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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
Me too. But I prefer annoyingly happy people than miserable buggars |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Negativity drains me. I love the happy, fun and flirty threads. Plus I like to hear about nice or happy things too x"
Yeah this. You put it better than me  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Negativity drains me. I love the happy, fun and flirty threads. Plus I like to hear about nice or happy things too x"
Me too.. I swear it's a crime on here!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic?
Me too. But I prefer annoyingly happy people than miserable buggars "
Defo!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
Get rid of the negativity always smile regardless! It’s all about fun at the end of the day  |
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"Negativity drains me. I love the happy, fun and flirty threads. Plus I like to hear about nice or happy things too x
Me too.. I swear it's a crime on here!! "
Rise above it. Do peoples opinions who are negative really matter to you? X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Negativity drains me. I love the happy, fun and flirty threads. Plus I like to hear about nice or happy things too x
Me too.. I swear it's a crime on here!!
Rise above it. Do peoples opinions who are negative really matter to you? X"
Nope.. they can crack on I'm happy  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic?
Get rid of the negativity always smile regardless! It’s all about fun at the end of the day "
Exactly |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!). |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The happy LPP is fine as long as it doesn't take over the threads entirely. "
True.. guilty of laughing at stuff too much and doing that sometimes.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Negativity drains me. I love the happy, fun and flirty threads. Plus I like to hear about nice or happy things too x
Me too.. I swear it's a crime on here!!
Rise above it. Do peoples opinions who are negative really matter to you? X
Nope.. they can crack on I'm happy "
I’ve learnt to not let other people’s opinions get to me now. It used to and was the reason for me leaving so often and hiding my veris. I honestly don’t give a toss anymore unless it’s the opinion of someone I care about x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The constant whinging by women about messages who don't set filters do my tits in.
The constant whinging about men by women in general.
Makes me wonder why they stay here.
I sound like a right whinger now |
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
Yes it's to simplistic, why worry about what other people do.
Life's short, be happy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!)."
Totally agree.. I annoy myself.. swift bugger off comment most welcome when I'm in a stupid mood! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads. "
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
Totally agree.. I annoy myself.. swift bugger off comment most welcome when I'm in a stupid mood!"
Just asking, but would you accept a swift bugger off from someone who’s not a forumite? Or would other forumites leap to your defence? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Does it have to be either Happy or Miserable? Isn't there a balanced middle way? "
Totally.. never going to get a complete middle way on a public forum though.. there's always going to be both extremes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely the happy humorous threads....some of the comments and quick one liners you guys come out with can brighten up a boring day and do make me laugh!!
I can't be doing with all the whingey ones... Life is what you make it...if you talk negative and think negative then that's what life is going to keep giving you!!
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
Totally agree.. I annoy myself.. swift bugger off comment most welcome when I'm in a stupid mood!
Just asking, but would you accept a swift bugger off from someone who’s not a forumite? Or would other forumites leap to your defence?"
Course.. it's just a forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think it depends on the context. I do think some go on a
thread hijack. Simpering comments to each other that has nothing to do with the thread. I simply scroll past them. I am also guilty of of being one of those simpering people, but i do try to cut it off, so i dont go overboard. Especially in regards to a thread where I'm not friendly with the OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads.
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any.. "
How many threads do you see get swiftly derailed by the same old chat between the same old people. That’s why people don’t bother starting threads because they feel excluded.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The constant whinging by women about messages who don't set filters do my tits in.
The constant whinging about men by women in general.
Makes me wonder why they stay here.
I sound like a right whinger now "
Ha ha it's the ones that only go into threads they don't like that make me laugh.. literally nothing nice to say on anything.. I just think why bother!? I'd rather have a brew.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it depends on the context. I do think some go on a
thread hijack. Simpering comments to each other that has nothing to do with the thread. I simply scroll past them. I am also guilty of of being one of those simpering people, but i do try to cut it off, so i dont go overboard. Especially in regards to a thread where I'm not friendly with the OP "
Though i will add, it's easy to get carried away when you are on a roll |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads.
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any..
How many threads do you see get swiftly derailed by the same old chat between the same old people. That’s why people don’t bother starting threads because they feel excluded.
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Nobody knows anyone to begin. It's up to everyone to make an effort to get to know people. I chat to everyone in my threads. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like all kinds of threads, if I can help someone with a problem or make them feel better, it does annoy me though that on some threads people comment just for the sake of commenting, a subject they know nothing about etc and they have too say ‘I don’t know I’m not into that’ why fucking comment though! Or ask a question, you answer it and your answer gets over looked because your name isn’t a popular one, that annoys me, does that come under lamp post pissing?
On the whole though, if a thread interests me and I have a view on it, I’ll normally comment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think it depends on the context. I do think some go on a
thread hijack. Simpering comments to each other that has nothing to do with the thread. I simply scroll past them. I am also guilty of of being one of those simpering people, but i do try to cut it off, so i dont go overboard. Especially in regards to a thread where I'm not friendly with the OP
Though i will add, it's easy to get carried away when you are on a roll "
We've all done it.. and it's usually in jest at something daft.. I swear some days it's like committing a crime.. |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads.
