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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
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Blimey. What are the chances? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
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Block her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I'd say something but only if it was a good friend. I'd hope he would understand I was looking out for him. For all you know they could both be in an open relationship, but I couldn't take the chance and let a good friend get hurt if they didn't know.
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"I always think that if your partner was cheating on you, would you want your friend to tell you? "
I always think I would want my friends to be sure of facts before they accused my partner of something? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Difficult..they could talk it through, sort it out, get through it and then you become the bad guy for 'interfering' and your friendship with them would never be the same x |
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By *pmsldCouple
over a year ago
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How do you know she isnt on here with his consent? None of my friends know we are on this site and I know S has only told 1 or 2 of her close friends about it. Could maybe bring the site up in conversation with him and see what reaction you get from him. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always think that if your partner was cheating on you, would you want your friend to tell you?
I always think I would want my friends to be sure of facts before they accused my partner of something?"
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"Bullshit.
Women don’t message cock pics
Funnily enough, it had crossed my mind that OP was in fantasy land too"
We were thinking what are the chances of a single women winking and messaging a single man's profile that just happens to be her hubbies mate  |
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It is indeed a dilemma. My instinct is to say no. You probably don't know what has driven her to this. It could be marital problems. He may know all about it.
What he doesn't know won't hurt him. Let them sort out their own marital issues. Don't be the catalyst that could tear them apart. |
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
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If I was going to do anything (I wouldn't but if I was) I would mention to the person who had contacted me that I knew them and wouldn't meet them for that reason. Why on earth anybody thinks it's being loyal to a friend to tell them their partners cheating when the only evidence they have is a message from an internet profile his beyond me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
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I don't think she knows it's me, to be honest. Otherwise unlikely she'd make contact on here...surely she'd approach me more directly?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
If I was going to do anything (I wouldn't but if I was) I would mention to the person who had contacted me that I knew them and wouldn't meet them for that reason. Why on earth anybody thinks it's being loyal to a friend to tell them their partners cheating when the only evidence they have is a message from an internet profile his beyond me."
There's a very from a social, and a separate one from a full meet. I think that goes beyond a simple "d*unken mistake" type slip up. If she's actively seeking extra-marital that's not fair at all on my buddy. I need to find a way of letting him know, so he / her can sort out whatever they need to do. |
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
If I was going to do anything (I wouldn't but if I was) I would mention to the person who had contacted me that I knew them and wouldn't meet them for that reason. Why on earth anybody thinks it's being loyal to a friend to tell them their partners cheating when the only evidence they have is a message from an internet profile his beyond me.
There's a very from a social, and a separate one from a full meet. I think that goes beyond a simple "d*unken mistake" type slip up. If she's actively seeking extra-marital that's not fair at all on my buddy. I need to find a way of letting him know, so he / her can sort out whatever they need to do."
Why do you need to speak to him, why not her?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The likelihood of him knowing deep down is probably quite high (people aren't silly)
I always thought part of being on here was to be discreet about who you see/meet as lots of people aren't wanting the whole world to know although some do.
Personally I would go to her and have a chat if you did want to say something.
Yes it's not anyones business why someone is on here but she may have her reason or let you know he does actually know already and its agreed between them.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
I don't think she knows it's me, to be honest. Otherwise unlikely she'd make contact on here...surely she'd approach me more directly?
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She obviously doesn’t know it’s you or she wouldn’t message!!
The exact reason why I don’t shit on my own doorstep. I block anyone local & look elsewhere because as seen on here you can’t rely on others to keep their mouths shut. |
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
I don't think she knows it's me, to be honest. Otherwise unlikely she'd make contact on here...surely she'd approach me more directly?
She obviously doesn’t know it’s you or she wouldn’t message!!
The exact reason why I don’t shit on my own doorstep. I block anyone local & look elsewhere because as seen on here you can’t rely on others to keep their mouths shut."
This is why I always advise people in professions such as teaching to keep it quiet. There's always a "concerned parent" who thinks it's in the ", children's best interest" that the governors, head, other parents are presented with "the evidence". |
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
I don't think she knows it's me, to be honest. Otherwise unlikely she'd make contact on here...surely she'd approach me more directly?
She obviously doesn’t know it’s you or she wouldn’t message!!
The exact reason why I don’t shit on my own doorstep. I block anyone local & look elsewhere because as seen on here you can’t rely on others to keep their mouths shut.
