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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Being a single man with most of my friends in long-term relationships I don't have anyone to go on holiday with but really want a break.
I went on one holiday alone for a long weekend and found it a lonely experience.
What do those of you without partners do when going on holiday? I think it's hard to make friends with strangers as a single guy as I find people are more inclined to feel less threatened by women.
Anyone else in the same boat? What have you done in my shoes? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to holiday alone quite a lot before i was married.. it helped i had friends in the travel industry who were reps so I went to turkey a lot ..
Also went to luxor, and the west coast of America..amongst other places.. i loved it, if i wanted company i sought out people but if i wanted to do my own thing i just got on with it.. |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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There are loads of Single Holiday companies who cater for Single people.
However, a friend of mine chose a different holiday style, via the RNIB. They have a scheme where sighted people can buddy up with a blind person to assist them through airports, travel matters on the ground, and at hotels. She did not have to be with her fellow blind holidaymaker 24/7, as the other lady was very independently minded, but was simply around as a travel companion for the crucial points of the holiday.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are loads of Single Holiday companies who cater for Single people.
However, a friend of mine chose a different holiday style, via the RNIB. They have a scheme where sighted people can buddy up with a blind person to assist them through airports, travel matters on the ground, and at hotels. She did not have to be with her fellow blind holidaymaker 24/7, as the other lady was very independently minded, but was simply around as a travel companion for the crucial points of the holiday.
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In my experience single holiday companies charge a lot more than if you went on holiday using a single room supplement |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like my own company, so lonely isn’t some thing I feel regularly. In fact when I’m alone I feel great!
The plus side is you’ve got no one to please, you can do as you wish, when you wish...law permitting. In no way am I condoning public indecency  |
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I've just come on my first solo holiday to Mexico.(here now) if I'm honest I probably hoped I would have met someone by now but haven't so thought sod it. Same as you most of my friends are married etc... I'm having a great time, at times it's a bit daunting but juts think get a grip... So I would really encourage you to juts do it. Life is too short to wait and you don't know for sure until you try.. Good luck x |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"There are loads of Single Holiday companies who cater for Single people.
However, a friend of mine chose a different holiday style, via the RNIB. They have a scheme where sighted people can buddy up with a blind person to assist them through airports, travel matters on the ground, and at hotels. She did not have to be with her fellow blind holidaymaker 24/7, as the other lady was very independently minded, but was simply around as a travel companion for the crucial points of the holiday.
In my experience single holiday companies charge a lot more than if you went on holiday using a single room supplement "
To some extent, I agree, but there are some companies who do not, with whom I've travelled in the past.
Several Coach Travel companies have branched out into trips abroad via flights and don't charge single supplements. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t think of it from a negative point of view! I’ve been on a couple of holidays on my own to Munich and Washington over the last year and I love being with myself in another country learning about it and seeing the beautiful things. In my experience, it’s been easy to talk to new people at landmarks and even find other people who are on a break on their own |
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Before I had my lad I always holidayed on my own, around Europe, Egypt.
I liked the freedom of it, I knew the date I was arriving and leaving the rest I just decided on the night before.
Being an only child I was more than use to my own company so that never bothered me
Life’s too short just go for it |
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I've travelled a lot on my own, in my pre-kid days.
There are organisations like Couch Surfing which let you meet up with local people who'll show you round their home town, be it for cultural or social stuff ie pub crawls etc.
I've hosted here in Liverpool (again pre-kid) and taken people out and about or given them pointers on what to see or do.
Also as others have said theres loads of singles holidays out there now, and they dont all charge a supplement.
Other alternatives are go do voluntary work somewhere, you'll be with likeminded people and get a buzz out of doing something positive too. Loads of different project to choose from both here and abroad. I think the National Trust do stuff in the UK and also have a look at WWOOF, for working holidays elsewhere.
Happy travels!
