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Are you good at flirting?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe it is one skill I have and can adapt depending on the person I am aiming it at. It would be hard to teach though I think? You may already be good at it but not realise |
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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
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With men yes.
It's about having sass and confidence and giving away just enough in a conversation to hint at a naughty wicked side.
With women it's about a return to grunts and coming out with random weird things.
(I'm so ruddy bad at flirting with women) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?"
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nope, I suck at flirting... fortunately though I found that just talking to someone like an actual human being, without any suggestions or intentions gets you much further then anything else anyway.
Just be yourself |
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't "
I've gained a lot of confidence recently (and I think that can be acquired) but I don't think that always translates to finding the lines between friendly, flirtatious, overt, crude, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope, I suck at flirting... fortunately though I found that just talking to someone like an actual human being, without any suggestions or intentions gets you much further then anything else anyway.
Just be yourself"
Exactly. Be yourself. I really don’t think you can try to be flirty, or sexy or confident. You are what you are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't
I've gained a lot of confidence recently (and I think that can be acquired) but I don't think that always translates to finding the lines between friendly, flirtatious, overt, crude, etc. "
Flirting is by its nature subtle. A sophisticated social skill |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't "
Yep. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I genuinely have no idea!! I think I'd probably come across as quite klutsy rather than sexy and flirtatious but I'm OK with that! I don't think sexy will ever be part of my personality  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nope, I suck at flirting... fortunately though I found that just talking to someone like an actual human being, without any suggestions or intentions gets you much further then anything else anyway.
Just be yourself
Exactly. Be yourself. I really don’t think you can try to be flirty, or sexy or confident. You are what you are. "
Totally, it fits with that old adage of ‘you find someone when you stop looking’ too, natural looks more confident I think, and that’s a massive thing in attraction for me. |
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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago
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"Love a bit of flirting and sexual innuendo  J"
Me too, love double entendres, it’s hard to keep a straight face sometimes 
I think it comes down to attraction, similar sense of humour and a twinkle in the eyes.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s all in the eye contact as well as what comes across verbally  "
Definitely. Although that can be a bit much sometime. I met someone socially and it felt like an interrogation! He literally never took his eyes off mine. Just stared at me the whole time whilst he was talking. |
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't
I've gained a lot of confidence recently (and I think that can be acquired) but I don't think that always translates to finding the lines between friendly, flirtatious, overt, crude, etc.
Flirting is by its nature subtle. A sophisticated social skill"
That's me out then  |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
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"It’s all in the eye contact as well as what comes across verbally
Definitely. Although that can be a bit much sometime. I met someone socially and it felt like an interrogation! He literally never took his eyes off mine. Just stared at me the whole time whilst he was talking. "
Don't tell everyone  haha |
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"Love a bit of flirting and sexual innuendo J
Me too, love double entendres, it’s hard to keep a straight face sometimes
I think it comes down to attraction, similar sense of humour and a twinkle in the eyes.."
My builders and I had great fun last week with a conversation that started off about a wrap around extension and went rapidly downhill after that. The joys of working on a building site lol. Bloody love it! J |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s all in the eye contact as well as what comes across verbally
Definitely. Although that can be a bit much sometime. I met someone socially and it felt like an interrogation! He literally never took his eyes off mine. Just stared at me the whole time whilst he was talking.
Don't tell everyone haha"
lol. I liked it in the end as I was quite shy and he was so over confident, bordering on the arrogant that it totally made me go the other way. I did exactly the same back and I won in the end  . He looked away first lol. |
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't
I've gained a lot of confidence recently (and I think that can be acquired) but I don't think that always translates to finding the lines between friendly, flirtatious, overt, crude, etc. "
Good for you! I dont suppose there is any spare confidence going around at all? |
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't
I've gained a lot of confidence recently (and I think that can be acquired) but I don't think that always translates to finding the lines between friendly, flirtatious, overt, crude, etc.
