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Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat! |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x"
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x
Id rather be normal."
You are normal. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x
Id rather be normal."
Am I not normal? I’m bi
What is normal? |
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I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad 
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be  |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be "
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope? |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
This is a interesting question.
Im in the dating game at the moment and soon as i mention bi they think i would go off with another woman, sorry to say it’s usually the men who think this.
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?"
What business is it of theirs?
I don't discuss my sexual preferences with my parents.
That's just weird.
If anyone asks I tell them, I don't not tell them, because I'm ashamed. Just because it's none of their business. Unless I decide to take a boyfriend round.
My friends know.
I was a little confused anyway, based on you being "curious" on the profile.
Even less reason to tell them.
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?"
I've never had any bad reactions or grief from anyone I know personally. A few strange looks and comments from strangers when I've been holding hands with or once kissing another woman in public, but that's all.
This is the first serious relationship I've had with another bisexual person, and the first as swingers. But my sexuality hasn't ever been an issue in my monogamous relationships either tbh, neither has theirs. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
I’m bi too but you don’t have to let it affect you negatively. It’s the best of both worlds and only your business and who you wish to share it with. I don’t feel it necessary to announce it to friends, family and people in the vanilla world. Don’t be so hard on yourself  |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I've never had any bad reactions or grief from anyone I know personally. A few strange looks and comments from strangers when I've been holding hands with or once kissing another woman in public, but that's all.
This is the first serious relationship I've had with another bisexual person, and the first as swingers. But my sexuality hasn't ever been an issue in my monogamous relationships either tbh, neither has theirs. "
You sound lucky, I'd never tell my family. Especially as I've no interest in a same sex relationship.
"Mum, Dad, Kids, I've something to tell you. Im bisexual. No dont worry im not thinking about leaving my wife because I'm in love with another man, i just love sucking dick, the bigger the better, and if if i can get them in my ass, even better!".
Pointless sexuality. |
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I'm bi and couldn't care less who knows. Yes I know my profile says straight but then it also says I'm only looking for nobody age 99. That's only cause I needed a break from messages as work is busy.
I get it's harder for men to be socially accepted as bi. But other people's sexual orientation has nothing to do with me unless I want to sleep with them as in I'm their type.
So what difference does it make !
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I've never had any bad reactions or grief from anyone I know personally. A few strange looks and comments from strangers when I've been holding hands with or once kissing another woman in public, but that's all.
This is the first serious relationship I've had with another bisexual person, and the first as swingers. But my sexuality hasn't ever been an issue in my monogamous relationships either tbh, neither has theirs.
You sound lucky, I'd never tell my family. Especially as I've no interest in a same sex relationship.
"Mum, Dad, Kids, I've something to tell you. Im bisexual. No dont worry im not thinking about leaving my wife because I'm in love with another man, i just love sucking dick, the bigger the better, and if if i can get them in my ass, even better!".
Pointless sexuality. "
I don't discuss it with my parents, and wouldn't unless I had a relationship with another woman, they'd be cool with it, I just don't see the point.
You don't need to tell the world, it's more about accepting it and being happy with it for yourself yaknow? |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?"
I don’t discuss my private life with my parents, I find that very strange.
As for work mates again it’s none of their business. There are some that if they ask me the “right” question I would answer, but if they don’t word it correctly I don’t volunteer the information
I feel for you that you do not feel comfortable with who you are |
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"Again, what business of theirs?
If you consider it to be pointless.
Just stop playing with Men. Simple
This i agree obviously its affecting your head"
Lol you have no idea! Actually playing with a man has got very little to do with it. I could never play with a man again, and i haven't for quite some time, but id still be fucking bi. |
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"Again, what business of theirs?
If you consider it to be pointless.
Just stop playing with Men. Simple
This i agree obviously its affecting your head
Lol you have no idea! Actually playing with a man has got very little to do with it. I could never play with a man again, and i haven't for quite some time, but id still be fucking bi."
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I don’t discuss my private life with my parents, I find that very strange.
As for work mates again it’s none of their business. There are some that if they ask me the “right” question I would answer, but if they don’t word it correctly I don’t volunteer the information
I feel for you that you do not feel comfortable with who you are "
This illustrates perfectly that it isn't "normal". We discuss normal behaviour with our parents. Etc.. |
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"Again, what business of theirs?
If you consider it to be pointless.
Just stop playing with Men. Simple
This i agree obviously its affecting your head
Lol you have no idea! Actually playing with a man has got very little to do with it. I could never play with a man again, and i haven't for quite some time, but id still be fucking bi."
You would, but if you think being so is pointless and you can happily go without men, surely that would solve your problem? |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I don’t discuss my private life with my parents, I find that very strange.
As for work mates again it’s none of their business. There are some that if they ask me the “right” question I would answer, but if they don’t word it correctly I don’t volunteer the information
I feel for you that you do not feel comfortable with who you are
This illustrates perfectly that it isn't "normal". We discuss normal behaviour with our parents. Etc.. "
I don't discuss who I fuck with my parents...that's not normal for me. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x
Id rather be normal."
