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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've floated between the various forums and their threads for a while now, and one thing I've noticed that makes me laugh the most is the amount of people who make silly "I'm not interested" or ".....is wank/shit/rubbish" type remarks in a thread clearly not aimed at them.
Do some just revel in misery and negativity?
Do you do it? Can you tell me why, or what's the point?
If someone asks how to bake a cake, what's the point of coming in and shouting "cake is disgusting"
If someone asks what's going to happen at the golf, why come in and shout "golf is wank"
You're not adding to the discussion, you're disrupting it, take your misery elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have found that the people that are incessantly negative and argumentative are transferring a certain level of negativity from their lives on to others.
There is a difference between a discussion about differing opinions and throwing out unhelpful comments like “... is wank”. I am all for a discussion on different opinions as long as it is done respectfully and in an adult manner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Probably for a similar reason why you might start a thread on spreading misery. I think the forum is sometimes used as a place to vent some lent up frustration with few consequences except a bit of time on the naughty step if you overstep the rules.
I’m not averse to expressing some frustration in my posts every so often. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think some folk just have to comment on as many threads as possible.
'Has anyone been to x, what did you think?' will inevitably get one or two of the most prolific posters come along and say 'never been'. It's always struck me as pointless |
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"I've floated between the various forums and their threads for a while now, and one thing I've noticed that makes me laugh the most is the amount of people who make silly "I'm not interested" or ".....is wank/shit/rubbish" type remarks in a thread clearly not aimed at them.
Do some just revel in misery and negativity?
Do you do it? Can you tell me why, or what's the point?
If someone asks how to bake a cake, what's the point of coming in and shouting "cake is disgusting"
If someone asks what's going to happen at the golf, why come in and shout "golf is wank"
You're not adding to the discussion, you're disrupting it, take your misery elsewhere. "
Always happens in the various BBW threads. The usual suspects come along and add an insult, upset a few people and then leave. I try my best to just ignore them and avoid the threads they make now. They dress it up as 'just their opinion' or 'creating debate', but it's just childish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Probably for a similar reason why you might start a thread on spreading misery. I think the forum is sometimes used as a place to vent some lent up frustration with few consequences except a bit of time on the naughty step if you overstep the rules.
I’m not averse to expressing some frustration in my posts every so often."
I agree  on occasions there’s certain irony that runs thorough the forums. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I have no problem with negativity, so long as it's balanced and reasoned negativity but when it's a simple one line presented as fact then I don't see the point - as with any internet forum though there will always be those who like the sound of their own voice and want it to be heard and will say the most ridiculous things for effect and reaction. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've floated between the various forums and their threads for a while now, and one thing I've noticed that makes me laugh the most is the amount of people who make silly "I'm not interested" or ".....is wank/shit/rubbish" type remarks in a thread clearly not aimed at them.
Do some just revel in misery and negativity?
Do you do it? Can you tell me why, or what's the point?
If someone asks how to bake a cake, what's the point of coming in and shouting "cake is disgusting"
If someone asks what's going to happen at the golf, why come in and shout "golf is wank"
You're not adding to the discussion, you're disrupting it, take your misery elsewhere. "
It's a forum isn't the idea of a post that it's for all, if it's meant to be for a particular group or mindset maybe a more specific platform is needed for the debate and an unexpected foray of answers. Maybe someone typing "golf is wank" can be seen to some as funny as cake is to others. I won't list a 101 programmes and comedy sketches that are based around the exact same comedy satire, which your post says is wrong. Which in turn is saying only happy positive cake posts are good, I find no humour in that.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no problem with negativity, so long as it's balanced and reasoned negativity but when it's a simple one line presented as fact then I don't see the point - as with any internet forum though there will always be those who like the sound of their own voice and want it to be heard and will say the most ridiculous things for effect and reaction."
There will also be those that want to write words, have them be read but woe betide anyone has a deferring view or interacts not inline with an OPs post, Nanny stated forums surely not  mods do a grand enough job without it becoming light enough for only cotton wool and sheep. |
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"I have found that the people that are incessantly negative and argumentative are transferring a certain level of negativity from their lives on to others.
