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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've always got that feeling... I'm hear for fun as know complete satisfaction isn't going to happen.
But I just enjoy the ride "
Do you know what could ake it happen? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've always got that feeling... I'm hear for fun as know complete satisfaction isn't going to happen.
But I just enjoy the ride
Do you know what could ake it happen? "
Make! |
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"I've always got that feeling... I'm hear for fun as know complete satisfaction isn't going to happen.
But I just enjoy the ride
Do you know what could ake it happen? "
no idea as I always want more. I came close when I loved someone but that option is not on the table now |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've found that I struggle to get both my needs satisfied. If I satisfy the kink then the sensual side tends to be missing and vice versa really "
That's what it is I think. Finding both together, maybe that's the issue, meeting different people for different things is just giving a wee bit at a time so you never get the whole thing. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think I know what I am particularly looking for - I know what I'm not. Sometimes I do feel a bit lost but then I have really great meets with people which tick the mental and physical side so I don't think I am.
The rest of it? I'm just enjoying the journey of exploration and discovery. I'm relatively young and even if I wasn't, it's still enjoyable to learn more about yourself and your likes. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've always got that feeling... I'm hear for fun as know complete satisfaction isn't going to happen.
But I just enjoy the ride
Do you know what could ake it happen? no idea as I always want more. I came close when I loved someone but that option is not on the table now "
Do you think you need the emotional connection to get the full thing?
I guess there's also the fact then it's a shared thing, not just 2 individuals. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think I know what I am particularly looking for - I know what I'm not. Sometimes I do feel a bit lost but then I have really great meets with people which tick the mental and physical side so I don't think I am.
The rest of it? I'm just enjoying the journey of exploration and discovery. I'm relatively young and even if I wasn't, it's still enjoyable to learn more about yourself and your likes."
Maybe no one ever feels it and that's what keeps us going? There are so many couples coming into swinging later in life so maybe the urge to try more and different things never goes? |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......     |
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It's not a great place to be, but maybe part of it is the journey and without realising it you will find what it is that you think is missing.
I struggle with this a lot in terms of wanting to date or not, knowing I'm a very sexual person and wanting these needs met and tohave my boundaries pushed and hoping to find someone who I can share this with. But for now I am happy as I am and have just accepted that it will happen as and when or of if it does and in the meantime if not I will just go with it!!
Sending hugs xx |
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I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching"
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
I'm a bit of everything. Here has helped explore areas I kinda knew about but hadn't done anything about, and also found out new things about me. But I'm not sure it's everything. And sometimes it can feel a little overwhelming seeing the people who seem to have it suss. Tho I imagine it's just the public view... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another...... "
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I get that, I never really know what I am looking for or what I want. It has lead me to believe that I don't really want anything, which in itself is a little problematic as it feels kind of empty. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's not a great place to be, but maybe part of it is the journey and without realising it you will find what it is that you think is missing.
I struggle with this a lot in terms of wanting to date or not, knowing I'm a very sexual person and wanting these needs met and tohave my boundaries pushed and hoping to find someone who I can share this with. But for now I am happy as I am and have just accepted that it will happen as and when or of if it does and in the meantime if not I will just go with it!!
Sending hugs xx"
I do think that might be the crux of it. I'm missing the connection with the other person. It's good at the time but then I go home alone and am left with my thoughts.
Hugs to you too xx |
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
Wow... thats freaky...I think you have just kinda summed me up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing. "
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it? |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet "
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just roll with it.
I've still not found my "thing" yet though. Not sure if I really have one. I enjoy lots of different malarkey and sex with B is always fantastic and satisfying.
There's plenty I've still left to try tho!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I'm a bit of everything. Here has helped explore areas I kinda knew about but hadn't done anything about, and also found out new things about me. But I'm not sure it's everything. And sometimes it can feel a little overwhelming seeing the people who seem to have it suss. Tho I imagine it's just the public view... "
Oh definitely, this place is like Facebook, people only shout about the good times! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I get that, I never really know what I am looking for or what I want. It has lead me to believe that I don't really want anything, which in itself is a little problematic as it feels kind of empty. "
If there's nothing you want, perhaps you've achieved happiness. Satisfaction with the now.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I get that, I never really know what I am looking for or what I want. It has lead me to believe that I don't really want anything, which in itself is a little problematic as it feels kind of empty. "
You want hair strokes and tea Pretty x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
Wow... thats freaky...I think you have just kinda summed me up."
