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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.   |
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It's only a problem if it's a problem for you. Just because society says you should feel/act a certain way, it doesn't mean you should. Do what's right for you.
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My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends. |
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends."
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically? |
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"Life isn't all about sex.
Actually i think it is  "
it's sites like this which put too much pressure on people to have sex.
Some people talk about sex as if they have to have it.. Like it's life or death lol
Meh it's just a fuck, for fuck sake.
No more pleasure than a DIY
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive. "
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends.
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically?"
I was definitely horny as a teenager and I thought Fab sounded like a turn on, but obviously not anymore cuz I don't get turned on much. I don't talk about this with friends so I thought I'd post it here with strangers. |
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Given your post, I've had a quick look at your profile to try understand what you're looking for from this site & I see you're interested in the forums at the moment rather than meeting which is fair enough.
I see the age range you've stated is perhaps somewhat higher than the girl you spent time with (I accept I'm making an assumption there), maybe this has something to do with how you view your time with her?
Without wishing to sound patronising, you're still young, you still have plenty of time to find out what & who suits you. Don't put pressure on yourself. Someone can be the most beautiful (& you therefore feel you "should" be attracted/turned on enough to have "full" sex) but sometimes that isn't what makes it happen. There's no right or wrong way. If you want it happen, it will. When the time's right! And if it doesn't - that's ok too! |
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
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That's actually good to know, like I feel like I'd make a good partner or boyfriend to someone I might love, but I feel like sex is supposed to be such an important part of a relationship, and I don't want to let them down cuz I might not feel like it most of the time. |
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends.
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically?
I was definitely horny as a teenager and I thought Fab sounded like a turn on, but obviously not anymore cuz I don't get turned on much. I don't talk about this with friends so I thought I'd post it here with strangers."
I feel the same. Since joining this site I have been thinking that everyone is a nymphomaniac |
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends.
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically?
I was definitely horny as a teenager and I thought Fab sounded like a turn on, but obviously not anymore cuz I don't get turned on much. I don't talk about this with friends so I thought I'd post it here with strangers."
I'm not an expert on any subject especially this but if you aren't depressed, under a lot of stress or on medication of some sort and this is worrying you go and see your doctor. If it isn't worrying you, carry on as you are.
Out of interest do you or have you watched a lot of porn? |
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends.
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically?
I was definitely horny as a teenager and I thought Fab sounded like a turn on, but obviously not anymore cuz I don't get turned on much. I don't talk about this with friends so I thought I'd post it here with strangers."
Google 'asexuality org', there's a lot of useful info on there. Different shades of asexuality.
Or it could be a phase. If life is getting you down, that can kill your sex drive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't met anyone in almost seven months, and I haven't had full sex in eight months.
There are people i find very sexually attractive, and at times i do get horny but I often just don't feel I want sex with anyone. There are very, very few people whom I'm both physically attracted to, and whose personality attracts me too and I have no interest in quick, random fucks. There are other issues involved with why i don't feel able to have sex at the moment, but with the way I'm feeling I do wonder if i ever will.
I don't know if it's a libido issue, and to be honest with myself j think it's more to do with how i feel about myself and how i look.
It could just be that you finf this lady beautiful, but there's no sexual attraction or perhaps you don't feel like sex with anyone. Has this happened before?
Either way you shouldn't have to feel ashamed. As has been previously said just do what feels right for you.
Don't have sex for the sake of it though. I get plenty of offers neing a single woman here, but it wouldn't make me feel better about myself if i met people i don't connect with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Given your post, I've had a quick look at your profile to try understand what you're looking for from this site & I see you're interested in the forums at the moment rather than meeting which is fair enough.
I see the age range you've stated is perhaps somewhat higher than the girl you spent time with (I accept I'm making an assumption there), maybe this has something to do with how you view your time with her?
Without wishing to sound patronising, you're still young, you still have plenty of time to find out what & who suits you. Don't put pressure on yourself. Someone can be the most beautiful (& you therefore feel you "should" be attracted/turned on enough to have "full" sex) but sometimes that isn't what makes it happen. There's no right or wrong way. If you want it happen, it will. When the time's right! And if it doesn't - that's ok too!"