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any..
How many threads do you see get swiftly derailed by the same old chat between the same old people. That’s why people don’t bother starting threads because they feel excluded.
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To be honest I do avoid threads where its being taken over and derailed by lamp post pissers, as I just think my comment won't be noticed in amongst the love in. In that way it's a bit annoying. But generally prefer happy folk than miserable gits who post negatively on every thread. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I like all kinds of threads, if I can help someone with a problem or make them feel better, it does annoy me though that on some threads people comment just for the sake of commenting, a subject they know nothing about etc and they have too say ‘I don’t know I’m not into that’ why fucking comment though! Or ask a question, you answer it and your answer gets over looked because your name isn’t a popular one, that annoys me, does that come under lamp post pissing?
On the whole though, if a thread interests me and I have a view on it, I’ll normally comment."
Sometimes it's hard to keep up with every comment if a thread goes a bit crazy.. but yes agree.. I only do threads about stuff I'm interested in chatting about so try to time them so I can read and reply! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I think it depends on the context. I do think some go on a
thread hijack. Simpering comments to each other that has nothing to do with the thread. I simply scroll past them. I am also guilty of of being one of those simpering people, but i do try to cut it off, so i dont go overboard. Especially in regards to a thread where I'm not friendly with the OP
Though i will add, it's easy to get carried away when you are on a roll
We've all done it.. and it's usually in jest at something daft.. I swear some days it's like committing a crime.. "
You are not allowed to be happy! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Definitely the happy humorous threads....some of the comments and quick one liners you guys come out with can brighten up a boring day and do make me laugh!!
I can't be doing with all the whingey ones... Life is what you make it...if you talk negative and think negative then that's what life is going to keep giving you!!
PT x"
Snap.. yes it's sometimes annoying but surely it's better than the whiney threads that acheive nothing... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads.
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any..
How many threads do you see get swiftly derailed by the same old chat between the same old people. That’s why people don’t bother starting threads because they feel excluded.
Nobody knows anyone to begin. It's up to everyone to make an effort to get to know people. I chat to everyone in my threads."
Not everyone can spend the hours getting to know people on the forums. Many have lives off here. Therefore they’re not accepted into the inner circle and generally ignored.
What I’m saying is what’s been repeatedly said time and again by many, but you’re not interested in listening. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads.
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any..
How many threads do you see get swiftly derailed by the same old chat between the same old people. That’s why people don’t bother starting threads because they feel excluded.
To be honest I do avoid threads where its being taken over and derailed by lamp post pissers, as I just think my comment won't be noticed in amongst the love in. In that way it's a bit annoying. But generally prefer happy folk than miserable gits who post negatively on every thread. "
Get that.. when I'm guilty tell me to go away!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The negativity is often born of frustration of the same old, same old taking over the threads.
Simple solution is for people to comment as they choose.. it's an open forum and people moan about lack of threads they like but never start any..
How many threads do you see get swiftly derailed by the same old chat between the same old people. That’s why people don’t bother starting threads because they feel excluded.
Nobody knows anyone to begin. It's up to everyone to make an effort to get to know people. I chat to everyone in my threads.
Not everyone can spend the hours getting to know people on the forums. Many have lives off here. Therefore they’re not accepted into the inner circle and generally ignored.
What I’m saying is what’s been repeatedly said time and again by many, but you’re not interested in listening. "
How patronising.
I have a life Thankyou and am responsible and answerable to myself only. I can count the number of people I talk to regularly on one hand. My threads are inclusive and I'm here to have fun. You may see it differently but that doesn't make it true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!)."
I sometimes don’t even bother joining in with a thread if it’s just the same few people replying back and forth, totally off topic |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
I sometimes don’t even bother joining in with a thread if it’s just the same few people replying back and forth, totally off topic"
If it's someone on here a fair bit would you not drop in a bugger off comment? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
Totally agree.. I annoy myself.. swift bugger off comment most welcome when I'm in a stupid mood!
Just asking, but would you accept a swift bugger off from someone who’s not a forumite? Or would other forumites leap to your defence?"
A report and ban I would expect. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
Totally agree.. I annoy myself.. swift bugger off comment most welcome when I'm in a stupid mood!
Just asking, but would you accept a swift bugger off from someone who’s not a forumite? Or would other forumites leap to your defence?
A report and ban I would expect. "
Good point.. maybe a bugger off codeword... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I usually open the forums when I’m in a good mood, fancy a flirt and a joke. I find that sometimes and it’s pretty fun when I do. However too often the forums themselves make me feel miserable. I try not to comment when that’s the case, go sulk in a corner and come back later.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
I sometimes don’t even bother joining in with a thread if it’s just the same few people replying back and forth, totally off topic
If it's someone on here a fair bit would you not drop in a bugger off comment? "
If it’s my thread then I do, I ask them to get back on topic. I’m usually ignored though |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!)."