Normal? |
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What's the problem tell everyone, if they don't like it, it just means they not worth your time. If family can't accept it, fuck them.
Don't see a point of changing yourself for social expectations.
And if that's the case, move somwhere else |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I don’t discuss my private life with my parents, I find that very strange.
As for work mates again it’s none of their business. There are some that if they ask me the “right” question I would answer, but if they don’t word it correctly I don’t volunteer the information
I feel for you that you do not feel comfortable with who you are
This illustrates perfectly that it isn't "normal". We discuss normal behaviour with our parents. Etc.. "
I disagree that what I said illustrates it isn’t normal.... I don’t and never have discussed my private life with my parents, just like I wouldn’t feel comfortable hearing about theirs.
My generation however is a different matter, my cousins know they can contact me and discuss anything and we do... everyone needs that outlet but for us it’s definitely not our parents |
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I love being bi. It's marvellous. If someone made me straight I'd want a pill to make me bi again.
I go to bi nights at every club I can get to and socialise with likeminded people and enjoy my sexuality without judgement and recrimination from the unaccepting.
I'm attracted to many many people but my other half knows she owns me heart and soul. Whether you stray or not depends on your character not the number of temptations that come your way.
Rather suspect this is tongue in cheek  |
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"I love being bi. It's marvellous. If someone
I'm attracted to many many people but my other half knows she owns me heart and soul. Whether you stray or not depends on your character not the number of temptations that come your way.
Rather suspect this is tongue in cheek "
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You don't glow like the Ready Brek kid, nobody need know unless you tell them. So not really sure why you're considering yourself to not be normal. It's sex not murder. |
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All my friends and family know I'm I, slowly told most of them over last year and came fully out at Christmas. It gets tiring trying to pretend to be something you're not, or worry about getting caught or people finding out. It was a big weight off my shoulders when I decided to just not care anymore. I am who I am and anyone that doesnt like it can go fuck themselves |
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"Again, what business of theirs?
If you consider it to be pointless.
Just stop playing with Men. Simple
This i agree obviously its affecting your head
Lol you have no idea! Actually playing with a man has got very little to do with it. I could never play with a man again, and i haven't for quite some time, but id still be fucking bi."
So does it matter. Its a label
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"All my friends and family know I'm I, slowly told most of them over last year and came fully out at Christmas. It gets tiring trying to pretend to be something you're not, or worry about getting caught or people finding out. It was a big weight off my shoulders when I decided to just not care anymore. I am who I am and anyone that doesnt like it can go fuck themselves "
Good for you! You have to live for yourself |
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"All my friends and family know I'm I, slowly told most of them over last year and came fully out at Christmas. It gets tiring trying to pretend to be something you're not, or worry about getting caught or people finding out. It was a big weight off my shoulders when I decided to just not care anymore. I am who I am and anyone that doesnt like it can go fuck themselves "
Pretty much i was the same |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
Hi man. Being bi is nothing bad. I am straight and I get issues but don’t see myself being bi. We all have preferences and if others don’t accept that then they can go and do one man. Don’t be upset or disappointed with yourself because of others. Do what pleases you mate. The middle finger was invented to be used for a certain reason. Start showing it to the haters man. Peace man |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
Is your tongue stuck firmly in your cheek or can you release at will? |
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"Mum, Dad, Kids, I've something to tell you. Im bisexual. No dont worry im not thinking about leaving my wife because I'm in love with another man, i just love sucking dick, the bigger the better, and if if i can get them in my ass, even better!".
Pointless sexuality. "
Completely empathise with this. I don't even find men attractive, just like to have fun with them from time to time. It comes and goes and flicks over like a light switch |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I don’t discuss my private life with my parents, I find that very strange.
As for work mates again it’s none of their business. There are some that if they ask me the “right” question I would answer, but if they don’t word it correctly I don’t volunteer the information
I feel for you that you do not feel comfortable with who you are
This illustrates perfectly that it isn't "normal". We discuss normal behaviour with our parents. Etc..
I don't discuss who I fuck with my parents...that's not normal for me."
So they assume you're straight. And you're prepared to let them believe that. |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
What business is it of theirs?
I don't discuss my sexual preferences with my parents.
That's just weird.
If anyone asks I tell them, I don't not tell them, because I'm ashamed. Just because it's none of their business. Unless I decide to take a boyfriend round.
My friends know.
I was a little confused anyway, based on you being "curious" on the profile.
Even less reason to tell them.
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This for me, if it comes up I’d tell people, I don’t discuss sex at work, my friends no me, parents yuk! |
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"I find that quite sad, that you'd want to change your sexuality I mean. I think I understand why, just find it sad
I love being bi! So much fun to be had! We were just discussing this morning actually, my OH and I, how lucky we are to both be bisexual and have fewer limits. Even just to be able to share appreciation for the same people, I can point out a man or woman I think is hot to him, it's great!
I'm proud of my sexuality and feel lucky to be in a position where I can be
How are you mum and dad, or grandparents with it? Do you get any grief from work mates? What if your other half was straight and not a swinger, would you be able to cope?
