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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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in the prog i'm watching there is a woman with altzhiemers (did i spell it right) and she has just tried to take her own life and its got me thinking
if you had a condition that wpuld see you deteriate to a point where those that loved you had to care for you and watch you slowly die would you take your own life before it got that far
i have always said i would as i wouldn't want those i love to have to see me that way to have their final memeories of me be of hard work and heart break
but then am i being misguided in thinking it was a selfless act to take my life and save them from being my carers would i be causing more heart ache taking my own life?
i'm still of the mind its the right thing to do i would want to go out whilst the memories were still good ones
how bout you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd do it, and I've already discussed it with my kids.
I'd hate to degenerate slowly and for years. My partners mother had it and he said she died a long time before her physical body gave up.
He was relieved to see her go, he said he had been in mourning for years for the mother he had once known. |
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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago
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Grew up with a close relative being like this, and saw her everyday til she died. It was only the day before she died she looked like she recognised me.
Have always said to my family if my mind goes then its time to say good bye and to think of the good times. Dont think I could contemplate taking my own life in case they found a cure.
P.S. well said View |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'd do it, and I've already discussed it with my kids.
I'd hate to degenerate slowly and for years. My partners mother had it and he said she died a long time before her physical body gave up.
He was relieved to see her go, he said he had been in mourning for years for the mother he had once known. "
see this is how i feel
i would gladly look after any family member that had it or any other degenerative disease without question right to the end with nothing but love for them but i just can not bring myself to even consider letting my loved ones look after me in that condition |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
"I'd do it, and I've already discussed it with my kids.
I'd hate to degenerate slowly and for years. My partners mother had it and he said she died a long time before her physical body gave up.
He was relieved to see her go, he said he had been in mourning for years for the mother he had once known. "
This exactly what K says it is so hard for all concerned |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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i have a friend with MS and she has tried to take her own life a couple of times and i completely get where she is coming from on it
my mum and her husband are her carers and it has already been discussed about them helping her if the time comes and i support them 100% i just think its a shame they have to go abroad to do so i think its about time some clinics were set up here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always said to my kids I could cope with losing parts of my body (and have) wouldn't care if I lost my legs but If I were to lose my mind I'd give up. I am sure about this.
You'd put down an animal that was suffering.
I'd at the very least expect to retain my dignity so to lose that would be death by degrees for me.
I'd be off to Holland where euthanasia/ assisted suicide as a last wish is countenanced. |
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"I'd be off to Holland where euthanasia/ assisted suicide as a last wish is countenanced."
We deliver.
Think it was called the "Doctor Death" and his "Death ship".
Not sure whether it was an actuality, random googling hasn't helped. |
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Sometimes the problem is whilst you still have enough grip on reality left to make a rational choice, you also don't fully realise what is actually happening to you and how bad it's going to get.
If two years ago my dad could have seen himself now....... he'd have found a way to end it. And if two years ago we could have seen how bad it was going to get for him.... we'd have helped. |
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i have also told my parents/family that if i am in anyway hospitalised with something that means i have to be on life support, they must turn it off and let me battle my own way through it.
its a contraversial pov i know and i respect others for hanging on (my mother has very bad medical problems and relies on t=our local hospital a great deal) but i am a firm believer that if its your time, just go. people should be left to die and medicine should mind its won business.
personally, thats why i think we are getting so many degenerative diseases.
maybe the body is only designed to last so long, so to be living until we are 70/80/90 and further, we are actually on borrowed time already. |
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By *aceytopWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd do it, and I've already discussed it with my kids.
I'd hate to degenerate slowly and for years. My partners mother had it and he said she died a long time before her physical body gave up.
He was relieved to see her go, he said he had been in mourning for years for the mother he had once known.
see this is how i feel
i would gladly look after any family member that had it or any other degenerative disease without question right to the end with nothing but love for them but i just can not bring myself to even consider letting my loved ones look after me in that condition"
me too,but i live in dread of my kids having to do it,more so with this terrible terrible illness,it robs people of their dignity |
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By *edriderCouple
over a year ago
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my mum was recently diagnosed with alzheimers, she is 66, its a really tough one as they have good days and bad days and when she gets closer to those 'dark days' ill look after her. she is already worrying about losing her dignity, such a sad illness for her and her family x |
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