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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not? |
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not? "
For me it’s because I cant accommodate and I’m not keen on hotel meets |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t do hotel meets.
I won’t meet random men; I like to feel comfortable and therefore talk to them for a few weeks before hand.
They’ll probably want me again, and hey, who wouldn’t? So it’s only fair that I don’t fuck them, and keep them wanting me. They’ll go insane.
I don’t do one off fucks.
90% of men who are staying ‘in my area’ treat the women on fab as if they’re hookers, show no respect and are dumbfounded when ‘I’m in your area, when can we meet’ doesn’t work for them.
If you want an easy fuck, there’s people you can pay for that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m ideally looking for locals as I’d like to have regular fun with someone if there is a connection, so don’t really see much point in getting to know someone who’s only around every so often.
Also find that a lot of men who message that aren’t immediately local will always say ‘I work in your area’ but never actually seem to do so. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t do hotel meets.
I won’t meet random men; I like to feel comfortable and therefore talk to them for a few weeks before hand.
They’ll probably want me again, and hey, who wouldn’t? So it’s only fair that I don’t fuck them, and keep them wanting me. They’ll go insane.
I don’t do one off fucks.
90% of men who are staying ‘in my area’ treat the women on fab as if they’re hookers, show no respect and are dumbfounded when ‘I’m in your area, when can we meet’ doesn’t work for them.
If you want an easy fuck, there’s people you can pay for that "
However, there’s a few men and women from the forums who travel for work; I’d love if they were travelling near me and we could meet. Social or otherwise |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My reason for meeting someone isnt just because they happen to be in my area. If I like you and you are in my area for work then marvellous, less travelling for me. But all the usual laws of attraction have to apply first sadly, location not being one of them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They're usually just after fuck n go.
And I like them to provide carrot cake. And some just won’t do that for a fuck and go  "
Carrot fuck n go. I'm in.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m ideally looking for locals as I’d like to have regular fun with someone if there is a connection, so don’t really see much point in getting to know someone who’s only around every so often.
Also find that a lot of men who message that aren’t immediately local will always say ‘I work in your area’ but never actually seem to do so."
with my job I actually do travel all over the UK with work.. But I see what you mean there. I think some men say they travel for work, just to try their luck with women who are in different areas. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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" My reason for meeting someone isnt just because they happen to be in my area. If I like you and you are in my area for work then marvellous, less travelling for me. But all the usual laws of attraction have to apply first sadly, location not being one of them "
 I travel for work a fair amount as well but I tend to meet those I've been speaking to already. Otherwise I'd feel a bit like they are servicing me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"They're usually just after fuck n go.
And I like them to provide carrot cake. And some just won’t do that for a fuck and go
Carrot fuck n go. I'm in. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The amount of men who say ‘oh I’m working in Hogsmeade can we meet’ and I ask ‘are you? Where is that again?’ Just for them to reply ‘where you are’ is unreal 
At least tryyyyyyyyyy to make it sound convincing
(It’s not a real place) |
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It often feels like they expect entertainment from me while they're there, rather than wanting to connect with me as a person (no matter how temporarily). Like I'm a free prostitute. It often feels quite slimy, and it's a no. |
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"The amount of men who say ‘oh I’m working in Hogsmeade can we meet’ and I ask ‘are you? Where is that again?’ Just for them to reply ‘where you are’ is unreal
At least tryyyyyyyyyy to make it sound convincing
(It’s not a real place)"
I have a wizard friend who got me past the Muggle barriers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The amount of men who say ‘oh I’m working in Hogsmeade can we meet’ and I ask ‘are you? Where is that again?’ Just for them to reply ‘where you are’ is unreal
At least tryyyyyyyyyy to make it sound convincing
(It’s not a real place)"
If they aren’t aware of the HP reference you definitely shouldn’t be meeting them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The amount of men who say ‘oh I’m working in Hogsmeade can we meet’ and I ask ‘are you? Where is that again?’ Just for them to reply ‘where you are’ is unreal
At least tryyyyyyyyyy to make it sound convincing
(It’s not a real place)
If they aren’t aware of the HP reference you definitely shouldn’t be meeting them! "
Exactly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" My reason for meeting someone isnt just because they happen to be in my area. If I like you and you are in my area for work then marvellous, less travelling for me. But all the usual laws of attraction have to apply first sadly, location not being one of them
I travel for work a fair amount as well but I tend to meet those I've been speaking to already. Otherwise I'd feel a bit like they are servicing me. "
Ooh now I quite like the idea of a service  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The amount of men who say ‘oh I’m working in Hogsmeade can we meet’ and I ask ‘are you? Where is that again?’ Just for them to reply ‘where you are’ is unreal
At least tryyyyyyyyyy to make it sound convincing
(It’s not a real place)"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only do hotel meets with someone i know well i prefee a social meet first...if they are here on business thst rarely means they will want a socal....also i prefer regular meets or at least semi regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many people want to have socials beforehand without the pressure of 'I'm here now, let's fuck', which is often the case.