I don’t discuss my private life with my parents, I find that very strange.
As for work mates again it’s none of their business. There are some that if they ask me the “right” question I would answer, but if they don’t word it correctly I don’t volunteer the information
I feel for you that you do not feel comfortable with who you are
This illustrates perfectly that it isn't "normal". We discuss normal behaviour with our parents. Etc..
I don't discuss who I fuck with my parents...that's not normal for me.
So they assume you're straight. And you're prepared to let them believe that. "
Nope. They know I've been on dates with women. They don't assume anything, I simply don't discuss who I fuck with them. I'm in a relationship with a man, whom they've met. That's enough information for them. They don't care to know. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
Don’t take this the wrong way but;
a) you are normal.
b) if it’s making you feel like that go see your GP.
It’s ok not to be ok. Xx |
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You need to think long and hard what you want.
Is noones business but your own.
Embrace it or reject it.
The choice is yours.
The overwhelming view at the moment Is, what's normal? Who cares?
We are who we are.
Who you choose to be or not be, is down to You, and you alone.
I don't think you're gonna get any answers here. Just questions.
I wish you luck, take care |
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You have to be what you want to be however I do get what your saying as I’m the same I’ve never told anyone I’m bi and probably never will I don’t think it helps when you start talking to a women on here and say your bi and they stop talking as they don’t like it,
I think it’s seen okay for a women to be bi as the man most love the idea but the other way round not so much |
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Being bi is such fun! Where else can you get rejected by both sexes 
Honestly though, being open about liking to suck a cock is not as bad as it was in the 80’s... it’s ‘almost’ acceptable these days for a male to be bi |
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I have a male fwb who I definitely do not discuss with my parents, its maybe a generational thing as sexuality and sexual relationships weren't discussed so openly in the past. Its nothing to be ashamed of, being bi, or being a swinger or having a fwb but neither is it anyone else's business either. Hugs to you and I hope you can find a way to feel better about the perfectly normal way that you are xx |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
You're over thinking things. Accept who you are. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
I don't get the question really. Should there be a point about being bi? It's just one of those things you are or not. Is that like asking what's the point of having brown hair?
As to other people's problems and/of stigmas, that's their issuse (granted that makes an issuse for you because of attitudes). I read an article sometime ago that argued bi people are between a rock and a hard place because they are often treated poorly by mainstream society and the gay community. |
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over a year ago
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
I don't get the question really. Should there be a point about being bi? It's just one of those things you are or not. Is that like asking what's the point of having brown hair?
As to other people's problems and/of stigmas, that's their issuse (granted that makes an issuse for you because of attitudes). I read an article sometime ago that argued bi people are between a rock and a hard place because they are often treated poorly by mainstream society and the gay community."
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over a year ago
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Definitely over thinking this situation. There is no hard fast rule, if you want to be out - be out.
If you don’t then be discreet, whatever you choose - it’s all about enjoyment and what sits comfortable with you as an individual.
I also understand everyone’s situation is unique. Life’s too short, find a way to enjoy!! I know I do  |
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over a year ago
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"There is no point, there is no bi.
People are gay if they're fucking the same sex. They're straight if they're fucking the opposite sex. "
That's simply false information. |
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"There is no point, there is no bi.
People are gay if they're fucking the same sex. They're straight if they're fucking the opposite sex. "
I feel that to be gay, one would have to be only attracted physically and emotionally to members of the same sex only. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
You're over thinking things. Accept who you are. "
That's true. I do over think most things. |
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over a year ago
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"There is no point, there is no bi.
People are gay if they're fucking the same sex. They're straight if they're fucking the opposite sex.
I feel that to be gay, one would have to be only attracted physically and emotionally to members of the same sex only. "
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over a year ago
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Would you take a pill to stop being sexual at all, or would anyone else? It all drives us (mad) in one way or another in the eternal quest for it. Would it be easier all round with no sex. ? |
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I remember the time I sat my family down and told them all that I loved nothing more than being balls deep in a sweet pussy and shooting my loads over a large pair of tits.. a pretty awkward moment but they needed to know so I could be accepted, I even had a tiny violin playing in the corner  |
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over a year ago
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"There is no point, there is no bi.
People are gay if they're fucking the same sex. They're straight if they're fucking the opposite sex.
I feel that to be gay, one would have to be only attracted physically and emotionally to members of the same sex only. "
Depends on which sex each person was that day. |
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over a year ago
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
I don't get the question really. Should there be a point about being bi? It's just one of those things you are or not. Is that like asking what's the point of having brown hair?
As to other people's problems and/of stigmas, that's their issuse (granted that makes an issuse for you because of attitudes). I read an article sometime ago that argued bi people are between a rock and a hard place because they are often treated poorly by mainstream society and the gay community."
That's actually very true. The worst abuse that I had (outside of my family) has been from the gay community.
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over a year ago
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"There is no point, there is no bi.
People are gay if they're fucking the same sex. They're straight if they're fucking the opposite sex.
I feel that to be gay, one would have to be only attracted physically and emotionally to members of the same sex only.
