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I can be.
If I've got a goal, something I'm working towards, a deadline, then yes, I am.
Sometimes I have to completly cut distractions out of my life for a while.
But apart from that, then no
I'd do pretty much anything for friends, bend over backwards to help people when I can
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By *ostenosMan
over a year ago
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The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can be selfish at times I think, generally if I know the opposite to that will have a detrimental impact on my mental health/wellbeing.
Moreso though I question if I'm being a cunt, and agree to things I may not want to do,
don't take the "selfish" route and then wish I had!
I wouldn't say I'm self obsessed as such, but I do worry about the impact certain things will have on me, and I do think "what about/have you thought about me?"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant."
Can you imagine that tho? Be realistic in terms of how badly that could end.
If 100 women replied with why they weren't interested and each one had a different reason, the person would end up thinking they had absolutely fuck all going for them or to offer.
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant."
Stuck record! |
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By *ostenosMan
over a year ago
Sowerby Bridge |
"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Can you imagine that tho? Be realistic in terms of how badly that could end.
If 100 women replied with why they weren't interested and each one had a different reason, the person would end up thinking they had absolutely fuck all going for them or to offer.
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100 x 0:30 is 30:00. 30 minutes is not a lot of time to take out of your day even if you do get so many messages a day (which is clearly a lie, by the way) |
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By *ostenosMan
over a year ago
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record! "
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record!
Can't prove me wrong though can you "
Yes
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By *ostenosMan
over a year ago
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record!
Can't prove me wrong though can you
Yes
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can be.
If I've got a goal, something I'm working towards, a deadline, then yes, I am.
Sometimes I have to completly cut distractions out of my life for a while.
But apart from that, then no
I'd do pretty much anything for friends, bend over backwards to help people when I can
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record!
Can't prove me wrong though can you
Yes
Expect you haven't, can't and won't "
Ok. here goes...
My profile clearly states my preferences and reasons I will not reply to some messages.
SO FAR TODAY
I do not find short men attractive, but I've had 52 messages today from men under 5'10
I don't do instant meets, fuck & go's, but I've had 27 offers from men on hotels or looking for a quick fuck this afternoon/evening
I don't accomadate, but I've had 19 men assume, I'll let them into my home, where my children are
Another 15 have included cock pics
17 have included face pics between 9 & 5yrs old
That's 130 men, that have either not read my profile, or ignored it.
I don't owe them anything
I don't need to waste my time reply, saying no thanks, and giving them a reason
However, the 14 men who did send polite messages, had obviously read my profile, and fitted what I am looking for.
Did get a response
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now"
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record!
Can't prove me wrong though can you
Yes
Expect you haven't, can't and won't
Ok. here goes...
My profile clearly states my preferences and reasons I will not reply to some messages.
SO FAR TODAY
I do not find short men attractive, but I've had 52 messages today from men under 5'10
I don't do instant meets, fuck & go's, but I've had 27 offers from men on hotels or looking for a quick fuck this afternoon/evening
I don't accomadate, but I've had 19 men assume, I'll let them into my home, where my children are
Another 15 have included cock pics
17 have included face pics between 9 & 5yrs old
That's 130 men, that have either not read my profile, or ignored it.
I don't owe them anything
I don't need to waste my time reply, saying no thanks, and giving them a reason
However, the 14 men who did send polite messages, had obviously read my profile, and fitted what I am looking for.
Did get a response
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Very well put. Can't argue with those facts lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record!
Can't prove me wrong though can you
Yes
Expect you haven't, can't and won't
Ok. here goes...
My profile clearly states my preferences and reasons I will not reply to some messages.
SO FAR TODAY
I do not find short men attractive, but I've had 52 messages today from men under 5'10
I don't do instant meets, fuck & go's, but I've had 27 offers from men on hotels or looking for a quick fuck this afternoon/evening
I don't accomadate, but I've had 19 men assume, I'll let them into my home, where my children are
Another 15 have included cock pics
17 have included face pics between 9 & 5yrs old
That's 130 men, that have either not read my profile, or ignored it.
I don't owe them anything
I don't need to waste my time reply, saying no thanks, and giving them a reason
However, the 14 men who did send polite messages, had obviously read my profile, and fitted what I am looking for.
Did get a response
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He's gone now |
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq"
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something! "
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something! "
Yea, me, but don't worry, I'll be back again shortly |
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster "
My mental maths leaves Carol Vorderman eating my dust.
However my dyslexic typing takes a lot of bloody editing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster "
Wanna grease my rods? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster
My mental maths leaves Carol Vorderman eating my dust.