There is a difference between a discussion about differing opinions and throwing out unhelpful comments like “... is wank”. I am all for a discussion on different opinions as long as it is done respectfully and in an adult manner. "
This 
On the odd occasion when I do post a thread, I do it to hear both sides of a debate and differing opinions, to have my thoughts provoked and gain deeper perspectives. Having a thread where everyone completely agrees with you would be pointless and boring... But, when someone does offer a voice of dissent, I would expect an articulate and intelligent argument from them, unfortunately that doesn't always happen. I rarely post threads or comments on the Lounge anymore because of one particular troll who started following me from thread to thread making snide comments all because I failed to pay a compliment once. I think some just come on here to take out their frustrations with their own lives on the forums, but don't have a better way of expressing themselves than to say 'what a load of crap' when they disagree with someone's opinion or intent. |
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I like to hear differing options. If someones is being really negative I just leave them to it. It doesnt really bother me. I've never had the troll experience. That must be a difficult one and I'd call them out on it. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I find the posts that just say "yawn" to be very rude and irritating. You wouldn't interrupt a conversation you found boring by yawning in someone's face. "
I agree, same with the "I'll get the popcorn" type posts, I find them quite dismissive and patronising. Just comment on the opening post or don't bother! |
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"I have found that the people that are incessantly negative and argumentative are transferring a certain level of negativity from their lives on to others.
There is a difference between a discussion about differing opinions and throwing out unhelpful comments like “... is wank”. I am all for a discussion on different opinions as long as it is done respectfully and in an adult manner.
This
On the odd occasion when I do post a thread, I do it to hear both sides of a debate and differing opinions, to have my thoughts provoked and gain deeper perspectives. Having a thread where everyone completely agrees with you would be pointless and boring... But, when someone does offer a voice of dissent, I would expect an articulate and intelligent argument from them, unfortunately that doesn't always happen. I rarely post threads or comments on the Lounge anymore because of one particular troll who started following me from thread to thread making snide comments all because I failed to pay a compliment once. I think some just come on here to take out their frustrations with their own lives on the forums, but don't have a better way of expressing themselves than to say 'what a load of crap' when they disagree with someone's opinion or intent."
Not everything has to be a debate though. I think most people are totally aware that the things they like not everyone else may like too as everyone has different tastes. If people post looking for other people who are also into something they are or looking to find out more about a certain style of play then I consider anyone looking to debate whether that type of play is "wrong or gross" is just totally derailing the discussion. Appropriate debate would be people discussing their preferred ways of doing what is being discussed not "fat people are gross" on posts about people who are attracted to BBWs or "your kink is weird and wrong" on someone's post looking for advice about something they're curious about. I see a lot of body shaming and kink shaming on here from people who feel the need to insert their opinion where it is neither wanted or asked for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Not everything has to be a debate though. I think most people are totally aware that the things they like not everyone else may like too as everyone has different tastes. If people post looking for other people who are also into something they are or looking to find out more about a certain style of play then I consider anyone looking to debate whether that type of play is "wrong or gross" is just totally derailing the discussion. Appropriate debate would be people discussing their preferred ways of doing what is being discussed not "fat people are gross" on posts about people who are attracted to BBWs or "your kink is weird and wrong" on someone's post looking for advice about something they're curious about. I see a lot of body shaming and kink shaming on here from people who feel the need to insert their opinion where it is neither wanted or asked for."
I completely agree - relevant discussions are fantastic but to do so in a negative non-constructive way is akin to bullying in the playground.
Body shaming/kink shaming/gender shaming is intolerable in my opinion. It can and does happen to everyone on here, some more than others - it is a pity because this could be such an open and enlightened forum. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I have no problem with negativity, so long as it's balanced and reasoned negativity but when it's a simple one line presented as fact then I don't see the point - as with any internet forum though there will always be those who like the sound of their own voice and want it to be heard and will say the most ridiculous things for effect and reaction.
