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By *ED00 OP Woman
over a year ago
South Devon... Torbaydos |
I have a dilemma that's making me feel quiet shallow. If I've been chatting to someone or a couple and they want to meet but at that point I have no idea what they look like am I being shallow asking for a pic. My dilemma is, if I then ask for a pic then feel theres no connection how do you say thanks but no thanks without feeling awful !! Or is that just me ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t think it’s shallow at all. For me there has to be a physical attraction as well as a personal one.
In hind sight you maybe should’ve asked for a picture earlier on in the chat before you got to talking about meeting |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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Absolutely not at all
The least you’d want is a photo to see the other person and even then your still not sure if it’s them or not
Rule of thumb for me used to be meet for a social first confirm or deny any attraction and then follow through |
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"I have a dilemma that's making me feel quiet shallow. If I've been chatting to someone or a couple and they want to meet but at that point I have no idea what they look like am I being shallow asking for a pic. My dilemma is, if I then ask for a pic then feel theres no connection how do you say thanks but no thanks without feeling awful !! Or is that just me ? "
not shallow at all just ask for a picture before meeting.. have you been chatting a while .. why not have a social meeting then if theres an attraction go to next step if theres isnt leave it at that .. not everyone is everyone else's cup of tea no matter how nice a person they are
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd ask for a photo before the conversation got going tbh
A few polite faceless messages is one thing, discussing potential meets with a pic of someones stocking top is another |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don’t think it’s shallow at all. For me there has to be a physical attraction as well as a personal one.
In hind sight you maybe should’ve asked for a picture earlier on in the chat before you got to talking about meeting "
 absolutely, there has to be physical and mental connections. It’s never too late to ask for a pic and if you don’t like them, politely decline their meet offer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always expect a face picture at some point and I expect the other side will want to see me too. You have to see the persons face beforehand because not everyone will be what you’re looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a dilemma that's making me feel quiet shallow. If I've been chatting to someone or a couple and they want to meet but at that point I have no idea what they look like am I being shallow asking for a pic. My dilemma is, if I then ask for a pic then feel theres no connection how do you say thanks but no thanks without feeling awful !! Or is that just me ? "
I always ask for a pic with first message.. problem solved |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a dilemma that's making me feel quiet shallow. If I've been chatting to someone or a couple and they want to meet but at that point I have no idea what they look like am I being shallow asking for a pic. My dilemma is, if I then ask for a pic then feel theres no connection how do you say thanks but no thanks without feeling awful !! Or is that just me ? "
If you’re meeting purely for sex then you may find it important to have a physical attraction.. I have to say looks aren’t everything but there’s a line! |
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By *ot-AshMan
over a year ago
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I don't think its shallow OP wanting to see a photo and asking for a recent one also so that you can see what they look like. Its also alright to reject someone if you don't find the attractive so you shouldn't feel bad if you need to do so.. |
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"I have a dilemma that's making me feel quiet shallow. If I've been chatting to someone or a couple and they want to meet but at that point I have no idea what they look like am I being shallow asking for a pic. My dilemma is, if I then ask for a pic then feel theres no connection how do you say thanks but no thanks without feeling awful !! Or is that just me ? "
Not at all, a safety thing for me... know who you are supposed to be meeting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had the same dilemma in the past. Got on really well message wise finally get to see face pic and the bubble bursts!
So nowadays face photos swapped within the 1st few messages... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You're not being shallow at all.
I do understand the guilt though if there's no attraction and you have to put a stop to things. I feel awful when people make a big effort in their messages but there's no attraction and that's just ONE message that makes me feel like a horrible person for not liking them.
Anyway what I'm trying to say is you are not alone in feeling awful. Attraction is important. Make sure you get a picture before going any further and don't beat yourself up if they aren't for you. At the end of the day we all have our preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have a dilemma that's making me feel quiet shallow. If I've been chatting to someone or a couple and they want to meet but at that point I have no idea what they look like am I being shallow asking for a pic. My dilemma is, if I then ask for a pic then feel theres no connection how do you say thanks but no thanks without feeling awful !! Or is that just me ? "
Why is it shallow to be attracted to some one? Be it by personality or by looks. Sometimes someone’s personality and confidence makes me attracted to them. Other times they’ve no personality but by buggery are they sexy... they’re generally the one off meets!  |
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By *ED00 OP Woman
over a year ago
South Devon... Torbaydos |
Thanks folks. I havent got to the point of arranging a meeting and the people I have met I have had pics and calls before. I was just thinking for future reference. I knew you would all put me on track. Thanks xx |
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Not at all. I couldn't play with someone I wasn't attracted to. I wouldn't even want beast to play with someone I don't find attractive since I like to watch.
I find it strange that some people don't understand that attraction is a must. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If seriously chatting about a meet then I would want to see a face pic first, although I would volunteer mine when asking. It cuts both ways.."
Your face is cutting ? Sharp ? |
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You should be asking for a photo, even if its just for safety reasons. You can't turn up even for a social without knowing who your meant to be meeting. Ask away because they really shouldn't have a problem with it
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"If seriously chatting about a meet then I would want to see a face pic first, although I would volunteer mine when asking. It cuts both ways..
Your face is cutting ? Sharp ? "
aye as they said its two sided! sharp on both sides lol   |
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