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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society? |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?"
I don't find it is, you will find the same people go into the same threads, but I don't think its a clique  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money. "
You never offered money 
I'd have done it for 20 whole pencies
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
I'm ignored on all the suck up threads. "
As I said I can’t get a reply or quote. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
I'm ignored on all the suck up threads.
As I said I can’t get a reply or quote."
You're not in with the in crowd. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
I'm ignored on all the suck up threads.
As I said I can’t get a reply or quote."
I'm going to give you one of these. 
Now you're in.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
You never offered money
I'd have done it for 20 whole pencies
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums..."
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums..."
Ahhhhhhh, ta for making it clear.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
I'm ignored on all the suck up threads.
As I said I can’t get a reply or quote.
I'm going to give you one of these.
Now you're in. "
Phew. Turns out it’s really easy to get in the clique OP. I’ve just got in the forum hot tub. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums..."
Ah. See all the usual suspects thought you'd be talking about the forum.
Errm, there's no trick for breaking in. You just have to keep ploughing away and eventually you'll strike gold. Taking part in the forum can help! People get to see you posting, know a bit about your personality etc. |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that "
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
I'm ignored on all the suck up threads. "
I like your suck up threads  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums..."
If you said both you were on to a thread filler, now you’ve said that, this one will fizzle out. Rookie mistake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types.."
Pretty much.
I don’t respond to men I’m not interested in. Many others do the same.
Keep your chin up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm assuming you mean swinging as a whole rather than the forums.
It is harder for single guys, you're out numbering the ladies and couples quite significantly.
It can seem a bit cliquey but really it's because there are friendships there already, you wouldn't go to a pub and expect to just sit with a group you don't know. Getting yourself known is the best way forward, use the site facilities like chat and the forums, go to clubs and socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums..."
I don't think general fab is cliquey at all tbh though chatrooms amd forums can feel so but that is the same anywhere you go! |
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It can seem like it at times but when it comes to sending messages I don't think it really applies.
Traditional wisdom says that single men find it very difficult to get a response but I don't think it's necessarily because people stick to the same group. We don't anyway |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
Magherafelt |
"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money.
I'm ignored on all the suck up threads.
As I said I can’t get a reply or quote.
I'm going to give you one of these.
Now you're in.
Phew. Turns out it’s really easy to get in the clique OP. I’ve just got in the forum hot tub."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types.."
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?"
You're not alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it. |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Ah. See all the usual suspects thought you'd be talking about the forum.
Errm, there's no trick for breaking in. You just have to keep ploughing away and eventually you'll strike gold. Taking part in the forum can help! People get to see you posting, know a bit about your personality etc."
Good advice, thanks very much |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it."
Get back in your box! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad."
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?
You're not alone"
Maybe it’s because you’re a secret squirrel we don’t notice you in your  disguise.
Actually I think I saw you on a few threads but I kept getting put off posting by the Mission Impossible theme playing in my head each time I saw your name |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it."
Me too!!! Was waiting on one of 2 things happening, get ignored, or get a barrage of abuse lol. Luckily all I got was kind replies and actually good advice! What a relief! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. "
Nope that’s just Peach’s trumps |
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I don’t think Fab is cliquey. It might seem that way when you are new, but it isn’t. Just take your time and put some effort in. If anything most swingers are friendly and welcoming. But if someone or a group of people aren’t interested in you, that doesn’t make it a clique. |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"I don’t think Fab is cliquey. It might seem that way when you are new, but it isn’t. Just take your time and put some effort in. If anything most swingers are friendly and welcoming. But if someone or a group of people aren’t interested in you, that doesn’t make it a clique. "
That's true...valid point well made |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. "
Therein lies the truth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think Fab is cliquey. It might seem that way when you are new, but it isn’t. Just take your time and put some effort in. If anything most swingers are friendly and welcoming. But if someone or a group of people aren’t interested in you, that doesn’t make it a clique.
