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Hello my girlfriend can not cum or squirt. She's had a decent amount of partners in the past all different shapes and sizes. She just can't cum. She can't even get off with toys. We've tried nearly everything. Toys and Oral at the same time. Plenty of foreplay. Jackhammer thrusting. Nothing works need some help here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don’t think the jackhammer thrust will do it ! And not every woman squirts so don’t worry about that one , is she on any medication ? And has she ever orgasmed ? |
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Sounds more pycological than anything else
You can be having the best sex in the world but if that nagging voice is in her head then it can effect other things
Have a few drinks - dont make the eveing about sex - go out have fun and relax - things will happen naturually
You dont need a jackhammer!! |
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Not everyone squirts.
I used to think I couldn't until I found people who helped me relax and be confident during sex, and took the time to explore my body, etc.
Some women need psychosexual therapy or medical intervention. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think the harder you try, the less likely it is to happen. If you both think it's a psychological problem contact your GP. there is a drug available in the US - Flibanserin, but not good results so far apparently. |
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Jackhammer thrusting, particularly if one is hung, as the username implies, is counterproductive for many women. The pain I feel, and I know I'm not alone, when someone thumps my cervix, is nauseating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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OP I get that you are concerned that age can't cum but what does it matter about her squirting? Is that for your enjoyment or her satisfaction? Or did you just see it in poem and assume that's what happens in real life too?
I know she said she's never cum bit have you considered that she's saying that to protect your ego and your obsessing over it is the real issue? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Jackhammer thrusting.  
Thats always done the job for me
They need to be going at it like a pneumatic drill though"
Yeh pump the O out of her go at her like your trying to pump up a tire...pump pump pump are you cumming now?....AGAIN! |
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"Jackhammer thrusting.
Thats always done the job for me
They need to be going at it like a pneumatic drill though
Yeh pump the O out of her go at her like your trying to pump up a tire...pump pump pump are you cumming now?....AGAIN!"
Oh god, nothing gets me going like pressure to cum. Haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jackhammer thrusting.
Thats always done the job for me
They need to be going at it like a pneumatic drill though
Yeh pump the O out of her go at her like your trying to pump up a tire...pump pump pump are you cumming now?....AGAIN!
Oh god, nothing gets me going like pressure to cum. Haha. "
Exactly and if anything the reverse can happen I told a guy to stop a few weeks back because he was boring me  the words shot out of my mouth before I could stop myself which was way quicker than any orgasm was going to happen. He wasn't impressed but neither was I hahaha
To the OP...does your girlfriend masturbate and has she climaxed playing with herself?, it may be YOUR need to make her cum that is in fact stopping her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The brain is a beautiful curse
P
And the biggest sexual organ for arousal. Stimulate the mind and most times the body will follow in my experience. "
Indeed, however learning to release the mental blocks, be truly exposed, to let go if you will, can be tremendously difficult to do.
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"PMSL
Has anyone actually looked at this guy's profile AND his "green arrow"? The openers to his threads?
As I said, PMSL."
Fair!
It's still sometimes a valid question. Which I wish more guys would ask. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"PMSL
Has anyone actually looked at this guy's profile AND his "green arrow"? The openers to his threads?
As I said, PMSL."
He's a story teller like the majority just not so clever with it. Deadly combo. |
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So had a look at his profile ... yeah hes an 18 year old straight guy but veris show he hooks up with guys
Also a luke warm review from an older couple
Starting to think she isnt the problem after all |
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"Sounds more pycological than anything else
You can be having the best sex in the world but if that nagging voice is in her head then it can effect other things
Have a few drinks - dont make the eveing about sex - go out have fun and relax - things will happen naturually
You dont need a jackhammer!!"
your wrong!! you do need one!!! well assuming your trying to break up old concrete!!!!!!   |
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By *linyMan
over a year ago
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"The brain is a beautiful curse
P
And the biggest sexual organ for arousal. Stimulate the mind and most times the body will follow in my experience.
Indeed, however learning to release the mental blocks, be truly exposed, to let go if you will, can be tremendously difficult to do.
P"
Very true and to take the time to ensure she’s relaxed and at ease with EVERYTHING. The play partner, the setting/environment, her own body confidence, the other persons attitude, there’s soo many things running through a woman’s mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The opener to his thread "Gf's mum's Used Panties" is quite entertaining. You don't have to be into used panties to appreciate it (I'm not)."
He's 18 let him dream |
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"The opener to his thread "Gf's mum's Used Panties" is quite entertaining. You don't have to be into used panties to appreciate it (I'm not)."
He's posted it on the stories and fantasies section.
It seems at best a little unnecessary to make repeated posts drawing attention to it when it's not really relevant |
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"The opener to his thread "Gf's mum's Used Panties" is quite entertaining. You don't have to be into used panties to appreciate it (I'm not).
He's posted it on the stories and fantasies section.
It seems at best a little unnecessary to make repeated posts drawing attention to it when it's not really relevant"
O.K. Fair enough. I didn't notice it was in the stories and fantasies section. My apologies. |
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By *uciyassMan
over a year ago
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Have you tried Screwfix. You can get a decent hammer drill for about 30 quid and a couple of chisel attachments to get into the right spot. I reckon she will knock quite a few off. Alternatively if that doesn’t work. Give me a call. I’ve a few tricks up my sleeve |
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"OP I get that you are concerned that age can't cum but what does it matter about her squirting? Is that for your enjoyment or her satisfaction? Or did you just see it in poem and assume that's what happens in real life too?