Wow, that's actually exactly how it is. I did have a better profile, but I edited an hour ago. I do find older women attractive so I thought I'd find some here but realistically if I'm gonna go out with someone irl, it'll be someone close in age. The girl is only a few years older, mid 20's. But I've spent so much time with her and I do find her attractive but I do actually feel like I have to be turned on with her because I don't want to let her down, have her spend all this emotional energy on me only for me to not want 'full' sex. I don't want to end anything with us because I think this libido or drive thing is only temporary but I'm still trying to gather my feelings. |
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
That's actually good to know, like I feel like I'd make a good partner or boyfriend to someone I might love, but I feel like sex is supposed to be such an important part of a relationship, and I don't want to let them down cuz I might not feel like it most of the time."
It does depend on the woman, but most women I know don't see sex as important. They say they do, but they don't. If you talk to other guys, you'll often hear about their wives withholding sex, etc.
Honestly, count this as a blessing. I hate needing sex all the time. I'm insatiable and never truly satisfied.
It's easy for a woman to manipulate a man who she knows is craving sex. You're free of all this bullshit.
Aslong as you can have sex once a week, you'll probably be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don't beat yourself up OP.
I have also spent time with beautiful women who I like and not felt abit horny for them.
We all can't turn it on and off like a switch.
Some men like a certain type of woman or a kink that does the trick.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
That's actually good to know, like I feel like I'd make a good partner or boyfriend to someone I might love, but I feel like sex is supposed to be such an important part of a relationship, and I don't want to let them down cuz I might not feel like it most of the time.
It does depend on the woman, but most women I know don't see sex as important. They say they do, but they don't. If you talk to other guys, you'll often hear about their wives withholding sex, etc.
Honestly, count this as a blessing. I hate needing sex all the time. I'm insatiable and never truly satisfied.
It's easy for a woman to manipulate a man who she knows is craving sex. You're free of all this bullshit.
Aslong as you can have sex once a week, you'll probably be fine."
Sounds good, I could probably manage that ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Don't beat yourself up OP.
I have also spent time with beautiful women who I like and not felt abit horny for them.
We all can't turn it on and off like a switch.
Some men like a certain type of woman or a kink that does the trick.
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Like I thought this is THE girl, yet when it comes to time. I don't get hard at all. I'm like what, I'm pretty sure I've dreamed about this. But jimmy doesn't seem to want to turn on at all. And I don't get horny. I think it's a circulation issue tbh, but I also don't crave it so maybe it's mental as well. I don't know. But yes it doesn't cause me any problems and I don't worry about it. But I assumed just cuz I'm young I should crave sex but I don't. |
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
That's actually good to know, like I feel like I'd make a good partner or boyfriend to someone I might love, but I feel like sex is supposed to be such an important part of a relationship, and I don't want to let them down cuz I might not feel like it most of the time.
It does depend on the woman, but most women I know don't see sex as important. They say they do, but they don't. If you talk to other guys, you'll often hear about their wives withholding sex, etc.
Honestly, count this as a blessing. I hate needing sex all the time. I'm insatiable and never truly satisfied.
It's easy for a woman to manipulate a man who she knows is craving sex. You're free of all this bullshit.
Aslong as you can have sex once a week, you'll probably be fine.
Sounds good, I could probably manage that !"
Then you're probably going to be fine! Fair play to you. I went to the doctor's ages ago to reduce libido hahahaha. I was sick of needing it all the time. |
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"Given your post, I've had a quick look at your profile to try understand what you're looking for from this site & I see you're interested in the forums at the moment rather than meeting which is fair enough.
I see the age range you've stated is perhaps somewhat higher than the girl you spent time with (I accept I'm making an assumption there), maybe this has something to do with how you view your time with her?
Without wishing to sound patronising, you're still young, you still have plenty of time to find out what & who suits you. Don't put pressure on yourself. Someone can be the most beautiful (& you therefore feel you "should" be attracted/turned on enough to have "full" sex) but sometimes that isn't what makes it happen. There's no right or wrong way. If you want it happen, it will. When the time's right! And if it doesn't - that's ok too!
