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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!
Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think. |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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Quite often, once I start I never stop. I’m an excitable conversationalist. I get carried away with shit that I find interesting, go off on tangents. Need taking in hand and keeping on a short rein at times  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think."
I feel like this. Do you never experience the sort of verbal hangover though? You've done one too many words for too long and then you regret it and tell yourself next time you'll only do a couple. Yeaaah maybe just me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think.
I feel like this. Do you never experience the sort of verbal hangover though? You've done one too many words for too long and then you regret it and tell yourself next time you'll only do a couple. Yeaaah maybe just me."
All the time. Why use three words when you can use millions? I’m half Italian so I talk with my hands too....I’ll just shut up now  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I talk a massive amount of absolute gibberish.. if they can translate that and reply in an equally odd way then they're a keeper!! "
Yes! One of my closest friendships from here started because we would only communicate in haikus for a good week or so. Pretension, we are good bedfellows.
I do find it oddly hot if someone can translate my 100 words and succinctly summarise a response though. It's "aww thanks for getting my waffling". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just talk...ask about every day interests, build up a mental picture.
I'm never quite sure how to transition from discussing recent travels to asking if I can tongue poke their bum hole. Seems a little awkward once I've got to know them! |
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I can’t for the life of me do small talk, and I rarely waffle unless they mention something we both have a great interest in then I talk about a million words a minute I am more the sort of person that asks leading questions then will sit back and let you do all the talking instead  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I talk a massive amount of absolute gibberish.. if they can translate that and reply in an equally odd way then they're a keeper!!
Yes! One of my closest friendships from here started because we would only communicate in haikus for a good week or so. Pretension, we are good bedfellows.
I do find it oddly hot if someone can translate my 100 words and succinctly summarise a response though. It's "aww thanks for getting my waffling"."
Totally!! It's like a special skill. I bloody love it!! |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Quite often, once I start I never stop. I’m an excitable conversationalist. I get carried away with shit that I find interesting, go off on tangents. Need taking in hand and keeping on a short rein at times "
I'm taking this - excitable conversationalist. Yes. The more energy I get the more tangents I can find of nonsense. |
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"After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!
Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?
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On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.
This happened recently.
I really wish I hadn't said anything.
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I’ve tended to blurt it out. I think it’s probably quite off-putting thereby reducing any chance of anything sexual happening,"
Oh don't type that. I'm a blurter too and I think sometimes it must be like an icebath for an erection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!
Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?
On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.
This happened recently.
I really wish I hadn't said anything.
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I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On occasion, when I've been really attracted to someone and we're meeting for the first time in a bar, I've become a gibbering idiot.
It's usually when I can tell they are attracted too and probably want me naked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’ve tended to blurt it out. I think it’s probably quite off-putting thereby reducing any chance of anything sexual happening,
Oh don't type that. I'm a blurter too and I think sometimes it must be like an icebath for an erection. "
I’m one of the single biggest causes of vaginal dryness |
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"I’ve got all the conversational direction of Captain Jack Sparrow, out of his face on rum. I don’t think there’s much I won’t or haven’t talked about, but it works for me....I think."
Captain Jack Sparrow on rum...love that..giggling here.
I'm like Pasty ab fab...never know what's going to come out of my mouth. I found I filter myself less and less.
I was pretty guarded at first which is unlike me. I'm pretty open in the real world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh by the way. I’ve enjoyed the conversations with all of you that I’ve had one with that have posted on this thread and actually don’t recognise the self-critical impression you have of your style. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I try and make conversations interesting, going off on a tangent is a good thing.
It’s the only way I can get laid, relying on my looks is hardly going to get me far "
Perhaps I should go off on a tangent or sine or cosine. In fact I could just talk mathematical nonsense, maybe I can get laid that way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Once I get going I talk about everything and anything until I bore them into silence. Little rest and go again with a new hook
There are many messages I wish I could have maybe deleted at times too |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!
Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?
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Sometimes blunt and straight to the point, waffling on happens on the odd occasion, sarcasm can come out too but then over thinking of what I'm saying more often than not, especially when it's through messages |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I love a chat and not just about sex.. but finding a woman who will engage in conversation is much easier said than done.
I sometimes feel I'm being rude messaging women, because I am only adding to all the other messages that they haven't got the time to get through.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It depends on the other person and how they make me feel.
Sometimes I'm quite confident and take control of the chat and can be a bit cheeky and flirty.
Sometimes we just click with our sense of humour and end up just talking louds and laughing
Sometimes there's just something about them that turns me into a shy and mumbling mess. |
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"After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!
Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?
On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.
This happened recently.
I really wish I hadn't said anything.
