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If you're not a swinger why
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over a year ago
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Because it's not just a swingers site though. FAB = Friends And Benefits. That's what I'm seeking and not dating.
All the proper dating sites have been ruined. I can't say how other women used to use them because I wasn't there for them. All I know is, the men just used them as a sex site.
I deleted dating sites and chose to stay single. Eventually I wanted my other needs met. I'm not into one night stands and random leg overs then go. So I joined FAB. |
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?"
Because when I did use dating sites, all the men actually wanted, was a fuck.
They just dressed it up with romantic bullshit & lies.
I wasn't looking for a relationship, the one.
I just wanted to have a bit of fun.
So I joined a site, where false pretenses weren't required, where people could be upfront about their intentions.
Oddly enough, I ended up forging relationships with some amazing people... And getting some pretty damn good sex too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because it's not just a swingers site though. FAB = Friends And Benefits. That's what I'm seeking and not dating.
All the proper dating sites have been ruined. I can't say how other women used to use them because I wasn't there for them. All I know is, the men just used them as a sex site.
I deleted dating sites and chose to stay single. Eventually I wanted my other needs met. I'm not into one night stands and random leg overs then go. So I joined FAB."
Where does it say that's what Fab stands for? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because it's not just a swingers site though. FAB = Friends And Benefits. That's what I'm seeking and not dating.
All the proper dating sites have been ruined. I can't say how other women used to use them because I wasn't there for them. All I know is, the men just used them as a sex site.
I deleted dating sites and chose to stay single. Eventually I wanted my other needs met. I'm not into one night stands and random leg overs then go. So I joined FAB.
Where does it say that's what Fab stands for? "
What I was told by many when I first joined few years ago. Makes sense because seeing the rules etc, you'll see it's not just a swingers site. A few assume it stands for fabulous swingers. But that doesn't make sense at all considering everything this site entails. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't know if I'm a swinger, I'm here for great sex in a myriad of ways. This site allows me to safely explore my sexuality with a diverse group of people that I might not have come across otherwise. And I love being able to discuss sex quite freely and have sex frequently without people thinking that I want relationships etc.
I think that sometimes 'swingers' can read as being really elite and judgey, much like those who proclaim they are not can also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Because it's not just a swingers site though. FAB = Friends And Benefits. That's what I'm seeking and not dating.
All the proper dating sites have been ruined. I can't say how other women used to use them because I wasn't there for them. All I know is, the men just used them as a sex site.
I deleted dating sites and chose to stay single. Eventually I wanted my other needs met. I'm not into one night stands and random leg overs then go. So I joined FAB.
Where does it say that's what Fab stands for?
What I was told by many when I first joined few years ago. Makes sense because seeing the rules etc, you'll see it's not just a swingers site. A few assume it stands for fabulous swingers. But that doesn't make sense at all considering everything this site entails. "
Ah ok, thanks. Maybe a mod could clarify that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had it said I'm not a "proper swinger" because I wanted to concentrate on getting the foundations of our relationship laid out in concrete before embarking on the separate meets part of this journey for us.
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"I like being honest about my intent.
I want the cock. I want the romance. I want a relationship.
Just not sure which order i want it all in. So on here till i figure myself out."
i totally agree am the same ,not many make the cut on dating sites for me lately no one excites me so when I find a someone that’s worth going into my way for then things will change until then am happy having fun |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think even the very definition of swinging will differ for some couples. It’s just individual isn’t it, I personally think it’s a forum to talk and potentially act freely as a sexual person, in an environment that’s better equipped to do that. If I meet some cool people, have great sex, and enjoy the journey, then that’s a bonus. For me it’s an extension of a life, and something I could walk away from at any time. |
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
Because when I did use dating sites, all the men actually wanted, was a fuck.
They just dressed it up with romantic bullshit & lies.
I wasn't looking for a relationship, the one.
I just wanted to have a bit of fun.
So I joined a site, where false pretenses weren't required, where people could be upfront about their intentions.
Oddly enough, I ended up forging relationships with some amazing people... And getting some pretty damn good sex too "
Upfront about their intentions lol made me chuckle I would say well over half the men on here are liars and cheats and wouldn't know honesty if it bit them on their lying ass xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think even the very definition of swinging will differ for some couples. It’s just individual isn’t it, I personally think it’s a forum to talk and potentially act freely as a sexual person, in an environment that’s better equipped to do that. If I meet some cool people, have great sex, and enjoy the journey, then that’s a bonus. For me it’s an extension of a life, and something I could walk away from at any time. "
What a perfect answer |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
Because when I did use dating sites, all the men actually wanted, was a fuck.