This. It's like watching someone else's Facebook ti_eline. Happy is good but it shouldn't be to the exclusion of other people or constant thread killers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
I sometimes don’t even bother joining in with a thread if it’s just the same few people replying back and forth, totally off topic
If it's someone on here a fair bit would you not drop in a bugger off comment?
If it’s my thread then I do, I ask them to get back on topic. I’m usually ignored though "
If people told me to shush I'd be fine with that.. I get carried away laughing and forget where I am..  |
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
I sometimes don’t even bother joining in with a thread if it’s just the same few people replying back and forth, totally off topic
If it's someone on here a fair bit would you not drop in a bugger off comment?
If it’s my thread then I do, I ask them to get back on topic. I’m usually ignored though
If people told me to shush I'd be fine with that.. I get carried away laughing and forget where I am.. "
Too much sex causes amnesia...who knew?!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I usually open the forums when I’m in a good mood, fancy a flirt and a joke. I find that sometimes and it’s pretty fun when I do. However too often the forums themselves make me feel miserable. I try not to comment when that’s the case, go sulk in a corner and come back later.
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I generally come in when I'm giddy so look for laughs.. or I'm thinking too much and want to do a thread for opinions.. do love a good comedy thread! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
I sometimes don’t even bother joining in with a thread if it’s just the same few people replying back and forth, totally off topic
If it's someone on here a fair bit would you not drop in a bugger off comment?
If it’s my thread then I do, I ask them to get back on topic. I’m usually ignored though
If people told me to shush I'd be fine with that.. I get carried away laughing and forget where I am..
Too much sex causes amnesia...who knew?! "
Ha ha It's defo not that!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I enjoy the happy threads generally nowadays - I hung up my twat boots a year or so ago now. Buuuuuuuuut (and this might be a return to twattishness) as much as I do like the loved up couple/lpp stuff, if it takes up multiple threads I do think that can it deter others from joining in on threads because it just reads like a romantic jerking circle has exploded all over the forum. So I prefer the lpp as long as it's not too much (for me anyway!).
This. It's like watching someone else's Facebook ti_eline. Happy is good but it shouldn't be to the exclusion of other people or constant thread killers "
Totally.. think I just find it weird that people don't just say back to the OP.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Genuine point.. if I, or anyone else starts to derail a thread can people just please roll their eyes and simply say back to the OP?!? "
I've done that before and been shot down for not being the forum police, told people can post what they like and then accused of being grumpy. Rather not get involved thanks all the same. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Genuine point.. if I, or anyone else starts to derail a thread can people just please roll their eyes and simply say back to the OP?!?
I've done that before and been shot down for not being the forum police, told people can post what they like and then accused of being grumpy. Rather not get involved thanks all the same. "
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Genuine point.. if I, or anyone else starts to derail a thread can people just please roll their eyes and simply say back to the OP?!? "
some threads get filled quickly and people don't listen so don't think that would work.
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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No it’s not too simplistic Saffron, it’s the right idea in my opinion.
I am happy and I will carry on that way. Mostly I skip past the comments that sound like they could suck the very soul out of you
Ok bit dramatic but I like to feel happy and whilst I understand we can’t all be happy all of the time, there are some right old miseries around at times |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Genuine point.. if I, or anyone else starts to derail a thread can people just please roll their eyes and simply say back to the OP?!? some threads get filled quickly and people don't listen so don't think that would work."
True.. I'd be more than happy with a PM saying shush when I'm annoying though.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No it’s not too simplistic Saffron, it’s the right idea in my opinion.
I am happy and I will carry on that way. Mostly I skip past the comments that sound like they could suck the very soul out of you
Ok bit dramatic but I like to feel happy and whilst I understand we can’t all be happy all of the time, there are some right old miseries around at times "
Aren't there just.. I genuinely have fun on here and when I'm not I hibernate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know I’m not the favourite poster on this thread, but here goes.
There seems to be a lot of underlying resentment in the forums towards the forumites. Those people that pop up on every thread to say their bit and are backed up in anything they say by other forumites. People who, whatever they say, get a free pass. Same thing said by others is jumped upon.
Conversely an unknown poster can say something and be ignored but the same said a little way down by a known poster has people 'spitting their coffee out' in laughter.
Most don’t say anything, but post less leaving the forumites evermore talking amongst themselves.
Yeah, I may have been rude above saying the OP isn’t interested in listening (and I apologise for being rude) however I don’t think the forumites recognise themselves as such and aren’t interested in self reflection on their own actions. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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One persons happy and chatty is another's saccharine and another's LPP. Some will be happy for you, others will resent you for derailing or take your happiness as a personal affront to their misery.
You can't be all things to all people, nor should you try to be.
In the words of Dr Seuss; "those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter." |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I know I’m not the favourite poster on this thread, but here goes.