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I went on holiday alone once. Well to be fair part of it alone. I was going to a wedding in France, took the train there and the long route alone over a couple of days stopping off for overnight stays. I had a great time, I like my own company anyway. I had a cracking night out in Dijon. I went out had a lovely dinner and hit the bars. I realised pretty soon that it would be a boring night if I didn't talk to people. But back then I didn't talk to strangers much, I was shy and socially awkward. But I plucked up the courage to just chat to randoms. It was super scary, hard work but so rewarding. Often the language was a bit of a barrier but a freindly smile goes a long way. Made a few random friends that night and had a few laughs with them. It was great for my confidence and social skills. It turn out to have been great warm up training too for when I first hit the club scene as a single guy, I very much had to do the same again and it worked. I would say if travelling alone take the time to talk to strangers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've been going on holiday alone for the last 20 years. There are plenty of "alternative"/activity holidays depending on your interests. Not always cheap, but then nothing is if you're single! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just come on my first solo holiday to Mexico.(here now) if I'm honest I probably hoped I would have met someone by now but haven't so thought sod it. Same as you most of my friends are married etc... I'm having a great time, at times it's a bit daunting but juts think get a grip... So I would really encourage you to juts do it. Life is too short to wait and you don't know for sure until you try.. Good luck x"
Good points there, it can be very daunting. I’ve done a couple now , Galapgos last year and spent my 40th away racing a half marathon in Norway...!! had same feelings as described above. Once you get your mind over it, go out there and do the things you want when you want . You’ll find that contentment and enjoyment.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've had a few good trips solo. Stayed in hostels, seen some great places and met some interesting people. I think life is too short to wait for others, just gotta go for it sometimes."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went on holiday alone once. Well to be fair part of it alone. I was going to a wedding in France, took the train there and the long route alone over a couple of days stopping off for overnight stays. I had a great time, I like my own company anyway. I had a cracking night out in Dijon. I went out had a lovely dinner and hit the bars. I realised pretty soon that it would be a boring night if I didn't talk to people. But back then I didn't talk to strangers much, I was shy and socially awkward. But I plucked up the courage to just chat to randoms. It was super scary, hard work but so rewarding. Often the language was a bit of a barrier but a freindly smile goes a long way. Made a few random friends that night and had a few laughs with them. It was great for my confidence and social skills. It turn out to have been great warm up training too for when I first hit the club scene as a single guy, I very much had to do the same again and it worked. I would say if travelling alone take the time to talk to strangers. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for your reply, folks.
I got a £250 flight voucher and live 5 minutes from London City Airport so I have my eye on Granada.
I'm just going to book it this coming week for 5 days and take the weekends around it to travel there and back. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I holiday with my children and find it incredibly lonely at times.
I think in reality the escape from the routine of everyday life is the thing to focus on x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Come to Fuerteventura and stay at my villa. Im a naughty naturist and can show you the naturist beaches. Guaranteed sunshine."
Well that sounds mighty tempting... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I like my own company, so lonely isn’t some thing I feel regularly. In fact when I’m alone I feel great!
The plus side is you’ve got no one to please, you can do as you wish, when you wish...law permitting. In no way am I condoning public indecency "
U are so me...like my own company |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Been on a few holidays on my own, I like my own company so loneliness isn’t an issue. I’ve always ended up chatting to people at the bar (even on occasions when I just wanted to stand and people watch) so find it ok from that perspective.
A couple of tips I’ll add that I think help
If you’re a football fan, booking during a summer tournament is always good on the social side. I’ve always ended up chatting to people, English and Foreign during and after the game.
As for the single person surcharge mentioned, try booking the hotel direct in the website and a flight separately with the airline. For eg, I’ve been to fuerteventura a few times same hotel. On my own with Thomson can come out at over £800, booked separately it’s about £550-£600. dependant on time of year of course, but the savings are always significant.
PM if you need more details etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it! I’m preparing to hike the Pacific crest trail in America on my own. Have given up trying to find a willing companion - everyone thinks I’m mad lol. 2600 miles tho to contemplate the meaning life and get away from all this technology. Bliss! (He hopes  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I love travelling on my own, sometimes more than with friends or family. I can match to the beat of my own drum.
I once booked into a hostel, thinking I'd booked a female only 4 bed dorm, only to discover that it was male not female  . Non of us minded though.
I also loved Tenerife on my own, even travelling about to the old town, I didn't have issue with, it's just a big adventure. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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I suppose it depends what you mean by holiday. If you mean going somewhere and lying on a beach that would be pretty fucking lonely but then again I’d hate that no matter who I was with 
I’m planning myself a solo trip away at the moment. I’m looking at going to Berlin, but it’s a non stop kind of holiday, there is no time to be lonely when you’re exploring.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Go for it dude. I'm going to the states next month on my own. I cant wait. Admittedly, I do converse easily with other people as I'm pretty laid back!
Dont be afraid to embrace it though. The world is a huge place. My bucket list is to do the PCT hike in America. It's a trek from the Mexican border to the Canadian border. I need six months off work though! |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I have done several holidays alone. I find a holiday sitting around a pool and eating alone can be a bit lonesome. I now tend to go on organised tours....China, India and Nepal were great. You get chatting to others sitting next to them on the coach and at the sites. Then you can sit with folk you get on with for meals.
But I do enjoy holidays and camp van trips in the UK on my own. Great doing things you want and going where you want without having to check with others.
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I went on a solo holiday to Tenerife last year, aged 29. The whole idea of the trip was to spend a week in the sun chilling out after sitting some stressful exams in the summer.
On a whole, i has a good time. I got up when I wanted, went for a run everyday, and did exactly what I wanted to do all the time.