There will also be those that want to write words, have them be read but woe betide anyone has a deferring view or interacts not inline with an OPs post, Nanny stated forums surely not mods do a grand enough job without it becoming light enough for only cotton wool and sheep."
Which comes back to my point about "reasoned and balanced" throwing derogatory or even negative one liners out is not necessarily stating an opinion, it's being provocative a lot of the time.
If you're going to provide an opinion, negative or positive, at least back it up with the thinking behind it rather than throw a hand grenade and run. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Misery and negativity are default settings for some, me included at times
I think, however, that many come here to escape 'real life'
Sometimes their reaction to their day or an event during that day spills over into their posting
It's easy to respond negatively if your head isn't clear |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really really try hard to be positive here. It's lighthearted fun, but sometimes I get a little annoyed with certain people and may post something negative (must try to hold back).
I've tried so hard over the years to create nice threads and agree, folk who just fill up the thread with crap remarks are a tad annoying.
I did a cheeky thread a while back for a bit of fun and was branded an Attention Seeker. I'm not. Another thread on Community Issues, I was called holier than thou.
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"I have found that the people that are incessantly negative and argumentative are transferring a certain level of negativity from their lives on to others.
There is a difference between a discussion about differing opinions and throwing out unhelpful comments like “... is wank”. I am all for a discussion on different opinions as long as it is done respectfully and in an adult manner.
This
On the odd occasion when I do post a thread, I do it to hear both sides of a debate and differing opinions, to have my thoughts provoked and gain deeper perspectives. Having a thread where everyone completely agrees with you would be pointless and boring... But, when someone does offer a voice of dissent, I would expect an articulate and intelligent argument from them, unfortunately that doesn't always happen. I rarely post threads or comments on the Lounge anymore because of one particular troll who started following me from thread to thread making snide comments all because I failed to pay a compliment once. I think some just come on here to take out their frustrations with their own lives on the forums, but don't have a better way of expressing themselves than to say 'what a load of crap' when they disagree with someone's opinion or intent.
Not everything has to be a debate though. I think most people are totally aware that the things they like not everyone else may like too as everyone has different tastes. If people post looking for other people who are also into something they are or looking to find out more about a certain style of play then I consider anyone looking to debate whether that type of play is "wrong or gross" is just totally derailing the discussion. Appropriate debate would be people discussing their preferred ways of doing what is being discussed not "fat people are gross" on posts about people who are attracted to BBWs or "your kink is weird and wrong" on someone's post looking for advice about something they're curious about. I see a lot of body shaming and kink shaming on here from people who feel the need to insert their opinion where it is neither wanted or asked for."
I agree with you. Shaming isn't pleasant, either for the recipient or for others to see, and posting on a thread about a particular kink or body type using derogatory language or being deliberately insulting isn't taking part in the discussion... It's heckling. Now admittedly some topics, like Watersports for example, will invite a little good humoured piss-taking (yes.. pun intended), but there's a difference between a tongue-in-cheek comment made with a twinkle in the eye, and someone just saying 'ewwwww, you're sick', and I think most of us can appreciate that. Personally, if I find any subject distasteful to me, I don't even read it, let alone comment, but if I'm curious about a topic or about what attracts someone to a particular fetish, I'll participate and ask questions, and hope to gain some fresh insights |
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"I have found that the people that are incessantly negative and argumentative are transferring a certain level of negativity from their lives on to others.
There is a difference between a discussion about differing opinions and throwing out unhelpful comments like “... is wank”. I am all for a discussion on different opinions as long as it is done respectfully and in an adult manner.
This
On the odd occasion when I do post a thread, I do it to hear both sides of a debate and differing opinions, to have my thoughts provoked and gain deeper perspectives. Having a thread where everyone completely agrees with you would be pointless and boring... But, when someone does offer a voice of dissent, I would expect an articulate and intelligent argument from them, unfortunately that doesn't always happen. I rarely post threads or comments on the Lounge anymore because of one particular troll who started following me from thread to thread making snide comments all because I failed to pay a compliment once. I think some just come on here to take out their frustrations with their own lives on the forums, but don't have a better way of expressing themselves than to say 'what a load of crap' when they disagree with someone's opinion or intent.