I'm glad it's not just me! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I'm a bit of everything. Here has helped explore areas I kinda knew about but hadn't done anything about, and also found out new things about me. But I'm not sure it's everything. And sometimes it can feel a little overwhelming seeing the people who seem to have it suss. Tho I imagine it's just the public view...
Oh definitely, this place is like Facebook, people only shout about the good times! "
Unless they want to have a passive aggressive status update about another fabber (eg no reply = rude) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though "
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch "
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch "
I like it how you think I’ve not already got one..... 
I prefer my unicorn horn and pony tail but plug tbh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch "
That almost sounded like a dare..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
I recognise the feeling by your description of it.
Do you need something more.. Intimate now? I've found some kinks lose their lust once tried or over indulged in.
Just sex.. Is just that. It's a temporary pleasure, but it doesn't feed the soul.
It's why I'm more about who I'm with than what I'm doing on here. Not romantically speaking, people who listen and give back a bit of themselves. Depth, warmth, honesty, transparency. It's hard to find, but I find those kinds of people more than make up for the gaps in between.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
That almost sounded like a dare..... "
Oh Christ don't dare her!! She'll make me watch!!! saff |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that, I never really know what I am looking for or what I want. It has lead me to believe that I don't really want anything, which in itself is a little problematic as it feels kind of empty.
If there's nothing you want, perhaps you've achieved happiness. Satisfaction with the now. "
It's a nice thought but it's more a lack of desire for anything. Its an emptiness rather than satisfaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I get that, I never really know what I am looking for or what I want. It has lead me to believe that I don't really want anything, which in itself is a little problematic as it feels kind of empty.
You want hair strokes and tea Pretty x"
For now |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down. "
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone? |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"It's why I'm more about who I'm with than what I'm doing on here. Not romantically speaking, people who listen and give back a bit of themselves. Depth, warmth, honesty, transparency. It's hard to find, but I find those kinds of people more than make up for the gaps in between.
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I like this a lot GK. When I first joined I went through a sweet shop phase and some of the sex was perfunctory and only vaguely satisfying. Now I know what works better for me and helps scratch the itch and that's what is above. |
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
Wow... thats freaky...I think you have just kinda summed me up.
I'm glad it's not just me! "
No..not just you x |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
That almost sounded like a dare.....
Oh Christ don't dare her!! She'll make me watch!!! saff"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I didn't join here with a wish to share my adventures with someone steady but seeing that it can be done I have found intriguing"
There are so many people who seem to find that.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just roll with it.
I've still not found my "thing" yet though. Not sure if I really have one. I enjoy lots of different malarkey and sex with B is always fantastic and satisfying.
There's plenty I've still left to try tho!
P"
Maybe we never will and that's what keeps us trying? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just roll with it.
I've still not found my "thing" yet though. Not sure if I really have one. I enjoy lots of different malarkey and sex with B is always fantastic and satisfying.
There's plenty I've still left to try tho!
P
Maybe we never will and that's what keeps us trying? "
Hmmm, quite possibly. Or maybe theres just a different wiring of the brain or something, or maybe something hormonal? I honestly don't have a clue but I would like to find that something. Something to identify with almost? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
I like it how you think I’ve not already got one.....
I prefer my unicorn horn and pony tail but plug tbh "
Please fill your foof with glitter and leave a trail |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
That almost sounded like a dare..... "
It's ALWAYS a dare |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
I like it how you think I’ve not already got one.....
I prefer my unicorn horn and pony tail but plug tbh
Please fill your foof with glitter and leave a trail "
That just makes me think of a snail... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I recognise the feeling by your description of it.
Do you need something more.. Intimate now? I've found some kinks lose their lust once tried or over indulged in.
Just sex.. Is just that. It's a temporary pleasure, but it doesn't feed the soul.
