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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Is anyone here teetotal?
If so, why?
Has this always been the case or did you stop at some point?
When you did stop were there are repercussions?
I myself decided to stop at the end of last year and since then have found it inhibiting my social life.
What are your experiences? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I very rarely drink, that's mainly because my ex was a drinker, most nights in fact. My face ended up on the end of his boozy fist a fair few times.
I don't mind people drinking but I start to get panicked if people I'm with drink every day or most days, as he wasn't like that at the start and he didn't drink heavily at the start either
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm sorry to hear that - sounds terrible. The aggression of d*unks is quite frightening.
I decided to stop drinking because I began to feel the effects the next morning (30 now and the hangovers started kicking in) and I truly believe that just because it's socially acceptable ignores how dangerous alcohol consumption is.
That said I will find it tough to resist drinking when I'm getting constant questions about why I'm abstaining.
Peer pressure is tough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry to hear that - sounds terrible. The aggression of d*unks is quite frightening.
I decided to stop drinking because I began to feel the effects the next morning (30 now and the hangovers started kicking in) and I truly believe that just because it's socially acceptable ignores how dangerous alcohol consumption is.
That said I will find it tough to resist drinking when I'm getting constant questions about why I'm abstaining.
Peer pressure is tough."
You don't need to abstain totally though, moderation is dandy.
Peer pressure.... be a wolf not a sheep 
I think those that pressure you into things lack respect. It's fine to offer, but they need to understand you know you. You know your body, your limitations and you know what you do or don't want.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had a can of lager and two pints since I hit40 nearly 6 years ago,no reason in particular I just stopped but I’d spent the years between being 18-40 in a d*unken haze.Turns out I don’t miss it either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm not teetotal. I will have the occasional glass of wine if I'm having dinner with friends, but no more than 1 or 2 glasses and that might happen once or twice a month max. Might even go 6 months without drinking. I guess it just never became a habit of mine, plus I don't like the taste of beer or g and t. Too bitter. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A very comprehensive study recently concluded that there is actually no safe level of drinking.
The cost to one's health and society in general was enough to make me quit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a can of lager and two pints since I hit40 nearly 6 years ago,no reason in particular I just stopped but I’d spent the years between being 18-40 in a d*unken haze.Turns out I don’t miss it either "
Did you find it inhibited your social life at all? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve had a can of lager and two pints since I hit40 nearly 6 years ago,no reason in particular I just stopped but I’d spent the years between being 18-40 in a d*unken haze.Turns out I don’t miss it either
Did you find it inhibited your social life at all?"
not really I usually end up as the designated driver and there’s the bonus of not suffering hangovers  |
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You're in luck, OP as most of the big breweries have realised there is a market for low or no alcohol beers and there are a load of decent new ones (bottled mostly) that actually tastes ok.
Try Nanny State, or there's a low alcohol Ghost Ship, to mention a couple.
Or try drinking tonic or soda with all the trimmings (ice, lime etc), no one will know you've got no gin or vodka in it.
If anyone does ask just say you're on a course of tablets you can't drink on.
Stick to your guns OP, dont feel pressured into drinking if you dont want to.
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I don't drink at all. I have no moral qualms or past issues, I just think all alcohol tastes rank. I've tasted loads of different kinds, and it all tastes disgusting. Give me Coke or a Ribena any day! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (kitten) finally admitted I had a drink problem last year. It’s been going on for years, started after my dad passed 7 years ago. My ex didn’t care thought is was great to have a drinking buddy. Hubby ( we’ve been together five years) was always concerned. When he started discovering half empty bottles hidden round the house he calmly sat me down and told me it’s him or the booze. Then frog marched my ass down to the nearest A A meeting. He likes to drink too, but he doesn’t have a stopping problem haha. Up side of it is in now seven months clean, we both don’t touch it (he might have a pint of beer once a month if we’re out).
Booze free house and we’ve both lost over a stone .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I started drinking at 16 and inot all honesty it was probably a problem before I was 19.
I stopped almost 4 years ago when I decided to have a month of and then tried for an other and I've just kept it going.
With my professional head on I get to see medical reports and toxicology reports. I was regularly putting away in a single night the sort of volume that causes death by alcohol toxicity, and the amount I drank for 30th years should have done for my liver. I always exercised though so I always looked okay.
I am loathe to say I was an alcoholic, I never craved alcohol and could always and frequently did abstain, my problem was that I could never have a couple it always turned in to a huge session. However a problem alcoholics face is that when you quit drinking you realise that your social circle is primarily people you drink with and you don't necessarily have all that much in common with them. And that was what I struggled with, I became quite introverted and almost agrophobic for a time and I struggle being around d*unks.
I was incredibly lucky to meet my partner who rarely drinks as I doubt I could be in and relations hip with someone that drinks a lot. I can go months without a drink at all now and even when I do have a d*unk it's rarely more than 1 or 2 pints and I feel so much better for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I rarely drink these days.