Not everything has to be a debate though. I think most people are totally aware that the things they like not everyone else may like too as everyone has different tastes. If people post looking for other people who are also into something they are or looking to find out more about a certain style of play then I consider anyone looking to debate whether that type of play is "wrong or gross" is just totally derailing the discussion. Appropriate debate would be people discussing their preferred ways of doing what is being discussed not "fat people are gross" on posts about people who are attracted to BBWs or "your kink is weird and wrong" on someone's post looking for advice about something they're curious about. I see a lot of body shaming and kink shaming on here from people who feel the need to insert their opinion where it is neither wanted or asked for.
I agree with you. Shaming isn't pleasant, either for the recipient or for others to see, and posting on a thread about a particular kink or body type using derogatory language or being deliberately insulting isn't taking part in the discussion... It's heckling. Now admittedly some topics, like Watersports for example, will invite a little good humoured piss-taking (yes.. pun intended), but there's a difference between a tongue-in-cheek comment made with a twinkle in the eye, and someone just saying 'ewwwww, you're sick', and I think most of us can appreciate that. Personally, if I find any subject distasteful to me, I don't even read it, let alone comment, but if I'm curious about a topic or about what attracts someone to a particular fetish, I'll participate and ask questions, and hope to gain some fresh insights "
And that's exactly as it should be. I love seeing a post pop up about something a bit less conventional as the forums can get a little boring at times. It always saddens me when I see nasty comments as I feel it will put people off posting about more niche things in future and we just end up with 101 discussions about blowjobs . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some people are just self important, and just want to be seen. That one comment that is a sentence long is going to stand out against everyone actually joining in on the conversation, either positively or negatively, in a constructive way, because it is short and takes less than a second to read. Maybe they want to provoke a reaction so they can just troll. Best to just ignore it and scroll past |
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"I have found that the people that are incessantly negative and argumentative are transferring a certain level of negativity from their lives on to others.
There is a difference between a discussion about differing opinions and throwing out unhelpful comments like “... is wank”. I am all for a discussion on different opinions as long as it is done respectfully and in an adult manner.
This
On the odd occasion when I do post a thread, I do it to hear both sides of a debate and differing opinions, to have my thoughts provoked and gain deeper perspectives. Having a thread where everyone completely agrees with you would be pointless and boring... But, when someone does offer a voice of dissent, I would expect an articulate and intelligent argument from them, unfortunately that doesn't always happen. I rarely post threads or comments on the Lounge anymore because of one particular troll who started following me from thread to thread making snide comments all because I failed to pay a compliment once. I think some just come on here to take out their frustrations with their own lives on the forums, but don't have a better way of expressing themselves than to say 'what a load of crap' when they disagree with someone's opinion or intent.
Not everything has to be a debate though. I think most people are totally aware that the things they like not everyone else may like too as everyone has different tastes. If people post looking for other people who are also into something they are or looking to find out more about a certain style of play then I consider anyone looking to debate whether that type of play is "wrong or gross" is just totally derailing the discussion. Appropriate debate would be people discussing their preferred ways of doing what is being discussed not "fat people are gross" on posts about people who are attracted to BBWs or "your kink is weird and wrong" on someone's post looking for advice about something they're curious about. I see a lot of body shaming and kink shaming on here from people who feel the need to insert their opinion where it is neither wanted or asked for.
I agree with you. Shaming isn't pleasant, either for the recipient or for others to see, and posting on a thread about a particular kink or body type using derogatory language or being deliberately insulting isn't taking part in the discussion... It's heckling. Now admittedly some topics, like Watersports for example, will invite a little good humoured piss-taking (yes.. pun intended), but there's a difference between a tongue-in-cheek comment made with a twinkle in the eye, and someone just saying 'ewwwww, you're sick', and I think most of us can appreciate that. Personally, if I find any subject distasteful to me, I don't even read it, let alone comment, but if I'm curious about a topic or about what attracts someone to a particular fetish, I'll participate and ask questions, and hope to gain some fresh insights
And that's exactly as it should be. I love seeing a post pop up about something a bit less conventional as the forums can get a little boring at times. It always saddens me when I see nasty comments as I feel it will put people off posting about more niche things in future and we just end up with 101 discussions about blowjobs ."
