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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago
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"What is it?"
Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts his or her accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"What is it?
Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts his or her accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud"."
Thank you  sometimes yes, more so in regards to fab though where a lot of it is obviously based on photographs. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"David Tennant does
Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.
Yes I do Op.
I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen. "
And Jon Hamm and Frances McDormand as well! Brilliant cast which is very exciting.
Sorry for the derailing. |
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"What is it?
Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts his or her accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud"."
I’m betting there are a few of those here |
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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago
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"David Tennant does
Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.
Yes I do Op.
I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen.
And Jon Hamm and Frances McDormand as well! Brilliant cast which is very exciting.
Sorry for the derailing."
That's ok, it only opens a conversation point which is what all this is about x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. "
Explains why I’m not well liked |
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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. "
That seem to happen in life generally I find. |
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By *itty9899 OP Man
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
Explains why I’m not well liked "
You seem rather likeable to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"David Tennant does
Yes he does! And he's in Good Omens which is out very soon.
Yes I do Op.
I'm looking forward to it, big fan of Tennant and Sheen.
And Jon Hamm and Frances McDormand as well! Brilliant cast which is very exciting.
Sorry for the derailing."
I'm so excited  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed.. "
You don't think that's a symptom of imposter syndrome? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..
You don't think that's a symptom of imposter syndrome?"
Isn't it more about overselling oneself? Or feeling underqualified? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed.. "
Underpromise, overdeliver, innit  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What is it?
Impostor syndrome (also known as impostor phenomenon, impostorism, fraud syndrome or the impostor experience) is a psychological pattern in which an individual doubts his or her accomplishments and has a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as a "fraud"."
I felt this when I went to church with the lady next door so I could see friends I had made there. I am not a believer and felt like an imposter. I stopped going. X |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab. "
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..
Good point and I agree, you do but you do it do well "
I think I'm aware of the best case and worst case scenarios so aim for middle ground as achievable.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..
Underpromise, overdeliver, innit "
Don't think I ever overdeliver!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..
Underpromise, overdeliver, innit
Don't think I ever overdeliver!! "
Lemon in the freezer, innit.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..
Underpromise, overdeliver, innit
Don't think I ever overdeliver!!
Lemon in the freezer, innit.... "
Wasn't full of sorbet though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”. "
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing"
It really is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't think so.. I tend to underplay rather than overplay everything so people are pleasantly surprised rather than disappointed..
You don't think that's a symptom of imposter syndrome?
Isn't it more about overselling oneself? Or feeling underqualified?"
Yes.. so you underplay to avoid such a scenario. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing
It really is "
Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing
It really is
Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done. "
Ummm, okay. Thanks.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing
It really is
Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.
Ummm, okay. Thanks. "
Oh. You sound disappointed. Should I have disagreed? |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing
It really is
Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.
Ummm, okay. Thanks.
Oh. You sound disappointed. Should I have disagreed?"
Not at all, Scarlet. It’s interesting as I wasn’t attacking you - but obviously something isn’t cool. All good here. It wasn’t a bad reference, the book one, but I’ll take your cue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No. I'm where I am because I'm awesome and I've worked hard and I know I'm good at what I do. Fab forum doesn't like that though. We're meant to doubt ourselves to be liked on fab.
I often think of John Wyndham’s The Chrysalids when you post about being the only one “different”.
Is that what I'm doing? Amateur psychology is so amusing
It really is
Well I know you love to be right with your analysis of people so I'll agree with you. Well done.
Ummm, okay. Thanks.
Oh. You sound disappointed. Should I have disagreed?
Not at all, Scarlet. It’s interesting as I wasn’t attacking you - but obviously something isn’t cool. All good here. It wasn’t a bad reference, the book one, but I’ll take your cue. "
I didn't take it as an attack until you used " "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.
I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.
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Which Amy rant? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.
I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.
Which Amy rant?"
Either 4 or 5 episodes before the last one when there is a drinks reception about the Nobel Prize nomination. The rivals claim to have imposter syndrome and she tells them that they are imposters so ca't have the syndrome.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So I kinda get what it means, I don't think I have it although I often think I don't deserve things, and that there are people far better qualified, looking, experienced, deserving etc.
I know I'm fearful of getting another job in case I take on more than I can chew, or that I'm not gonna meet expectations.
I do also worry at times when meeting people for the first time that I'll not live up to what they were expecting of me, especially if I'm not feeling in full on funny mode, or full on make up mode, like they'll think I'm just playing up for the camera so to speak and that's not the real me. I also worry that if people have been told about me, especially if it's all good and glowing that they may not feel the same and think it's me being fake rather than someone else's interpretation that's different
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes - In previous jobs.
However, the idea is that you feel like a fraud by being there. Which is odd - as most of the arseholes I worked with had the typical attributes of a fraudster.
So, in this case it can be wholly justified!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm ok, so I just took the online test and scored 80/100. Significant imposterism apparently.
I wouldn't class myself as feeling like a fraud, I'd say I was somewhat insecure at times but that's about it.
I'll check another test, they may all be different if reliable at all.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Amy Farrah Fowler's Big Bang Theory rant covers this well.
I spent a long time afflicted before I realised that I'm the expert people were coming to because they were imposters.
Which Amy rant?
Either 4 or 5 episodes before the last one when there is a drinks reception about the Nobel Prize nomination. The rivals claim to have imposter syndrome and she tells them that they are imposters so ca't have the syndrome.
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