I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though "
In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"After another bout of my cringe inducing verbal vomit I've been thinking about how we communicate with people you like/want to fuck/fancy (on here/in the "real world"). I think it's fair to say I'm a talker and fuck knows I wish I could delete a few messages!
Are you a blunt, say it in a few words sort? Do you waffle on copiously about everything and nothing? Do you think before you send/say something or do you just allow it to all come tumbling out?
On those rare occasions when I'm bold enough to tell someone I'm physically attracted to them, I'm as clumsy as fuck.
This happened recently.
I really wish I hadn't said anything.
I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though
In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot...... "
Indeed it does. It did make me chortle though |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though
In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot...... "
Being a gibbering idiot is an endearing trait. At least that's what I tell myself. I quite like it when people gibber away at me. It makes me think they like me and can't wait to tell me everything.
The more I fancy someone the worse it gets - I'm thinking I should put a disclaimer on my thread so people know what they are getting in to. I do the regret sending something thing as well. Luckily my good friend laughs a lot and tells me to breathe and bullet point my verbal spaff. I'm better at not gibbering in person.
You'll find someone who understands and finds it endearing soon SB. |
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I’m usually good with the chat and banter away from here. Happy to talk to ladies in pubs and clubs . Even in everyday life I’m happy to chat with people from all walks of life .
I have to in my job as a callout engineer.
To expect a response from someone on here with a few lines of text seems impossible sometimes.
Maybe my age  |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I waffle on but I don’t blurt out whatever I think...not unless I am really annoyed at someone. And I tend to waffle usually after a few drinks when I loosen up."
Ah alcohol,the brilliant social lubricator that it is.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use a dog whistle to encourage the other person to say it for me, like it was their idea...... ......no seriously, I just say whats on my mind, and mostly that's the load of bollocks you see me type in here..... |
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By *eli OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It depends who I am conversing with ...and how animated said person is.
I tend to look for leads of where the conversation is going, either I go with the flow or bail out "
That's the sensible thing to do - follow social cues and not just steam roll in with your words. Sensible is too logical. |
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By *_MariusMan
over a year ago
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"I waffle on but I don’t blurt out whatever I think...not unless I am really annoyed at someone. And I tend to waffle usually after a few drinks when I loosen up.
Ah alcohol,the brilliant social lubricator that it is.
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Too much for my own good sometimes; need it in order to start getting more sexually confident or chatty or even get in the mood to dance. I strive for civilised though, not d*unk. |
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By *eli OP Woman
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"I use a dog whistle to encourage the other person to say it for me, like it was their idea...... ......no seriously, I just say whats on my mind, and mostly that's the load of bollocks you see me type in here..... "
Yes but don't you ever think "ah shitting hell, mebbe they don't want to read/hear that stream of consciousness"? I do want to find one of those dog whistles.  |
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"I know what you mean at think I am more overly verbose than clumsy and a bit too much. It has the same effect by the sounds of it though
In fairness my profile gives enough clues that I'm a gibbering idiot......
Being a gibbering idiot is an endearing trait. At least that's what I tell myself. I quite like it when people gibber away at me. It makes me think they like me and can't wait to tell me everything.
The more I fancy someone the worse it gets - I'm thinking I should put a disclaimer on my thread so people know what they are getting in to. I do the regret sending something thing as well. Luckily my good friend laughs a lot and tells me to breathe and bullet point my verbal spaff. I'm better at not gibbering in person.
You'll find someone who understands and finds it endearing soon SB. "
I live in hope......  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Sometimes I can struggle to think of things to say so conversations can be stilted. Other times I can just click with someone and the conversation just flows easily. If I fancy someone I can struggle to hold a conversation where I don’t come across as a bumbling idiot x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I use a dog whistle to encourage the other person to say it for me, like it was their idea...... ......no seriously, I just say whats on my mind, and mostly that's the load of bollocks you see me type in here.....
Yes but don't you ever think "ah shitting hell, mebbe they don't want to read/hear that stream of consciousness"? I do want to find one of those dog whistles. "
Absolutely! Usually too late..... |
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"Sometimes I can struggle to think of things to say so conversations can be stilted. Other times I can just click with someone and the conversation just flows easily. If I fancy someone I can struggle to hold a conversation where I don’t come across as a bumbling idiot x "
Same. Exactly what I explain on my profile.
People think I'm joking.
Then they meet me and realise it's quite true.
Usually after they're wearing a glass of Red.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I can most definitely waffle on!! Lol.... However it does depend on who I'm talking to. If I'm not getting much back from the other person and the conversation doesn't flow, then I'll just give up as it then becomes too much like hard work!! I do also have a tendency to blurt stuff off but that's usually after too much prosecco!!! 
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