They just dressed it up with romantic bullshit & lies.
I wasn't looking for a relationship, the one.
I just wanted to have a bit of fun.
So I joined a site, where false pretenses weren't required, where people could be upfront about their intentions.
Oddly enough, I ended up forging relationships with some amazing people... And getting some pretty damn good sex too
Upfront about their intentions lol made me chuckle I would say well over half the men on here are liars and cheats and wouldn't know honesty if it bit them on their lying ass xx "
This did make me laugh more than it should have!!
So so true this.  |
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?"
I wasn’t when I first joined.
I was in a sexless marriage and hadn’t had sex for years. I joined another site and it was terrible. A friend recommended I joined here as I would get the attention from single guys and couples. He was right. I had a great time. And this is where I ended up meeting my now husband, we left Fab but still went to clubs till the club we liked closed and we decided to take the plunge and join as a couple and start the journey to swing properly. It’s been great fun I must say (when people actually turn up to meets that is!) lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm definitely a swinger but will only ever play in clubs.
I've had my share of fun this year as has trim.
I often get asked on messages why I'm on here if I'm not meeting.
Well the forum's are awesome, the people on the forum's are awesome. I stay in touch with people I've met in clubs and I perve in stealth mode, reading status's looking at pics, daydreaming about guys I've met but not played with or could do with seconds or guys I've spoken to on here that I've never met but would play with if our paths crossed in clubs.
To be fair my hotlist is very short... About 2 at the moment. And I hardly ever speak to ether of them if at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't know if I'm a swinger, I'm here for great sex in a myriad of ways. This site allows me to safely explore my sexuality with a diverse group of people that I might not have come across otherwise. And I love being able to discuss sex quite freely and have sex frequently without people thinking that I want relationships etc.
I think that sometimes 'swingers' can read as being really elite and judgey, much like those who proclaim they are not can also. "
Fair point. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think even the very definition of swinging will differ for some couples. It’s just individual isn’t it, I personally think it’s a forum to talk and potentially act freely as a sexual person, in an environment that’s better equipped to do that. If I meet some cool people, have great sex, and enjoy the journey, then that’s a bonus. For me it’s an extension of a life, and something I could walk away from at any time. "
I like this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
I wasn’t when I first joined.
I was in a sexless marriage and hadn’t had sex for years. I joined another site and it was terrible. A friend recommended I joined here as I would get the attention from single guys and couples. He was right. I had a great time. And this is where I ended up meeting my now husband, we left Fab but still went to clubs till the club we liked closed and we decided to take the plunge and join as a couple and start the journey to swing properly. It’s been great fun I must say (when people actually turn up to meets that is!) lol "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm definitely a swinger but will only ever play in clubs.
I've had my share of fun this year as has trim.
I often get asked on messages why I'm on here if I'm not meeting.
Well the forum's are awesome, the people on the forum's are awesome. I stay in touch with people I've met in clubs and I perve in stealth mode, reading status's looking at pics, daydreaming about guys I've met but not played with or could do with seconds or guys I've spoken to on here that I've never met but would play with if our paths crossed in clubs.
To be fair my hotlist is very short... About 2 at the moment. And I hardly ever speak to ether of them if at all."
There's loads of other things apart from meeting on here, you're right. Pics, forums, clubs and more. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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I ask myself this question most days at the moment. I think sex is so easily available to men these days why would they bother to put any effort into dating which is apparent though all the sites as they are much the same. I'm not a swinger but yes I am single and hope that one day somewhere I'll meet Prince charming trotting around on his black stallion holding milk tray. But I'm more likely to see a flying pig |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know what category I fit into when I am meeting, but since I'm not doing so at the moment I'm here for the friends and the forums. I've never had a swinging relationship, only monogamy. |
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I’ve never been on a dating site as I have never looked for dates, I wanted to explore scenarios and sexual boundaries and this and another site helped me do that. Now I stay because the forum can be comedy gold  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like being honest about my intent.
I want the cock. I want the romance. I want a relationship.
Just not sure which order i want it all in. So on here till i figure myself out."
I want all that in one go but with someone who likes to swing also. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d not call myself a swinger at all. I’d just describe myself as sexually non-conformist. I just like dipping in and out and trying new things.
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Plus that ^ I'm not a swinger, never was before I joined, very much doubt I will be if I leave. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
Because over time my needs have vastly changed..anyway, why do you care? "
It's just a question. Why so annoyed? |
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
Because over time my needs have vastly changed..anyway, why do you care?
It's just a question. Why so annoyed?"
Ahh ok.