Wow, that's actually exactly how it is. I did have a better profile, but I edited an hour ago. I do find older women attractive so I thought I'd find some here but realistically if I'm gonna go out with someone irl, it'll be someone close in age. The girl is only a few years older, mid 20's. But I've spent so much time with her and I do find her attractive but I do actually feel like I have to be turned on with her because I don't want to let her down, have her spend all this emotional energy on me only for me to not want 'full' sex. I don't want to end anything with us because I think this libido or drive thing is only temporary but I'm still trying to gather my feelings."
Not sure how long you've been seeing each other or whether you've talked about how you're feeling but if not, it might be an idea to do so.
I know that may feel like you're making a big thing out of it, but it might be better for both of you to have a chat about it sooner rather than later. A relationship is a two way thing & if something is starting to worry you, which it sounds like it is, then it's important to feel you can share your concerns. If she's a decent person, which she hopefully is, then she'll understand. You owe it to her & yourself to be open about it. What potentially can become a big thing (to some people) is then kept in perspective. |
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"Don't beat yourself up OP.
I have also spent time with beautiful women who I like and not felt abit horny for them.
We all can't turn it on and off like a switch.
Some men like a certain type of woman or a kink that does the trick.
Like I thought this is THE girl, yet when it comes to time. I don't get hard at all. I'm like what, I'm pretty sure I've dreamed about this. But jimmy doesn't seem to want to turn on at all. And I don't get horny. I think it's a circulation issue tbh, but I also don't crave it so maybe it's mental as well. I don't know. But yes it doesn't cause me any problems and I don't worry about it. But I assumed just cuz I'm young I should crave sex but I don't. "
Nope, not every man is super sexual. Do you watch porn? |
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"Sometimes I don't give a damn about sex plus its not everything. Your not alone in this either."
It definitely isn't but so many guys who message me make put like that's all that matters. People write me off because i have health problems, and can't meet easily. It's a shame that people view everyone on here as wanting an instant fuck. Not everyone does. |
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"Sometimes I don't give a damn about sex plus its not everything. Your not alone in this either.
It definitely isn't but so many guys who message me make put like that's all that matters. People write me off because i have health problems, and can't meet easily. It's a shame that people view everyone on here as wanting an instant fuck. Not everyone does."
I guess that's the downside of being on a swingers site. Men assume more than they should x. |
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"Sometimes I don't give a damn about sex plus its not everything. Your not alone in this either.
It definitely isn't but so many guys who message me make put like that's all that matters. People write me off because i have health problems, and can't meet easily. It's a shame that people view everyone on here as wanting an instant fuck. Not everyone does.
I guess that's the downside of being on a swingers site. Men assume more than they should x."
I thought swinging was meant to be about the social element too, but i think fab has turned into a hook up site. There is a difference. Some people may not want romantic relationships, but they want to connect with people they have sex with.
I'm sure there are plenty of people here that value the social side, but i find the people i'm attracted to physically don't give a toss.
It's nice when people make the effort and think you're worth getting to know. |
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends.
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically?
I was definitely horny as a teenager and I thought Fab sounded like a turn on, but obviously not anymore cuz I don't get turned on much. I don't talk about this with friends so I thought I'd post it here with strangers.
Google 'asexuality org', there's a lot of useful info on there. Different shades of asexuality.
Or it could be a phase. If life is getting you down, that can kill your sex drive. "
Definitely worth a look on asexuality, there are different places on the spectrum. Have a read through and see if any describe how you feel |
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Is there anytbing different about now/this girl compared to the past? For example, is this the first time you've had real feelings.
Because as much as sex and relationships seem similar I think the two can, in some circumstances, cause conflicts.
For example, I enjoy sex with a thrill. But a relationship (well life) invites routine. Routine isn't good for my libido. So I need to make sure I don't let routine slip into the sex and keep the experimentation.
I'd personally be wary about assigning it to poor circulation.witjout medical diagnosis that may be an easy kip out and allow something else to go unchecked. Mental or physical. |
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"Sometimes I don't give a damn about sex plus its not everything. Your not alone in this either.
It definitely isn't but so many guys who message me make put like that's all that matters. People write me off because i have health problems, and can't meet easily. It's a shame that people view everyone on here as wanting an instant fuck. Not everyone does.
I guess that's the downside of being on a swingers site. Men assume more than they should x.