This is why I always advise people in professions such as teaching to keep it quiet. There's always a "concerned parent" who thinks it's in the ", children's best interest" that the governors, head, other parents are presented with "the evidence"."
What people do in there personal life is up to them. No matter what there job is. longs it doesn’t effect there job. So called professional or not. |
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
I don't think she knows it's me, to be honest. Otherwise unlikely she'd make contact on here...surely she'd approach me more directly?
She obviously doesn’t know it’s you or she wouldn’t message!!
The exact reason why I don’t shit on my own doorstep. I block anyone local & look elsewhere because as seen on here you can’t rely on others to keep their mouths shut.
This is why I always advise people in professions such as teaching to keep it quiet. There's always a "concerned parent" who thinks it's in the ", children's best interest" that the governors, head, other parents are presented with "the evidence".
What people do in there personal life is up to them. No matter what there job is. longs it doesn’t effect there job. So called professional or not."
It is and the same goes for this woman. She's contacted someone on here who knows her partner. The immediate conclusion drawn is that she's cheating on him and he should be told this. Where is the evidence that she's cheating? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
I don't think she knows it's me, to be honest. Otherwise unlikely she'd make contact on here...surely she'd approach me more directly?
She obviously doesn’t know it’s you or she wouldn’t message!!
The exact reason why I don’t shit on my own doorstep. I block anyone local & look elsewhere because as seen on here you can’t rely on others to keep their mouths shut.
This is why I always advise people in professions such as teaching to keep it quiet. There's always a "concerned parent" who thinks it's in the ", children's best interest" that the governors, head, other parents are presented with "the evidence".
What people do in there personal life is up to them. No matter what there job is. longs it doesn’t effect there job. So called professional or not.
It is and the same goes for this woman. She's contacted someone on here who knows her partner. The immediate conclusion drawn is that she's cheating on him and he should be told this. Where is the evidence that she's cheating?"
Exactly it could be something they do together maybe his 'mate' enjoys his wife playing its absolutely non of OP beeswax leave it be. |
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"I always think that if your partner was cheating on you, would you want your friend to tell you?
I always think I would want my friends to be sure of facts before they accused my partner of something?"
How exactly are you so sure? Has she sent you a face pic or is hers on her profile? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
If I was going to do anything (I wouldn't but if I was) I would mention to the person who had contacted me that I knew them and wouldn't meet them for that reason. Why on earth anybody thinks it's being loyal to a friend to tell them their partners cheating when the only evidence they have is a message from an internet profile his beyond me.
There's a very from a social, and a separate one from a full meet. I think that goes beyond a simple "d*unken mistake" type slip up. If she's actively seeking extra-marital that's not fair at all on my buddy. I need to find a way of letting him know, so he / her can sort out whatever they need to do.
Why do you need to speak to him, why not her?
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I don't want her knowing my business, my preferences and it could become awkward if she confesses to him, and says I knew. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I always think that if your partner was cheating on you, would you want your friend to tell you?
I always think I would want my friends to be sure of facts before they accused my partner of something?
How exactly are you so sure? Has she sent you a face pic or is hers on her profile?"
There's no doubt it's her. No face pic as I haven't asked for one simply for the reasons explained above. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
Block her "
I agree. Least known the better I think. |
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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago
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There is no correct answer really. Just that the scenario makes it more awkward.
How many of you would, under different circumstances want to be told that your partner was in the potential act of cheating on you? Would you want your friend to let you know? How would you feel if they knew about the cheating partner and kept it from you, letting you go on like that?
With that said unless you have solid proof it is her then it is best to say nothing at all. Imagine if you felt you were 100% it is her, you tell him she is cheating and then turns out its not her at all. |
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Id say something.
A friend of mine found out her boyfriend was cheating on her when someone showed her his profile on a fetish site where he was being a "Bull" for cuck couples.
Imagine how it would feel to find out that your partner was cheating, was on sex sites, and your best mate knew and didnt tell you.
You wouldnt be in the best mate box anymore, be in the shithead box. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm shocked at how many are saying keep it shut and don't say a word. I feel like with good friends you owe them honesty. OK, fair enough if it was just a mate but someone I'm really close to I couldn't handle them not being in the know about such a potential big red flag.
But anyway, for all we know she might not even be cheating. If people saw me on here and I hadn't mentioned my partner in my profile they'd probably think I was cheating too. And I wouldn't blame them for saying something to my partner. It's up to you OP, you know your friend better than any of us... just don't go in all guns blazing. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think either way, you’ll end up being the bastard, so I’d say nothing, just block her and move on.
