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Can men and women ever be just friends?
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes. One of my closest friends is on here and male and I don't even get a glimmer of a clit twitch from him. Which is rare as it doesn't take much for me and he's okay looking and kind of intelligent.
I think that sometimes if you try and be friends with a man it can get misconstrued; you're interested in them or they think they are in with a chance. Sometimes I enjoy waffling to men folk with no desire for more. |
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By *r Moriarty OP Man
over a year ago
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"Yes. One of my closest friends is on here and male and I don't even get a glimmer of a clit twitch from him. Which is rare as it doesn't take much for me and he's okay looking and kind of intelligent.
I think that sometimes if you try and be friends with a man it can get misconstrued; you're interested in them or they think they are in with a chance. Sometimes I enjoy waffling to men folk with no desire for more."
Bet he wants to bone you really |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. One of my closest friends is on here and male and I don't even get a glimmer of a clit twitch from him. Which is rare as it doesn't take much for me and he's okay looking and kind of intelligent.
I think that sometimes if you try and be friends with a man it can get misconstrued; you're interested in them or they think they are in with a chance. Sometimes I enjoy waffling to men folk with no desire for more.
Bet he wants to bone you really"
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"Yes. One of my closest friends is on here and male and I don't even get a glimmer of a clit twitch from him. Which is rare as it doesn't take much for me and he's okay looking and kind of intelligent.
I think that sometimes if you try and be friends with a man it can get misconstrued; you're interested in them or they think they are in with a chance. Sometimes I enjoy waffling to men folk with no desire for more.
Bet he wants to bone you really"
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By *cott73Man
over a year ago
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Of course they can! I had a drink last week with an old friend I've known for years. She's gorgeous, but I've never remotely looked at her in a sexual way before.
She's kind and she makes me laugh, and that's enough for me in any friendship, make or female. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes.
Yes they can.
But I boned her first.
I’m that good 
That's my modus operandi...fuck them first and then be friends  "
That’s not how we started.
Oh wait, 
Dreams... crushed. |
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One of my best friends is a woman, when we were teenagers we briefly kissed one New Year's Eve. Afterwards we looked at each other and both of us knew, we'd always be friends.
She's very much a tomboy and I prefer girly girls, I love her but certainly no sexual attraction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. One of my closest friends is on here and male and I don't even get a glimmer of a clit twitch from him. Which is rare as it doesn't take much for me and he's okay looking and kind of intelligent.
I think that sometimes if you try and be friends with a man it can get misconstrued; you're interested in them or they think they are in with a chance. Sometimes I enjoy waffling to men folk with no desire for more.
Bet he wants to bone you really
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Usually one side would in my experience..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes. One of my closest friends is on here and male and I don't even get a glimmer of a clit twitch from him. Which is rare as it doesn't take much for me and he's okay looking and kind of intelligent.
I think that sometimes if you try and be friends with a man it can get misconstrued; you're interested in them or they think they are in with a chance. Sometimes I enjoy waffling to men folk with no desire for more."
Yep I’ve learned the hard way that on here just because a woman wants to be your friend it doesn’t mean they actually fancy you. |
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By *r Moriarty OP Man
over a year ago
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"I dont know. I think if Im friends with a man I want to bonk him really. At some point at least. And probably most points thereafter. "
Yeah I think that's how I see things too. I probably need to get ugly friends for a change. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Untill a couple of years ago I'd have said not,but having met a lovely lady through another site,we chat on line,meet occasionally,have days & evenings out & enjoy each others company. I do fancy her,but she has an older partner in a care home & I think she feels that she'd be cheeting on him if our relationship developed into a sexual one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes my best friend is mystique never kissed or nuttin just really really good mates we are each others shrinks and backdoors into the mind of the opposite sex shes helped me off many ledges with hrlp from other lady friends who iv not given the fuck of there life to |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely! I have more male friends than female, always have! One of my best friends in the world is a man, there's never been so much as a flirtation, he's my buddy! Also am friends with a couple of my exes and my current partner is my very best friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely! I have lots of male friends with no sexual chemistry or interest. I'm also very good friends with my ex from when I was 18 and we regularly go out for breakfast together or he calls in for a coffee. Not a a flicker or sexual shenanigans in the 20 years since we were together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have more male friends then female. No I haven't fucked any male friends. I wouldn't. Women are more prone to being bitchy, back stabbing and love gossip. In general, men aren't like that. I want a peaceful life, so surround myself with more male friends then female.
I'm a qualified construction manager and qualified carpenter. So I remain professional even on days/nights in the pub.
The lads I used to work with, organised a surprise birthday night out for me. They're top guys and I respect them as friends. One even told me first his partner was expecting their first baby. I went to their wedding and visited baby once she was born.
It's very possible to stay friends and keep it purely as friends. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Absolutely they can - I've had many friends who are ladies both in the past and currently - including some on here who the thought of having sex with them doesn't even enter my head, even though I've seen them naked and they're absolutely gorgeous - they're mates plain and simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes,definitely.