Am not annoyed one bit, was just asking. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
A tad more transparency on here than other platforms, for me. "
Do you find men to be more open?
I like that on here they don't lie about wanting 'lurve' when all they want is a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?
Because over time my needs have vastly changed..anyway, why do you care?
It's just a question. Why so annoyed?
Ahh ok.
Am not annoyed one bit, was just asking."
Same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not really here to meet, but I wouldn't say no to anyone crazy enough to want to. I find these forums, and the people who post on them, fascinating, frightening and hilarious. It's great entertainment and a real insight into the minds of British swingers  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you're not a swinger why be on Fab? Why not use dating sites or pubs to find a fuck?"
I envy posters who can set a simple question without facing copious amounts of abuse and ridicule.
It's hard being me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was a real proper swinger. I had a partner who liked to meet couples and swap and also go to parties and clubs. I loved the swinging lifestyle. But he didn't and left me to fend for myself. It's hard to swing if you don't have a partner. So I have occasionally done stuff on my own since then.
I don't like going to the pub alone and I'm not looking to date.
There's nowhere else for me other than a nunnery. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Why would I use a dating website to try find someone to fuck? people are generally there to, you know... date.
This site might be called 'fabswingers' but to me its just as much of a 'Find someone to fuck' website, except this site at least doesn't seem to have loads of bots trying to get me to visit their webcam site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was a real proper swinger. I had a partner who liked to meet couples and swap and also go to parties and clubs. I loved the swinging lifestyle. But he didn't and left me to fend for myself. It's hard to swing if you don't have a partner. So I have occasionally done stuff on my own since then.
I don't like going to the pub alone and I'm not looking to date.
There's nowhere else for me other than a nunnery. "
It's not the same without a partner to share the fun with.  |
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Do you need a partner to truly swing ?
Excuse what probably appears a novice question.
For me I thought this was a place for like minded people to openly chat and discuss their desires freely, with the added bonus that you might actually get to meet some with a similar mindset.
Personally for me, I find people are lot more open here about their circumstances, which is very refreshing and everyone makes their choices of where it leads |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you need a partner to truly swing ?
Excuse what probably appears a novice question.
For me I thought this was a place for like minded people to openly chat and discuss their desires freely, with the added bonus that you might actually get to meet some with a similar mindset.
Personally for me, I find people are lot more open here about their circumstances, which is very refreshing and everyone makes their choices of where it leads "
I don't think you need a partner but it's definitely more fun with one. I don't think it's a novice question, everyone has different opinions. I think it's interesting to see what other people think.
I like the rest of what you said.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you need a partner to truly swing ?
Excuse what probably appears a novice question.
For me I thought this was a place for like minded people to openly chat and discuss their desires freely, with the added bonus that you might actually get to meet some with a similar mindset.
Personally for me, I find people are lot more open here about their circumstances, which is very refreshing and everyone makes their choices of where it leads "
I don't think you do, it's as much an open community for casual sex as it is a place for two couples to swap partners.
'Swinging' means different things to different people IMO |
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"Do you need a partner to truly swing ?
Excuse what probably appears a novice question.
For me I thought this was a place for like minded people to openly chat and discuss their desires freely, with the added bonus that you might actually get to meet some with a similar mindset.
Personally for me, I find people are lot more open here about their circumstances, which is very refreshing and everyone makes their choices of where it leads
I don't think you need a partner but it's definitely more fun with one. I don't think it's a novice question, everyone has different opinions. I think it's interesting to see what other people think.
I like the rest of what you said. "
Agree it probably is more fun with a playmate, but that’s something later on once met singularly and discussed desires and fantasies, then and only then, can you take that next step to what I assume most call swinging.... clubs, couple swapping, etc |
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"Do you need a partner to truly swing ?
Excuse what probably appears a novice question.
For me I thought this was a place for like minded people to openly chat and discuss their desires freely, with the added bonus that you might actually get to meet some with a similar mindset.
Personally for me, I find people are lot more open here about their circumstances, which is very refreshing and everyone makes their choices of where it leads
I don't think you do, it's as much an open community for casual sex as it is a place for two couples to swap partners.
'Swinging' means different things to different people IMO "
I agree with you. It’s an open place where you can be yourself and hopefully find what you are looking for, whatever that may be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you need a partner to truly swing ?
Excuse what probably appears a novice question.
For me I thought this was a place for like minded people to openly chat and discuss their desires freely, with the added bonus that you might actually get to meet some with a similar mindset.
Personally for me, I find people are lot more open here about their circumstances, which is very refreshing and everyone makes their choices of where it leads
I don't think you do, it's as much an open community for casual sex as it is a place for two couples to swap partners.
