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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Are you a hunter or prey when it comes to meeting on fab?
Do you approach others or wait for them to come to you? Once you get chatting do you actively seek to woo the other person or do you let them do it? |
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My experience has been a 50/50 split I think, some guys have messaged me first and others I initiated the messages which then lead to meeting, you can’t always sit around and wait for them to come to you  |
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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago
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"On Fab, men--unless they are *truly* exceptional--are essentially required to be hunters to have any reasonable hope of meeting. Or at least that’s my impression."
That is not to say women don’t approach men, as _andybeach says for example, but the odds are dramatically reduced for men who are passive, given the amount of lads on here. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"On Fab, men--unless they are *truly* exceptional--are essentially required to be hunters to have any reasonable hope of meeting. Or at least that’s my impression."
I honestly think it comes down to the individual person and their expectations and perceptions of the site.
Seeing it as a "hunt" isn't necessarily the way to go though, yes you have to be pro-active and take steps to stand out to get noticed (but that applies equally to men and women), but it also doesn't have to be quite as cold and clinical as a hunt would suggest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hit B with cupid's arrow, after a little flirt-sparring from both directions.
It was very much a mutual thing.
There really are some predators on here who you can watch and predict their next move they're so transparent.
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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago
Liphook |
"On Fab, men--unless they are *truly* exceptional--are essentially required to be hunters to have any reasonable hope of meeting. Or at least that’s my impression.
I honestly think it comes down to the individual person and their expectations and perceptions of the site.
Seeing it as a "hunt" isn't necessarily the way to go though, yes you have to be pro-active and take steps to stand out to get noticed (but that applies equally to men and women), but it also doesn't have to be quite as cold and clinical as a hunt would suggest."
Yes, I dislike the term hunt. But I took it to mean here as simply proactive, not just waiting. |
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"Are you a hunter or prey when it comes to meeting on fab?
Do you approach others or wait for them to come to you? Once you get chatting do you actively seek to woo the other person or do you let them do it? "
My hunting has been pretty much unsuccessful so I kinda sit back and wait.
And wait.
And wait.
And wait.
And wait.
And wait.
And wait.
You get the picture...... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I hit B with cupid's arrow, after a little flirt-sparring from both directions.
It was very much a mutual thing.
There really are some predators on here who you can watch and predict their next move they're so transparent.
P"
It's actually really funny leaving and coming back to fab and seeing some people approach and use the same lines they did before. It's like a routine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I'm the hunted but every now and then I'll check out new members in my area or updates etc.
I have no problem contacting guys that I like the look of  "
Thank you  |
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"I hit B with cupid's arrow, after a little flirt-sparring from both directions.
It was very much a mutual thing.
There really are some predators on here who you can watch and predict their next move they're so transparent.
P
It's actually really funny leaving and coming back to fab and seeing some people approach and use the same lines they did before. It's like a routine. "
They don’t even need to leave, all to often you get the same cut and paste message that you didn’t respond to before haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hit B with cupid's arrow, after a little flirt-sparring from both directions.
It was very much a mutual thing.
There really are some predators on here who you can watch and predict their next move they're so transparent.
P
It's actually really funny leaving and coming back to fab and seeing some people approach and use the same lines they did before. It's like a routine. "
Calculated. I don't like it one bit.
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"A bit of both, if someone catches my eye or stimulates my mind, I’ll send a message "
Exactly that, a pic or a forum post may lead someone to catch your eye, maybe take a look at their profile but it's only when you start to talk and find a connection and chemistry and like minds that are on the same wavelength that you can really *know*
Hence my earlier response to the OP about taking a more laid back, go with the flow and see where it leads approach, rather than seeing myself as hunter or prey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A bit of both, if someone catches my eye or stimulates my mind, I’ll send a message
Exactly that, a pic or a forum post may lead someone to catch your eye, maybe take a look at their profile but it's only when you start to talk and find a connection and chemistry and like minds that are on the same wavelength that you can really *know*
Hence my earlier response to the OP about taking a more laid back, go with the flow and see where it leads approach, rather than seeing myself as hunter or prey "
Exactly this.
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"A bit of both, if someone catches my eye or stimulates my mind, I’ll send a message
Exactly that, a pic or a forum post may lead someone to catch your eye, maybe take a look at their profile but it's only when you start to talk and find a connection and chemistry and like minds that are on the same wavelength that you can really *know*
Hence my earlier response to the OP about taking a more laid back, go with the flow and see where it leads approach, rather than seeing myself as hunter or prey "
The expanded version of my synopsis |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"A bit of both, if someone catches my eye or stimulates my mind, I’ll send a message
Exactly that, a pic or a forum post may lead someone to catch your eye, maybe take a look at their profile but it's only when you start to talk and find a connection and chemistry and like minds that are on the same wavelength that you can really *know*
Hence my earlier response to the OP about taking a more laid back, go with the flow and see where it leads approach, rather than seeing myself as hunter or prey
The expanded version of my synopsis "
Well you know me...why use one word when twenty could be used |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The prey, I’m sure every women gets 1000s of messages a day so there’s no point, if they like you I’m sure they will message and if there lucky I’ll reply  |
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"A bit of both, if someone catches my eye or stimulates my mind, I’ll send a message
Exactly that, a pic or a forum post may lead someone to catch your eye, maybe take a look at their profile but it's only when you start to talk and find a connection and chemistry and like minds that are on the same wavelength that you can really *know*
Hence my earlier response to the OP about taking a more laid back, go with the flow and see where it leads approach, rather than seeing myself as hunter or prey
The expanded version of my synopsis
Well you know me...why use one word when twenty could be used "
Haha indeed, you have a way with words and know how to write an essay, albeit an interesting read |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Probably erring towards hunter. If I like someone I prefer to let them know, I'm crap at the passively waiting to be chased thing. Sometimes it quickly becomes apparent we're not that compatible and I let things fizzle but generally I'm quite good at knowing what I like and if we'll be compatible.
I might try being a bit more nonchalant and prey like for a hoot though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The prey, I’m sure every women gets 1000s of messages a day so there’s no point, if they like you I’m sure they will message and if there lucky I’ll reply "
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