Maybe if you want to be sure it is her, send her your pic and see what happens.
You don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors though and you could cause a whole lot of trouble meddling. |
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
If I was going to do anything (I wouldn't but if I was) I would mention to the person who had contacted me that I knew them and wouldn't meet them for that reason. Why on earth anybody thinks it's being loyal to a friend to tell them their partners cheating when the only evidence they have is a message from an internet profile his beyond me.
There's a very from a social, and a separate one from a full meet. I think that goes beyond a simple "d*unken mistake" type slip up. If she's actively seeking extra-marital that's not fair at all on my buddy. I need to find a way of letting him know, so he / her can sort out whatever they need to do.
Why do you need to speak to him, why not her?
I don't want her knowing my business, my preferences and it could become awkward if she confesses to him, and says I knew."
So how are you going to explain to him that you know she's on here? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm shocked at how many are saying keep it shut and don't say a word. I feel like with good friends you owe them honesty. OK, fair enough if it was just a mate but someone I'm really close to I couldn't handle them not being in the know about such a potential big red flag.
But anyway, for all we know she might not even be cheating. If people saw me on here and I hadn't mentioned my partner in my profile they'd probably think I was cheating too. And I wouldn't blame them for saying something to my partner. It's up to you OP, you know your friend better than any of us... just don't go in all guns blazing. "
I think it's the not having all the facts first op doesn't know 100% she's cheating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What gives anyone right to intrude in someone else's relationship,
Just block and move on.
That's their problem not yours, assuming there is a problem "
His m8’s wife is allowing people to intrude their relationship. If I had a wife and, she was on here being gang-banged, I’d like to know, as I’m sure everyone would.
OP get a face pic or have her cam in chat before you jump to conclusions. Once you’re sure it’s her, it’s up to you what you do. I’d want to know so that I could make a decision. (once the trust and respect is gone - the relationship is over) |
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"funny how all the women are saying to block and move on.
I’d say the same if it was the other way round. Not your business. "
but it isn't the other way round. it is his business. nobody likes a deceitful cunt. |
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By *el71Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
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Say nothing to anybody. They won't thank you for it and you are likey to lose a friend. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why would she contact you if she knows you are friends with him and if she doesn't know that it is you then you have nothing to worry about in regards to your business being exposed?"
Because she will see who I am with face photo, and it will become awkward as explained above... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"funny how all the women are saying to block and move on.
I’d say the same if it was the other way round. Not your business.
but it isn't the other way round. it is his business. nobody likes a deceitful cunt. "
Sorry I disagree. It’s not his business. |
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I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
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If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes. |
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"Why would she contact you if she knows you are friends with him and if she doesn't know that it is you then you have nothing to worry about in regards to your business being exposed?
Because she will see who I am with face photo, and it will become awkward as explained above..."
And it won't be awkward when you tell your friend that his wife is cheating on him (not that you have definitive proof)? He will tell her you told him or are you planning to deceive her by asking him not to say who told him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Does she know it's you? Might be worth speaking to her and she gives you reason why she is here?
If I was going to do anything (I wouldn't but if I was) I would mention to the person who had contacted me that I knew them and wouldn't meet them for that reason. Why on earth anybody thinks it's being loyal to a friend to tell them their partners cheating when the only evidence they have is a message from an internet profile his beyond me.
There's a very from a social, and a separate one from a full meet. I think that goes beyond a simple "d*unken mistake" type slip up. If she's actively seeking extra-marital that's not fair at all on my buddy. I need to find a way of letting him know, so he / her can sort out whatever they need to do.
Why do you need to speak to him, why not her?
I don't want her knowing my business, my preferences and it could become awkward if she confesses to him, and says I knew."
That’s just an excuse to rat her out before she susses you. Because either way they’re both going to end up knowing your business aren’t they, regardless as to which one you tell first.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes. "
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You know the right thing to do if he is a good friend. It’s just the dilemma of what can you do that you feel comfortable with. Could you talk to her at all? There may be comebacks for you as well OP.
If there is marriage, kids, financial or family dependence (e.g. one breadwinner / main parent), that is all secondary to happiness, in my opinion.
He may even know about her antics, but being open is not a bad thing, with anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner.. "
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It appears that women are the main ones telling you not to tell him op. Always do the opposite of what a woman says. "
Yeah OP follow your Bros advice, hope you can deal with the inevitable backlash of your revelation.