It's why I'm more about who I'm with than what I'm doing on here. Not romantically speaking, people who listen and give back a bit of themselves. Depth, warmth, honesty, transparency. It's hard to find, but I find those kinds of people more than make up for the gaps in between.
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I think so. I' ve never been one for meeting for the sake of it and I do have connection with the people I choose to meet but it's finding the right mix of physical and mental I think. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
That almost sounded like a dare.....
Oh Christ don't dare her!! She'll make me watch!!! saff"
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"I wouldnt say lost, but I do find that everyone is horny when I am not, and no one is horny when I am.
That happens to me! "
Ditto. I'm now banned from Costa. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone? "
That's part of it I think. |
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it? "
Only you can make that choice hun |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just roll with it.
I've still not found my "thing" yet though. Not sure if I really have one. I enjoy lots of different malarkey and sex with B is always fantastic and satisfying.
There's plenty I've still left to try tho!
P
Maybe we never will and that's what keeps us trying?
Hmmm, quite possibly. Or maybe theres just a different wiring of the brain or something, or maybe something hormonal? I honestly don't have a clue but I would like to find that something. Something to identify with almost? "
Yes, knowing what it is. I joined that other site and one of the first things it asks is to pick a label. Fuck me there's loads I identify with but none that fit! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wouldnt say lost, but I do find that everyone is horny when I am not, and no one is horny when I am.
That happens to me!
Ditto. I'm now banned from Costa. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it?
Only you can make that choice hun "
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone?
That's part of it I think. "
I understand that, I think that there's only so much you can experience and explore on your own before it can start to feel like you're repeating and searching for something more.
Obviously I can't tell you how you're feeling but I can totally understand if that's the case and you're not alone if that is the issue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone?
That's part of it I think.
I understand that, I think that there's only so much you can experience and explore on your own before it can start to feel like you're repeating and searching for something more.
Obviously I can't tell you how you're feeling but I can totally understand if that's the case and you're not alone if that is the issue. "
I think it's a lot to do with the in-between meets, there's no one to reflect with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like you’re looking for your kinky soulmate Rubi
Do you know where I could find one of those?
Tinder...
Tinder is worse than here! "
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
stockport |
"Absolutely!!! Especially with all the temptation in this funny little world.
Normal world I’m as straight as they come. Here I feel my foof fluttering over things is never have thought.
When swinging I’ve had the opportunity to go with a lady but just can’t bring myself to lick a foof. But I have a real craving to rub my foof on another......
I'm sorry but I got the weirdest image of you dragging yourself over someone like a dog on a carpet
OMG!! That’s a bad image but made me laugh.
I’d probs still do it in a sexy way though
If you get one of those butt plugs with the tail I will actually pay to watch
I like it how you think I’ve not already got one.....
I prefer my unicorn horn and pony tail but plug tbh
Please fill your foof with glitter and leave a trail "
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone?
That's part of it I think.
I understand that, I think that there's only so much you can experience and explore on your own before it can start to feel like you're repeating and searching for something more.
Obviously I can't tell you how you're feeling but I can totally understand if that's the case and you're not alone if that is the issue.
I think it's a lot to do with the in-between meets, there's no one to reflect with. "
Yes, I know exactly that feeling. It sounds a little like you're looking for a Rubi-duo... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone?
That's part of it I think.
I understand that, I think that there's only so much you can experience and explore on your own before it can start to feel like you're repeating and searching for something more.
Obviously I can't tell you how you're feeling but I can totally understand if that's the case and you're not alone if that is the issue.
I think it's a lot to do with the in-between meets, there's no one to reflect with.
Yes, I know exactly that feeling. It sounds a little like you're looking for a Rubi-duo... "
Don't make me admit it |
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it? "
I'd look for more.. discussing what you want through common interest and maybe share porn or erotic scenarios |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone?
That's part of it I think.
I understand that, I think that there's only so much you can experience and explore on your own before it can start to feel like you're repeating and searching for something more.
Obviously I can't tell you how you're feeling but I can totally understand if that's the case and you're not alone if that is the issue.
I think it's a lot to do with the in-between meets, there's no one to reflect with.
Yes, I know exactly that feeling. It sounds a little like you're looking for a Rubi-duo...