That's true...valid point well made"
*whispers* it is a bit cliquey. |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. Nope that’s just Peach’s trumps "
Stop name dropping you lampposting soab! No wonder people think I'm in a click  |
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. Nope that’s just Peach’s trumps "
Oiiiiii, you'll scare the new crumpet off 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it.
Get back in your box! "
Sorry, I thought it was safe to come out again  |
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it."
Welcome. Don't feel nervous many of us are friendly also remember that holding and expressing a different opinion isn't a personal insult. |
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"I don’t think Fab is cliquey. It might seem that way when you are new, but it isn’t. Just take your time and put some effort in. If anything most swingers are friendly and welcoming. But if someone or a group of people aren’t interested in you, that doesn’t make it a clique.
That's true...valid point well made
*whispers* it is a bit cliquey."
*whispers*
Why are we whispering? |
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. Nope that’s just Peach’s trumps
Stop name dropping you lampposting soab! No wonder people think I'm in a click "
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. Nope that’s just Peach’s trumps
Stop name dropping you lampposting soab! No wonder people think I'm in a click "
Oh bollocks - I’ll chat shit with anyone. |
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it.
Welcome. Don't feel nervous many of us are friendly also remember that holding and expressing a different opinion isn't a personal incsult. "
YES it is!  My flakes are melting I'm that flabbergasted |
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it.
Welcome. Don't feel nervous many of us are friendly also remember that holding and expressing a different opinion isn't a personal incsult.
YES it is! My flakes are melting I'm that flabbergasted "
T'isn't.  |
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it.
Get back in your box!
Sorry, I thought it was safe to come out again "
I’ve seen you jumping in and out of your box a lot. In fact Jack in the box could be your new username |
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Hi op. Yes the swinging scene is hard to break into. Especially as a single guy. Look at the site as a tool and use it to the best of your advantage. Have yourself a good decent profile with good pictures and use that as your base. Do you use the chat rooms? There a good way of (eventually) getting noticed but you will probably be ignored for a while but pesistance pays of. Start to use the forums as well. Again you may get ignored for awhile. The forums have a meets section and a club section. Look in there and put your name down for any events you may be interested in. It will take time and patience but if you genuinly want to swing perciverence will pay off. Get a reputation for being a good decent guy and it will open doors for you. Good luck |
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types..
It isn’t easy until you get known a bit and even then most of the time you appear to be ignored. The reality is actually quite different and people do notice, actually far more than you can imagine. They just prioritise their posts to people they know, or ones they want to hook up with more often. Join in and you’ll realise that it’s not all that bad.
This. It's not all that bad, though I'd add but, when it is, it's fucking rotten. Nope that’s just Peach’s trumps
Stop name dropping you lampposting soab! No wonder people think I'm in a click
Oh bollocks - I’ll chat shit with anyone. "
Like that is it?
*Ghengis harrumpfs and gallops off in search for a crumpet-suit* |
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it.
Welcome. Don't feel nervous many of us are friendly also remember that holding and expressing a different opinion isn't a personal insult. "
Thank you , so there are nice people on here then |
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"Yes mate, I’ve finally plucked up the courage to contribute within the forums as this topic needed raising - this is my first post and I felt nervous posting it.
Welcome. Don't feel nervous many of us are friendly also remember that holding and expressing a different opinion isn't a personal insult.