However my dyslexic typing takes a lot of bloody editing "
So why are you wasting your time with an abacus then? |
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster
My mental maths leaves Carol Vorderman eating my dust.
However my dyslexic typing takes a lot of bloody editing
So why are you wasting your time with an abacus then? "
I don't have an abacus
You brought abacus into the conversation
I might be a Tall Twat, but I can add up
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would hate to think I'm self obsessed and I wouldn't say I'm selfish but there are times when I put myself first but I think we should all that at times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster
My mental maths leaves Carol Vorderman eating my dust.
However my dyslexic typing takes a lot of bloody editing
So why are you wasting your time with an abacus then?
I don't have an abacus
You brought abacus into the conversation
I might be a Tall Twat, but I can add up
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So now I’m getting the blame for you losing your abacus? Humph Flounces from thread. |
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant."
That's a terrific sense of entitlement you shoulder. If you don't get a reply of yes you expect an explanation as to why?
If the answer is your age or height, that is not anything you can alter so why be so selfish? |
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster
My mental maths leaves Carol Vorderman eating my dust.
However my dyslexic typing takes a lot of bloody editing
So why are you wasting your time with an abacus then?
I don't have an abacus
You brought abacus into the conversation
I might be a Tall Twat, but I can add up
So now I’m getting the blame for you losing your abacus? Humph Flounces from thread. "
Flounce away my sweet, you know I love the way you flick your hair & wiggle your bum |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I think that at certain times everyone has the right to be a little selfish and self possessed for specific reasons. The problem is when this mindset comes to dominate one's actions and attitudes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, to be quite frank I can be both of those things. As a child I was taught to be selfless at all costs. It cost me my mental health and was very close to costing me my life. I've learned to be healthily selfish now, to give and take and to consider the consequences to myself when people want things from me.
When I'm down I'm self-absorbed. I can get stuck on a loop in my head which is difficult to break. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that at certain times everyone has the right to be a little selfish and self possessed for specific reasons. The problem is when this mindset comes to dominate one's actions and attitudes."
this.
Very few are truly altruistic? Have you noticed how many kind hearted folk there are, who make sure people know all their good deeds?
Quietly be a decent person. Those that matter see. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think that at certain times everyone has the right to be a little selfish and self possessed for specific reasons. The problem is when this mindset comes to dominate one's actions and attitudes. this.
Very few are truly altruistic? Have you noticed how many kind hearted folk there are, who make sure people know all their good deeds?
Quietly be a decent person. Those that matter see."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Posts removed. Let's stay on track now
Cant believe you deleted my maths, you know how proud of myself I was?
I'm now rate myself slightly high than Big Shaq
Oh?
While I was away doing my maths.
I obviously missed something!
You need to grease the rods on your abacus so you can do your maths faster
My mental maths leaves Carol Vorderman eating my dust.
However my dyslexic typing takes a lot of bloody editing
So why are you wasting your time with an abacus then?
I don't have an abacus
You brought abacus into the conversation
I might be a Tall Twat, but I can add up
So now I’m getting the blame for you losing your abacus? Humph Flounces from thread.
Flounce away my sweet, you know I love the way you flick your hair & wiggle your bum "
Is it possible to flounce back into a thread? Or just around it and out of it? I’m confused now.  |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"I think that at certain times everyone has the right to be a little selfish and self possessed for specific reasons. The problem is when this mindset comes to dominate one's actions and attitudes. this.
Very few are truly altruistic? Have you noticed how many kind hearted folk there are, who make sure people know all their good deeds?
Quietly be a decent person. Those that matter see.
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I agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant."
We get 100s of messages per day, I would spend all my day writing to people to say why I'm not interested!! I don't want to spend the time on fab messaging the ones I'm not interested in, but speaking to and building up something with the ones I want to meet  doesn't make me self obsessed. It's called time efficiency! |
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"I think that at certain times everyone has the right to be a little selfish and self possessed for specific reasons. The problem is when this mindset comes to dominate one's actions and attitudes. this.
Very few are truly altruistic? Have you noticed how many kind hearted folk there are, who make sure people know all their good deeds?
Quietly be a decent person. Those that matter see.
I agree "
Are good deeds less good because more people know about them. Is the good deed the important thing or the intent behind it? |
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"The vast majority of women on here are, as evidenced by the fact they're too selfish and self centered to take 30 seconds out of their lives to politely state why they aren't interested in someone. If more women on here did that then men who constantly get ignored would be able to know what it is they get ignored for and possibly do something about it. As it stands women expect men to be clairvoyant.
Stuck record! "
It's enough to say thankyou but we are not a match..everyone's self esteem would plummet if we said mmm sorry don't find you attractive... |
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