There seems to be a lot of underlying resentment in the forums towards the forumites. Those people that pop up on every thread to say their bit and are backed up in anything they say by other forumites. People who, whatever they say, get a free pass. Same thing said by others is jumped upon.
Conversely an unknown poster can say something and be ignored but the same said a little way down by a known poster has people 'spitting their coffee out' in laughter.
Most don’t say anything, but post less leaving the forumites evermore talking amongst themselves.
Yeah, I may have been rude above saying the OP isn’t interested in listening (and I apologise for being rude) however I don’t think the forumites recognise themselves as such and aren’t interested in self reflection on their own actions. "
Interesting point, when a few threads were started last week or so for including others, they got jumped all over for being inclusive in a negative sense. And dismissed as being 'too nice'. |
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over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
Nah, I think that's the best way to be. Folk moan about Fab but it's brilliant....imagine how much simpler real life would be if you could log out and walk away or block the arseholes. |
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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago
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I agree with Meli and Scarlet.
It is nice to be happy and yes their are grumpy gits around, but i think respecting the OP’s original post and trying to keep a thread on point is my preference. Not always easy mind (and i’m guilty of a flirt myself - as are we all i daresay).
Some threads derail so badly i actually feel sad for the OP as they’ve gone to the effort of starting the thread and end up ignored.
But then nobody wants to be the moody pants telling folk to reign it in either.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One persons happy and chatty is another's saccharine and another's LPP. Some will be happy for you, others will resent you for derailing or take your happiness as a personal affront to their misery.
You can't be all things to all people, nor should you try to be.
In the words of Dr Seuss; "those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter." "
I appreciate I might be being a thicko here but what’s LPP mean? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"One persons happy and chatty is another's saccharine and another's LPP. Some will be happy for you, others will resent you for derailing or take your happiness as a personal affront to their misery.
You can't be all things to all people, nor should you try to be.
In the words of Dr Seuss; "those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter."
I appreciate I might be being a thicko here but what’s LPP mean?"
Lamppost Pissing |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"One persons happy and chatty is another's saccharine and another's LPP. Some will be happy for you, others will resent you for derailing or take your happiness as a personal affront to their misery.
You can't be all things to all people, nor should you try to be.
In the words of Dr Seuss; "those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter."
I appreciate I might be being a thicko here but what’s LPP mean?"
Lamppost pissing, sorry, I'm being lazy and using acronyms. |
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over a year ago
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"One persons happy and chatty is another's saccharine and another's LPP. Some will be happy for you, others will resent you for derailing or take your happiness as a personal affront to their misery.
You can't be all things to all people, nor should you try to be.
In the words of Dr Seuss; "those that matter don't mind and those that mind don't matter."
I appreciate I might be being a thicko here but what’s LPP mean?
Lamppost pissing, sorry, I'm being lazy and using acronyms. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know I’m not the favourite poster on this thread, but here goes.
There seems to be a lot of underlying resentment in the forums towards the forumites. Those people that pop up on every thread to say their bit and are backed up in anything they say by other forumites. People who, whatever they say, get a free pass. Same thing said by others is jumped upon.
Conversely an unknown poster can say something and be ignored but the same said a little way down by a known poster has people 'spitting their coffee out' in laughter.
Most don’t say anything, but post less leaving the forumites evermore talking amongst themselves.
Yeah, I may have been rude above saying the OP isn’t interested in listening (and I apologise for being rude) however I don’t think the forumites recognise themselves as such and aren’t interested in self reflection on their own actions. "
Apology accepted. Not everyone who posts on the forum does so to exclude others. To label everyone as a 'forumite' in a negative way is wrong. Yes many are friends and chat amongst each other but everyone starts as a stranger and many of us do reply to every comment. New people join in every day and loads of people are welcoming. Not sure who you're referring to as unwelcoming but it's certainly not us all. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I agree with Meli and Scarlet.
It is nice to be happy and yes their are grumpy gits around, but i think respecting the OP’s original post and trying to keep a thread on point is my preference. Not always easy mind (and i’m guilty of a flirt myself - as are we all i daresay).
Some threads derail so badly i actually feel sad for the OP as they’ve gone to the effort of starting the thread and end up ignored.
But then nobody wants to be the moody pants telling folk to reign it in either.
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No, and those that do are often accused of being 'chat keepers' or raining on others fun.
Threads are often derailed and take on a life of their own, I can probably count on one hand the number of threads I've started that have stayed on point throughout. |
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over a year ago
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"I agree with Meli and Scarlet.
It is nice to be happy and yes their are grumpy gits around, but i think respecting the OP’s original post and trying to keep a thread on point is my preference. Not always easy mind (and i’m guilty of a flirt myself - as are we all i daresay).
Some threads derail so badly i actually feel sad for the OP as they’ve gone to the effort of starting the thread and end up ignored.
But then nobody wants to be the moody pants telling folk to reign it in either.
