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over a year ago
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol"
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla  |
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla "
Must just be me then that their not interested in  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla
Must just be me then that their not interested in "
You don’t think being in Plymouth might be an issue? It’s not exactly handy for most people. I know other SW swingers of all shapes, ages, sizes and sexuality who have found the SW pretty slim pickings. |
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over a year ago
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol"
Phroawwww  |
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"Nothing wrong with Vanilla.
Most of my relationships have been rather vanilla
But would you have vanilla over kinky given the choice "
You know what yeah, you can still have great vanilla sex .... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol"
Vanilla can be just as good as kinky. Especially if a connection has already formed with the person. It's exciting to physically see the other person enjoying themselves. I'm surprised you struggle to meet, you are rather stunning. You'll find yourself some fun I'm sure of it  |
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I tend to moderate my sexual behaviour based on the boundaries of a play partner.
We all have different boundaries, sexually, so my behaviour is moderated up or down to suit the comfort of those I am with. |
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla
Must just be me then that their not interested in
You don’t think being in Plymouth might be an issue? It’s not exactly handy for most people. I know other SW swingers of all shapes, ages, sizes and sexuality who have found the SW pretty slim pickings."
I can’t do much about where I live though |
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla
Must just be me then that their not interested in
You don’t think being in Plymouth might be an issue? It’s not exactly handy for most people. I know other SW swingers of all shapes, ages, sizes and sexuality who have found the SW pretty slim pickings.
I can’t do much about where I live though "
But also not your sexual preferences surely? Or are you thinking of branching out? Don’t turn to women, that’ll make it even harder! You could reinvent yourself as a big black guy. You’d be in demand then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't like it when I get 'what are you into' I don't see sex as a check list of things to do... Far to cold and clinical. Best being like water and just go with the flow, evolving is far sexier |
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla
Must just be me then that their not interested in
You don’t think being in Plymouth might be an issue? It’s not exactly handy for most people. I know other SW swingers of all shapes, ages, sizes and sexuality who have found the SW pretty slim pickings.
I can’t do much about where I live though
But also not your sexual preferences surely? Or are you thinking of branching out? Don’t turn to women, that’ll make it even harder! You could reinvent yourself as a big black guy. You’d be in demand then. "
Do your saying I should change my list of interests when I’m only interested in what I’ve stated |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol"
Nothing wrong with vanilla. I'm a huge fan of vanilla  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Have people told you it's because you're only looking for vanilla OP or are you making that assumption?
Absolutely not a criticism but in what already appears to be a limited area from earlier posts, your profile limits it further in that you're looking for guys that can accommodate and won't do hotel meets - could that be part of the problem perhaps? |
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"Have people told you it's because you're only looking for vanilla OP or are you making that assumption?
Absolutely not a criticism but in what already appears to be a limited area from earlier posts, your profile limits it further in that you're looking for guys that can accommodate and won't do hotel meets - could that be part of the problem perhaps?"
I’m not being rude but I can’t accommodate so I can’t change that and I don’t do hotel meets as something happened to me when I did a hotel meet do that won’t be changing ,I can’t drive so I’ve got to use public transport that’s why it’s Plymouth guys only and that’s also something that I can’t change |
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Being vanilla shouldn't prevent you from getting meets.
Your profile's fine. The text portion could be a bit more positive, but there's nothing in there that is particularly off-putting.
Plymouth's a big enough place that there shouldn't be any shortage of guys aged 40-59.
Perhaps theres something off with your approach, or the messages you send?
Or possibly your standards are too high? |
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By *eclanHMan
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around. |
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"Being vanilla shouldn't prevent you from getting meets.
Your profile's fine. The text portion could be a bit more positive, but there's nothing in there that is particularly off-putting.
Plymouth's a big enough place that there shouldn't be any shortage of guys aged 40-59.
Perhaps theres something off with your approach, or the messages you send?
Or possibly your standards are too high?"
Now I don’t think there is anything wrong in having high standards do you ?? |
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around."
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate |
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"Being vanilla shouldn't prevent you from getting meets.
Your profile's fine. The text portion could be a bit more positive, but there's nothing in there that is particularly off-putting.
Plymouth's a big enough place that there shouldn't be any shortage of guys aged 40-59.
Perhaps theres something off with your approach, or the messages you send?
Or possibly your standards are too high?
Now I don’t think there is anything wrong in having high standards do you ??"
You can have whatever standards you like, but the higher they are, the fewer the men you'll be able to meet.
I'm not suggesting you should lower them, but it's one possible reason for struggling to find meets. |
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around.
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around.
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate "
They might have kids.
They might not want strangers in their house.
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around.
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate
So basically you exclude single dads "
Yes if they can’t accommodate I do |
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around.