Had a mad few years living with friends in a city centre and lived for the party. One night, after drinking way too much I upset a really good friend, and I stopped drinking to excess.
I have a few when I'm away for work, but when I'm home, the missus drinks enough for both of us |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never been a big drinker and I very rarely drink now, maybe had four drinks so far in 2019. I've never liked the feeling of being d*unk and losing control because of it.
I work in a hotel so drinking is kind of the culture with the people I work with. If I go out on a staff do, I might have a couple but then I stick to soft drinks. Everyone I work with accepts that's just the way I am. When one of my managers came back from his holiday recently, he talked to pretty much else about how much he drank and that but he didn't with me as he knows I'm not a drinker, which was respectful of him. |
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I'm a very rare drinker (a couple of times a year at most). I feel no need, and I take a medication where the effects can be unpleasant. It gives me the leeaay to be able to fit in when I need to (or things like Christmas where I might want to), but most of the time I just order a sparkling water or something. Most people don't comment, those who do tend to take "medication interaction" fairly well, and those who don't I tend to avoid. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Not d*unk since I was 25 I'm now in my 40s it got to the stage where I was drinking excessive amounts every day I woke up one morning still dressed and covered in my vomit and I looked in the mirror and said that's it no more I'm now much happier having a coffee or a and often splash out for a Costa coffee I know lavish lifestyle |
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I rarely drink more than one or two units a year. I don’t like the sensation of being d*unk - it makes me feel ill and I don’t like the lack of good sense I exhibit when under the influence. Don’t touch drugs for the same reason. I’m not a particularly controlling person - I can get quite high enough on excessive sugar intake! |
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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago
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I've never really drank a lot. Maybe when I was younger going to night clubs with friends. But even then they would have about 10 drinks to my 3 or 4. I've probably had about 12 drinks this year, usually a wine or a Martini.
What I have never understood is when people go to sporting events or gigs etc they have to have a drink to enjoy it. I always go to see the event and hardly ever drink at these kind of Ithings.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is anyone here teetotal?
If so, why?
Has this always been the case or did you stop at some point?
When you did stop were there are repercussions?
I myself decided to stop at the end of last year and since then have found it inhibiting my social life.
What are your experiences?"
Why does it inhibit your social life? They sell soft drinks too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never really drank a lot. Maybe when I was younger going to night clubs with friends. But even then they would have about 10 drinks to my 3 or 4. I've probably had about 12 drinks this year, usually a wine or a Martini.
What I have never understood is when people go to sporting events or gigs etc they have to have a drink to enjoy it. I always go to see the event and hardly ever drink at these kind of Ithings.
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I wonder that too. Why pay to go see a band but be pissed and not able to enjoy it.  |
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"Is anyone here teetotal?
If so, why?
Has this always been the case or did you stop at some point?
When you did stop were there are repercussions?
I myself decided to stop at the end of last year and since then have found it inhibiting my social life.
What are your experiences?
Why does it inhibit your social life? They sell soft drinks too. "
Some people get up in your face if you're not drinking with them, or only have fun of the intoxicated variety. |
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I see profiles here where they say they don't meet non drinkers because they only like people who know how to have fun. Seems arse backwards to me. I can have fun without mind altering substances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Stopped drinking in 1997 don't miss it don't miss pubs either rather be cycling now.
I must confess though to drinking brake fluid, but I can stop anytime I want |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see profiles here where they say they don't meet non drinkers because they only like people who know how to have fun. Seems arse backwards to me. I can have fun without mind altering substances. "
I agree with this, although I do enjoy a little drink time to time |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I see profiles here where they say they don't meet non drinkers because they only like people who know how to have fun. Seems arse backwards to me. I can have fun without mind altering substances. "
I avoid those types. I assume they want to take advantage of people when they're pissed/ off their head. |
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"I see profiles here where they say they don't meet non drinkers because they only like people who know how to have fun. Seems arse backwards to me. I can have fun without mind altering substances.
I avoid those types. I assume they want to take advantage of people when they're pissed/ off their head. "
Or they swing pissed, which in my experience leads to stupid decisions and drama. |
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"Is anyone here teetotal?
If so, why?
Has this always been the case or did you stop at some point?
When you did stop were there are repercussions?
I myself decided to stop at the end of last year and since then have found it inhibiting my social life.
What are your experiences?
Why does it inhibit your social life? They sell soft drinks too. "
I've had periods of not drinking and it does make some drinkers uncomfortable.
Also most soft drinks are sugar laden shite, considering the number of low sugar/sugar free drinks available most bars still only seem to do diet cola or occasional diet lemo. Pricewise it irks me that some bars will charge the same for a pint of lime and soda as they do for a pint of beer.
It is changing a bit now tho, compared to 5 years ago but in some bars it can still be hard work .
I was in Norway 10 years ago when I was pregnant, and they had a fantastic choice of alcohol free beers, all styles, that actually tasted good.