No, and those that do are often accused of being 'chat keepers' or raining on others fun.
Threads are often derailed and take on a life of their own, I can probably count on one hand the number of threads I've started that have stayed on point throughout. "
Kind of the nature of the beast really.. more than happy for people to tell me to shush though! |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I agree with Meli and Scarlet.
It is nice to be happy and yes their are grumpy gits around, but i think respecting the OP’s original post and trying to keep a thread on point is my preference. Not always easy mind (and i’m guilty of a flirt myself - as are we all i daresay).
Some threads derail so badly i actually feel sad for the OP as they’ve gone to the effort of starting the thread and end up ignored.
But then nobody wants to be the moody pants telling folk to reign it in either.
No, and those that do are often accused of being 'chat keepers' or raining on others fun.
Threads are often derailed and take on a life of their own, I can probably count on one hand the number of threads I've started that have stayed on point throughout.
Kind of the nature of the beast really.. more than happy for people to tell me to shush though!"
I think that's a judgement call made on the part of the person getting irritated, if they've posted that before and been jumped on, they may well be reticent to do so again.
I feel a little like I'm contradicting myself here, but ultimately it's not for individual posters to manage others interactions. Yes, be inclusive and self aware but at the same point, to stop enjoying yourself because someone else might feel excluded seems a bit daft. |
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over a year ago
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"I agree with Meli and Scarlet.
It is nice to be happy and yes their are grumpy gits around, but i think respecting the OP’s original post and trying to keep a thread on point is my preference. Not always easy mind (and i’m guilty of a flirt myself - as are we all i daresay).
Some threads derail so badly i actually feel sad for the OP as they’ve gone to the effort of starting the thread and end up ignored.
But then nobody wants to be the moody pants telling folk to reign it in either.
No, and those that do are often accused of being 'chat keepers' or raining on others fun.
Threads are often derailed and take on a life of their own, I can probably count on one hand the number of threads I've started that have stayed on point throughout.
Kind of the nature of the beast really.. more than happy for people to tell me to shush though!
I think that's a judgement call made on the part of the person getting irritated, if they've posted that before and been jumped on, they may well be reticent to do so again.
I feel a little like I'm contradicting myself here, but ultimately it's not for individual posters to manage others interactions. Yes, be inclusive and self aware but at the same point, to stop enjoying yourself because someone else might feel excluded seems a bit daft. "
Exactly.. can't really win.. where's the line? As everyone's here for themselves it's up to the individual to contribute as they like. Just wish stuff didn't get others backs up so easily. If something annoys me I'd much rather just say it or be told.. maybe just how I work.. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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Exactly.. can't really win.. where's the line? As everyone's here for themselves it's up to the individual to contribute as they like. Just wish stuff didn't get others backs up so easily. If something annoys me I'd much rather just say it or be told.. maybe just how I work.. "
No, you can't, which brings me back to Dr Seuss.
I think part of the issue though is looking at others chatting as a homogeneous group, not as individuals going about their forum business. |
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over a year ago
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Exactly.. can't really win.. where's the line? As everyone's here for themselves it's up to the individual to contribute as they like. Just wish stuff didn't get others backs up so easily. If something annoys me I'd much rather just say it or be told.. maybe just how I work..
No, you can't, which brings me back to Dr Seuss.
I think part of the issue though is looking at others chatting as a homogeneous group, not as individuals going about their forum business. "
Exactly that!! It annoys me greatly that people put others into non existsht groups rather than see it for what it is.. a collection of individuals. |
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over a year ago
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I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow. "
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance.. |
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None of the stuff described in the op bothers me. The thing that irritates the crap out of me is really childish playground behaviour though. I can’t give an example without singling out one person so I won’t.
I just try and skip past it without grinding my teeth |
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over a year ago
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"The happy LPP is fine as long as it doesn't take over the threads entirely.
Or they're blatantly doing it to rile up an ex. "
I think people read far too much into stuff on here.. that old 3 sides to every story thing.. |
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over a year ago
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"None of the stuff described in the op bothers me. The thing that irritates the crap out of me is really childish playground behaviour though. I can’t give an example without singling out one person so I won’t.
I just try and skip past it without grinding my teeth "
Plenty of it.. like you say though, easily avoided.. with a spot of muttering under the breath |
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance.. "
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop. |
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over a year ago
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun."
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!! |
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over a year ago
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop. "
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here. |
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun.
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!!"
I love the ones where the OP makes a mistake in the opening post and people just run with it
One sticks in mind where the guy said something about someone shaving their cat or something?! Does anyone know the one I mean?! |
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To be honest after reading all this. It has made me realise that I don’t even think about it at all. I comment sometimes, maybe I hijack threads sometimes. I start threads sometimes. I rarely look at who’s posted. I just comment on what I’m interested in or what makes me laugh. Maybe I should think about it more. Didn’t realise people did. |
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"To be honest after reading all this. It has made me realise that I don’t even think about it at all. I comment sometimes, maybe I hijack threads sometimes. I start threads sometimes. I rarely look at who’s posted. I just comment on what I’m interested in or what makes me laugh. Maybe I should think about it more. Didn’t realise people did. "
There are people at Sydney university pouring over this stuff apparently |
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop.