Depends on which sex each person was that day."
I found the pin for your hand grenade, did you want it?
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over a year ago
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"There is no point, there is no bi.
People are gay if they're fucking the same sex. They're straight if they're fucking the opposite sex.
I feel that to be gay, one would have to be only attracted physically and emotionally to members of the same sex only.
Depends on which sex each person was that day.
I found the pin for your hand grenade, did you want it?
Tea"
Keep it. I have more.  |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
There’s got to be sexual innuendo about being between a rock and a hard place but I’ve had a long day!
I don't get the question really. Should there be a point about being bi? It's just one of those things you are or not. Is that like asking what's the point of having brown hair?
As to other people's problems and/of stigmas, that's their issuse (granted that makes an issuse for you because of attitudes). I read an article sometime ago that argued bi people are between a rock and a hard place because they are often treated poorly by mainstream society and the gay community."
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
Is your tongue stuck firmly in your cheek or can you release at will? "
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over a year ago
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x
Id rather be normal."
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over a year ago
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What does it really mean anyway?
For me it's all about enjoying people's sexiness. About everyone enjoying each other....
We are all skin and bones anyway.
But then I dont really find men attractive...but have no problem in sharing a nice cock with his other half, penetrating him etc.. |
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"What does it really mean anyway?
For me it's all about enjoying people's sexiness. About everyone enjoying each other....
We are all skin and bones anyway.
But then I dont really find men attractive...but have no problem in sharing a nice cock with his other half, penetrating him etc.."
Oh boy. Here we go... |
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over a year ago
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"What does it really mean anyway?
For me it's all about enjoying people's sexiness. About everyone enjoying each other....
We are all skin and bones anyway.
But then I dont really find men attractive...but have no problem in sharing a nice cock with his other half, penetrating him etc..
Oh boy. Here we go..."
You obviously disagree...but dont have the words to respond...  |
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Most of us have more options in many aspects of our lives than we actively engage in. There are lots of tastes I have that I may not explore actively for years - maybe never again.
If you're in a relationship, it often means compromise of many things - sometimes not having other partners of any gender. And life circumstances often mean choices are limited.
The healthiest for us psychologically is to be self!accepting of our core self, it's the path to peace. |
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In my experience, bi men are more open-minded and relaxed, not just regarding sex but all aspects of life. I even told my partner that he'd be perfect if he was bi lol.
Though that's true, it seems to be much more socially acceptable for a woman to be bi than for a man. I guess it comes from the fact that most men fantasise about 2 women together, but not many women fantasise about 2 men. I think it's very horny, watching two men play with each other, even if it's just soft play. |
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Im one hundred per cent bi and loce it, wouldn t dream of changing, tbh being bi is who you are, what business is it of anyone elses, and those with opinions are quite often the last ones that should be stating any point.. I dont worry about other people knowing whether friends or family etc because this is me, like it or lump it..  |
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"Being bi... Look at the positive sides..
I'm bi.. Why!? My other half (bird) isn't thta forth coming with giving me bjs... The guys are... They are often better at it to!! "
If the women won't do bj's, the menfolk will. |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
In my opinion, being bi would be great! Most men I know are in sexless (or sex starved), monogamous, straight relationships. I've been there myself, you get into a relationship with a woman, after a year, she'd prefer to watch Corronation Farm or whatever the fuck it's called. (Although, there are sexual women out there)
Bi-dom gives you an opportunity to be satisfied sexually, because men are generally more willing in that area. I get asked by men if I want sex, no strings blowjobs all the time and I turn every one of them down. Really though, if I was that way inclined, I could happily be in a relationship with a woman and never go without as there are always men up for it.
Embrace yourself and your sexuality! See the benefits! |
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over a year ago
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Don't overthink it.
I'm bisexual and evening knows it. If they don't approve that really is their issue.
I don't get any abuse for it but I seem to get men feeling entitled to my bisexuality - like they assume if they're with me I'll pick up women for them. I will hit on women for ME, if me and her are also interested in the same man that's great, but I don't procure women for anyone else. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I haven't read the thread, just the OP.
OP, I'm sorry that you feel this. There is a growing bi movement (there was a Bi Festival - more a gathering - in London last month). I also hear more bi voices in the media, but that may be because I listen to Radio 4.
I think it is easier to be female and bi on here and, in certain settings, it is titillating to have a woman describe herself as bi. I don't think it's easier for women to come out as bi to family but it is easier to mask your bi relationship as a good female friend.
I think the issue is that those at the hard hetero end of the sexuality spectrum think that anyone declaring they are bi is just hedging their bets.
If you think you're insecure then seeing your partner talking to men and women means that conversation may be viewed as everyone is a risk. That can be hard for innocent bi partner.
In terms of your monogamy question - isn't that the same whether you are bi or not? That's the point of monogamy.
One the young people in my life decided early on that it's just genitals and the only important bit is whether you like the person, feel attracted to them and that is reciprocated. He's older now and thinks these labels are old-fashioned.