This for me.
I thought the forum would be a good place to be be heard without prejudice. Sadly it turns out it's not the case.
I am more likely to post on those kind of threads even if it's not my thing just as a way of support. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint. "
And there it is - our annual point we agree on 
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless |
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless "
What's FOMO ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless "
Fuck me sideways. A momentous day |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint. "
No, it's not, just as disagreeing with an opinion or offering counterargument isn't. I think the issue is a little more than just negativity though.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Nothing wrong with a healthy debate or difference of opinion, but I have noticed a few just posting deliberately controversial or nasty posts just aimed to troll a thread or to get round blocks in place from other posters. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Saying you dont like something isn't really spreading misery is it?"
I think it's about how people view the forums.
I think that some see them as an ongoing conversation, in which case then, a verbal interjection of "nah, I don't like that," is socially acceptable and prompts further debate. To others it's a discussion about a specific facet of things, whereby a negative view is less desired.
Either approaches are not mutually exclusive. |
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"I've floated between the various forums and their threads for a while now, and one thing I've noticed that makes me laugh the most is the amount of people who make silly "I'm not interested" or ".....is wank/shit/rubbish" type remarks in a thread clearly not aimed at them.
Do some just revel in misery and negativity?
Do you do it? Can you tell me why, or what's the point?
If someone asks how to bake a cake, what's the point of coming in and shouting "cake is disgusting"
If someone asks what's going to happen at the golf, why come in and shout "golf is wank"
You're not adding to the discussion, you're disrupting it, take your misery elsewhere. "
I've got no real interest in this subject OP, but i might feel less popular if i don't post on it, even though it's really not relevant to me, and i don't understand it. I also think it's shit and id never do it. In fact i look down on you and people who think like you, just to empower myself. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Nothing wrong with a healthy debate or difference of opinion, but I have noticed a few just posting deliberately controversial or nasty posts just aimed to troll a thread or to get round blocks in place from other posters. "
People posting just to agitate? On the forums? Surely not! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Nothing wrong with a healthy debate or difference of opinion, but I have noticed a few just posting deliberately controversial or nasty posts just aimed to troll a thread or to get round blocks in place from other posters.
People posting just to agitate? On the forums? Surely not! "
Oh surely, yes lol. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
What's FOMO ?"
No idea |
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
What's FOMO ?
No idea "
Fear of missing out |
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"I think some folk just have to comment on as many threads as possible.
'Has anyone been to x, what did you think?' will inevitably get one or two of the most prolific posters come along and say 'never been'. It's always struck me as pointless "
That reminds me of the Amazon questions feature. I've asked a question before and someone answered "I don't know, what are you asking me for? This is a question for the manufacturer." Mine is just one of the many examples I've seen before. People answer as if you were asking them directly! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
Fuck me sideways. A momentous day "
Same time next year? |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
What's FOMO ?
No idea
Fear of missing out"
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
What's FOMO ?
No idea
Fear of missing out
Thank you. I probably should have known that. "
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
Fuck me sideways. A momentous day
Same time next year? "
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I think it’s a lack of self awareness by some very regular posters.
I get the impression they think they’re some sort of forum celebrity who has to keep their profile high. |
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Flippin heck what a thread! This would have been great to continue on the "backlog" and update forum things... but not enough time.
Damn it! For now:
Some do revel in misery and negativity. It's all they do because God forbid other Fabbers are having more fun then they are. Jealousy, chaos, disruption all can be linked in extreme cases.
Or it can be a simple case such as they are having a bad day and venting frustration. We all deal with things in different ways... but "cake is disgusting" huh!? What the... I get we all have different tastes, but come on 
With so many different varieties/ingredients to choose from that is not fair to pick on cake like that! At this point I will add I am one of those that likes pineapple on pizza 
Whoops food topic !!