Don't make me admit it "
Oh crikey not another one! 
Don't look, it will find you. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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It’s very difficult to my mind finding someone who ticks my boxes physically and mentally.
I’m hardwired to think that if someone ticks both boxes then really i should be dating them, not just boffing them, as it’s so rare.
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over a year ago
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"It’s very difficult to my mind finding someone who ticks my boxes physically and mentally.
I’m hardwired to think that if someone ticks both boxes then really i should be dating them, not just boffing them, as it’s so rare.
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over a year ago
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"It’s very difficult to my mind finding someone who ticks my boxes physically and mentally.
I’m hardwired to think that if someone ticks both boxes then really i should be dating them, not just boffing them, as it’s so rare.
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I'm the same. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
I could have written that myself. I stopped meeting here as I felt I was compromising myself and leaving myself feeling worse in all aspects of my sexuality.
The kink side of myself will never be satisfied with random meets here.....I've tried and failed so many times with that one. The other site I am also on but too many wannabes (thanks 50 shades).
So for the moment I'm focussing on dating and building my kinky side. Whether that works...who knows. |
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over a year ago
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I used to meet, a lot
I honestly believe that I wore myself out - probably too early for a guy of my age
I experimented and found the things I like and the things I don't
There's not much left that I fancy trying and sex (both meaningful and random) doesn't hold any specific spark for me
I see people I fancy but, unlike in the past, I don't see me with them - they are simply nice to look at and/or to chat with
Most of the time, I don't give it a second thought, but other times it both frustrates and infuruates me that this once sexual being is, by far and large, not very sexual any more
I still have occasional random sex - generally with strangers in the safety and confines of a club, but even then I don't feel that I am 100% satisfied with the experience (and, by default, I can't be all that satisfying either)
I can only assume that this is what others refer to as 'losing their mojo' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it?
I'd look for more.. discussing what you want through common interest and maybe share porn or erotic scenarios"
But is that not something you do with a partner? Fwb seems a more in the moment thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I know it may seem a little odd but have you tried spending a little time watching porn or reading erotica to see if there's something that piques your interest? It might provide a little insight into what it is that needs scratching
No it's hard to explain, I know what I like physically, it's the feelings I'm struggling to pin down.
Is it more the intimacy side of things? For want of a better word 'loneliness', in that you want to share it with someone?
That's part of it I think.
I understand that, I think that there's only so much you can experience and explore on your own before it can start to feel like you're repeating and searching for something more.
Obviously I can't tell you how you're feeling but I can totally understand if that's the case and you're not alone if that is the issue.
I think it's a lot to do with the in-between meets, there's no one to reflect with.
Yes, I know exactly that feeling. It sounds a little like you're looking for a Rubi-duo...
Don't make me admit it
Oh crikey not another one!
Don't look, it will find you. "
Definitely not looking. I wouldn't say no if someone special came alone but I won't be hunting them down! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it?
I'd look for more.. discussing what you want through common interest and maybe share porn or erotic scenarios
But is that not something you do with a partner? Fwb seems a more in the moment thing. "
I think FWB can be exploratory. Tho beware when I explored with my fwb we ended up dating.... And still are! |
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over a year ago
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"It’s very difficult to my mind finding someone who ticks my boxes physically and mentally.
I’m hardwired to think that if someone ticks both boxes then really i should be dating them, not just boffing them, as it’s so rare.
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It's hard to let go completely I think, to allow yourself to get that emotional or mental fulfilment from someone you know isn't a long term thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch?
I could have written that myself. I stopped meeting here as I felt I was compromising myself and leaving myself feeling worse in all aspects of my sexuality.
The kink side of myself will never be satisfied with random meets here.....I've tried and failed so many times with that one. The other site I am also on but too many wannabes (thanks 50 shades).
So for the moment I'm focussing on dating and building my kinky side. Whether that works...who knows."
Fingers crossed the dating works in a way where your kinky match is just around the corner x |
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over a year ago
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"Fab can be like fast food. Tasty at the time but not really satisfying.
