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We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.
There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.
Do they not realise that? |
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People will always hedge their bets
It's a "don't ask don't get" kind of attitude
You're not the first to mention this sort of thing and sadly won't be the last
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I'm sure, on occasions it must work.
Otherwise, they wouldn't carry on doing it.
Well, you'd like to think they'd have the sense to realise & try something different.
Or an I just being over optimistic |
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The "they" isn't always the same person
It is a slight sweeping generalisation by saying "males" ... as not all do it ... and it's not just men that do it
The number of times we get a "hi" message with nothing else expecting a reply ... effort into messages gets more responses
That mantra that seems to recur on here |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
London |
I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point! "
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options. |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options. "
If you send enough messages, surely someone will respond? I think is the thinking.
It's better than "I know you don't x, but..." no but. I don't x. (usually "you don't meet immediately, but I've got this lovely hotel room and you're very attractive"  ) |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
If you send enough messages, surely someone will respond? I think is the thinking.
It's better than "I know you don't x, but..." no but. I don't x. (usually "you don't meet immediately, but I've got this lovely hotel room and you're very attractive" ) "
But given couples and women will always have multiple options, if you have no pics and no words, there's zero chance of a response.
The scatter gun approach if you have a decent profile is another matter... |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
If you send enough messages, surely someone will respond? I think is the thinking.
It's better than "I know you don't x, but..." no but. I don't x. (usually "you don't meet immediately, but I've got this lovely hotel room and you're very attractive" )
But given couples and women will always have multiple options, if you have no pics and no words, there's zero chance of a response.
The scatter gun approach if you have a decent profile is another matter... "
You know that and I know that. I don't think they do. |
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I used to be a sales rep and no matter how detailed the introduction message it would normally get deleted or just left unread.
The ratio of men to women is so high it’s very hard to even get a response.
I can understand just fishing for a reply before putting time into each message |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.
There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.
Do they not realise that? "
I get at least one of these types of messages daily!
Except mine are all 'in hotel now' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've given up trying to ever second guess what "anyone" may or may not do.
Isn't everyone different, not just a stereotype to be put in a box and condemned out of hand by anothers prejudices OP? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. "
My thoughts as well
Then if you do play along and answer them they are stumped as to what to say next  |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options. "
WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.
we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels. |
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By *ilth500Man
over a year ago
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.
we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.
we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels. "
Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy? |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.
we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.
Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy? "
Depends if we have " playtime". We've had a message today, guy in Southampton hotel tomorrow. We delined as male half working in London tomorrow. If we could of fit him in around work / life then maybe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.
we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.
Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy?
Depends if we have " playtime". We've had a message today, guy in Southampton hotel tomorrow. We delined as male half working in London tomorrow. If we could of fit him in around work / life then maybe. "
And was his profile void of pictures and information? That's what the op is getting at |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think often there’s a thrill in just messaging someone to ask whilst you’re lonely wanking and they likely don’t even expect a reply but anything other than delete is a total win, so there’s nothing to lose by messaging and everything to potentially gain - even a chance to be antagonistic if they get a smart alec response from someone saying no. "
Absolutely! |
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"We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.
There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.
Do they not realise that? "
Haha or send u just a pic of their dick as that is a sure winner |
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"We get quite a few messages from men with no pics and virtually no words in their profile informing us they in a hotel on x date and would we like to join them.
There's literally no point sending such a message as, given, the number of men v couples and women there is zero chance anyone will take them up on the offer.
Do they not realise that?
Haha or send u just a pic of their dick as that is a sure winner"
Is it? Excellent advice... watch you in box    |
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I think it depends on how picky the people are that they message!
I go to clubs a lot - and there are many incredibly attractive women and couples there who, in the heat of the moment and for the pure pleasure of it (I assume) - will have sex with a large number of lucky chaps who I definitely don’t find attractive!
I think swingers fit into more than one category - and for those who are drawn to the attraction of the experience rather than the appearance of the individual (only way I can put it - sorry!) - Then a drink in a hotel bar followed by free nookie in a hotel room is probably a great night out - particularly if hotels aren’t normally in your budget?
Tbh I often wish I wasn’t such a fussy fecker - means I miss out on a lot of potential fun! |
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"Have you not noticed that those men tend to be verified though? It must work at some point!
Not the ones we get messages from!
I literally can't see the point. Surely no one is going to meet someone you know nothing about in a hotel room, when there are any other options.
WE quite often meet single men in hotels rooms. we can't accom. They can, so it's a good option for us. Whats the difference meeting them in a hotel room to a club or doggin? You still know very little about the person in either of these places. Unless you get a full bio from them before hand.
we're only there from the lust of a meet. Not strange to us to meet guys in hotels.
Yeah but do you meet every guy that messages you that has a hotel room? Or just those that take your fancy?
Depends if we have " playtime". We've had a message today, guy in Southampton hotel tomorrow. We delined as male half working in London tomorrow. If we could of fit him in around work / life then maybe.
And was his profile void of pictures and information? That's what the op is getting at"
He's been on 3 weeks 2 veris, face pic on message, good message. A bit on profile.
Thats not really a factor in our play. I fem, went to meet a guy in a hotel on my own as a single. Good profile, lots of good veris, good pics, all current and vaild. He was off his face on drugs when I arrived. Due to this I will not meet again as a single lady.
We took a punt on a chap the other night. Year long account, no veris, not many pics, - no face. Basic write up profile. = great evening, want to meet again.
Profiles don't always have a bearing on the person. We don't even go on what others say. As whats right for one. Might not be right for us. And vise versa.
We're old school swingers. To us it's just lust and sex. |
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