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here."
It is and it's easy to get drawn into chatting like that without thinking, it's not until the thread hits 175 you realise how much it's just been you and a few others replying back and forth.
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun.
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!!
I love the ones where the OP makes a mistake in the opening post and people just run with it
One sticks in mind where the guy said something about someone shaving their cat or something?! Does anyone know the one I mean?! "
Yes! I think he wanted to say shagging doggy, but said shaving doggy instead  |
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun.
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!!
I love the ones where the OP makes a mistake in the opening post and people just run with it
One sticks in mind where the guy said something about someone shaving their cat or something?! Does anyone know the one I mean?!
Yes! I think he wanted to say shagging doggy, but said shaving doggy instead "
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun.
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!!
I love the ones where the OP makes a mistake in the opening post and people just run with it
One sticks in mind where the guy said something about someone shaving their cat or something?! Does anyone know the one I mean?!
Yes! I think he wanted to say shagging doggy, but said shaving doggy instead "
Was it not about a teacher or something? I have to find it now |
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun.
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!!
I love the ones where the OP makes a mistake in the opening post and people just run with it
One sticks in mind where the guy said something about someone shaving their cat or something?! Does anyone know the one I mean?! "
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"To be honest after reading all this. It has made me realise that I don’t even think about it at all. I comment sometimes, maybe I hijack threads sometimes. I start threads sometimes. I rarely look at who’s posted. I just comment on what I’m interested in or what makes me laugh. Maybe I should think about it more. Didn’t realise people did.
There are people at Sydney university pouring over this stuff apparently "
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm here for fun and frolics.
I generally skip the negative threads.
Positivity and daftness is much more fun.
Do love a daft thread.. or one that just turns daft out of nowhere.. usually derailed but makes your sides hurt with laughter!!
I love the ones where the OP makes a mistake in the opening post and people just run with it
One sticks in mind where the guy said something about someone shaving their cat or something?! Does anyone know the one I mean?!
Yes! I think he wanted to say shagging doggy, but said shaving doggy instead
Was it not about a teacher or something? I have to find it now "
Yes it was, I can't remember what it was called though |
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over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
If people are happy for falling head over heels for each other more power to them and hopefully that feeling will last. Constant and excessive public expressions of it are not my style but who am I to criticize?
People who moan and are miserable about what they're missing out on are projecting their frustrations onto others. Something I wouldn't do and tend to frown upon. |
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic?
If people are happy for falling head over heels for each other more power to them and hopefully that feeling will last. Constant and excessive public expressions of it are not my style but who am I to criticize?
People who moan and are miserable about what they're missing out on are projecting their frustrations onto others. Something I wouldn't do and tend to frown upon."
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic?
If people are happy for falling head over heels for each other more power to them and hopefully that feeling will last. Constant and excessive public expressions of it are not my style but who am I to criticize?
People who moan and are miserable about what they're missing out on are projecting their frustrations onto others. Something I wouldn't do and tend to frown upon.
I’m always protecting my frustrations on to you. Do you frown upon them "
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
Far too simplistic, false dichotomy   |
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"To be honest after reading all this. It has made me realise that I don’t even think about it at all. I comment sometimes, maybe I hijack threads sometimes. I start threads sometimes. I rarely look at who’s posted. I just comment on what I’m interested in or what makes me laugh. Maybe I should think about it more. Didn’t realise people did. "
Ha ha I didn't until something struck me this morning.. then I realised I'm guilty but not in a malicious way.. so yes I need a kick when I'm being a knob.. just think people take everything too seriously!! |
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"To be honest after reading all this. It has made me realise that I don’t even think about it at all. I comment sometimes, maybe I hijack threads sometimes. I start threads sometimes. I rarely look at who’s posted. I just comment on what I’m interested in or what makes me laugh. Maybe I should think about it more. Didn’t realise people did.
Ha ha I didn't until something struck me this morning.. then I realised I'm guilty but not in a malicious way.. so yes I need a kick when I'm being a knob.. just think people take everything too seriously!! "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic?
If people are happy for falling head over heels for each other more power to them and hopefully that feeling will last. Constant and excessive public expressions of it are not my style but who am I to criticize?
People who moan and are miserable about what they're missing out on are projecting their frustrations onto others. Something I wouldn't do and tend to frown upon."
Yeah agreed.. i don't want to annoy people and would personally like to be told when I do.. but think that's far less of an issue than those constantly looking for drama.. |
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"To be honest after reading all this. It has made me realise that I don’t even think about it at all. I comment sometimes, maybe I hijack threads sometimes. I start threads sometimes. I rarely look at who’s posted. I just comment on what I’m interested in or what makes me laugh. Maybe I should think about it more. Didn’t realise people did.