I have a new friend who also happens to be on here. We're not gonna shag, it's not like that.
We spend some time together and he's such a lovely guy. I kind of wish I felt that way about him.
I also get along extremely well with a male work colleague. We have such a laugh at work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes,definitely.
I have a new friend who also happens to be on here. We're not gonna shag, it's not like that.
We spend some time together and he's such a lovely guy. I kind of wish I felt that way about him.
I also get along extremely well with a male work colleague. We have such a laugh at work."
Does he wish you felt that way about him? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes,definitely.
I have a new friend who also happens to be on here. We're not gonna shag, it's not like that.
We spend some time together and he's such a lovely guy. I kind of wish I felt that way about him.
I also get along extremely well with a male work colleague. We have such a laugh at work.
Does he wish you felt that way about him?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes,definitely.
I have a new friend who also happens to be on here. We're not gonna shag, it's not like that.
We spend some time together and he's such a lovely guy. I kind of wish I felt that way about him.
I also get along extremely well with a male work colleague. We have such a laugh at work.
Does he wish you felt that way about him?
Possibly "
I think that is often the dilemma that some men find themselves in. Well I know it’s a dilemma I struggle with. On here it’s frequently not clear. I think clarity helps but the conversation isn’t easy. I work on the premise now that women aren’t interested in me sexually, unless they make it clear. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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To give two very clear and specific examples that we can all relate to - I count both Princess Peach (one half of Exquisite Deviance for those that don't know) and Miss Red as close and personal friends, the type of friends I can turn to with anything, and they me, the fact that that friendship is "virtual" makes not the slightest bit of difference, I consider them as close friends as any of my real life ones, in fact they probably know more about me than some of my real life ones, particularly when it comes to sexuality - I can honestly say the thought of getting naked with either of them doesn't even enter my head - they're my friends, and I don't think of them in that way in the slightest - the fact I have seen both of them exposed and naked in their pics doesn't make the blindest bit of difference either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes,definitely.
I have a new friend who also happens to be on here. We're not gonna shag, it's not like that.
We spend some time together and he's such a lovely guy. I kind of wish I felt that way about him.
I also get along extremely well with a male work colleague. We have such a laugh at work.
Does he wish you felt that way about him?
Possibly
I think that is often the dilemma that some men find themselves in. Well I know it’s a dilemma I struggle with. On here it’s frequently not clear. I think clarity helps but the conversation isn’t easy. I work on the premise now that women aren’t interested in me sexually, unless they make it clear."
He is such a lovely person that I know he wouldn't push his luck. A real gentleman which is one of the reasons I wish I felt differently |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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For sure they can. One of my best friends I’ve known for over 30 yrs. I go stay with him in London for weeks at a time. He takes me out to dinner, the theatre, galleries, gigs, we do all mates stuff together and that’s it then back home to see his missus. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To give two very clear and specific examples that we can all relate to - I count both Princess Peach (one half of Exquisite Deviance for those that don't know) and Miss Red as close and personal friends, the type of friends I can turn to with anything, and they me, the fact that that friendship is "virtual" makes not the slightest bit of difference, I consider them as close friends as any of my real life ones, in fact they probably know more about me than some of my real life ones, particularly when it comes to sexuality - I can honestly say the thought of getting naked with either of them doesn't even enter my head - they're my friends, and I don't think of them in that way in the slightest - the fact I have seen both of them exposed and naked in their pics doesn't make the blindest bit of difference either."
Here here!
I'm gonna give you a kiss when we finally meet but it won't be a slippery tongue one, it will be a big smackeroo on the cheek while I'm giving you a big ole hug and I totally confirm what you say is true.
Friendships can take many forms, and with many different kinds of people. I'm blessed to have wonderful friends in my life, including you.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To give two very clear and specific examples that we can all relate to - I count both Princess Peach (one half of Exquisite Deviance for those that don't know) and Miss Red as close and personal friends, the type of friends I can turn to with anything, and they me, the fact that that friendship is "virtual" makes not the slightest bit of difference, I consider them as close friends as any of my real life ones, in fact they probably know more about me than some of my real life ones, particularly when it comes to sexuality - I can honestly say the thought of getting naked with either of them doesn't even enter my head - they're my friends, and I don't think of them in that way in the slightest - the fact I have seen both of them exposed and naked in their pics doesn't make the blindest bit of difference either.
Here here!
I'm gonna give you a kiss when we finally meet but it won't be a slippery tongue one, it will be a big smackeroo on the cheek while I'm giving you a big ole hug and I totally confirm what you say is true.
Friendships can take many forms, and with many different kinds of people. I'm blessed to have wonderful friends in my life, including you.
P"
In fact, I'm so confident there's no ulterior motive there I'd be happy to drop my drawers, get my poontang out and ask GM to check for stray pubes and hand him the tweezers.