Also there's a sense of 'I'm here, you'll do' about it. Travelling for someone is very different from being idle in the area and looking at options.
As I saw it on someone's profile; "I'm not a local tourist attraction" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When I travel away for work I'm usually in one place for no longer than a week or two.
Soon as I get to a different area I do a local search and I would love to just meet up for a drink.. But I think women think I'm dodgy
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s because they want a local Prince Charming and find mr right, a fab swinging relationship and live happily ever after? Right?
Wrong "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s because they want a local Prince Charming and find mr right, a fab swinging relationship and live happily ever after? Right?
Wrong "
Don't ever have a relationship with a man who has a profile on here. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In 99% of cases it's also a message they've sent to every woman within however many miles, and it shows. Nope. It's not "pick a pussy" "
Not in my case. Thats the thing women think all men come under the bracket of any holes a goal.
For me there has to be something about a woman that a like. For example I live in South Wales and since being on this site I've only messaged around 7 in my area.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s because they want a local Prince Charming and find mr right, a fab swinging relationship and live happily ever after? Right?
Wrong
Don't ever have a relationship with a man who has a profile on here. "
Speaking from experience? |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I find most men are so disrespectful towards women on here. Like someone else has mentioned, they don't give a shit what I am looking for, they just want to empty their balls with just about anyone, I always direct them to the local prostitutes, as that is how they make me feel.
If you really do travel regularly to the same place, may I suggest you do your homework, read profiles and make contact in advance, rather than send messages like I normally get that all it says is 'In hotel now, wanna meet?'  |
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In addition to all the aforementioned reasons, the 'in your area' types are far more likely to contact you with little or no notice and apart from that smacking of entitlement to me, I just think *really*, you really want me to pop down to your hotel in just half an hour, looking like I've been dragged backwards through a hedge, with hairy legs and bags under my eyes because I got up really early this morning for work, as well as having just eaten something very garlicky for tea ?!
And when you get an 'in your area' message at 8pm I can't help think they must be getting truly desperate at that point and are just flinging out messages willy nilly or else they'd have made the 'effort' far sooner.
Plus safety. No way would I set off to meet a stranger without having tried to suss them (and the hotel) out a bit first |
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not? "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find most men are so disrespectful towards women on here. Like someone else has mentioned, they don't give a shit what I am looking for, they just want to empty their balls with just about anyone, I always direct them to the local prostitutes, as that is how they make me feel.
If you really do travel regularly to the same place, may I suggest you do your homework, read profiles and make contact in advance, rather than send messages like I normally get that all it says is 'In hotel now, wanna meet?' "
You mean you arent up for meeting total strangers in their hotel at 3am?
Cos they happen to be on a work conference and have escaped the wife for a couple of days?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find most men are so disrespectful towards women on here. Like someone else has mentioned, they don't give a shit what I am looking for, they just want to empty their balls with just about anyone, I always direct them to the local prostitutes, as that is how they make me feel.
If you really do travel regularly to the same place, may I suggest you do your homework, read profiles and make contact in advance, rather than send messages like I normally get that all it says is 'In hotel now, wanna meet?'