We are way behind that. |
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By *arbellsWoman
over a year ago
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I'm not teetotal but only drink 1-2 drinks every couple of months. I started getting in to fitness/weightlifting and quit smoking and don't miss drinking every weekend.
It's crap you have to explain it to people though. |
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I still like a drink I admit that, just not Stella .
It depends on how alcohol affects an individual, some get nasty/angry/violent, some get giggly , or , like me, just chilled because I never drink to get pissed any more, my hangovers would last a week nowadays . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My partner and I very rarely drink even on nights out. We both stopped 7 years ago when we found out we were going to be parents for the first time and never really started again. We dont find it causes problems socially because one of us tends to then be designated driver which allows everyone else to enjoy their night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is going to be a tee totaler from now on! have had a couple of bad experiences now through drink *like losing things* the latest was Saturday I lost my shoes from the Friday night which meant I had to walk through a town bare footed @ half 7 in the morning then wait for the shops to open to buy a new pair of shoes it wernt my finest hour + ppl around looking at my feet never again!!! But I really do think you got to have a low point to learn from it & I certainly have now  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We are both teetotal, have been for years. Neither of us need the 'happy factor' of alcohol to enjoy ourselves, as our personalities allow us to have fun and be fun without artificially altering our character/behaviour. Does it affect our social lives?.....not even slightly. When we go out socially, there are alternatives to alcohol to drink haha. |
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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago
trouble most likely, or creating it :) |
"Is anyone here teetotal?
If so, why?
Has this always been the case or did you stop at some point?
When you did stop were there are repercussions?
I myself decided to stop at the end of last year and since then have found it inhibiting my social life.
What are your experiences?"
I'm not teetotal but I don't really drink. I often go out and don't drink. How does it inhibit your social life? |
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I stopped drinking on boxing day, found myself drinking every day and it was affecting everyday life so needed to get on top of it and cut it out for a while. I've just recently had a drink socially which is alot better than feeling the need to drink every day so I will be keeping a check on it so I don't go back to what I was like before |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I (kitten) finally admitted I had a drink problem last year. It’s been going on for years, started after my dad passed 7 years ago. My ex didn’t care thought is was great to have a drinking buddy. Hubby ( we’ve been together five years) was always concerned. When he started discovering half empty bottles hidden round the house he calmly sat me down and told me it’s him or the booze. Then frog marched my ass down to the nearest A A meeting. He likes to drink too, but he doesn’t have a stopping problem haha. Up side of it is in now seven months clean, we both don’t touch it (he might have a pint of beer once a month if we’re out).
Booze free house and we’ve both lost over a stone .."
Well done on your 7 months I can relate to this having been sober for 4 1/2years now |
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By *s.KerryTV/TS
over a year ago
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I have been teetotal for 20 years now. Why? Mainly following a year or so of depression, and the resultant effects on my family, following a fatal accident. I must admit to being quite paranoid about it now and won't even touch anything 'cooked in wine' etc. It's done me no harm though but I have no problem with those that wish to enjoy the odd 'tipple'  |
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By *annGentMan
over a year ago
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Have been teetotal for about 35 years.
Never liked wine or spirits, and generally drank lager shandy when I went out in my teenage years.
Then halfway down a pint, pushed it to one side and haven't touched the stuff since, having worked out that I don't like the taste of alcohol.
Went through a phase where friends and associates felt the need to find me a drink I'd like as they thought how could I enjoy myself without alcohol 
I have difficulty understanding why some people intentionally go out to get d*unk !
Folk getting tipsy when they're out with friends and there's good food and conversation, I don't have a problem with.
I don't need anything to help me 'enjoy' myself, life does that for me every day |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rarely drink, and if I do it's in real moderation.
I dont particularly like the taste of most beer, cant understand why people force pint after pint down, but do enjoy a summer cider and relax. Plus my experience I'm a prat when d*unk. |
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I have been teetotal since the age of 18. I used to find that half a pint of cider made me lightheaded and I did not like the feeling. I still don't "get" what the attraction of being "under the influence" is. |
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"Is anyone here teetotal?
If so, why?
Has this always been the case or did you stop at some point?
When you did stop were there are repercussions?
I myself decided to stop at the end of last year and since then have found it inhibiting my social life.
What are your experiences?"
It's not that I don't drink at all, it's just rare, and it's usually only one or two. Never really been d*unk in last 4 years, only drink about 3 or 4 times a year.
I usually end up being DD.
A couple of my closest friends also either rarely drink or abstain completely.
I have a great time when out, I have no extortionate taxi fares home, no hangover and I'm not skint 
Tbh the people I hang around with wouldn't dream of pressing me about it or even bringing it up. My decision, non subject.
I had a pal who drank a fair bit and his drinking friends from work didn't react well to his cutting down alcohol. He realised then they were egging him on to drink with them even though he'd said he wasn't. He got new folk to hang with.
You do you OP. |
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drank too much Buckfast as a kid, seen the light and moved on.
It's overrated anyways in my opinion 