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate
They might have kids.
They might not want strangers in their house.
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Well there you go then the same reason I can’t accommodate |
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around.
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate
So basically you exclude single dads
Yes if they can’t accommodate I do "
Same applies other way why would you think its OK for fathers kids but not mothers?
Failing to see difference |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Some of my best experiences were decided vanilla.
Maybe what’s making it more difficult is your restriction: “Plymouth guys only that accommodate in own home,no hotel/outdoor or car meets.”
If we all had places to accommodate, there’d be a whole lot more fuck’n going around.
I can understand why women can’t accommodate as I’m a single parent (and no they don’t see their dad do no they don’t gave sleep overs ) but I find it a little strange when guys in their 40-60 can’t accommodate
They might have kids.
They might not want strangers in their house.
Well there you go then the same reason I can’t accommodate "
So it's not strange. |
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You’ve ruled out single dads and people who don’t like strangers in there home. Maybe consider hotel meets if you really want a meet just make sure you get to know the person first |
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"You’ve ruled out single dads and people who don’t like strangers in there home. Maybe consider hotel meets if you really want a meet just make sure you get to know the person first "
I’ve ruled out single dads that can’t accommodate when their kids are away yes I have and I don’t like doing hotel meets as I’ve had a bad experience in a hotel |
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"I find it sometimes a little difficult to get a meet on here as all I’m interested in is vanilla sex ,guys think I’m just joking when I say look at my interests and it’s very vanilla lol
Im surprised as I thought most men on here just want sex regardless of whether it was kinky or vanilla
Must just be me then that their not interested in
You don’t think being in Plymouth might be an issue? It’s not exactly handy for most people. I know other SW swingers of all shapes, ages, sizes and sexuality who have found the SW pretty slim pickings.
I can’t do much about where I live though "
You say you can travel but if you're only interested in meeting Plymouth guys because you can't accom. but also don't want to travel more than five or ten miles then you're definitely really limiting your choices. I could understand if you only wanted people in Devon and Cornwall for the sake of proximity but as the poster above states, our part of the world's pickings can be quite slim and everyone is quite spread out. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Have people told you it's because you're only looking for vanilla OP or are you making that assumption?
Absolutely not a criticism but in what already appears to be a limited area from earlier posts, your profile limits it further in that you're looking for guys that can accommodate and won't do hotel meets - could that be part of the problem perhaps?
I’m not being rude but I can’t accommodate so I can’t change that and I don’t do hotel meets as something happened to me when I did a hotel meet do that won’t be changing ,I can’t drive so I’ve got to use public transport that’s why it’s Plymouth guys only and that’s also something that I can’t change "
Absolutely no suggestion you are being rude, just trying to help you pinpoint why you may struggle to find people that match your expectations - appreciate you can't do anything about them - but those restrictions will limit you.
You didn't actually answer if you have been explicitly told you are "too vanilla" to meet or if that is just an assumption you are making. |
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"You’ve ruled out single dads and people who don’t like strangers in there home. Maybe consider hotel meets if you really want a meet just make sure you get to know the person first
I’ve ruled out single dads that can’t accommodate when their kids are away yes I have and I don’t like doing hotel meets as I’ve had a bad experience in a hotel "
Not all single dads children are away no mother I can say that for certain. Childminders are all some can get. But I doubt you’re to vanilla sex is sex men couldn’t care less half the time |
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I suspect it's not just the vanilla aspect but that you're seeking Plymouth guys only, within a certain age range, who can accommodate, not visit you at home or in an hotel.
Nothing wrong at all with that, you're entitled to want what you want, but all those elements combined is bound to narrow down prospective guys available. Added to that, you'll want to find him attractive & get on with him, as we all would & it becomes a big ask!
I know I'm sounding harsh & I really don't mean to, just seeing it from my perspective  |
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I had similar problems to you op, single mum, won't accommodate and could only use public transport to get to meets in a sparsely populated area.... but then as the name suggests i am quite kinky... i always think where theres a will(y), theres a way   |
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"You’ve ruled out single dads and people who don’t like strangers in there home. Maybe consider hotel meets if you really want a meet just make sure you get to know the person first
I’ve ruled out single dads that can’t accommodate when their kids are away yes I have and I don’t like doing hotel meets as I’ve had a bad experience in a hotel
Not all single dads children are away no mother I can say that for certain. Childminders are all some can get. But I doubt you’re to vanilla sex is sex men couldn’t care less half the time "
Then I would not meet them then would I if they couldn’t accommodate |
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I'm not doing everything with everybody, nor promising more than a cuddle or hug. They need to right for me with simple, sensual activity before anything else.
Maybe the secret is to beat them at their own game
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