Maybe the women on here are worldly wise to such scenarios, just a thought. |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
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how do you know for 100% its her |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love "
What a crock of shite.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It appears that women are the main ones telling you not to tell him op. Always do the opposite of what a woman says.
Yeah OP follow your Bros advice, hope you can deal with the inevitable backlash of your revelation.
Maybe the women on here are worldly wise to such scenarios, just a thought."
Perhaps he doesn’t want his friend to be unknowingly turned into a cuck by his hoe of a wife.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing! |
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love "
What was it Jesús said? Oh yes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone" |
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love
What was it Jesús said? Oh yes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone" "
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!"
Spill, what did you decide?
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love
What was it Jesús said? Oh yes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
I’m a voracious sinner. I cast the first stone to sin some more "
You sound more delusional than sinful. |
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love
What was it Jesús said? Oh yes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
I’m a voracious sinner. I cast the first stone to sin some more
You sound more delusional than sinful."
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love "
Assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups!! |
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love
What was it Jesús said? Oh yes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
I’m a voracious sinner. I cast the first stone to sin some more
You sound more delusional than sinful.
You sound rather angry. Art thou sinning with thy neighbours?"
Have you seen my neighbours
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love
Assumptions are the mother of all fuck ups!! "
Her husband knowing of the situation has already been discussed by myself also. I’ve hit it from all angles, nom saiiyan? |
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!
Spill, what did you decide?
You can’t ask for advice and then bigger off, that’s bad form "
so you are telling him to keep shtum yet you want to know the outcome, oh the irony. women are snakes. (not all) |
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
If this is the case, there’s no harm in mentioning it to her husband then? I’m sure that he’d be thankful that his friend had his best interests at heart.
It would would also mean that they could go to clubs/socials together. Surely that’s more of an incentive to speak up then?
Try and verify it’s her op, ask her for a picture or, to go on cam. Screen shot it all for proof then let him know. Those that are telling you to steer clear are deceitful serpents. Bros before hoes.
What a delightful saying, Bros before hoes, she’s a tad more than that being his partner..
She’s married and sneaking around on a swingers site: she a hoe!
God and Jesus are love
What was it Jesús said? Oh yes, "let he who is without sin cast the first stone"
I’m a voracious sinner. I cast the first stone to sin some more
You sound more delusional than sinful.
You sound rather angry. Art thou sinning with thy neighbours?
Have you seen my neighbours
Calling someone out over how they refer to women does not make one “angry”."
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!
Spill, what did you decide?
You can’t ask for advice and then bigger off, that’s bad form
so you are telling him to keep shtum yet you want to know the outcome, oh the irony. women are snakes. (not all) "
What are you banging on about?
Yes he should keep his mouth shut to his mate but after publicly asking for advice it would be nice to know the outcome.
That’s not irony that’s being just plain nosy.. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm amazed at how so many people have automatically assumed this woman is cheating & ready to lynch her.
Her husband may know, it maybe their dynamic.
He may have his own profile, they may even have a couples profile.
Just because the OP hasn't seen them doesn't mean they don't exist.
Or maybe the OP is mistaken, it's not even her.
Just walk away, block, forget you ever saw the profile.
It's not affecting you, it's not your business how other people choose to live their lives
This exactly "
….erm, not when the profile shows she's single... |
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!
Spill, what did you decide?
You can’t ask for advice and then bigger off, that’s bad form
so you are telling him to keep shtum yet you want to know the outcome, oh the irony. women are snakes. (not all)
What are you banging on about?
Yes he should keep his mouth shut to his mate but after publicly asking for advice it would be nice to know the outcome.
That’s not irony that’s being just plain nosy.. "
Ok I replied to say I knew her and her hubby well, that she's hot but I wouldn't be taking it further. That she should consider the implications if her hubby knew she was on here...she's been given the chance to put right her wrongs, and avoid any fall out from this. |
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
"
Unless you know 100% without a shadow of doubt. Then say nothing. It's not your place. And unless you've seen her face. I'm not sure you can be certain. And if she has or is cheating,doubt she'd be that stupid to have her face picture public |
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!
Spill, what did you decide?
You can’t ask for advice and then bigger off, that’s bad form
so you are telling him to keep shtum yet you want to know the outcome, oh the irony. women are snakes. (not all)
What are you banging on about?
Yes he should keep his mouth shut to his mate but after publicly asking for advice it would be nice to know the outcome.
That’s not irony that’s being just plain nosy..