I thought swinging was meant to be about the social element too, but i think fab has turned into a hook up site. There is a difference. Some people may not want romantic relationships, but they want to connect with people they have sex with.
I'm sure there are plenty of people here that value the social side, but i find the people i'm attracted to physically don't give a toss.
It's nice when people make the effort and think you're worth getting to know. "
I understand that as I feel the same way. I think a lot of men come on here purely for sex. Some men like the social side and some don't. To me, personality is very important, but I certainly don't speak for all men. |
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We're all different as well as find that our interests change from time to time. If we're in a relationship and our partner's needs match our own, then we're fortunate. When you're happy with your life, don't perceive any problems, then you can just continue to live in bliss, whether you find a term that refers to someone like you or not. |
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"Life isn't all about sex.
Actually i think it is
it's sites like this which put too much pressure on people to have sex.
Some people talk about sex as if they have to have it.. Like it's life or death lol
Meh it's just a fuck, for fuck sake.
No more pleasure than a DIY
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I dunno Mickey. I love looking at a newly tiled wall.
I'd rather fuck per wall than fuck per tile tho ..... |
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
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It's a fallacy that women's sex drive diminishes naturally.
Take the kids and house and job away ..... oh and the large child that she lives with too.
Pay the bills.
Let her sleep a while.
Give her a laugh with a few mates and hey presto......
She was there all the time underneath all that.
So she goes n fucks someone nicer with good moves ....... Fnarrrrrr !
Yes I know it happens to men too but I get tired of hearing how horny they are and that women don't want it.
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
It's a fallacy that women's sex drive diminishes naturally.
Take the kids and house and job away ..... oh and the large child that she lives with too.
Pay the bills.
Let her sleep a while.
Give her a laugh with a few mates and hey presto......
She was there all the time underneath all that.
So she goes n fucks someone nicer with good moves ....... Fnarrrrrr !
Yes I know it happens to men too but I get tired of hearing how horny they are and that women don't want it.
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Bang on!
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
It's a fallacy that women's sex drive diminishes naturally.
Take the kids and house and job away ..... oh and the large child that she lives with too.
Pay the bills.
Let her sleep a while.
Give her a laugh with a few mates and hey presto......
She was there all the time underneath all that.
So she goes n fucks someone nicer with good moves ....... Fnarrrrrr !
Yes I know it happens to men too but I get tired of hearing how horny they are and that women don't want it.
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
It's a fallacy that women's sex drive diminishes naturally.
Take the kids and house and job away ..... oh and the large child that she lives with too.
Pay the bills.
Let her sleep a while.
Give her a laugh with a few mates and hey presto......
She was there all the time underneath all that.
So she goes n fucks someone nicer with good moves ....... Fnarrrrrr !
Yes I know it happens to men too but I get tired of hearing how horny they are and that women don't want it.
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Me too.
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"Sexual attraction isn’t always gonna happen just because someone looks attractive
Could be that or you are just nervous "
Yeah I was very stressed/a little nervous before I met her last and she was very understanding. We both agreed that it wasn't working due to the nerves as it happens to every guy sometimes. We're definitely over the honeymoon phase I think, as my heart doesn't skip a beat or I don't get all red and warm inside lol anymore. So I'm like am I not interested anymore? Or is this just what happens after your together after awhile? But I see some people are still madly in love after 20 years so either she's not the 'one' or either this asexuality could be me and it's just a mental thing as to why I don't have a big drive for love and sex. I do get jealous though, so I don't think I'm 100% asexual/interested in women. |
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"Sexual attraction isn’t always gonna happen just because someone looks attractive
Could be that or you are just nervous
Yeah I was very stressed/a little nervous before I met her last and she was very understanding. We both agreed that it wasn't working due to the nerves as it happens to every guy sometimes. We're definitely over the honeymoon phase I think, as my heart doesn't skip a beat or I don't get all red and warm inside lol anymore. So I'm like am I not interested anymore? Or is this just what happens after your together after awhile? But I see some people are still madly in love after 20 years so either she's not the 'one' or either this asexuality could be me and it's just a mental thing as to why I don't have a big drive for love and sex. I do get jealous though, so I don't think I'm 100% asexual/interested in women. "
I think you're very confused and possibly over thinking things. Why not take a step back from all things sex and relationship oriented for a while. Take the pressure off yourself.