It did feel a bit lonely though, not gonna lie, especially at dinner time, and there were plenty of moments I wanted to share with someone.
Overall, I would do it again. It’s better than just sitting at home feeling sorry for myself. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I (Crimson) love holidaying alone. Since leaving my ex husband a couple of years ago I've been away a couple of times a year.
I'm a reader which helps if it's a quieter holiday! But I love that you can do what you want, when you want. Eat, train, sit quietly, go into town, head out on a day trip...
People tend to be quite intrigued by it so you get chatting and that way you have company if you want it but can make your excuses if not.
An aunt of mine was a lot less solitary than I can be and went on regular walking holidays where she met lots of very good friends as well as her current very long term partner so activity type holidays are a good bet too. |
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The first time can be worrying as if something goes wrong, you're on your own. Especially as I love Asia and it's a minimum 16 hour journey from the UK, so any accidents or illnesses and I will have to cope.
I'm off to Cambodia at the end of July and I'm excited already, knowing the time is my time, travel or sit on a beach. Get bored of a place, catch a bus or jump on a plane find somewhere else.
Obviously in Vietnam, Thailand or Cambodia it's easier to meet people, as I found last year and best of all, after the price of the flights it's cheap |
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"Being a single man with most of my friends in long-term relationships I don't have anyone to go on holiday with but really want a break.
I went on one holiday alone for a long weekend and found it a lonely experience.
What do those of you without partners do when going on holiday? I think it's hard to make friends with strangers as a single guy as I find people are more inclined to feel less threatened by women.
Anyone else in the same boat? What have you done in my shoes?"
if I'm not going with my children.. I book a self indulgent holiday that's all what I want and enjoy it.
I get everything to myself. I go where I want, when I want.. And it's fabulous x
Next trip for me alone is a mini Italy break.. starting in Venice and using the trains to go across Italy and end in Sicily... I'm going cheap as it's just me and mostly using hostels |
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Ive never done a holiday alone as such but used to go to loads of music festivals alone and classed those as my holiday. Want to be alone go find a quiet corner of the site and watch the world go by, want to be with people head to the bar or the front of a big stage.
Being self employed and single doesn't really drive you to take the holidays alone that you might do when your being paid to take a holiday so its a little harder to motivate myself to do stuff alone now |
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"Being a single man with most of my friends in long-term relationships I don't have anyone to go on holiday with but really want a break.
I went on one holiday alone for a long weekend and found it a lonely experience.
What do those of you without partners do when going on holiday? I think it's hard to make friends with strangers as a single guy as I find people are more inclined to feel less threatened by women.
Anyone else in the same boat? What have you done in my shoes?"
Nice profile btw! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Honestly just go for it, as a widower I was always worried about going on holiday by myself but now I love it - it’s amazing how many other single people you meet, just avoid family resorts or you kinda look a bit odd lol. I regularly go to Italy, I definitely recommend it. Cruises are also great fun, tend to meet a lot of people onboard and not just pensioners like some will have you believe. |
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I have a partner, family and friends, yet I holiday alone from time to time, as do some of my friends.
I need time away by myself to "do" me. I don't want to compromise, just do what I want.
I use companies like Travelsphere, Jules Verne, Newmarket etc who cater for single travellers. You have company should you want it or independence if you don't. There are also companies that cater specifically for single travellers.
I'm a fast approaching 60 black woman. I travel alone and make friends in environments where I am the ethnic minority and enjoy myself. If you engage with your fellow travellers you'll be fine.
The only time I wish I had company was the waiting around at the airport on the journey home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Due to lack of funds I'm unable to holiday away alone but I often go on weekends away alone. I love my own company, out walking in the great outdoors doing my own thing. Time to recharge, time to reflect and of course, peace |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've just come on my first solo holiday to Mexico.(here now) if I'm honest I probably hoped I would have met someone by now but haven't so thought sod it. Same as you most of my friends are married etc... I'm having a great time, at times it's a bit daunting but juts think get a grip... So I would really encourage you to juts do it. Life is too short to wait and you don't know for sure until you try.. Good luck x"
Have a great time you brave lady xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Have really enjoyed reading this thread and it had made me think about booking somewhere to go on my own! I used to travel a lot for work and spend time wandering around places on my own, but taking a holiday alone has always seemed a bit, well lonely, but actually reading about all your experiences has got me excited for the places I could go to and explore!!...so thank you OP!! xx |
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I have been away 3 times on my own, hated each and every one. I am painfully shy when on my own and seem to have my neon FO sign permanently on, so sitting in a dining room or restaurant on my own is soul destroying. I do need to learn to be more receptive and open. Luckily I have made some amazing FAB friends and just arrived back this afternoon from another week in Gran Canaria with 5 of them 
I will try another holiday on my own and try and break out of my shell, but will also jump at the chance of going away with friends |
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