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over a year ago
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Why isit when your in a realationship your gym goes down hill? For some reason if you prioritise gym over your mrs you will get shot or even punched in the face. What’s your thoughts peeps and how do you get around it by not making your other half feel second best |
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"Why isit when your in a realationship your gym goes down hill? For some reason if you prioritise gym over your mrs you will get shot or even punched in the face. What’s your thoughts peeps and how do you get around it by not making your other half feel second best"
I'm totally against guns and domestic violence. But I do think it's possible to go to the gym and not make the gym your priority. |
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it’s called balance, and it can be found, just depends on how much you want to look like someone has shoved an air hose up your arse, ever though about finding a physical activity you can both participate in? Circuit Training? Badminton? a martial art even?
I’m not against anyone wanting to improve their health but spending hours at a gym just means you’re missing out on life.
just my opinion of course  |
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"We go together in the morning and evening. Its a big part of our life.
That's all very good. But could you tell us about your gym routine?"
Cardio/swimming mornings
Weights/combat evenings.
We dont stick together at the gym just go/leave at the same time. Weve had afew sets training together like combat & bodyweight stuff. Shes just masterd muscle ups which im really proud of. |
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"We go together in the morning and evening. Its a big part of our life.
That's all very good. But could you tell us about your gym routine?
Cardio/swimming mornings
Weights/combat evenings.
We dont stick together at the gym just go/leave at the same time. Weve had afew sets training together like combat & bodyweight stuff. Shes just masterd muscle ups which im really proud of."
Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"it’s called balance, and it can be found, just depends on how much you want to look like someone has shoved an air hose up your arse, ever though about finding a physical activity you can both participate in? Circuit Training? Badminton? a martial art even?
I’m not against anyone wanting to improve their health but spending hours at a gym just means you’re missing out on life.
just my opinion of course "
Fair point but that person doesn’t want to improve or do any sorts of activities, it’s abit tricky this situation and I understand balance but...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How much spare time do you have?
How much of that time do you spend at the gym?
How much of it do you spend with your Mrs?
Can you go to the gym at times when she wouldn't miss you?
eg before work, when she is busy or out with friends
Is she the one being selfish or is it you that's the selfish one?
There is a workable agreement out there, but it is likely to require discussion and compromise on both your parts |
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"How much spare time do you have?
How much of that time do you spend at the gym?
How much of it do you spend with your Mrs?
Can you go to the gym at times when she wouldn't miss you?
eg before work, when she is busy or out with
friends
Is she the one being selfish or is it you that's the selfish one?
There is a workable agreement out there, but it is
likely to require discussion and compromise on both your parts"
I wake up at 5am gym opens 5:30, 45 min work out which is not enough in my eyes, catch the train at 6:30, home by 7pm, ideally I would like to go to the gym after work but that’s not possible since she says I’m not spending enough time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The trouble with going to the gym is how often and how much time is spent there ... it's very addictive. Lots of single guys fill their time and get addicted so when they find a relationship a balance is needed but often no compromise given. It's not fair on either party to put it first over life as often is the case so unless you are specifically training for a major event then is it necessary (or even healthy) to be there every day? |
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"How much spare time do you have?
How much of that time do you spend at the gym?
How much of it do you spend with your Mrs?
Can you go to the gym at times when she wouldn't miss you?
eg before work, when she is busy or out with
friends
Is she the one being selfish or is it you that's the selfish one?
There is a workable agreement out there, but it is
likely to require discussion and compromise on both your parts
I wake up at 5am gym opens 5:30, 45 min work out which is not enough in my eyes, catch the train at 6:30, home by 7pm, ideally I would like to go to the gym after work but that’s not possible since she says I’m not spending enough time"
Reading between the lines here. Where does your fab life fit in? Maybe that's what has to give as your profile doesn't suggest you are here as a couple?...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How much spare time do you have?
How much of that time do you spend at the gym?
How much of it do you spend with your Mrs?
Can you go to the gym at times when she wouldn't miss you?
eg before work, when she is busy or out with
friends
Is she the one being selfish or is it you that's the selfish one?
There is a workable agreement out there, but it is
likely to require discussion and compromise on both your parts
I wake up at 5am gym opens 5:30, 45 min work out which is not enough in my eyes, catch the train at 6:30, home by 7pm, ideally I would like to go to the gym after work but that’s not possible since she says I’m not spending enough time
Reading between the lines here. Where does your fab life fit in? Maybe that's what has to give as your profile doesn't suggest you are here as a couple?......"
Oh yes! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How much spare time do you have?
How much of that time do you spend at the gym?
How much of it do you spend with your Mrs?
Can you go to the gym at times when she wouldn't miss you?
eg before work, when she is busy or out with
friends
Is she the one being selfish or is it you that's the selfish one?
There is a workable agreement out there, but it is
likely to require discussion and compromise on both your parts
I wake up at 5am gym opens 5:30, 45 min work out which is not enough in my eyes, catch the train at 6:30, home by 7pm, ideally I would like to go to the gym after work but that’s not possible since she says I’m not spending enough time"
Why do you want to work out more? Have you thought about much healthier exercise that you could share in the evenings? Walks? Swimming?
If you do that every day then you are denying her morning smooches and cuddling or even sex!
Someone else said perhaps knock fab back ... you do seem to have a lot of selfish hobbies  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Going to the gym is part of my routine like going to work, taking the dog for a walk etc. That does not make it a priority over my partner just part of my day.
OP - reading between the lines I would question whether there is something deeper that is causing this issue and “going to the gym” is a trigger to get it out there? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I like to look fit and not have a gut, the time I’ve been with her shows how my fitness suffering, like I said not sure what’s the best plan of action, hence why I’m greatful for all your feedbacks, as for fab I don’t meet, I only go on here when I’m commuting to work. Partner has no idea of fab since this was my single life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both join the gym problem solved. We have
She won’t, Ive asked her serval times"
If training is such a big part of your life that you think you should be able to do more (and personally I don't think 4 mornings a week before work is excessive) and your partner doesn't share that view point and also seems to want to monopolise seeing you every evening then iv really would question how compatible you are. |
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I'm not sure Fab is the place to solve communication problems with a partner who doesn't know you use the site tbh.
Talk to her. Find out what it's about. Discuss your priorities and her objections. If you can't find a compromise both of you are happy with, that might well be your answer. I didn't think that was rocket science. |
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