Finally, I'm sure you know my as yet unfulfilled Fab fantasy is two bi men and me. There aren't enough of you on here who fancy me and each other. In fact, none so far.
Be true to yourself and be happy.
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I have to say I don't think I am particularly bi... That's not to say if I found the right woman I would explore playing with a woman.
As for bi men, I think it's sexy as fuck and I know it's such a big taboo sometimes but I don't know why when it's seems to be more socially acceptable for women to be bi and not always men.
Dream scenario a bi boyfriend
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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago
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I'm bi and have been my whole adult life. Everyone knows and no one really cares!! My husband thinks it's amazing because we always point women out to each other and play with women together.
He's bi curious but never been with a man.
We find people have more of problem with the non monogamy than the sexuality! |
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" We find people have more of problem with the non monogamy than the sexuality! "
Same! I think it's more socially acceptable to cheat than to be open or poly! |
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over a year ago
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"Bernard Manning (anyone remember him?) said "I'd love to be bi, but I couldn't handle all the rejection from men, I get enough from women" "
That's a great quote |
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over a year ago
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"What does it really mean anyway?
For me it's all about enjoying people's sexiness. About everyone enjoying each other....
We are all skin and bones anyway.
But then I dont really find men attractive...but have no problem in sharing a nice cock with his other half, penetrating him etc..
Oh boy. Here we go...
You obviously disagree...but dont have the words to respond... "
To the contrary. I totally agree. It's just a dangerous thing to say on this forum. |
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"What does it really mean anyway?
For me it's all about enjoying people's sexiness. About everyone enjoying each other....
We are all skin and bones anyway.
But then I dont really find men attractive...but have no problem in sharing a nice cock with his other half, penetrating him etc..
Oh boy. Here we go...
You obviously disagree...but dont have the words to respond...
To the contrary. I totally agree. It's just a dangerous thing to say on this forum."
Honesty shouldn't be dangerous.. |
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"If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
This line is so sad to read.
I was out socialising after Manchester pride and met two stunning guys who’d just moved in together. The younger one said something similar. He thought being gay was a curse. He wished he could take a pill and life would be so much simpler.
Personally, as a trans woman, I’m so happy to be me. I wouldn’t even waste my time wishing I’d been born with the correct anatomy.
I like being trans.
Saying you’d take a pill to change who you are speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself and that is heartbreaking  |
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"What does it really mean anyway?
For me it's all about enjoying people's sexiness. About everyone enjoying each other....
We are all skin and bones anyway.
But then I dont really find men attractive...but have no problem in sharing a nice cock with his other half, penetrating him etc..
Oh boy. Here we go...
You obviously disagree...but dont have the words to respond...
To the contrary. I totally agree. It's just a dangerous thing to say on this forum.
Honesty shouldn't be dangerous.."
Having a point of view should be acceptable. |
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"If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
This line is so sad to read.
I was out socialising after Manchester pride and met two stunning guys who’d just moved in together. The younger one said something similar. He thought being gay was a curse. He wished he could take a pill and life would be so much simpler.
Personally, as a trans woman, I’m so happy to be me. I wouldn’t even waste my time wishing I’d been born with the correct anatomy.
I like being trans.
Saying you’d take a pill to change who you are speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself and that is heartbreaking "
I agree with you. Wanting to change yourself when it's society that is wrong is very sad indeed.
I am one of the crowd who go to PDI for freedom week. It is so refreshing to see people openly expressing their sexuality without recrimination.
On a positive note I think the world is becoming more accepting. I'm positive about our future. |
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"If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
This line is so sad to read.
I was out socialising after Manchester pride and met two stunning guys who’d just moved in together. The younger one said something similar. He thought being gay was a curse. He wished he could take a pill and life would be so much simpler.
Personally, as a trans woman, I’m so happy to be me. I wouldn’t even waste my time wishing I’d been born with the correct anatomy.
I like being trans.
Saying you’d take a pill to change who you are speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself and that is heartbreaking
I agree with you. Wanting to change yourself when it's society that is wrong is very sad indeed.
I am one of the crowd who go to PDI for freedom week. It is so refreshing to see people openly expressing their sexuality without recrimination.
On a positive note I think the world is becoming more accepting. I'm positive about our future. "
I feel people who are more accepting are being more vocal about their acceptance.
Those who don’t, unfortunately, are also being more vocal about it.
The world gives but takes with the other hand. |
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"If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
This line is so sad to read.
I was out socialising after Manchester pride and met two stunning guys who’d just moved in together. The younger one said something similar. He thought being gay was a curse. He wished he could take a pill and life would be so much simpler.
Personally, as a trans woman, I’m so happy to be me. I wouldn’t even waste my time wishing I’d been born with the correct anatomy.
I like being trans.
Saying you’d take a pill to change who you are speaks volumes about how you feel about yourself and that is heartbreaking
I agree with you. Wanting to change yourself when it's society that is wrong is very sad indeed.
I am one of the crowd who go to PDI for freedom week. It is so refreshing to see people openly expressing their sexuality without recrimination.
On a positive note I think the world is becoming more accepting. I'm positive about our future.