Ha ha I didn't until something struck me this morning.. then I realised I'm guilty but not in a malicious way.. so yes I need a kick when I'm being a knob.. just think people take everything too seriously!!
Can people kick me when I’m being a knob too then! I feel a few kickings coming on! "
kick each other?? Ha ha we are all knobs.. just some more likeable than others. |
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"I know I’m not the favourite poster on this thread, but here goes.
There seems to be a lot of underlying resentment in the forums towards the forumites. Those people that pop up on every thread to say their bit and are backed up in anything they say by other forumites. People who, whatever they say, get a free pass. Same thing said by others is jumped upon.
Conversely an unknown poster can say something and be ignored but the same said a little way down by a known poster has people 'spitting their coffee out' in laughter.
Most don’t say anything, but post less leaving the forumites evermore talking amongst themselves.
Yeah, I may have been rude above saying the OP isn’t interested in listening (and I apologise for being rude) however I don’t think the forumites recognise themselves as such and aren’t interested in self reflection on their own actions. "
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I don't think there's anything wrong with friends having a laugh on here. Sometimes people get looked over on threads, new and regular posters. It happens, post again!! Lol. There are posters who deliberately post nastiness or want drama which I think is worse than a group of friends sometimes getting a bit carried away having a laugh, a joke and a flirt x |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic?
If people are happy for falling head over heels for each other more power to them and hopefully that feeling will last. Constant and excessive public expressions of it are not my style but who am I to criticize?
People who moan and are miserable about what they're missing out on are projecting their frustrations onto others. Something I wouldn't do and tend to frown upon.
I’m always protecting my frustrations on to you. Do you frown upon them
Projecting even "
You're different |
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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago
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"What's more annoying on here?
Seems that some people don't like either..
So what's worse.. disgustingly happy people that take the mick and lamppost pee each other??
Or miserable buggers that go onto threads to moan about what they're not getting??
Personally, I skip past things that don't interest me and comment on stuff that does..
Is that too simplistic? "
Neither, it’s the stupid I can’t tolerate.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't think there's anything wrong with friends having a laugh on here. Sometimes people get looked over on threads, new and regular posters. It happens, post again!! Lol. There are posters who deliberately post nastiness or want drama which I think is worse than a group of friends sometimes getting a bit carried away having a laugh, a joke and a flirt x"
Totally.. intent is important.. lots of threads go awol out of fun.. never intentionally at the expense of others. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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Of course everyone would prefer positivity over negativity - but I happen to think that negativity has it's place too, especially if it's balanced and reasoned and people on all sides are willing to listen and act.
There are times that some of the more saccharine posts that go on, and yes sometimes take over a thread to it's detriment cause me to eye roll and back out of it but those posts have ever been there, and always will be - it's only natural when two people come together on a site like this - just the same as there will always be threads where people spit feathers at one another because they don't see eye to eye and never will.
I'll comment on whatever takes my fancy at any given time though and whilst I enjoy a more cerebral thread that invites opinion and debate, I can also enjoy something light and fluffy like "what toys did you play with as a kid?" as we had yesterday.
The forums are made up by the collective that posts on them - regardless of whether they post on every thread or just once in a blue moon and it's that collective whole that makes them what they are not just individual characters or groups of characters.
To whoever it was that said the "forumites" actions discourage others - everyone is a "forumite" that posts on the forums, yes there are regulars, but in the three years I've been here I've seen so many come and go, and the regulars change so many times that the whole discouragement thing just doesn't hold up in my book.
Yes there will be those that post and get shouted down, and sometimes that will be without justification, but a lot of the time it's because they've offered an opinion that is controversial or offensive or both and the shouting down is wholly justified. |
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"Of course everyone would prefer positivity over negativity - but I happen to think that negativity has it's place too, especially if it's balanced and reasoned and people on all sides are willing to listen and act.
There are times that some of the more saccharine posts that go on, and yes sometimes take over a thread to it's detriment cause me to eye roll and back out of it but those posts have ever been there, and always will be - it's only natural when two people come together on a site like this - just the same as there will always be threads where people spit feathers at one another because they don't see eye to eye and never will.
I'll comment on whatever takes my fancy at any given time though and whilst I enjoy a more cerebral thread that invites opinion and debate, I can also enjoy something light and fluffy like "what toys did you play with as a kid?" as we had yesterday.
The forums are made up by the collective that posts on them - regardless of whether they post on every thread or just once in a blue moon and it's that collective whole that makes them what they are not just individual characters or groups of characters.
To whoever it was that said the "forumites" actions discourage others - everyone is a "forumite" that posts on the forums, yes there are regulars, but in the three years I've been here I've seen so many come and go, and the regulars change so many times that the whole discouragement thing just doesn't hold up in my book.
Yes there will be those that post and get shouted down, and sometimes that will be without justification, but a lot of the time it's because they've offered an opinion that is controversial or offensive or both and the shouting down is wholly justified."