Good for you! I dont suppose there is any spare confidence going around at all? "
Hard won, sadly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm a massive flirt! Good eye contact, lots of smiles and a bit of banter would by my top 3 to use when flirting though every woman and every situation is different. Confidence probably plays the biggest factor, if you can talk naturally and look at ease and not trip over your words then you're doing rightly  |
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"I'm a massive flirt! Good eye contact, lots of smiles and a bit of banter would by my top 3 to use when flirting though every woman and every situation is different. Confidence probably plays the biggest factor, if you can talk naturally and look at ease and not trip over your words then you're doing rightly "
I can do that but it doesn't seem flirty when you're talking pseudo-intellectual bollocks |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm a massive flirt! Good eye contact, lots of smiles and a bit of banter would by my top 3 to use when flirting though every woman and every situation is different. Confidence probably plays the biggest factor, if you can talk naturally and look at ease and not trip over your words then you're doing rightly
I can do that but it doesn't seem flirty when you're talking pseudo-intellectual bollocks "
Change your topic of conversation to suit the situation...or just compliment the guy on his looks or dress sense and hopefully he'll then compliment you back |
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"It’s all in the eye contact as well as what comes across verbally
Very much so, and body language generally.. A look, a smile, the way you move... "
... the distance you throw your knickers... All subtle clues to the wonderful dance that is flirting |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Talk about your dorky, nerdy stuff. Embrace it. It can be hot and flirty in its own special way (well works for me).
Other than that, and this isn't a self deprecating thing, I'm dire at flirting but fully embracing my cheese. |
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"Talk about your dorky, nerdy stuff. Embrace it. It can be hot and flirty in its own special way (well works for me).
Other than that, and this isn't a self deprecating thing, I'm dire at flirting but fully embracing my cheese. "
I do. It's just... incredibly hit and miss haha
It's a beautiful thing when I find my people though. I remember deciding in my head that one guy was a go after we got into an argument about etymology |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, I’m absolutely terrible 
Really? Out of the forum users I'd say you were probably one of the flirtiest and quite good at it."
That’s what I thought- Cheeky you’re naturally flirtatious on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Apparently I am but I don’t mean to and it’s often taken as flirting when it’s not.  "
I seem to be excellent at accidental flirting - I think I need to wear tenna flirt absorbing pads or some shit...
Steve x |
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"No, I’m absolutely terrible "
You know that time you pushed your norks in my face and stuck your hand down the front of my trousers? That’s definitely flirting although the coy expression was a bit misplaced |
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Be nice and polite, flirting and charm will just occur naturally - so much harder though if the person your messaging is playing the one word answer game.
Confidence certainly grows with the more positive responses though.
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's a beautiful thing when I find my people though. I remember deciding in my head that one guy was a go after we got into an argument about etymology "
Finding your people is such a lovely thing! It makes someone a must do. Right now I'm being reminded how much I like someone because they are geeking out over something they read 25 years ago - definitely worth a few more shags. |
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo  "
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about |
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"It's a beautiful thing when I find my people though. I remember deciding in my head that one guy was a go after we got into an argument about etymology
Finding your people is such a lovely thing! It makes someone a must do. Right now I'm being reminded how much I like someone because they are geeking out over something they read 25 years ago - definitely worth a few more shags. "
Been shagging my etymology guy for over a year now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about "
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt |
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I think that is down to both what is said and how it is said. Using intonation on certain words is often a clue along with body language, facial expressions (when timed appropriately) and eye contact. Being tactile can also be a part of flirting too but not too heavily or it may become just groping.
You have to register the respondent too and gauge their reactions, use them or divert them to where or how you want make the conversation either be or appear to be.
It is helpful if the other person understands that they are being flirted with but not essential.
I think I flirt and I think I do it often.... and yes it has resulted in some interesting situations.... |
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about "
Absolutely |
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt "
Awe... I’m sure that’s not true |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt
Awe... I’m sure that’s not true "
It is DC. I am amazed how many lovely conversations I kill with an ill timed, poorly crafted or just inappropriate bit of flirting.
I’ve done it twice just today  |
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt "
I’m sure you’ve got a way with words Doc  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I flirt all day every day and doesn't matter whether you're young old male or female!! Has very little to do with sexual chemistry type flirting ... though I do do that too it's a very natural part of who I am but OMG haven't a clue if someone is flirting with me!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm dreadful at flirting.. someone's either in the same mindset or not with me.. and I only know that for sure by meeting face to face. My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt
I’m sure you’ve got a way with words Doc "
My poor timing and ability to get it wrong are brilliant though. Perhaps I simply choose unattainable women to flirt with
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff "
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation."