The challenge of singled on is finding a salad which is as tasty as a burger lol"
I do quite like a salad if it's got enough of the things I like. |
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over a year ago
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"Fab can be like fast food. Tasty at the time but not really satisfying.
The challenge of singled on is finding a salad which is as tasty as a burger lol
I do quite like a salad if it's got enough of the things I like. "
Find that on fab and you're laughing! |
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over a year ago
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"I used to meet, a lot
I honestly believe that I wore myself out - probably too early for a guy of my age
I experimented and found the things I like and the things I don't
There's not much left that I fancy trying and sex (both meaningful and random) doesn't hold any specific spark for me
I see people I fancy but, unlike in the past, I don't see me with them - they are simply nice to look at and/or to chat with
Most of the time, I don't give it a second thought, but other times it both frustrates and infuruates me that this once sexual being is, by far and large, not very sexual any more
I still have occasional random sex - generally with strangers in the safety and confines of a club, but even then I don't feel that I am 100% satisfied with the experience (and, by default, I can't be all that satisfying either)
I can only assume that this is what others refer to as 'losing their mojo'"
What do you think would bring it back? |
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over a year ago
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"I used to meet, a lot
I honestly believe that I wore myself out - probably too early for a guy of my age
I experimented and found the things I like and the things I don't
There's not much left that I fancy trying and sex (both meaningful and random) doesn't hold any specific spark for me
I see people I fancy but, unlike in the past, I don't see me with them - they are simply nice to look at and/or to chat with
Most of the time, I don't give it a second thought, but other times it both frustrates and infuruates me that this once sexual being is, by far and large, not very sexual any more
I still have occasional random sex - generally with strangers in the safety and confines of a club, but even then I don't feel that I am 100% satisfied with the experience (and, by default, I can't be all that satisfying either)
I can only assume that this is what others refer to as 'losing their mojo'
What do you think would bring it back? "
I feel life gets in the way these days. I have very little free time and when I do get it, I am usually tired and want to spend it relaxing with non-scene friends
TBH though, I'm not sure I want it back - well, at least not all of it
As weird as it sounds, I'm hoping that attending the MLS will provide some catharsis
I'm not going for a shag or even a snog, I'm going to meet people who still enjoy the lifestyle and to have a laugh and a couple of drinks in their company
I hope that by being in their social company will re-ignite some spark and interest
The forums are a great diversion, but I associate them with a kind of parallel life rather than 'real' life
Meeting people in the flesh, seeing them move, how they react and interact, how they laugh, smile, frown, compose themselves is often all it takes
I probably don't do enough of it |
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By *uckymooMan
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Errrr “other site’ what am i missing out on
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I used to meet, a lot
I honestly believe that I wore myself out - probably too early for a guy of my age
I experimented and found the things I like and the things I don't
There's not much left that I fancy trying and sex (both meaningful and random) doesn't hold any specific spark for me
I see people I fancy but, unlike in the past, I don't see me with them - they are simply nice to look at and/or to chat with
Most of the time, I don't give it a second thought, but other times it both frustrates and infuruates me that this once sexual being is, by far and large, not very sexual any more
I still have occasional random sex - generally with strangers in the safety and confines of a club, but even then I don't feel that I am 100% satisfied with the experience (and, by default, I can't be all that satisfying either)
I can only assume that this is what others refer to as 'losing their mojo'
What do you think would bring it back?
I feel life gets in the way these days. I have very little free time and when I do get it, I am usually tired and want to spend it relaxing with non-scene friends
TBH though, I'm not sure I want it back - well, at least not all of it
As weird as it sounds, I'm hoping that attending the MLS will provide some catharsis
I'm not going for a shag or even a snog, I'm going to meet people who still enjoy the lifestyle and to have a laugh and a couple of drinks in their company
I hope that by being in their social company will re-ignite some spark and interest
The forums are a great diversion, but I associate them with a kind of parallel life rather than 'real' life
Meeting people in the flesh, seeing them move, how they react and interact, how they laugh, smile, frown, compose themselves is often all it takes
I probably don't do enough of it"
I agree. The whole online thing can seem a bit detached. You forget that the people are real. |
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over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Errrr “other site’ what am i missing out on
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
The fetish one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
I'm in the same boat so I've promised myself to try things I've never done this before this year |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m clearer where I am and what I would really like on here than I ever have been, but finding others who not only share a similar outlook but also are interested in me sexually is proving very challenging.