Thank you , so there are nice people on here then "
Lots of them. The trick is to concentrate on the good and ignore the bad. |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Hi op. Yes the swinging scene is hard to break into. Especially as a single guy. Look at the site as a tool and use it to the best of your advantage. Have yourself a good decent profile with good pictures and use that as your base. Do you use the chat rooms? There a good way of (eventually) getting noticed but you will probably be ignored for a while but pesistance pays of. Start to use the forums as well. Again you may get ignored for awhile. The forums have a meets section and a club section. Look in there and put your name down for any events you may be interested in. It will take time and patience but if you genuinly want to swing perciverence will pay off. Get a reputation for being a good decent guy and it will open doors for you. Good luck"
Great advice...many thanks indeed |
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"Totally mate, I’ve only just joined again and I can’t get a reply and quote for love or money. "
All the women can hang their coats up again now though |
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We sometimes found that couples nights and big parties at clubs could be a bit clicky, well more there are clearly groups who keep them self very enclosed. Strange to us because well talk to anyone. But the longer we've been on the scene as a couple the more we've understood the formation of these groups and the less judgemental we are of them. Because simply as a couple it's very hard to find people you both want to play with. So I guess once you found a group of people who fancy each other and get on great you want to continue hanging out together and look forward to the next time you all assemble. And when you see it that way makes more sense. |
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?"
It's the tinternet and a lot of people in a small space. Imagine walking into a a packed arena and asking everyone to stop what they're doing and speak to you. If you did that and it worked, you're either beyond skilled or Beyonce ...Keep coming back and people will get to know you (or not) and it will either be your thing or not.
Rome (and all those orgys) weren't built in a day. |
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?"
It’s not clicky on fab as a whole - it’s just very male heavy - so you have to stand out with your message and profile pic to stand a chance of getting noticed - and even that isn’t guaranteed a response if you’re not the woman’s/couples type - or they’re not in a meeting mindset!
Try changing your profile pic to the 23rd April pic though - that would certainly get a response from me if you were local! |
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?
It's the tinternet and a lot of people in a small space. Imagine walking into a a packed arena and asking everyone to stop what they're doing and speak to you. If you did that and it worked, you're either beyond skilled or Beyonce ...Keep coming back and people will get to know you (or not) and it will either be your thing or not.
Rome (and all those orgys) weren't built in a day."
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums..."
Have you applied for the new members package? This could be why your not getting sufficient replies. You need the secret hand shake and bumper sticker. |
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?
It’s not clicky on fab as a whole - it’s just very male heavy - so you have to stand out with your message and profile pic to stand a chance of getting noticed - and even that isn’t guaranteed a response if you’re not the woman’s/couples type - or they’re not in a meeting mindset!
Try changing your profile pic to the 23rd April pic though - that would certainly get a response from me if you were local! "
Done! lets see now! lol |
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?
It’s not clicky on fab as a whole - it’s just very male heavy - so you have to stand out with your message and profile pic to stand a chance of getting noticed - and even that isn’t guaranteed a response if you’re not the woman’s/couples type - or they’re not in a meeting mindset!
Try changing your profile pic to the 23rd April pic though - that would certainly get a response from me if you were local!
Done! lets see now! lol"
Very nice! |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?"
I’d get clicky with you  |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Goes to show a good avatar does make a difference,I didn't even notice what you had up before to be honest."
Haaa...there you go. It was a good social experiment then, and it proves a half decent profile pic shines brighter! Who knew! |
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"Goes to show a good avatar does make a difference,I didn't even notice what you had up before to be honest.
Haaa...there you go. It was a good social experiment then, and it proves a half decent profile pic shines brighter! Who knew!"
I did!  |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Goes to show a good avatar does make a difference,I didn't even notice what you had up before to be honest.
Haaa...there you go. It was a good social experiment then, and it proves a half decent profile pic shines brighter! Who knew!
I did! "
Cheers Chorley Chick |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"You're a good looking chap with a decent bod, won't be long til the fresh meat sniffer is up in your inbox telling you how wonderful you are
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. Trawler across the water like
P.s hi bebz"
Hiya Miss Honey |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd message you of I was in the market for men!
Decent pics, actual words on the profile
It can take time for single guys, but the forums are a great way to chat to more people!
Good luck and welcome to the mad house |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
Magherafelt |
"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?