'Swinging' means different things to different people IMO
I agree with you. It’s an open place where you can be yourself and hopefully find what you are looking for, whatever that may be "
I'm looking for my shoes, haven't found them yet. I left them somewhere round here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was a real proper swinger. I had a partner who liked to meet couples and swap and also go to parties and clubs. I loved the swinging lifestyle. But he didn't and left me to fend for myself. It's hard to swing if you don't have a partner. So I have occasionally done stuff on my own since then.
I don't like going to the pub alone and I'm not looking to date.
There's nowhere else for me other than a nunnery.
It's not the same without a partner to share the fun with. "
I agree, definitely not as much fun. |
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I don't think you do, it's as much an open community for casual sex as it is a place for two couples to swap partners.
'Swinging' means different things to different people IMO
I agree with you. It’s an open place where you can be yourself and hopefully find what you are looking for, whatever that may be
I'm looking for my shoes, haven't found them yet. I left them somewhere round here "
Haha how did you lose your shoes ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why? So I can annoy you.
To annoy me or everyone? You don't annoy me, I like your posts. "
To annoy anyone who thinks a singleton who likes sex shouldn't be on fab  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why? So I can annoy you.
To annoy me or everyone? You don't annoy me, I like your posts.
To annoy anyone who thinks a singleton who likes sex shouldn't be on fab "
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Because basically the dating sites are just full of married or taken men just wanting NSA, it's all BS.
I love sex and this site has enabled me to explore things I never would on the so called "dating" sites. If you say too much about your sexulity on those sites your just seen as an easy lay. I don't meet often as casual NSA just doesn't do it for me long term. For me the best sex I've ever had was when I was crazy about the person. It just heightens everything.
I may not be a "proper swinger" whatever that is but in the meantime I enjoy the forums and being able to enjoy talking about sex, having a flirt, I also have some things I would still like to explore and just enjoying the ride along the way!  |
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When I first joined I wanted sex and thought I'd be doing ok.
Not so given the number of men and their advantages over me.
The site has helped me learn something about myself and the reasons given by others on here have allowed me to see other reasons to stay.
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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I’m a shit swinger..... but kinda getting better as time goes on.
I’m here for clubs, fuck buddies and fun.
Anything more is a bonus. 
I’ve made some amazing friends too which i didn’t think would happen.
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We were thinking of the things that proved we aren't swingers. We came to the conclusion we are!
It covers so many things though. We love attending socials, we love the chat and banter. We visit clubs but don't necessarily go off and play with others! We have met some lovely people in clubs.
So the social side is great.
Do we play with others? Yes, but that isn't our default when we go to a club. |
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"Because basically the dating sites are just full of married or taken men just wanting NSA, it's all BS.
I love sex and this site has enabled me to explore things I never would on the so called "dating" sites. If you say too much about your sexulity on those sites your just seen as an easy lay. I don't meet often as casual NSA just doesn't do it for me long term. For me the best sex I've ever had was when I was crazy about the person. It just heightens everything.
I may not be a "proper swinger" whatever that is but in the meantime I enjoy the forums and being able to enjoy talking about sex, having a flirt, I also have some things I would still like to explore and just enjoying the ride along the way! "
Do you think men on here treat the women differently to the ones on dating sites who think we are an easy lay? |
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"We were thinking of the things that proved we aren't swingers. We came to the conclusion we are!
It covers so many things though. We love attending socials, we love the chat and banter. We visit clubs but don't necessarily go off and play with others! We have met some lovely people in clubs.
So the social side is great.
Do we play with others? Yes, but that isn't our default when we go to a club. "
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"Because it's not just a swingers site though. FAB = Friends And Benefits. That's what I'm seeking and not dating.
All the proper dating sites have been ruined. I can't say how other women used to use them because I wasn't there for them. All I know is, the men just used them as a sex site.
I deleted dating sites and chose to stay single. Eventually I wanted my other needs met. I'm not into one night stands and random leg overs then go. So I joined FAB."
The clue is in the name, Fabswingers, not fab and swingers. |
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"Because basically the dating sites are just full of married or taken men just wanting NSA, it's all BS.
I love sex and this site has enabled me to explore things I never would on the so called "dating" sites. If you say too much about your sexulity on those sites your just seen as an easy lay. I don't meet often as casual NSA just doesn't do it for me long term. For me the best sex I've ever had was when I was crazy about the person. It just heightens everything.
I may not be a "proper swinger" whatever that is but in the meantime I enjoy the forums and being able to enjoy talking about sex, having a flirt, I also have some things I would still like to explore and just enjoying the ride along the way! "
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