I feel people who are more accepting are being more vocal about their acceptance.
Those who don’t, unfortunately, are also being more vocal about it.
The world gives but takes with the other hand. "
In recent times I've been very encouraged by events in the news. Ben Stokes defending a gay couple, Joe Root shaming homophobic comments and Ann Widdecombe being castigated in the press.
I am also encouraged by the prevalence of bi nights and the extent to which they have been attended.
I like to think the tide is turning. |
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" If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
Why does it matter? I certainly wouldn't change my sexuality, you don't need to be straight to be normal (whatever normal is). |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!But there is no pill just be yourself xx don't let it get you down x
Id rather be normal."
What exactly IS normal? You are what you are. We all are |
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I didnt find out i was bi until i was 38. I had always found cocks a turn on but thats about as far as it went. A few years down the line and i am very comfortable with my sexuality but it is only shared with my partner and other fabbers. I see no reason to make a public declaration of that part of my sexuality any more than i would revealing i swing or enjoy eating pussy until it squirts in my face. Just like i dont share my video game war stories with fellow swingers! lmao Being bi is a part of me but it does not define me. |
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over a year ago
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!"
I think your bi but scared to tell us |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
I think your bi but scared to tell us "
I don't get it? |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
I think your bi but scared to tell us
I don't get it?"
Most men on here don’t either so you’re not alone |
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"Im bi, but it's basically pointless. What's the point of it? Does it just mean that if i was in a monogamous relationship my partner should be twice as worried about me straying? It's not socially acceptable. It's not something id share with family, friends and colleagues. If there was a pill to turn me straight id take it in a heart beat!
I think your bi but scared to tell us
I don't get it?
Most men on here don’t either so you’re not alone "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't find my sexuality hard to deal with
Others may do
That is why there has to be trust there before I'll open up
Strangely, I have no issue stating it here or someone I know seeing it here either
It is completely different telling someone directly than writing it down for people to see |
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We are both bi and proud to be so.
With the whole if my partner was not into swinging would I be able to cope. Yes because sexuality is not about sex if that makes sense it's about who you find sexually attractive.
That's like saying if your partner was not into swinging would you be able to cope not sleeping with other females (MT answering this) and the answer is yes as my partner is everything to me and I would happily live a monogamous lifestyle with her.
The joy is we don't have to.
I also think that it is more socially unacceptable for a male to be bi than female. But I think alot of that is porn not real society.
I came out as bi in the 80s and ended up in hospital several times because of being beaten up etc.
I went through loosing friends because of it x nearly taking my own life twice because of it and up with drink and drug issues alot of it because I hated myself and asked myself I wanted to be normal.
Then one day I started to learn to accept who I was and I became happier.
Yes it still causes issues now and then x and I have had grief of straight and gay men alike but the one thing that I always focus on is the old saying
"Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
And to answer the question. Does it matter. Yes it does to me it was a battle well fought and I am proud of who I am |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
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There's a sexuality gene? |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?"
Yes. His name is Simmons |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
Yes. His name is Simmons "
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?"
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
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I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural. |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural. "
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
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If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing. |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing."
I think my bisexuality was born from my formative sexual experiences. I think they imprinted themselves in such a way that despite a nurturing and conditioning process that encouraged my predominantly heterosexual disposition eventually my latent bisexuality appeared again. Despite attempts at denying it I eventually accepted my sexuality. Took me most of my life to get to that point. |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
I think my bisexuality was born from my formative sexual experiences. I think they imprinted themselves in such a way that despite a nurturing and conditioning process that encouraged my predominantly heterosexual disposition eventually my latent bisexuality appeared again. Despite attempts at denying it I eventually accepted my sexuality. Took me most of my life to get to that point."
Thanks for correcting me on this. By nature/nurture I mean that I believe that who we become is a combination of our dna and the combined sum of experiences we go through from birth to the present time. Jacob Marley's chains. |
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over a year ago
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing."
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
I think my bisexuality was born from my formative sexual experiences. I think they imprinted themselves in such a way that despite a nurturing and conditioning process that encouraged my predominantly heterosexual disposition eventually my latent bisexuality appeared again. Despite attempts at denying it I eventually accepted my sexuality. Took me most of my life to get to that point.
Thanks for correcting me on this. By nature/nurture I mean that I believe that who we become is a combination of our dna and the combined sum of experiences we go through from birth to the present time. Jacob Marley's chains."
I think that is entirely possible, I can trace many of my sexual fantasies to formative experiences so I can certainly go along with the ‘nurture’ side of the equation, as for DNA I simply don’t understand that well enough to comment. |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
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This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?"
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
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Of course, just because animals behave in a certain way, it doesn't make it morally right. |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
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This might need another thread.
My sexuality is definitely nature not nurture.
We may not know of family members who are bi or gay. It's still hidden for the most part. I do have at least one that I know of though. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
Of course, just because animals behave in a certain way, it doesn't make it morally right. "
Do morals override genetically determined behaviours? Do we assign morals to animals? If humans have the gene, which the bit of programme I saw suggests, should we be medicated to be able to live a 'moral' life?