You mean you arent up for meeting total strangers in their hotel at 3am?
Cos they happen to be on a work conference and have escaped the wife for a couple of days?
Pickeeeee "
I dont know where that emoji snuck in from. Wasnt meant to be there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t do hotel meets.
I won’t meet random men; I like to feel comfortable and therefore talk to them for a few weeks before hand.
They’ll probably want me again, and hey, who wouldn’t? So it’s only fair that I don’t fuck them, and keep them wanting me. They’ll go insane.
I don’t do one off fucks.
90% of men who are staying ‘in my area’ treat the women on fab as if they’re hookers, show no respect and are dumbfounded when ‘I’m in your area, when can we meet’ doesn’t work for them.
If you want an easy fuck, there’s people you can pay for that "
Spot on |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"I find most men are so disrespectful towards women on here. Like someone else has mentioned, they don't give a shit what I am looking for, they just want to empty their balls with just about anyone, I always direct them to the local prostitutes, as that is how they make me feel.
If you really do travel regularly to the same place, may I suggest you do your homework, read profiles and make contact in advance, rather than send messages like I normally get that all it says is 'In hotel now, wanna meet?'
You mean you arent up for meeting total strangers in their hotel at 3am?
Cos they happen to be on a work conference and have escaped the wife for a couple of days?
Pickeeeee "
I know! Fecking fussy bitch that I am, especially given the length of time since I last had sex, I should be jumping at the chance |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not? "
A lot of them may be married as so i wouldn't go there..
Plus they only contact you on the day they are due to arrive..
I mean wtf is that all about? Not for me, sorry |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s because they want a local Prince Charming and find mr right, a fab swinging relationship and live happily ever after? Right?
Wrong
Don't ever have a relationship with a man who has a profile on here.
Speaking from experience? "
Heck no  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What else can I say to ladies when I'm in their area though? It is what it is! .. I'm just a man looking for company like everyone else. "
Oh so its about you? Do you know where you are going in advance? If so add some meets in that area for when you will be there and see if anyone takes the bait.. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"What else can I say to ladies when I'm in their area though? It is what it is! .. I'm just a man looking for company like everyone else. "
I believe in my first post here that I gave you the advise you have asked for! But no as usual, goes right over a mans head as usual  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What else can I say to ladies when I'm in their area though? It is what it is! .. I'm just a man looking for company like everyone else.
Oh so its about you? Do you know where you are going in advance? If so add some meets in that area for when you will be there and see if anyone takes the bait.. "
Sometimes |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What else can I say to ladies when I'm in their area though? It is what it is! .. I'm just a man looking for company like everyone else.
I believe in my first post here that I gave you the advise you have asked for! But no as usual, goes right over a mans head as usual "
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not?
For me it’s because I cant accommodate and I’m not keen on hotel meets "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not?
For me it’s because I cant accommodate and I’m not keen on hotel meets
This "
Wouldn't a hotel meet be safer than going to a strangers home though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not?
For me it’s because I cant accommodate and I’m not keen on hotel meets
This
Wouldn't a hotel meet be safer than going to a strangers home though "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm gonna chuck out a different view here, and it may make some sense.
I WOULD have a social with someone who was travelling through, but only if I'd seen them milling about on the forums, or if it had been someone we'd been chatting to for a while or had met before.
Other than that, if I was horny and wanted a meet I'd rather take my chance and go to a club where I'm 95% sure I'll be safe, if there was someone there who got my juices flowing and we bumped uglies then so be it, huzzah. If not.... well, I'm warm, safe, have company even if the only other people in there are staff, oh, and i can float about in the jacuzzi pretending all those bubbles have been made by my bum.
It really is a no brainer for me
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm gonna chuck out a different view here, and it may make some sense.
I WOULD have a social with someone who was travelling through, but only if I'd seen them milling about on the forums, or if it had been someone we'd been chatting to for a while or had met before.