I know she said she's never cum bit have you considered that she's saying that to protect your ego and your obsessing over it is the real issue?"
Nothing worse than having the spotlight put on you and turning something into an issue when it isnt.
Squirting is not cumming dont put that pressure on her aswell. I bet alone in her bedroom with her own fingers she will find what is best to pleasure herself. And not with you breathing through the keyhole at her.
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"Hello my girlfriend can not cum or squirt. She's had a decent amount of partners in the past all different shapes and sizes. She just can't cum. She can't even get off with toys. We've tried nearly everything. Toys and Oral at the same time. Plenty of foreplay. Jackhammer thrusting. Nothing works need some help here."
I didn’t have ny first orgasm until I was 38.
She may need lots more foreplay, massage, relaxation well beforehand. Teasing, works wonders.
Maybe she has the wrong toys. Get a Wand, and the latest toy called a Womaniser. It is unlike any other, as it ‘sucks’. It has different settings, to build up slowly.
Getting in the right mood is important to women, they have to look and feel sexy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can't fun, even on my own. I get closer with others than playing by myself, and with the right people I can get incredibly close but that's it. It makes me feel like a failure which is ridiculous, but people make put like it's your own fault if you cannot get there.
I'm on various medications, have various health problems and I've not had more than one partner I saw regularly so it could be any of these things that stops someone getting there.
Just don't pressure her to cum or make her feel bad about it. If I'm enjoying the sex and getting as close as i can that's good enough for me. |
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"OP I get that you are concerned that age can't cum but what does it matter about her squirting? Is that for your enjoyment or her satisfaction? Or did you just see it in poem and assume that's what happens in real life too?
I know she said she's never cum bit have you considered that she's saying that to protect your ego and your obsessing over it is the real issue?
Nothing worse than having the spotlight put on you and turning something into an issue when it isnt.
Squirting is not cumming dont put that pressure on her aswell. I bet alone in her bedroom with her own fingers she will find what is best to pleasure herself. And not with you breathing through the keyhole at her.
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It might be better than OP trying to breathe through his ears...
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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I would remove the whole 'Cummings aspect from your relationship and just enjoy sexual pleasure . Maybe.if she relaxes past a certain point? She might have stuffin other areas of life putting her off
I feel her pain hardly had any orgasms in my life. |
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"Hello my girlfriend can not cum or squirt. She's had a decent amount of partners in the past all different shapes and sizes. She just can't cum. She can't even get off with toys. We've tried nearly everything. Toys and Oral at the same time. Plenty of foreplay. Jackhammer thrusting. Nothing works need some help here.
I didn’t have ny first orgasm until I was 38.
She may need lots more foreplay, massage, relaxation well beforehand. Teasing, works wonders.
Maybe she has the wrong toys. Get a Wand, and the latest toy called a Womaniser. It is unlike any other, as it ‘sucks’. It has different settings, to build up slowly.
Getting in the right mood is important to women, they have to look and feel sexy.
"
I'd agree re trying a wand. I'd recommend one of the smaller rechargeable ones, like an Andvari, rather than a big mains powered one as they can look a bit scary to a beginner.
(Let her get used to it on her own and see what works for her, rather than using it together and putting more pressure on her.)
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Yeah I dated a 57 yo lady once and she said she had nover cum. She had 3 kids and been with men and been married etc. I'm pretty good at getting a lady to cum but I couldn't even get her off. So yeah, some women just can't do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Stick to making the fellas come it’s much easier
If a guy finds it easier to cum than make me cum, he's doing a bad job. "
or he's getting what he wants |
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Try to take the pressure off a bit. Is she young like yourself? If so she will probably come into her own when the times right. If it has become an issue then that's not going to help.
Self exploration is where I'd go if I was her. |
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If a woman told me she never came, I wouldn't tell her that I will make her, cause I'm greedy anyway, I kiss when I want, I pin her against wall when I want, I have sex with her how and when I want, etc etc
If she doesn't cum then she has passionate sex, making her pussy drip and making her mian with pleasure for an hour until I have a great orgasam. |
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"Sounds more pycological than anything else
You can be having the best sex in the world but if that nagging voice is in her head then it can effect other things
Have a few drinks - dont make the eveing about sex - go out have fun and relax - things will happen naturually
You dont need a jackhammer!!"
relaxation and lack of pressure |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Careful what you wish for. Squirting, Gushing orgasms are a bit like Pringles " Once you pop you can't stop ". Mountains of washing will ensue 
Are you ready for it |
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"Hello my girlfriend can not cum or squirt. She's had a decent amount of partners in the past all different shapes and sizes. She just can't cum. She can't even get off with toys. We've tried nearly everything. Toys and Oral at the same time. Plenty of foreplay. Jackhammer thrusting. Nothing works need some help here."
You need to give her oral for a long time then when she is about to orgasm..rub her labia simultaneously left to right |
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