky to have know it."
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Same here!!
And me
Love is too much drama - I prefer the mundane than the soul crushing emotions that go hand and hand with 'love '
It's taken me a long time to realise that it's OK to be on my own and not need anyone.
Love steals your independence.
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I admire independence in people. I would never give mine away, I don't think you need to. |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Sounds like the bad outweighed the good..that's a shame x
It was good for the majority, the break up ruined me, still affects me 2 years on
Do you think that you'll ever get over it..I really hope you do x"
You will one day and find love again don't let it make you bitter about love learn from it and move on
Definitely better to of had love and lost |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Definitely, everyone needs to have experienced it once
for those who wish it ...I hope they find it."
Totally agree... I’m past that stage now, but wish all those that fund it the bliss and comfort it brings |
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Love and lost.
So much enjoyment from love.
So many people afraid to have feelings incase they get hurt.
I say embrace your emotions and feelings and dont be afraid to show them and explore them.
Also dont be afraid of the hurt, it's a learning curve |
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Can't answer for never having loved at all...
But loved and lost, isn't that great.
Yet the sun will rise every morning and with each new day we have the chance to start again.... |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Same here!!
And me
Love is too much drama - I prefer the mundane than the soul crushing emotions that go hand and hand with 'love '
It's taken me a long time to realise that it's OK to be on my own and not need anyone.
Love steals your independence.
Alternatively it can transform our independence into interdependence - mutuality between two autonomous people."
Or co-dependance when two people massively fuck each other up  |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
In my experience I’d have preferred not to have loved at all
Same here!!
And me
Love is too much drama - I prefer the mundane than the soul crushing emotions that go hand and hand with 'love '
It's taken me a long time to realise that it's OK to be on my own and not need anyone.
Love steals your independence.
Alternatively it can transform our independence into interdependence - mutuality between two autonomous people.
Or co-dependance when two people massively fuck each other up "
Or if we are ever that lucky just that perfect mutual support understanding and peace where each knows that the other feels like home.... |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Definitely, everyone needs to have experienced it once
for those who wish it ...I hope they find it.
Do other people refuse to allow themselves to feel this way in case they get hurt again "
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
Of course it isn’t .
You don’t miss what you’ve never had do you ?
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I've never been in love in spite of a 17 year marriage so I don't know if it is better to have loved and lost or not.
I don't feel I have missed out in the sense I have my kids and I enjoy my own company.
I wouldn't say I never want it to happen but I am not looking for it as I love my life and it would take a special person to compliment it. |
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"Better to have loved and lost than never loved at all?
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Yes
Because once you've survived the worst another person can do to you, you realise just how strong you are, what you are capable of.
Having my heart broken, my life destroyed was the best thing that ever happened to me. |
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Defiantly better to have loved even if you have lost it
I know people feel they can’t bare the pain and regret feeling so close to someone then it ending it’s as though all the best of times change rapidly to the worst of times, nothing hurts more than a broken heart
But Yes it is worth it, it’s real raw and beautiful and sometimes bites us but i know it’s my driving force and I am at my best when I love |
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