Other than that, if I was horny and wanted a meet I'd rather take my chance and go to a club where I'm 95% sure I'll be safe, if there was someone there who got my juices flowing and we bumped uglies then so be it, huzzah. If not.... well, I'm warm, safe, have company even if the only other people in there are staff, oh, and i can float about in the jacuzzi pretending all those bubbles have been made by my bum.
It really is a no brainer for me
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That’s like me. I’d meet someone from the forums if they were up my way. But a random, nope |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s because they want a local Prince Charming and find mr right, a fab swinging relationship and live happily ever after? Right?
Wrong
Don't ever have a relationship with a man who has a profile on here.
Speaking from experience?
Heck no "
We met on here and couldn't be happier. The guys aren't all bad, well at least the one I found isn't |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s because they want a local Prince Charming and find mr right, a fab swinging relationship and live happily ever after? Right?
Wrong
Don't ever have a relationship with a man who has a profile on here.
Speaking from experience?
Heck no
We met on here and couldn't be happier. The guys aren't all bad, well at least the one I found isn't "
Aww another one! (Fab couple) I actually think it's great. Just not for me. X |
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I used to be a sales rep and cover the whole Uk I thought I would find some regular fabers to have fun with and it would suit those that can’t accommodate.
Unfortunately I have almost no success meeting anyone on my travels using fab.
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"In 99% of cases it's also a message they've sent to every woman within however many miles, and it shows. Nope. It's not "pick a pussy"
Not in my case. Thats the thing women think all men come under the bracket of any holes a goal.
For me there has to be something about a woman that a like. For example I live in South Wales and since being on this site I've only messaged around 7 in my area.
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... I specifically said 99% of cases (of guys looking for hotel meets). Not "all men think any hole is a goal". And it's my perception of the messages I get. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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All been said above really! They're not looking for me, more anyone who will ... how about when I fancy it? ... I'm working in Cornwall ermmmm it's a very long county! Only ever meet for socials first means meet in the bar first? 90% seem to be married  |
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"All been said above really! They're not looking for me, more anyone who will ... how about when I fancy it? ... I'm working in Cornwall ermmmm it's a very long county! Only ever meet for socials first means meet in the bar first? 90% seem to be married "
Yeah, there's also an assumption that because they have a hotel room, I'll fuck them. Yeah no. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" My reason for meeting someone isnt just because they happen to be in my area. If I like you and you are in my area for work then marvellous, less travelling for me. But all the usual laws of attraction have to apply first sadly, location not being one of them "
this! |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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It sounds like a kind of click and collect scenario Only when it’s suitable for the collectee as has been said above They’ve escaped the clutches of thier evil wife’s who only give blowjobs at Christmas and that’s only with a condom on
But this is single ! And straight and will respect ya and not wipe Their cocks onthe curtains as they leave |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If there's a fresh piece of meat in my area and it looks tasty, of course I'll take a bite. I still haven't found anyone I'd want to see a second time, so I don't factor that in lol. |
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I’ve only ever done a couple of hotel meets in my time on and off this site, and as I’m not interested in one off’s and F & G’s it’s teally not for me what ever the circumstances. It made me feel like a hooker, so never again .... but horses for courses, if it works for some then happy days |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t do hotel meets.
I won’t meet random men; I like to feel comfortable and therefore talk to them for a few weeks before hand.
They’ll probably want me again, and hey, who wouldn’t? So it’s only fair that I don’t fuck them, and keep them wanting me. They’ll go insane.
I don’t do one off fucks.
90% of men who are staying ‘in my area’ treat the women on fab as if they’re hookers, show no respect and are dumbfounded when ‘I’m in your area, when can we meet’ doesn’t work for them.
If you want an easy fuck, there’s people you can pay for that "
This x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have noticed many female profiles don't want to meet men who are staying in their area for work. At first I thought this was because they're searching for regular fwbs, however this isn't the case for all.
So why not?
For me it’s because I cant accommodate and I’m not keen on hotel meets
This
Wouldn't a hotel meet be safer than going to a strangers home though "
I live in hotels half the month myself so meeting in a hotel would feel like work for me. Not sexy at all. |
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