"Silly" comments...
Friends tend to know about each other if being sarcastic/harmless or just trying to be "funny" but from the outside for floaters it can come across as malarkey. When I used to float between the forums in the beginning I used to think at times what is the point on "silly" posts... then realised on occasions it's just friends being silly together.
Having said that there are those that just enjoy filling up every and any thread with gibberish because that is a "thing" within the threads.
In any case the forums are big enough to enjoy no matter what else is going on at times. They do tend to go through high/low moments though depending on the "mood" of the forumites...
Nice one OP enjoyed reading this and I will float back in sometime for another viewing |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Flippin heck what a thread! This would have been great to continue on the "backlog" and update forum things... but not enough time.
Damn it! For now:
Some do revel in misery and negativity. It's all they do because God forbid other Fabbers are having more fun then they are. Jealousy, chaos, disruption all can be linked in extreme cases.
Or it can be a simple case such as they are having a bad day and venting frustration. We all deal with things in different ways... but "cake is disgusting" huh!? What the... I get we all have different tastes, but come on
With so many different varieties/ingredients to choose from that is not fair to pick on cake like that! At this point I will add I am one of those that likes pineapple on pizza
Whoops food topic !!
"Silly" comments...
Friends tend to know about each other if being sarcastic/harmless or just trying to be "funny" but from the outside for floaters it can come across as malarkey. When I used to float between the forums in the beginning I used to think at times what is the point on "silly" posts... then realised on occasions it's just friends being silly together.
Having said that there are those that just enjoy filling up every and any thread with gibberish because that is a "thing" within the threads.
In any case the forums are big enough to enjoy no matter what else is going on at times. They do tend to go through high/low moments though depending on the "mood" of the forumites...
Nice one OP enjoyed reading this and I will float back in sometime for another viewing "
I disagree with pretty much everything you've written here. |
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"I have no problem with negativity, so long as it's balanced and reasoned negativity but when it's a simple one line presented as fact then I don't see the point - as with any internet forum though there will always be those who like the sound of their own voice and want it to be heard and will say the most ridiculous things for effect and reaction.
There will also be those that want to write words, have them be read but woe betide anyone has a deferring view or interacts not inline with an OPs post, Nanny stated forums surely not mods do a grand enough job without it becoming light enough for only cotton wool and sheep.
Which comes back to my point about "reasoned and balanced" throwing derogatory or even negative one liners out is not necessarily stating an opinion, it's being provocative a lot of the time.
If you're going to provide an opinion, negative or positive, at least back it up with the thinking behind it rather than throw a hand grenade and run."
Well thankfully everybody isn't the same and some function differently to others. I'd go as far to say that this thread is on par with what it is you're voicing complaint or concern with. Let's not mention anything that may cause upset or anger someone who likes to read mills and boon and the beano. If people on forums cause you this much anguish, I dread to think what you're like in public. Tutting and tutting as you walk by with such disdain towards others.
As a few mentioned above if it's not liked move along or comment at the time, there's a million and one things annoy me about Fab, I'd not expect the forum to solve it for me and if I don't like a topic I move to one I do, no point dwelling on what you personally can't change.
I find this is just an exercise in he/she's wrong or right, which in itself is dysfunctional.
Also to elaborate on being provocative or inflammatory, for most it's not possible as the naughty step as punishment isn't worth it, so the forum does get washed and cleansed for the gentle souls every so often. We all have to shug things off it comes with the territory. |
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I must admit there have been loads that have started off well and I was going to comment till I’ve read the derogatory or negative one liners and the then horrible remarks that follow and I’ve avoided the posts. It’s a shame. These comments maybe different if said face to face with a smile and a laugh, but when they’ve been said behind a keyboard with no emotion it feels more like hate and it’s not nice.... just saying
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"I have no problem with negativity, so long as it's balanced and reasoned negativity but when it's a simple one line presented as fact then I don't see the point - as with any internet forum though there will always be those who like the sound of their own voice and want it to be heard and will say the most ridiculous things for effect and reaction.