Ok I replied to say I knew her and her hubby well, that she's hot but I wouldn't be taking it further. That she should consider the implications if her hubby knew she was on here...she's been given the chance to put right her wrongs, and avoid any fall out from this. "
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!
Spill, what did you decide?
You can’t ask for advice and then bigger off, that’s bad form
so you are telling him to keep shtum yet you want to know the outcome, oh the irony. women are snakes. (not all)
What are you banging on about?
Yes he should keep his mouth shut to his mate but after publicly asking for advice it would be nice to know the outcome.
That’s not irony that’s being just plain nosy..
Ok I replied to say I knew her and her hubby well, that she's hot but I wouldn't be taking it further. That she should consider the implications if her hubby knew she was on here...she's been given the chance to put right her wrongs, and avoid any fall out from this. "
Has she replied....  |
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"Dear All,
Thanks so much for the thoughts and advice, some more constructive than others!
I've dealt with this now. No point dragging it out.
Happy fabbing!
Spill, what did you decide?
You can’t ask for advice and then bigger off, that’s bad form
so you are telling him to keep shtum yet you want to know the outcome, oh the irony. women are snakes. (not all)
What are you banging on about?
Yes he should keep his mouth shut to his mate but after publicly asking for advice it would be nice to know the outcome.
That’s not irony that’s being just plain nosy..
Ok I replied to say I knew her and her hubby well, that she's hot but I wouldn't be taking it further. That she should consider the implications if her hubby knew she was on here...she's been given the chance to put right her wrongs, and avoid any fall out from this.
Has she replied.... "
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over a year ago
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
Unless you know 100% without a shadow of doubt. Then say nothing. It's not your place. And unless you've seen her face. I'm not sure you can be certain. And if she has or is cheating,doubt she'd be that stupid to have her face picture public"
iv asked this question. he didn't reply. he dsnt know. i dont believe him |
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
Blimey. What are the chances?"
At least 10 to 1. |
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"Hi all,
Received a wink and a brief message from someone who I'm certain is my mate's wife. There's no doubt it's her.
Moral dilemma - let him know his wife's a cheater and he can deal with it as he wishes, or say nothing and know I'm betraying an unspoken trust...?
Unless you know 100% without a shadow of doubt. Then say nothing. It's not your place. And unless you've seen her face. I'm not sure you can be certain. And if she has or is cheating,doubt she'd be that stupid to have her face picture public
iv asked this question. he didn't reply. he dsnt know. i dont believe him "
Filth, it's all sorted now fella thanks. See earlier posts. |
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted "
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here. |
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here. "
Amazingly, every single part of your analysis is wrong. Good achievement |
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here.
Amazingly, every single part of your analysis is wrong. Good achievement "
Oh really? Please tell me how so?
It’s also not an analysis, Einstein.
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here.
Amazingly, every single part of your analysis is wrong. Good achievement
Oh really? Please tell me how so?
It’s also not an analysis, Einstein.
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here.
Amazingly, every single part of your analysis is wrong. Good achievement
Oh really? Please tell me how so?
It’s also not an analysis, Einstein.
Perhaps it’s closer to an assumption than analysis, up to you. "
It’s based entirely upon what the op has said. The latter half is an outcome which is likely to happen. Women love to throw others under the bus with them.
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here.
Amazingly, every single part of your analysis is wrong. Good achievement
Oh really? Please tell me how so?
It’s also not an analysis, Einstein.
Perhaps it’s closer to an assumption than analysis, up to you.
It’s based entirely upon what the op has said. The latter half is an outcome which is likely to happen. Women love to throw others under the bus with them.
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He doesn't think she knows it's him. He's quite safe |
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At the end of the day it’s all about discretion for those that stat it. Do you think she knows who she’s texting to ?
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Billy big bollocks if you nail her |
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"Yes, she’s deleted her profile, made a new one, blocked the bloke so he can’t see her.
All sorted
So he’s told her that he knows, yet won’t tell her hubby? Thus, when he eventually does find out, she’ll likely be the one to tell him, resulting in no shag nor friendship. The op fucked up by listening to the women on here.
Amazingly, every single part of your analysis is wrong. Good achievement
Oh really? Please tell me how so?
It’s also not an analysis, Einstein.
Perhaps it’s closer to an assumption than analysis, up to you.
It’s based entirely upon what the op has said. The latter half is an outcome which is likely to happen. Women love to throw others under the bus with them.
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you should be very careful saying that 