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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
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It’s a shame you’re not closer  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
It’s a shame you’re not closer "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
It’s a shame you’re not closer "
I’m sure with a little encouragement Tame’s cock could reach  |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Don't like the ones "that's a shame I don't meet..." and then list something out of my preferences.
Why is it's a shame that I have preferences and know what I like, I don't consider that a shame at all.
I don't feel it's a shame they're over my age range, or have a couples profile. |
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"Don't like the ones "that's a shame I don't meet..." and then list something out of my preferences.
Why is it's a shame that I have preferences and know what I like, I don't consider that a shame at all.
I don't feel it's a shame they're over my age range, or have a couples profile. "
"I know you don't x, but might I be an exception?"
No. |
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... And it's always "I want you to do something you say you don't do because I think you're stunning."
I want Apple to pay me a million pounds. I know fuck all about anything to do with their business, but I think they're amazing. That's how it works, right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I usually reply it’s ok if I set off now I’ll be there in 4hrs. For some reason I don’t get a response from this?  "
I say I’m firing up the Ford Focus Ghia as we speak, she’s sounding meaty lol.
Next thing blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Shame not closer
Shame you dont accom
Shame you dont like younger
Etc etc......well sorry but tough grr"
Shame I can’t reach them banging tits from here etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my public hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude |
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"I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my public hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude "
Public hair? It's definitely not on show when I leave the house  |
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"I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my pubic hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude "
Preach.
Stop working out you'll be scary. Show us your tits/ vag. Get rid of the pubic hair. Come to the Outer Hebrides.
Please change your life because you're making my boner sad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my pubic hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude
Preach.
Stop working out you'll be scary. Show us your tits/ vag. Get rid of the pubic hair. Come to the Outer Hebrides.
Please change your life because you're making my boner sad. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
Lol always the way"
Yep. I've travelled up to two hundred and fifty miles in the past, but alas, some people don't want that sort of offer. Ah well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my public hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude
Public hair? It's definitely not on show when I leave the house "
That pesky bikini line escaping |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my public hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude
Public hair? It's definitely not on show when I leave the house
That pesky bikini line escaping "
Seriously. It was down by my ankles.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I don't like the ones that tell me exactly what they'd like to do to me, I'm well aware they will send it to every other profile that filters allow, but all the same it's creepy coming from a total stranger.
And often they use words that I find I'm not compatible with my level of sensuality such as back doors, ruin, gash, pound, creampie, gag etc
And they wonder why they get very little response.
I'm not surprised when people do go with it and you with them from a fake profile and arrange meeting, then of course do not not show up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't like the ones that tell me exactly what they'd like to do to me, I'm well aware they will send it to every other profile that filters allow, but all the same it's creepy coming from a total stranger.
And often they use words that I find I'm not compatible with my level of sensuality such as back doors, ruin, gash, pound, creampie, gag etc
And they wonder why they get very little response.
I'm not surprised when people do go with it and you with them from a fake profile and arrange meeting, then of course do not not show up"
Note to self, don’t say you’re going to ruin her back doors at a creampie gangbang. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Oh better ask a question, okay here it is, what messages do you get that make you go dah fuq are you on about ? Etc "
Someone once sent on another site
fancy f2f fff
Asked them to explain in English, got called a twat and blocked lol.
I was a bit baffled as I was new to swinging terminology. |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no. "
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x"
The pressure is huge, and I'm not up for it either.
Or they just decide they can't be arsed and don't tell me. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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As for here, the really long winded, multiple paragraphed epic, what I like or want to do to you copy and paste messages. They show complete ignorance as they've ignored my profile and just show they've been watching far too much porn. Very probably wanking and doing copy and paste at the same time. I fell asleep during the last one and didn't get to the concluding paragraph. |
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Some guy who i had no idea who he was messaged me to say he would of met me if i didnt have so many verifications. What the hell made him think id want to meet a fucking random stranger id never spoken to before i have no idea |
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"As for here, the really long winded, multiple paragraphed epic, what I like or want to do to you copy and paste messages. They show complete ignorance as they've ignored my profile and just show they've been watching far too much porn. Very probably wanking and doing copy and paste at the same time. I fell asleep during the last one and didn't get to the concluding paragraph. "
Some of them are hilarious. Anatomically impossible. |
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"Oh better ask a question, okay here it is, what messages do you get that make you go dah fuq are you on about ? Etc
Someone once sent on another site
fancy f2f fff
Asked them to explain in English, got called a twat and blocked lol.
I was a bit baffled as I was new to swinging terminology. "
No idea what that is either?
If I had to guess - 5 women and two of them are Siamese twins? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
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Because we don’t want to travel long distances for meets when we have enough on our doorstep.
We are just being polite and replying to the message, as many single guys complain they don’t get! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x"
Perfect answer 10 points to you! |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x"
I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ?? |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x
I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ?? "
thats exactly what i always did and never once had a problem with a guy expecting more |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x"
What if I cycled to you and it took me four days and I had 12 punctures, would this make it easier ? |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x
I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ?? "
But I drove all this way, don't you owe me? Etc. Whining, possibly even threats.
Just easier all around to nip it in the bud. No. |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x
I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ??
But I drove all this way, don't you owe me? Etc. Whining, possibly even threats.
Just easier all around to nip it in the bud. No. "
But can't you work out if a guy is going to be like that in the initial chat?
I'm only saying this is feasible if you otherwise like the guy. If you meet in a pub and it turns out you don't want to take it further, is it really that much harder to tell a guy who's travelled than a local chap? |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x
I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ??