There will also be those that want to write words, have them be read but woe betide anyone has a deferring view or interacts not inline with an OPs post, Nanny stated forums surely not mods do a grand enough job without it becoming light enough for only cotton wool and sheep.
Which comes back to my point about "reasoned and balanced" throwing derogatory or even negative one liners out is not necessarily stating an opinion, it's being provocative a lot of the time.
If you're going to provide an opinion, negative or positive, at least back it up with the thinking behind it rather than throw a hand grenade and run.
Well thankfully everybody isn't the same and some function differently to others. I'd go as far to say that this thread is on par with what it is you're voicing complaint or concern with. Let's not mention anything that may cause upset or anger someone who likes to read mills and boon and the beano. If people on forums cause you this much anguish, I dread to think what you're like in public. Tutting and tutting as you walk by with such disdain towards others.
As a few mentioned above if it's not liked move along or comment at the time, there's a million and one things annoy me about Fab, I'd not expect the forum to solve it for me and if I don't like a topic I move to one I do, no point dwelling on what you personally can't change.
I find this is just an exercise in he/she's wrong or right, which in itself is dysfunctional.
Also to elaborate on being provocative or inflammatory, for most it's not possible as the naughty step as punishment isn't worth it, so the forum does get washed and cleansed for the gentle souls every so often. We all have to shug things off it comes with the territory."
Eh? Where on earth do you get that I have "complaint or concern", that the "forums cause me this much anguish" or
am "Tutting and tutting as you walk by with such disdain towards others." from?! 
I actually said that I have no issue with those post negatively just suggested that when they do it's better when it's balanced and reasoned - and not just a statement thrown out there provocatively without any reasoning or balance to that statement or opinion - which often happens.
I really couldn't care less how others choose to behave, if that's how they want to be seen then that is entirely their prerogative, however if they are saying something provocative then given that this is an open forum, and by it's very definition a forum is for open debate, then I defend the right of anyone to challenge them with balanced and reasoned opinion and debate in response. |
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"I think some folk just have to comment on as many threads as possible.
'Has anyone been to x, what did you think?' will inevitably get one or two of the most prolific posters come along and say 'never been'. It's always struck me as pointless
That reminds me of the Amazon questions feature. I've asked a question before and someone answered "I don't know, what are you asking me for? This is a question for the manufacturer." Mine is just one of the many examples I've seen before. People answer as if you were asking them directly!"
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint. "
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"I have no problem with negativity, so long as it's balanced and reasoned negativity but when it's a simple one line presented as fact then I don't see the point - as with any internet forum though there will always be those who like the sound of their own voice and want it to be heard and will say the most ridiculous things for effect and reaction.
There will also be those that want to write words, have them be read but woe betide anyone has a deferring view or interacts not inline with an OPs post, Nanny stated forums surely not mods do a grand enough job without it becoming light enough for only cotton wool and sheep.
Which comes back to my point about "reasoned and balanced" throwing derogatory or even negative one liners out is not necessarily stating an opinion, it's being provocative a lot of the time.
If you're going to provide an opinion, negative or positive, at least back it up with the thinking behind it rather than throw a hand grenade and run.
Well thankfully everybody isn't the same and some function differently to others. I'd go as far to say that this thread is on par with what it is you're voicing complaint or concern with. Let's not mention anything that may cause upset or anger someone who likes to read mills and boon and the beano. If people on forums cause you this much anguish, I dread to think what you're like in public. Tutting and tutting as you walk by with such disdain towards others.
As a few mentioned above if it's not liked move along or comment at the time, there's a million and one things annoy me about Fab, I'd not expect the forum to solve it for me and if I don't like a topic I move to one I do, no point dwelling on what you personally can't change.
I find this is just an exercise in he/she's wrong or right, which in itself is dysfunctional.
Also to elaborate on being provocative or inflammatory, for most it's not possible as the naughty step as punishment isn't worth it, so the forum does get washed and cleansed for the gentle souls every so often. We all have to shug things off it comes with the territory.