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
Of course, just because animals behave in a certain way, it doesn't make it morally right.
Do morals override genetically determined behaviours? Do we assign morals to animals? If humans have the gene, which the bit of programme I saw suggests, should we be medicated to be able to live a 'moral' life?
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Im just saying, if you study lions you know when a new pride leader comes into power, he kills the previous leaders children to stop his birth line. It's not morally ok to do that if you're human imo. We can't use animal behaviour to justify our own. If we do, paedophiles will have a field day. |
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"I caught the end of My Gay Dog on telly and the sciencey person said their gene work shows that bi is the most common sexuality.
There's a sexuality gene?
That's what they are looking at and the evolutionary reasons for the gene. I might try and watch the whole programme as it was looking at animal behaviour and whether the gene(s) they believe to be involved in sexuality lead to gay and bi behaviours.
I suppose if it's a gene then that might be a good thing. Then being bi/ pan/ gay/ asexual/ etc etc just 'is'. Natural.
That's the argument. It's one I have always believed anyway.
If it is a gene would we not see bisexuality as family trait? I've never studied it but my personal experience tells me it's a nature/nurture thing.
The bit of the programme I saw said that the gene would come from the mother and that they posit there are evolutionary reasons why this is passed on and triggered to some and not others.
I have been thinking about the nurture thing for a long time. I used to work in sexual health when people were still dying. Lots of men from strong, strictly heteronormative communities were having sex with men but it wasn't seen as sex or part of their sexuality and was fine as long as it wasn't detrimental to their family or 'straight' life. I think the societal norms have always had ways of hiding what people feel and do.
This is really interesting. Is this a programme available online?
It will be on All4, I assume. It was Ch4 last night. I think it's called My Gay Dog and Other Animals. I caught the end when I got home late last night.
Of course, just because animals behave in a certain way, it doesn't make it morally right.
Do morals override genetically determined behaviours? Do we assign morals to animals? If humans have the gene, which the bit of programme I saw suggests, should we be medicated to be able to live a 'moral' life?
Im just saying, if you study lions you know when a new pride leader comes into power, he kills the previous leaders children to stop his birth line. It's not morally ok to do that if you're human imo. We can't use animal behaviour to justify our own. If we do, paedophiles will have a field day. "
I don't think anyone is suggesting that just because animals do it makes it morally justifiable. If it does I'm going back to urinating on car tires.
I think the point is that homosexuality isn't the "unnatural act" we've been taught.
It was interesting to hear someone say that bisexuality is the most common sexual orientation. |
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"I'm struggling to come to terms that maybe I am bisexual why you struggling x"
I have a girlfriend I don't know how she will react and I love her and would hate anything to change between us
I play rugby and I feel some of the lads will turn there back on me and I will be the brunt of the jokes which will bother me |
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I'm straight but when I was 16 I came out to my parents as Gay. I got this idea in my head that if they couldnt accept me when I was gay then I didn't want anything more to do with them. So stood up one day and told them I was gay.
I was ready to move out and never talk to them again.
When I came out it was fine the world didnt end, and I forgot all about it.
Then I brought home a girl I started to date. My mum looked her up and down and then looked at me and said "I thought you were gay?", then said "Are you one of them bisexuals?"
I just laughed, and after I left the girl asked me "why does your mum think youre gay?" |
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"I'm struggling to come to terms that maybe I am bisexual why you struggling x
I have a girlfriend I don't know how she will react and I love her and would hate anything to change between us
I play rugby and I feel some of the lads will turn there back on me and I will be the brunt of the jokes which will bother me "
Don't come out. Don't tell anyone. Once your secret is out you can never take it back. |
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"I'm struggling to come to terms that maybe I am bisexual why you struggling x
I have a girlfriend I don't know how she will react and I love her and would hate anything to change between us
I play rugby and I feel some of the lads will turn there back on me and I will be the brunt of the jokes which will bother me
Don't come out. Don't tell anyone. Once your secret is out you can never take it back."
In reality, the only people who need to know who you find attractive are the people you find attractive.
Coming out isn't compulsory. |
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"I'm struggling to come to terms that maybe I am bisexual why you struggling x
I have a girlfriend I don't know how she will react and I love her and would hate anything to change between us
I play rugby and I feel some of the lads will turn there back on me and I will be the brunt of the jokes which will bother me
Don't come out. Don't tell anyone. Once your secret is out you can never take it back.
In reality, the only people who need to know who you find attractive are the people you find attractive.
Coming out isn't compulsory. "
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over a year ago
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"I'm struggling to come to terms that maybe I am bisexual why you struggling x
I have a girlfriend I don't know how she will react and I love her and would hate anything to change between us
I play rugby and I feel some of the lads will turn there back on me and I will be the brunt of the jokes which will bother me
Don't come out. Don't tell anyone. Once your secret is out you can never take it back.
In reality, the only people who need to know who you find attractive are the people you find attractive.