But I drove all this way, don't you owe me? Etc. Whining, possibly even threats.
Just easier all around to nip it in the bud. No.
But can't you work out if a guy is going to be like that in the initial chat?
I'm only saying this is feasible if you otherwise like the guy. If you meet in a pub and it turns out you don't want to take it further, is it really that much harder to tell a guy who's travelled than a local chap? "
ive always made it clear with every man it will be a social and nothing more and not one has refused to meet me or tried it on but i an pretty astute |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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If a guy is willing to drive 3 hours for a social with somebody he has not met, then I wonder if there are any women around him or are there too many wanted posters featuring him up on all the lamp posts.
A 6 hour round trip for a macchiato latte frappuccino iced with a slice of lemon and a cinnamon swirl... seems a long way to go |
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"If a guy is willing to drive 3 hours for a social with somebody he has not met, then I wonder if there are any women around him or are there too many wanted posters featuring him up on all the lamp posts.
A 6 hour round trip for a macchiato latte frappuccino iced with a slice of lemon and a cinnamon swirl... seems a long way to go"
But less chance of his wife catching him there |
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By *litterbabeWoman
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"If a guy is willing to drive 3 hours for a social with somebody he has not met, then I wonder if there are any women around him or are there too many wanted posters featuring him up on all the lamp posts.
A 6 hour round trip for a macchiato latte frappuccino iced with a slice of lemon and a cinnamon swirl... seems a long way to go
But less chance of his wife catching him there"
There is that also an less chance you might know him from somewhere |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's a shame you're not closer/ have pics/ thinner/ younger. Send me a pic and I'm sure I can muster up enough courage to shag you with my eyes closed." |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Can I ask you a question?
Look, if it’s about your curtains, there was no where else to wipe my cock!"
No, I threw them out when you left  it's my answer to your
" Oh better ask a question, okay here it is, what messages do you get that make you go dah fuq are you on about ? Etc "
When I get a message saying....Can I ask you a question?. No question just that, that's a fecking question?!? It irks me. |
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"If a guy is willing to drive 3 hours for a social with somebody he has not met, then I wonder if there are any women around him or are there too many wanted posters featuring him up on all the lamp posts.
A 6 hour round trip for a macchiato latte frappuccino iced with a slice of lemon and a cinnamon swirl... seems a long way to go"
I've done it. If I click with someone a long journey doesn't bother me. |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x
I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ??
But I drove all this way, don't you owe me? Etc. Whining, possibly even threats.
Just easier all around to nip it in the bud. No.
But can't you work out if a guy is going to be like that in the initial chat?
I'm only saying this is feasible if you otherwise like the guy. If you meet in a pub and it turns out you don't want to take it further, is it really that much harder to tell a guy who's travelled than a local chap? "
Sometimes. Not always. So I have a blanket rule. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"If a guy is willing to drive 3 hours for a social with somebody he has not met, then I wonder if there are any women around him or are there too many wanted posters featuring him up on all the lamp posts.
A 6 hour round trip for a macchiato latte frappuccino iced with a slice of lemon and a cinnamon swirl... seems a long way to go"
20 mins is my maximum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If a guy is willing to drive 3 hours for a social with somebody he has not met, then I wonder if there are any women around him or are there too many wanted posters featuring him up on all the lamp posts.
A 6 hour round trip for a macchiato latte frappuccino iced with a slice of lemon and a cinnamon swirl... seems a long way to go"
Mine did just this.. 8 hour round trip just for a couple of hours... still doing it now and couldn't be happier! |
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"Story of my life. What gets me more is when I say I am willing to travel, the majority say no.
The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x"
Absolutely this! The pressure is then on and I feel it's harder to say no if you're not feeling it in person. This is why we've started doing socials first, even though it takes time which we don't have a lot of - but quality trumps quantity.
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
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Some people we really like the look of and if they were closer we would be trying to set up a meet - so for us it's just being nice I guess! Always a flattering message to receive too and sometimes you get chatting with like-minded folk 
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
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The same as “damn! I’m only a year/inch/wife outside your preference”. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a message telling me it was a shame that I kept my public hair as I'd get way more interest if I was smooth. He then went on to explain why, since nearly all men prefer smooth. It was done in very kindly tones and he genuinely thought he was doing me a really big favour. He wasn't impressed with my lack of gratitude
Public hair? It's definitely not on show when I leave the house
That pesky bikini line escaping
Seriously. It was down by my ankles.
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
The same as “damn! I’m only a year/inch/wife outside your preference”."
I have a few friends who flexed the age preferences for me |
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
The same as “damn! I’m only a year/inch/wife outside your preference”."
The "wife" one made me laugh... |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"Why do people say that in a first message, like the distance is the main factor why I will never meet you. I reply ‘It’s a shame you’re name is Gary and you have a penis!’
The same as “damn! I’m only a year/inch/wife outside your preference”.
The "wife" one made me laugh... "
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"I think you tell him in advance its just a social and there's absolutely no guarantee it will be anything else and that if he doesn't want to travel three hours for what may just be a quick drink, that's fine ?? "
Yep, would b fine with that. Chance to meet someone new, go somewhere different, maybe pack the camera and get a good shot or two of some stuff
"The reason I say no to a guy travelling is that it puts a huge amount of pressure on both of us to click and have sex. If a guys driven 3 hours to see me and we have zero chemistry I’m going to want him to leave. How do I handle that without seeming nasty? Even worse, what if he isn’t a gentleman and assumes he should be able to collect what he’s travelled for? Not all men are gentlemen x"
If the distance was that far, I prefer to converse online etc for a good amount of time beforehand, and gauge it from that |
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