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Fuck buddies. This just came up on another thread.
If you have one, is it an open 'relationship' ?
Are you or they upfront about shagging other people?
Do you feel you have a right to know or it's non of your business? |
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No I don't think if it's just fuck buddies they owe me anything but out of respect I would probably tell them if I was planning something..
I guess it would depend at what level. I know some fb that go bare with each other... and I am guessing that is something they both assume is just between them. Not that I'd do that with just a fb but I would expect to know if that wasn't the case.
To be fair I don't really have any luck with th or fwb do not even sure why I'm relying. |
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over a year ago
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"Fuck buddies. This just came up on another thread.
If you have one, is it an open 'relationship' ?
Are you or they upfront about shagging other people?
Do you feel you have a right to know or it's non of your business?"
When I had one, we used to be pretty open about it. Not to the point where every different person we slept with we would tell the other, but when he was over we would chat and just talk about random shit.
Not any of my business, neither of us asked the other what was going on |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
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It's not really any of my business and he doesn't have to tell me.
However I get really turned on hearing about any experiences he may have had.
If I tell him about mine, he just fucks me harder lol. |
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"It's not really any of my business and he doesn't have to tell me.
However I get really turned on hearing about any experiences he may have had.
If I tell him about mine, he just fucks me harder lol. "
I an relate to this |
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By *an_LexaCouple
over a year ago
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I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.
Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.
Lex |
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"I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.
Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.
Lex"
Theres a thread in itself jealousy and fb's. I am not a jealous soul and if I found my head leaning that way I'd rein it back in. |
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"I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.
Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.
Lex"
this is why I say I'm not good with fb. Tried a few recently and all but two regular guys started getting all jealous when I was meeting other people. And basically was like why not just me. |
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"I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.
Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.
Lex this is why I say I'm not good with fb. Tried a few recently and all but two regular guys started getting all jealous when I was meeting other people. And basically was like why not just me. "
I've been there and I didn't like it. I backed off and that was the end of that. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I guess it would depend on the nature of your relationship. How close you were, what sort of stuff you shared, why you shared stuff. Some people don’t like to know, there’s an element of jealousy, others like to know there’s an element of excitement, others couldn’t give a shit.
Every relationship is going to be different and possibly even change over time.
Lex"
 Yep. I don't feel like I am *owed* any particular information from them but out of a combination of things - respect, understanding, mutual sheer nosiness, the sexiness of it and I'd go so far as to say compersion with one, we do. It depends on the third person as well though. Some people don't discuss me with others so I'd feel odd doing so to them. |
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"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.
If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."
Yes...that's why I like to be honest so that others can make an informed choice. |
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I don’t have a FB but those I meet (or plan to) I’m open about my other planned meets. Honesty the only way for me
There are some I have ended up not meeting after being open about plans as they, shall I say, throw their toys out of the pram. |
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"No I don't think if it's just fuck buddies they owe me anything but out of respect I would probably tell them if I was planning something..
I guess it would depend at what level. I know some fb that go bare with each other... and I am guessing that is something they both assume is just between them. Not that I'd do that with just a fb but I would expect to know if that wasn't the case.
To be fair I don't really have any luck with th or fwb do not even sure why I'm relying. "
You might have one but you sound like you know how you would handle it. |
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"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.
If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."
that's a relationship not a fwb though |
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Does having an FWB, fuck buddy make the arrangement exclusive?
Or would that be being in a relationship ?
It depends on what understandings you have between you, you have no "right" to know, but honesty should always prevail |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.
If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table.
Yes...that's why I like to be honest so that others can make an informed choice."
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"Does having an FWB, fuck buddy make the arrangement exclusive?
Or would that be being in a relationship ?
It depends on what understandings you have between you, you have no "right" to know, but honesty should always prevail "
Good question...if you have an exclusive fb does that in itself make a relationship. I dont think so. Unless discussed I'd say a fb 'relationship' is not exclusive. |
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over a year ago
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"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.
If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."
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I have a few fb’s who are good friends and I’m very fond of all of them!
Like me, they’re 100% reliable and when we say we’re meeting - we meet! Don’t see them often due to distance though sadly!
One of them I bareback with! We trust each other to know that we’re ‘safe sex’ with others and sand each other the results when we have our regular check ups!
I fully expect them all to sleep with other people! I’m not exclusive so it would be most unfair to expect that from them!
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"I have a few fb’s who are good friends and I’m very fond of all of them!
Like me, they’re 100% reliable and when we say we’re meeting - we meet! Don’t see them often due to distance though sadly!
One of them I bareback with! We trust each other to know that we’re ‘safe sex’ with others and sand each other the results when we have our regular check ups!
I fully expect them all to sleep with other people! I’m not exclusive so it would be most unfair to expect that from them!
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This is where I'd like to be at. |
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"I have a few fb’s who are good friends and I’m very fond of all of them!
Like me, they’re 100% reliable and when we say we’re meeting - we meet! Don’t see them often due to distance though sadly!
One of them I bareback with! We trust each other to know that we’re ‘safe sex’ with others and sand each other the results when we have our regular check ups!
I fully expect them all to sleep with other people! I’m not exclusive so it would be most unfair to expect that from them!
This is where I'd like to be at."
It takes a while but it’s worth it when you get there!
Good luck with it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK for me and my fwb it kind of happened with out either of us expecting it but enjoying the ride. Anyway so I choose not to meet other at the moment however he still meets. He informs me of those meets but I don't know who those people are or any details it's purely a curtosy of letting me know he's busy that night.
No he doesn't owe me that but I respect that he is concerned enough about me to be open and let me know |
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I have one. I’m very luck (sorry if that sounds smug). We are both on here. We live an hour away. She’s very busy with her family. We see each other every five or six weeks or so. We see other people. We both know of those others but we don’t rub each other’s noses in it. I’ve met members of her family and her mine. That’s about it in a nutshell. |
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"If i have a FWB then i would hope i would be the only friend they are fucking.
If they want to date or see others then fair enough, tell me, and i’ll take my pussy off the table."
most women keep it in their knickers  |
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My fuck buddies are simply just that. We don’t tend to chat other than arranging the next hook up. The only thing we owe each other is a really good time. It’s taken a while to get the right fit and it works. I’m a lucky lass. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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With my previous we had the understanding we only seen one another... I was quite open about this at the beginning. I want to them to want me as much as I want them (until we get bored with one another that is and I search for the next one and only... For now  ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m upfront with it for health reasons if your shagging around that’s purely the reason I’d want to know if my health is at risk "
That's my only reason for knowing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as we talk about contraception or lack of, I accept I have no real right to know. I'd like to know for kinky reasons I think, and its one way of me not getting to clingy ( I can still howl into my pillow secretly)
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By *wansfeetCouple
over a year ago
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I think that it depends on how you set the rules in the first place. Surely there are different levels and types of fb’s/fwb’s and open relationships. Best to discuss your intentions beforehand or early doors.
Kiki x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To owe you, they'd have had to agree to owe you, in which case they'd owe you. No agreement, nothing owing.... "
Exactly, its about honestly from the beginning. I'm demanding and greedy, I do not share. If its poly rather than mono then I am not for you no point wasting time and move along |
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"To owe you, they'd have had to agree to owe you, in which case they'd owe you. No agreement, nothing owing....
Exactly, its about honestly from the beginning. I'm demanding and greedy, I do not share. If its poly rather than mono then I am not for you no point wasting time and move along "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I don’t think there’s the automatic right to know so I’d have the talk of what our mutual expectations are.
If I was really into someone I’m not sure I’d like them to be meeting others. |
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He's a friend (with benefits), not a monogamous partner. That's how we do things. 