Coming out isn't compulsory. "
I would suggest limiting those that need to know to those you want a relationship with. Telling friends that you find attractive but have good reasons for not wanting a relationship with can be a good way of friends. |
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"I'm struggling to come to terms that maybe I am bisexual why you struggling x
I have a girlfriend I don't know how she will react and I love her and would hate anything to change between us
I play rugby and I feel some of the lads will turn there back on me and I will be the brunt of the jokes which will bother me
Don't come out. Don't tell anyone. Once your secret is out you can never take it back.
In reality, the only people who need to know who you find attractive are the people you find attractive.
Coming out isn't compulsory.
I would suggest limiting those that need to know to those you want a relationship with. Telling friends that you find attractive but have good reasons for not wanting a relationship with can be a good way of friends."
Lol. I wasn’t suggesting he told people who were unlikely to have a reciprocal attraction.
Personally, I found being open and honest with everyone very liberating. I don’t care who knows I swing both ways. |
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I don't advertise that I'm bi but if someone asks I don't lie either. My reason is that my sex life is my own private business. I don't tell people what my favourite position is, how much money I have in the bank or what I have under my bed. Some things are personal and not for public consumption.
I recently discovered that my entire family knows I swing. I don't know how they found out but their reaction has been so unnoticeable that I didn't know that they knew. |
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"I don't advertise that I'm bi but if someone asks I don't lie either. My reason is that my sex life is my own private business. I don't tell people what my favourite position is, how much money I have in the bank or what I have under my bed. Some things are personal and not for public consumption.
I recently discovered that my entire family knows I swing. I don't know how they found out but their reaction has been so unnoticeable that I didn't know that they knew."
Are you a single man? |
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"I don't advertise that I'm bi but if someone asks I don't lie either. My reason is that my sex life is my own private business. I don't tell people what my favourite position is, how much money I have in the bank or what I have under my bed. Some things are personal and not for public consumption.
I recently discovered that my entire family knows I swing. I don't know how they found out but their reaction has been so unnoticeable that I didn't know that they knew.
Are you a single man?"
No. I have a girlfriend with whom I swing. |
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"I don't advertise that I'm bi but if someone asks I don't lie either. My reason is that my sex life is my own private business. I don't tell people what my favourite position is, how much money I have in the bank or what I have under my bed. Some things are personal and not for public consumption.
I recently discovered that my entire family knows I swing. I don't know how they found out but their reaction has been so unnoticeable that I didn't know that they knew.
Are you a single man?
No. I have a girlfriend with whom I swing. "
Cool family attitude then! But i guess once you get to a certain age you've kind of got to believe someone knows what they're doing with their life. Not worth "judging". |
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"I don't advertise that I'm bi but if someone asks I don't lie either. My reason is that my sex life is my own private business. I don't tell people what my favourite position is, how much money I have in the bank or what I have under my bed. Some things are personal and not for public consumption.
I recently discovered that my entire family knows I swing. I don't know how they found out but their reaction has been so unnoticeable that I didn't know that they knew.
Are you a single man?
No. I have a girlfriend with whom I swing.
Cool family attitude then! But i guess once you get to a certain age you've kind of got to believe someone knows what they're doing with their life. Not worth "judging". "
I wouldn't have known were it not for the fact that apparently my niece is very tenpted to try swinging. Makes me wonder why I kept it secret in the first place. |
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Wow this post has been an eye opener, I thought in this day and age no one would have a problem coming out as bi/gay/trans etc.
I told my mum when I was a teen that I was bi, all my family know and so does my other half.
But I guess it must be different for bi men as it’s seen as less accepted as bi women
I feel for you, feeling like you have to hide your true self. I’d like to say just embrace your bi side and enjoy yourself but I totally understand it might be difficult |
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I think more people are repressed as bi than any other sexuality
One day I hope you can all be out and be honest about yourself
Meanwhile try not to hide this from partners be honest from the start, many seem to like bisexual especially if they are too
Good luck |
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By *G LanaTV/TS
over a year ago
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I am honest with potential partners from the start, but it is a very good way of getting a whole load of grief and no further contact. It is less difficult though then them finding out later in my experience. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think more people are repressed as bi than any other sexuality
One day I hope you can all be out and be honest about yourself
Meanwhile try not to hide this from partners be honest from the start, many seem to like bisexual especially if they are too
Good luck "
I wouldn't say we arw the most repressed.
What I would say is you would expect swingers, themselves a marginalised and stigmatized group, to be more accepting. I mean how does one expect others to respect one's sexual choices when one does not do the same.
An example of this is a thread complaining about bi people at swingfields. But when those same people end up in the centre spread of the Sun they experience the same intolerance they dish out... |
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MtsH here, I’m Bi Curious done bits in my younger days but wished I’d explored more
MrH is orally Bi and likes to suck a cock occasionally
He always knew about my past & knew my favourite of porn was guy on guy but it still took him years to tell me of his past Bi experiences, which is a shame because as soon as he did it broke down the final barriers that had been stopping us involving other people in our sex lives (we’d been discussing 3somes seeing other people for about 2 years prior to that)
With discussion and in a secure relationship I’m sure your partner would let you indulge your bi side |
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