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over a year ago
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“Look, I tried, I wanted it to work but it’s just not. I want you to know it’s not me, it’s you. Whilst you’re reading this text I understand you may be upset, even a little confused but I think it’s for the best.” |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Eat your favourite ice cream during it.
Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with  "
What if she cries man, canny deal when she starts crying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"“Look, I tried, I wanted it to work but it’s just not. I want you to know it’s not me, it’s you. Whilst you’re reading this text I understand you may be upset, even a little confused but I think it’s for the best.” "
Can’t do it through text man, needs to be face to face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Eat your favourite ice cream during it.
Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with
What if she cries man, canny deal when she starts crying "
Ask her if she wants a hug. If she doesn’t, leave her to it
Put on your big boy pants and do it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"“Look, I tried, I wanted it to work but it’s just not. I want you to know it’s not me, it’s you. Whilst you’re reading this text I understand you may be upset, even a little confused but I think it’s for the best.”
Can’t do it through text man, needs to be face to face "
Take her out? Have a meal and romantic sex and then whisper in her ear that it’s over?
That’s quite gentle?
As you can tell...I’m great with break ups |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So breaking up with someone using advice you got from a public forum on a swingers site wouldn’t make you feel shite? Hmmm  "
I’m not meaning me feeling like shit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Eat your favourite ice cream during it.
Be quick about it; nothing worse than a really long breakup. Got it over and done with
What if she cries man, canny deal when she starts crying
Ask her if she wants a hug. If she doesn’t, leave her to it
Put on your big boy pants and do it "
Thank you
*goes to wardrobe to get big boy pants* |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You can't. You just need to get on with it and be honest making it clear that it's over and not leave any ambiguity. "
Yeah true, there is no easy way to do it is there  |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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Don’t do it after you’ve just been to the pictures together.
Don’t eye roll and break into a “i’m freeeee” slow jog when they shout after you “you’ll never find anyone as good to you as me” until you’re at least 1/2 a mile away from them and wearing trainers. |
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By *ems17Couple (FF)
over a year ago
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I had to leave my ex, who I was living with, it was horrible.
But I had to think...when I’m 80 years old will I look back and be glad I stayed in a place where I didn’t belong, or look back and be glad I put myself first. So I left and I couldn’t be happier now! It takes time but you’ll get there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I had to leave my ex, who I was living with, it was horrible.
But I had to think...when I’m 80 years old will I look back and be glad I stayed in a place where I didn’t belong, or look back and be glad I put myself first. So I left and I couldn’t be happier now! It takes time but you’ll get there "
That’s a great way to look at it thank you . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just got to be honest! It may be shit at the time and will leave you both feeling awful, but it’s better to just bite the bullet and do it than dragging it out. |
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"How long have you been going out?
Been together 4 years :-/"
Sit down with her. Tell her in clear terms that it's over. Don't beat about the bush or give false hope. If she asks why (she will) tell her as kindly as possible why you feel you're no longer suited, answer her questions as far as possible. Don't promise friendship or time to think it over or anything like that. Quick and clean heals faster. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"How long have you been going out?
Been together 4 years :-/"
Awwwww, that's quite a long time for someone your age I think. Do you think she might see it coming? I don't think it's going to be easy however.
I wouldn't go out for dinner ~ Too romantic.
I wouldn't ask her to come to yours ~ she might hang around for ages.
I wouldn't go to hers ~ you'll feel bad about leaving her.
I'm shit at this stuff, sorry! |
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Do it quick, do it clean.
Be honest about it but don't give them too much detail.They dont need an inventory of their faults, or details of how wonderful the new person you've (maybe) met is..Be kind.
It's going to hurt, however you do it but try and do it with some kind of decency.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How long have you been going out?
Been together 4 years :-/"
She'll probably have an idea already if that's the case, women are detectives!
If you're sure it's what you want then just be straight with her, but don't get pulled back in by guilt, you're doing what's best for you both in the end. Split full stop, avoid a "break" because breaks always end and need dealing with again....
Good luck!
Steve x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"How long have you been going out?
Been together 4 years :-/
Awwwww, that's quite a long time for someone your age I think. Do you think she might see it coming? I don't think it's going to be easy however.
I wouldn't go out for dinner ~ Too romantic.
I wouldn't ask her to come to yours ~ she might hang around for ages.
I wouldn't go to hers ~ you'll feel bad about leaving her.
I'm shit at this stuff, sorry! "
She keeps asking if we are alright or I am okay with her but I’m sure I’ve been normal with her.
I was thinking just going for a drive park up somewhere and just tell her straight that I want to break up.
Thanks for your help though |
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over a year ago
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"How long have you been going out?
Been together 4 years :-/
She'll probably have an idea already if that's the case, women are detectives!
If you're sure it's what you want then just be straight with her, but don't get pulled back in by guilt, you're doing what's best for you both in the end. Split full stop, avoid a "break" because breaks always end and need dealing with again....
Good luck!
Steve x"
I’ve always beeen pulled in by guilt, the tears come and I’m like but maybe we can make it work and I’m back in the same position 3-4 months later .
Cheers Steve |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How long have you been going out?
Been together 4 years :-/
Awwwww, that's quite a long time for someone your age I think. Do you think she might see it coming? I don't think it's going to be easy however.
I wouldn't go out for dinner ~ Too romantic.
I wouldn't ask her to come to yours ~ she might hang around for ages.
I wouldn't go to hers ~ you'll feel bad about leaving her.
I'm shit at this stuff, sorry!
She keeps asking if we are alright or I am okay with her but I’m sure I’ve been normal with her.
I was thinking just going for a drive park up somewhere and just tell her straight that I want to break up.
Thanks for your help though "
Don’t do that. You will then have to drive back together and that could be awful for her.
Do it sensitively but with somewhere she can escape to if she needs to get away from you. |
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I mean... You already have a secret fab profile so it's clear you don't give a shit about the girl. You just don't want to feel guilty or face any consequences.
Do her a favour and get it over with. |
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"I mean... You already have a secret fab profile so it's clear you don't give a shit about the girl. You just don't want to feel guilty or face any consequences.
Do her a favour and get it over with. "
Boom |
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"I mean... You already have a secret fab profile so it's clear you don't give a shit about the girl. You just don't want to feel guilty or face any consequences.
Do her a favour and get it over with. Boom "
like others have said . She will have an idea already |
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"You or her feeling shit?
Her feeling shit "
You can't. Life is tough sometimes and as an adult you occasionally have to do things that you really wish you didn't have to.
Face your responsibility to her, you will probably hurt her feelings but you're stringing her along if you don't make a clean break and soon.
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