Eh? Where on earth do you get that I have "complaint or concern", that the "forums cause me this much anguish" or
am "Tutting and tutting as you walk by with such disdain towards others." from?!
I actually said that I have no issue with those post negatively just suggested that when they do it's better when it's balanced and reasoned - and not just a statement thrown out there provocatively without any reasoning or balance to that statement or opinion - which often happens.
I really couldn't care less how others choose to behave, if that's how they want to be seen then that is entirely their prerogative, however if they are saying something provocative then given that this is an open forum, and by it's very definition a forum is for open debate, then I defend the right of anyone to challenge them with balanced and reasoned opinion and debate in response."
I'm not sure how, writing about popcorn is provocative?...although a girl in primary school, did once put a carrot shaped rubber in her nostril. Never was sure of her intentions, maybe you've solved that conundrum. |
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"I'm not sure how, writing about popcorn is provocative?...although a girl in primary school, did once put a carrot shaped rubber in her nostril. Never was sure of her intentions, maybe you've solved that conundrum."
Did I personally suggest writing about popcorn was provocative? I think we all know the kind of comments that are though.
not sure about the girl at school - perhaps she just liked the way it felt |
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"I'm not sure how, writing about popcorn is provocative?...although a girl in primary school, did once put a carrot shaped rubber in her nostril. Never was sure of her intentions, maybe you've solved that conundrum.
Did I personally suggest writing about popcorn was provocative? I think we all know the kind of comments that are though.
not sure about the girl at school - perhaps she just liked the way it felt "
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"Can't help but notice afew of the misery spreaders have commented on the thread already  "
Awwwww no clue who that was, but seen a few UNLOS now... damn! |
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"Flippin heck what a thread! This would have been great to continue on the "backlog" and update forum things... but not enough time.
Damn it! For now:
Some do revel in misery and negativity. It's all they do because God forbid other Fabbers are having more fun then they are. Jealousy, chaos, disruption all can be linked in extreme cases.
Or it can be a simple case such as they are having a bad day and venting frustration. We all deal with things in different ways... but "cake is disgusting" huh!? What the... I get we all have different tastes, but come on
With so many different varieties/ingredients to choose from that is not fair to pick on cake like that! At this point I will add I am one of those that likes pineapple on pizza
Whoops food topic !!
"Silly" comments...
Friends tend to know about each other if being sarcastic/harmless or just trying to be "funny" but from the outside for floaters it can come across as malarkey. When I used to float between the forums in the beginning I used to think at times what is the point on "silly" posts... then realised on occasions it's just friends being silly together.
Having said that there are those that just enjoy filling up every and any thread with gibberish because that is a "thing" within the threads.
In any case the forums are big enough to enjoy no matter what else is going on at times. They do tend to go through high/low moments though depending on the "mood" of the forumites...
Nice one OP enjoyed reading this and I will float back in sometime for another viewing "
Catch up done in forums... well let's say @ 20% that is all it needed and yep...
#Re-confirmed
Oh dear!
I should post in here with more info again because it will be ideal however let me check back if there is a demand for "self explanatory" version of events...
Haha in other words just post 1 or 2 links of threads as examples on what, where, when and how "misery" takes place in forums... but that would mean indirectly "outing" the forumites that create/spread misery... ooooh bless em!
Another time because this is meant to be fun folks. Have a lovely weekend and try not to be grumpy/miserable. Share the love, happiness and hugs. Sun is shining  |
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"I think that many like to comment even though they have nothing to say or anything to contribute. Hence the "I'm not into that" "I'll get the popcorn" "yawn" type of comments. I often wonder if these people feel the need to comment on everything as they're worried we'll forget who they are.
Negativity isn't necessarily a bad thing imo, if it brings a differing viewpoint.
And there it is - our annual point we agree on
Seriously though FOMO can be strong here at times and there are *some* who appear to have to find a way to comment on each and every thread even if the comment is pointless
What's FOMO ?
No idea
Fear of missing out"
Thank you SS. |
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