The forum has provided some really good online friends, but with one notable exceptio, sexual partners are hard to come by for me. |
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? I'm in the same boat so I've promised myself to try things I've never done this before this year"
What kind of things?
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"I’m clearer where I am and what I would really like on here than I ever have been, but finding others who not only share a similar outlook but also are interested in me sexually is proving very challenging.
The forum has provided some really good online friends, but with one notable exceptio, sexual partners are hard to come by for me."
That's often where I find myself. Frustratingly there are a few forumites I do really gel with but being so far away from everyone is a real hindrance! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? I'm in the same boat so I've promised myself to try things I've never done this before this year
What kind of things?
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too many to list but things like bondage, voyeurism, public fuck and display, maybe try a bi orgy (I'm straight), let a woman use a strap on on me, live fuck on cam, upload a vid to a porn site...just a few |
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? I'm in the same boat so I've promised myself to try things I've never done this before this year
What kind of things?
too many to list but things like bondage, voyeurism, public fuck and display, maybe try a bi orgy (I'm straight), let a woman use a strap on on me, live fuck on cam, upload a vid to a porn site...just a few "
But don't most of them involve finding people who want to do them too? That's the hard part, finding those who match you! |
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"I’m clearer where I am and what I would really like on here than I ever have been, but finding others who not only share a similar outlook but also are interested in me sexually is proving very challenging.
The forum has provided some really good online friends, but with one notable exceptio, sexual partners are hard to come by for me.
That's often where I find myself. Frustratingly there are a few forumites I do really gel with but being so far away from everyone is a real hindrance! "
Yep. I am hoping I might have a shift in fortune this summer but many of those I really fancy who may feel something for me are a considerable distance away. That doesn’t preclude meeting them but does preclude something regular |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? I'm in the same boat so I've promised myself to try things I've never done this before this year
What kind of things?
too many to list but things like bondage, voyeurism, public fuck and display, maybe try a bi orgy (I'm straight), let a woman use a strap on on me, live fuck on cam, upload a vid to a porn site...just a few
But don't most of them involve finding people who want to do them too? That's the hard part, finding those who match you! "
you're so spot on. That's exactly why it's not happening yet. Can't find a partner as sexually adventurous I guess x |
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it?
I'd look for more.. discussing what you want through common interest and maybe share porn or erotic scenarios
But is that not something you do with a partner? Fwb seems a more in the moment thing.
I think FWB can be exploratory. Tho beware when I explored with my fwb we ended up dating.... And still are! "
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"I explore and have phases of interests but occasionally ponder upon what I'd next like. It's also easy to get a bit limited if you have fbs or meets with limited interests or high expertise levels.
Sometimes it just takes a surprising journey with someone who opens your perspective to a new vista. It can be a healthy sign when you recognise uncertainty and that there's possibly something missing.
That's true. My fb is great and we have good sex but his idea of kink is my idea of vanilla.
Do you think recognising something is missing should push someone to actively look for more or just accept it? "
I'd look for more.. discussing what you want through common interest and maybe share porn or erotic scenarios |
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I mostly know what I want, and what I don't. But it hasn't helped lol. Took a break there as I was fed up, and still feeling a bit meh/bored.
'The other website' definitely did help me with my kink side. I went to munches, and met a lot of nice, open people in social settings as well as parties. Was helpful to chat openly with people into a variety of things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
Yeah, I get this. I thought it was a hormonal thing, but maybe I'm just bored? |
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"Do you ever feel a bit lost sexually?
Most people here seem to know what they're looking for whereas I'm just bumbling around hoping for something to pique my interest.
My body is satisfied here but my mind is a bit flat. I joined "the other site" thinking I maybe need to address the kink side of things but people there seem too focused on their specifics where I don't know what mine are.
Tell me it's not just me!?!
Do you ever feel there's an itch you just can't quite scratch? "
Yeah I feel like that a lot don't no how to explain it but it does make me feel a bit depressed |
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