I’d get clicky with you "
lol...thanks...id let ya get your click on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think Fab is cliquey. It might seem that way when you are new, but it isn’t. Just take your time and put some effort in. If anything most swingers are friendly and welcoming. But if someone or a group of people aren’t interested in you, that doesn’t make it a clique.
That's true...valid point well made
*whispers* it is a bit cliquey.
*whispers*
Why are we whispering? "
*whispers*
The cliques have big ears. |
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?"
It might seem that way but I have never met any forumites in person, some threads get a response some don't. Sometimes people respond to a comment sometimes it goes missing in the flood. I agree with some folk and have the ones who I feel are kindred spirits and the ones I'm not fond of etc but took a while, plus patience to get to know people.
I felt a bit out of things at first but it slowly changed. They were all probably completely unaware of how I felt. |
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over a year ago
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already."
Who decides who gets in?  |
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By *he Rev OP Man
over a year ago
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"Here, ladies, this one's a bit of alright eh?
Agree
Save yourself Op, they’re all here now! "
Bloody hell lol...the pic was in my pic section all the time...obv they were never looked at until it went to the profile pic. |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in? "
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman? |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Is it just me or does it seem like a very clicky society in here? I get that people have to protect themselves at all costs and are safe with only the people they know and made aquatinsences over time. Not a problem...but is anyone else finding it difficult to break into this well guarded society?
I’d get clicky with you
lol...thanks...id let ya get your click on!"
Let’s go!
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?"
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman "
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man "
Women are so shallow. |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man "
Phew! If the clique is just the beautiful people, I'm not in it! was beginning to worry I wasn't aware of something I may be a part of |
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"Here, ladies, this one's a bit of alright eh?
Agree
Save yourself Op, they’re all here now!
Bloody hell lol...the pic was in my pic section all the time...obv they were never looked at until it went to the profile pic."
Nar no-one has time for that. |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man "
The Clique is strong. |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man "
Hey I don't mind a bit of gummy action! |
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over a year ago
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"Too cool to comment, soz....
(oops..... )
As if!! "
By your own admission I have shovel hands, don't make me use them.....
(your friendship makes me way cooler, obv....  ) |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Too cool to comment, soz....
(oops..... )
As if!!
By your own admission I have shovel hands, don't make me use them.....
(your friendship makes me way cooler, obv.... ) "
And over stretched limbs
Obvs your a lucky boy |
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"Too cool to comment, soz....
(oops..... )
As if!!
By your own admission I have shovel hands, don't make me use them.....
(your friendship makes me way cooler, obv.... )
And over stretched limbs
Obvs your a lucky boy "
....yeah, safie is a babe... |
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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago
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"Too cool to comment, soz....
(oops..... )
As if!!
By your own admission I have shovel hands, don't make me use them.....
(your friendship makes me way cooler, obv.... )
And over stretched limbs
Obvs your a lucky boy
....yeah, safie is a babe... "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man
Women are so shallow."
I only fuck hot, younger men from here. Yes I'm shallow. |
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"If you were struggling on here OP, where does that leave the rest of them ?!
Don't worry about him, he's been accepted into the fold already.
Who decides who gets in?
The people on the forums, obviously.
Are you blind woman?
So everyone on the forums?
Or just this "clique" you speak of?
Not blind...merely asking a question, woman
The clique, woman! The clique! He would have been hung, drawn and quartered by them by now if he was a toothless, pot-bellied, sallow-skinned man
Phew! If the clique is just the beautiful people, I'm not in it! was beginning to worry I wasn't aware of something I may be a part of "
No, they're all mingers. They drool over the beautiful people, wishing they were them |
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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago
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"Sorry if I was unclear, I was referring to the main part of the site where you send messages etc to profiles you like. Apologies, wasn't referring to the forums...
Oh
Then I don’t get why you’d think that
Just finding it very difficult to get responses...I guess I'm not everyone's cup of tea and we're all attracted to different types.."
Patience and perseverance. That's the best approach. Eventually you will find the right people |
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