Did you answer my question about whether you watch porn much,? |
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
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Isn't this a bit of a sweeping statement? Everyone's different... further down the thread you say you can't speak for all men yet you're happy to speak for pretty much all women?
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"My only conclusion is because I sit for about 12hrs a day that I probably have very poor circulation in my pelvic area. I always thought about if I was asexual because I seem to be different to most of my friends.
Ok. What brought you to fab specifically?"
I was thinking the same  |
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"Sexual attraction isn’t always gonna happen just because someone looks attractive
Could be that or you are just nervous
Yeah I was very stressed/a little nervous before I met her last and she was very understanding. We both agreed that it wasn't working due to the nerves as it happens to every guy sometimes. We're definitely over the honeymoon phase I think, as my heart doesn't skip a beat or I don't get all red and warm inside lol anymore. So I'm like am I not interested anymore? Or is this just what happens after your together after awhile? But I see some people are still madly in love after 20 years so either she's not the 'one' or either this asexuality could be me and it's just a mental thing as to why I don't have a big drive for love and sex. I do get jealous though, so I don't think I'm 100% asexual/interested in women.
I think you're very confused and possibly over thinking things. Why not take a step back from all things sex and relationship oriented for a while. Take the pressure off yourself.
Did you answer my question about whether you watch porn much,? "
I'm sorry, no I don't watch porn much. Maybe once a month or once every 2 months, I'm more a picture kind've guy. |
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"Sexual attraction isn’t always gonna happen just because someone looks attractive
Could be that or you are just nervous
Yeah I was very stressed/a little nervous before I met her last and she was very understanding. We both agreed that it wasn't working due to the nerves as it happens to every guy sometimes. We're definitely over the honeymoon phase I think, as my heart doesn't skip a beat or I don't get all red and warm inside lol anymore. So I'm like am I not interested anymore? Or is this just what happens after your together after awhile? But I see some people are still madly in love after 20 years so either she's not the 'one' or either this asexuality could be me and it's just a mental thing as to why I don't have a big drive for love and sex. I do get jealous though, so I don't think I'm 100% asexual/interested in women.
I think you're very confused and possibly over thinking things. Why not take a step back from all things sex and relationship oriented for a while. Take the pressure off yourself.
Did you answer my question about whether you watch porn much,?
I'm sorry, no I don't watch porn much. Maybe once a month or once every 2 months, I'm more a picture kind've guy."
No need to apologise. It's just that there's a big problem with young men becoming desensitised to sex in the real world because of the amount of porn they watch. |
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Thanks for all the feedback guys, I know this isn't a doctor's clinic. But I looked into asexuality and I lot of the things I resonate with. I enjoy relationships and have romantic attraction without having sexual attraction. |
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"What made you want to join a swinging community when you have no interest on sex?
Hahaha you just asked what I was thinking ,it don't make sense"
I wonder if i joined a snooker forum, and told them that i don't enjoy playing snooker, someone might invite me out for a game to try and prove that it really can be fun? Hmmm... |
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If you have no sexual arrousal for anything I’d go and see a doctor, you could just have a low libido or could be an medical reason or an emotional one, I think it would be good to talk to someone op |
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"If you have no sexual arrousal for anything I’d go and see a doctor, you could just have a low libido or could be an medical reason or an emotional one, I think it would be good to talk to someone op"
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"I spent time with probably the most beautiful girl I've ever met recently, I just love her company and spending intimate time with her but just sex doesn't interest me. I gave her a lot of action but tbh I didn't feel that horny at all. I'm 21, my testosterone levels are normal but I just don't have any libido or drive.
No joke - I envy you. Pretty much all women I know are asexual or have low libido. It's so hard for most men. Most of the men I know in relationships, the woman has gone off sex and the man just suffers badly without sex. Do not worry about this problem, but rather use it to your advantage.
It's a fallacy that women's sex drive diminishes naturally.
Take the kids and house and job away ..... oh and the large child that she lives with too.
Pay the bills.
Let her sleep a while.
Give her a laugh with a few mates and hey presto......