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Yes definitely, my closest friend is a woman who i met when we were teenagers, we have now been best friends for 41 years. We are like brother and sister and i would trust her with my life and have always been there for each other so yes men and women can be friends without being boyfriend and girlfriend or married or just having sex. In my experience friendships can be closer. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I've a lot of female friends, three of my closest friends are women. I've had intimate encounters with some, dated a couple and yes some I'd like to jump their bones. But they're all friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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100%.. One of my best mates is female, been friends half our lifes. She's a good looking girl but I'm not attracted to her because I see her like a little sister. We make a good wingman for each other on a night out. We are actually contemplating breaking our swingers club virginity together, we won't be playing together. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been best friends with a girl for 20 years, thing is I'm now starting to get feelings for her, do I say something to her? I think she feels the same but what if I'm wrong? Don't want to ruin our friendship |
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I've got a male mate, we've been friends for years. We've been on holiday together loads, all the usual stuff you'd do with a mate, works for me.
Hes a good looking lad, but I don't think of him that way. And I wouldn't want to jeopardise the friendship. You can get a shag anywhere, a good friend is much harder to find. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I read in FHM in 1997 that women and men, ladies first, can be friends, but only on Tuesdays.
Any advice on the above?"
Ask her how she feels about the idea of the two of you fucking like foxes. If she doesn't like the idea and asks why do you ask. Say, it was just a joke. I hope the two of you fuck like foxes. Or if by above you meant my post. There's probably copies of FHM from 1997 on eBay. |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I've been best friends with a girl for 20 years, thing is I'm now starting to get feelings for her, do I say something to her? I think she feels the same but what if I'm wrong? Don't want to ruin our friendship"
You could start off the conversation in a way that you are saying if neither of find the perfect partner you could agree to get together when you are 50, or something like that, it starts out as a joke conversation but you never know she might say why wait till we're 50? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm really good friends with a girl in work. She's funny, intelligent, funny, down to earth, and she's smoking hot. I fancy the pants off her but she'll only be my friend, I know it without asking and it doesn't bother me as much as it should because I wouldn't want to be without out her, if you get me lol |
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"Yes. But, at one point they will have considered bedding the other (or at least one of them will have)."
I agree it does always start that way but as the friendship grows that becames more important than just a quick fuck. |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes. But, at one point they will have considered bedding the other (or at least one of them will have).
I agree it does always start that way but as the friendship grows that becames more important than just a quick fuck."
Absolutely. |
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"Not in my experience but then women very rarely seem to want to be my friend anyway so it's not been a problem as such.
faf ladies?"
I have men that are just friends. admittedly I’ve probably shagged them at one point then put them in the friends category after! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes men and women can be friends. Albeit it does depend on circumstances and expectations. Talk about these and one of two things will happen, they don't agree and you both part ways, two, you know where you both stand and start of something special.
End of the day, it's no different men with women then two guy or two ladies. Just knowing where you stand |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yup one of my closest male friends I actually met on here about 5 years ago and we have never fucked and don't intend to. I have many more male friends than females |
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Many close female friends, some will shower and get changed naturally in my presence, no problem they are true friends.. of course some I find attractive and yes have thought of sex, yet the risk of spoiling our friendship not worth it |
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It depends... it must be possible, but I suspect if both are single, and spend time hanging out together then more often than not one or both will secretly fancy the other. Probably mostly the guy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve had loads of great female friends, that remained as friends long after guy friends. I think that as long as there’s no attraction or, if you’d grown up together it’s doable. I also had a fwb for 6 years, we started as friends and it evolved.
So, I guess, yes, yes they can. |
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I am great friends with a woman I work with. She’s someone I know I can for for a pint with or go watch a film and there’s no expectation from either of us for it to be more than friends. Other people assume things are happening but hand on heart nothing like that has remotely ever happened. It’s nice to get a woman’s perspective on things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I thought my man friend was just my friend. Few beers later and he admitted he still wants to fuck me. We've barely spoken for nearly 2 years, with a couple of major fallouts in that time. Weird. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Most definitely yes. My best mate is a man. We are just best friends. Not even shared a kiss
Holly
BUT you said it was ok to lick yer fanny ffs!
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I like a happy face, it means AYE! woohOOOOoooo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I thought my man friend was just my friend. Few beers later and he admitted he still wants to fuck me. We've barely spoken for nearly 2 years, with a couple of major fallouts in that time. Weird."
am happy to be ur pal...if it counts I'll finger ya and never count it as sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, absolutely.
In general I much prefer the company of women to men and I've had many female friends in my life who I've seen as sisters, often we've been comfortable enough to get changed in front of each other without a second thought.
I feel a little sad for people who can't be around the opposite sex without wanting to fuck them.
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Surely it's pretty much like anything else in life - some can, some can't.
Same with being friends with people you've been intimate with - I'd have thought it's entirely down to the individuals involved. |
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