As usual.. it's like Jerry Springers final thought!!
Good job as I'm tired now.. too much thinking and talking doing threads!!! |
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I'm often happy on the forums and if that annoys anyone oh well!
I'm often grumpy on the forums and if that annoys anyone oh well!
My point is we are all only human and I'm myself on the forums some like it, some don't. You can't please all of the people all of the time. |
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop.
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here."
Some appear to be done maliciously. There was one recently where even a mod pointed it out. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Of course everyone would prefer positivity over negativity - but I happen to think that negativity has it's place too, especially if it's balanced and reasoned and people on all sides are willing to listen and act.
There are times that some of the more saccharine posts that go on, and yes sometimes take over a thread to it's detriment cause me to eye roll and back out of it but those posts have ever been there, and always will be - it's only natural when two people come together on a site like this - just the same as there will always be threads where people spit feathers at one another because they don't see eye to eye and never will.
I'll comment on whatever takes my fancy at any given time though and whilst I enjoy a more cerebral thread that invites opinion and debate, I can also enjoy something light and fluffy like "what toys did you play with as a kid?" as we had yesterday.
The forums are made up by the collective that posts on them - regardless of whether they post on every thread or just once in a blue moon and it's that collective whole that makes them what they are not just individual characters or groups of characters.
To whoever it was that said the "forumites" actions discourage others - everyone is a "forumite" that posts on the forums, yes there are regulars, but in the three years I've been here I've seen so many come and go, and the regulars change so many times that the whole discouragement thing just doesn't hold up in my book.
Yes there will be those that post and get shouted down, and sometimes that will be without justification, but a lot of the time it's because they've offered an opinion that is controversial or offensive or both and the shouting down is wholly justified."
I agree with you, I do think that sometimes regular posters feel that this is 'their space' and that their status is higher because they've been around longer and so dislike being challenged.
I recall a poster recently putting someone down with words along the line of 'do you know who I am', which is frankly ridiculous.
We're all people, no matter how long we've been posting for. I guess that tags like 'forum royalty' being bandied around really don't help.
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop.
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here.
Some appear to be done maliciously. There was one recently where even a mod pointed it out. "
Which one? We forget sometimes that no 2 people see all the same posts.. |
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"I'm often happy on the forums and if that annoys anyone oh well!
I'm often grumpy on the forums and if that annoys anyone oh well!
My point is we are all only human and I'm myself on the forums some like it, some don't. You can't please all of the people all of the time. "
Very much so.. and as long as there's no malice that's exactly how it should be. It's when people see things as they're not intended or gets silly x |
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop.
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here.
Some appear to be done maliciously. There was one recently where even a mod pointed it out.
Which one? We forget sometimes that no 2 people see all the same posts.. "
No idea which one, I don't take notes. It was uncomfortable reading but then a mod stepped in.
There must be something in the Fab water lately, lots of people are coupling up. It's really cool. |
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop.
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here.
Some appear to be done maliciously. There was one recently where even a mod pointed it out.
Which one? We forget sometimes that no 2 people see all the same posts..
No idea which one, I don't take notes. It was uncomfortable reading but then a mod stepped in.
There must be something in the Fab water lately, lots of people are coupling up. It's really cool. "
It happens.. it blows over and it's usually borne from something entirely seperate..it's easy to let stuff bother you on here.. then you realise you're only responsible for your own happiness and others don't see the full picture, then you realise it doesn't actually matter.. the rollercoaster that is fab |
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"I don't know why we can't just have both. Plus everything in between.
I'd rather people just were themselves and posted how they feel at the time.
I do agree a bit about the taking over threads with chats that are nothing to do with the OP being a bit unfair but then it would be pretty boring and no one would get to know each other if conversation didn't flow.
Totally.. it'd be nice if people could be nudged back on point without taking offence too.. rather than it becoming annoying to others and leading them to feel excluded.. guess it's hard with a group where some know each other and some don't to find that balance..
I think the only way is for people to be mindful of others when posting. We've all been guilty of it at some stage, getting involved in off topic chat but a bit of respect for the fact it's a forum for everyone and not a chatroom would help. Most people are here to read and comment on specific topics so if you ever find yourself hindering that you should be able to spot it and stop.
True.. does feel more like a chat room sometimes.. think most people are guilty at some point so a reminder that there are OPs is good in general. Don't think most are done maliciously.. it's just the nature of the beast when people become friends on here.
Some appear to be done maliciously. There was one recently where even a mod pointed it out.
Which one? We forget sometimes that no 2 people see all the same posts..
No idea which one, I don't take notes. It was uncomfortable reading but then a mod stepped in.
There must be something in the Fab water lately, lots of people are coupling up. It's really cool.
It happens.. it blows over and it's usually borne from something entirely seperate..it's easy to let stuff bother you on here.. then you realise you're only responsible for your own happiness and others don't see the full picture, then you realise it doesn't actually matter.. the rollercoaster that is fab "
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