She was there all the time underneath all that.
So she goes n fucks someone nicer with good moves ....... Fnarrrrrr !
Yes I know it happens to men too but I get tired of hearing how horny they are and that women don't want it.
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Whooosh! You ladies didn't like that one!
The house, job and kids make little difference in my opinion. A sexual woman is a sexual woman regardless of those things. Exactly the same as a man, sexual men want sex. He could have worked a 12hr shift, looked after the kids or anything - it makes little difference.
However, I will agree with you on one thing; going out with mates (and getting d*unk) - that does seem to make a woman more sexual. I agree.
I believe the difference in libido is mostly due to testosterone levels. Women supposedly have around ten times less testosterone than men. At least that's the simple scientific answer.
Women do want sex, but I'm sure we can see that there's generally a huge difference in libido and attitude towards sex between the sexes.
However!!! This is all very general isn't it? The man posting is saying that has has a low libido, and he's male. This happens! Not everyone is the same! We know this! |
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"Whooosh! You ladies didn't like that one!
The house, job and kids make little difference in my opinion. A sexual woman is a sexual woman regardless of those things. Exactly the same as a man, sexual men want sex. He could have worked a 12hr shift, looked after the kids or anything - it makes little difference.
However, I will agree with you on one thing; going out with mates (and getting d*unk) - that does seem to make a woman more sexual. I agree.
I believe the difference in libido is mostly due to testosterone levels. Women supposedly have around ten times less testosterone than men. At least that's the simple scientific answer.
Women do want sex, but I'm sure we can see that there's generally a huge difference in libido and attitude towards sex between the sexes.
However!!! This is all very general isn't it? The man posting is saying that has has a low libido, and he's male. This happens! Not everyone is the same! We know this!"
I think it’s just that women don’t want sex with you |
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"Sexual attraction isn’t always gonna happen just because someone looks attractive
Could be that or you are just nervous
Yeah I was very stressed/a little nervous before I met her last and she was very understanding. We both agreed that it wasn't working due to the nerves as it happens to every guy sometimes. We're definitely over the honeymoon phase I think, as my heart doesn't skip a beat or I don't get all red and warm inside lol anymore. So I'm like am I not interested anymore? Or is this just what happens after your together after awhile? But I see some people are still madly in love after 20 years so either she's not the 'one' or either this asexuality could be me and it's just a mental thing as to why I don't have a big drive for love and sex. I do get jealous though, so I don't think I'm 100% asexual/interested in women. "
This does happen from time to time. Sometimes, we can make things into a big deal in our heads. I remember one time not being able to get hard for a woman. I panicked and it gave me an insecurity. I had a type of performance anxiety for around 6 months! Sometimes, it's all in the head.
However, I think you should just take it easy. In my opinion, a man having a low libido isn't such a bad thing - I'd love to have a low libido. If it worries you though, you could go to the doctor's. |
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"Whooosh! You ladies didn't like that one!
The house, job and kids make little difference in my opinion. A sexual woman is a sexual woman regardless of those things. Exactly the same as a man, sexual men want sex. He could have worked a 12hr shift, looked after the kids or anything - it makes little difference.
However, I will agree with you on one thing; going out with mates (and getting d*unk) - that does seem to make a woman more sexual. I agree.
I believe the difference in libido is mostly due to testosterone levels. Women supposedly have around ten times less testosterone than men. At least that's the simple scientific answer.
Women do want sex, but I'm sure we can see that there's generally a huge difference in libido and attitude towards sex between the sexes.
However!!! This is all very general isn't it? The man posting is saying that has has a low libido, and he's male. This happens! Not everyone is the same! We know this!
I think it’s just that women don’t want sex with you "
If you look at studies on human sexuality, etc, you may see where I'm coming from. There are many hundreds of studies done on it. Infact, it's more or less this way throughout the entire animal kingdom.
However, if you want to take the "woman don't want sex with you" route, that's cool too. You may even be right. |
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"What made you want to join a swinging community when you have no interest on sex?
Hahaha you just asked what I was thinking ,it don't make sense
I wonder if i joined a snooker forum, and told them that i don't enjoy playing snooker, someone might invite me out for a game to try and prove that it really can be fun? Hmmm... "
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