Totally.. really need someone to bounce off and laugh with. That's very sexy!! |
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation."
Are you me? |
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By *eliWoman
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation.
Are you me? "
We're eerily alike in some things. Not a bad thing. |
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation.
Are you me?
We're eerily alike in some things. Not a bad thing. "
Indeed not! |
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation.
Are you me?
We're eerily alike in some things. Not a bad thing. "
Makes it easier to pick my threesome |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My attempt at flirting is to take the mick, which can easily be misinterpreted.
Saff
I do this. It's hot when you find someone who can give as good as they get and enjoy the mental masturbation.
Are you me?
We're eerily alike in some things. Not a bad thing.
Makes it easier to pick my threesome "
I was thinking that too but the chance would be a fine thing |
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt
Awe... I’m sure that’s not true
It is DC. I am amazed how many lovely conversations I kill with an ill timed, poorly crafted or just inappropriate bit of flirting.
I’ve done it twice just today "
You need to practice on someone |
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"Opposite, I find it easier to flirt and pick up at bars.
This place it's all about the mystery and being sexually aroused by pseudonyms until of course the big reveal.
A monkey with a vag would get a millions messages on this place, so even though it's unrealistic competition it's difficult to wade through."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt
Awe... I’m sure that’s not true
It is DC. I am amazed how many lovely conversations I kill with an ill timed, poorly crafted or just inappropriate bit of flirting.
I’ve done it twice just today
You need to practice on someone"
I’m all for practice, I need teaching a lesson or two  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes. I think it either comes naturally or it doesn't, it's impossible to learn
Do you not think its partly to do with confidence?
Very much so, and I think you either have confidence or you don't
I've gained a lot of confidence recently (and I think that can be acquired) but I don't think that always translates to finding the lines between friendly, flirtatious, overt, crude, etc.
Flirting is by its nature subtle. A sophisticated social skill"
So my 'Get it here' sign is too much? |
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"Flirting has to be both recognised and reciprocal .... otherwise it’s totally lost!
I believe I’m fairly adept at both flirting and innuendo
Exactly this!
If someone is on the same mindset as you, the flirting and innuendo just flows and you both understand what your talking about
That’s where I go wrong, I regularly miss the brick line and it all comes to a shuddering halt
Awe... I’m sure that’s not true
It is DC. I am amazed how many lovely conversations I kill with an ill timed, poorly crafted or just inappropriate bit of flirting.
I’ve done it twice just today
You need to practice on someone
I’m all for practice, I need teaching a lesson or two "
Practice makes perfect! |
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"I like to think I’m pretty good at it to be fair
What you do is not flirting my friend....
Who me? Are you sure
Yess you ....... fluttering them eyelashes won't help you either "
Ok maybe I was a little eager to say I was good. Maybe I’m just average or am I not that good |
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"I like to think I’m pretty good at it to be fair
What you do is not flirting my friend....
Who me? Are you sure
Yess you ....... fluttering them eyelashes won't help you either
Ok maybe I was a little eager to say I was good. Maybe I’m just average or am I not that good "
Awwwwww hugs......your average |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I just chat my way through clubs ... Smiling seems to help. I guess I'm the opposite of fab meeting as I only ever at in clubs. Only ever go with trim or trusted friends and will only ever play with those that I take a liking too in clubs. Meeting people organically is my preference when in clubs. Go with the flow kinda girl.
I guess I'm old school... This whole online thing is cool n all but it's very unlikely I'd meet people off here from only chatting to them on here. Mind there are a couple of folks I'd love to meet. A couple who are local and from the convos I've had are awesome. A white Scottish guy who is just so chilled out that I'd happily be friends and a couple of black guys ... One I've met at a club and one I haven't ever met but is just so interesting that one can't help but to want to meet even if it's for conversation alone.
Op
Your someone I'd love to meet in a club... think you'd be super interesting. Plus ... Do you get your dresses from deadly is the female ?
So up your alley
Not charging you up or nothing ... But very hot look |
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"I like to think I’m pretty good at it to be fair
What you do is not flirting my friend....
Who me? Are you sure
Yess you ....... fluttering them eyelashes won't help you either
Ok maybe I was a little eager to say I was good. Maybe I’m just average or am I not that good
Awwwwww hugs......your average "
Average is good with me ha |
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