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What is a gentleman?
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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Fabsteroos,
Been musing again!
I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!
My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!
My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?
Thoughts please ?
Bhubaysi |
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"Fabsteroos,
Been musing again!
I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!
My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!
My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?
Thoughts please ?
Bhubaysi "
A gentleman would do all those things with respect to any sex
And a gentleman can most definitely fucking swear when its appropriate
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Someone who checks I'm ok after he's facefucked me/spaffed.
Being slightly more serious; I'd agree with your friend. I like men swearing, I find it shows they are relaxed and comfortable around me. Not putting a facade on. A gentleman to me would be someone who demonstrates respect. But that's really bloody wishy washy. I don't know. I can easily explain actions some have done that show me they are but it's such a personal, subjective term. |
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my partner is a perfect gentlemen.
Puts my coat on for me
stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.
Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.
Lots of other stuff he does as well |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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I don't think there is a definitive list. There is always gentlemanly behaviour.
A gentleman always deals with a lady as an ideal paragon, rather than someone with flaws. He is not necessarily protecting her, he is just trying to prove himself worthy of her affections.
For gentlemanly behaviour I would add the following:
Always takes the side of the pavement nearest the road.
Saying a thing equates to doing the same.
Integrity.
Not requiring obfuscation in their language and dealings. A compliment is a compliment..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fabsteroos,
Been musing again!
I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!
My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!
My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?
Thoughts please ?
I think the above and been treated with some respect. Although I do like a gentleman who opens the door but smacks my bum on the way through x
Bhubaysi "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A gentleman is clean, well mannered, well dressed and well spoken. Probably over 40, he'd also be would be well travelled and had spent at least one night in a brothel. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fabsteroos,
Been musing again!
I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!
My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!
My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?
Thoughts please ?
Bhubaysi "
It's not exclusive a gesture towards ladies, it's good manners and a pleasant demeanor.
Gentleman? Polite, kind, considerate, compassionate and willing to help and be there.
That whole door opening thing fir women? Crikey, I know someone who held a door open for a lady who berated him for being old fashioned and a dinosaur. I hold doors open for people to be polite, not because I think women can't manage without me. |
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"my partner is a perfect gentlemen.
Puts my coat on for me
stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.
Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.
Lots of other stuff he does as well"
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"...Not requiring obfuscation in their language and dealings."
I quite like this part and would agree with that.
Perhaps I'm being really quite stupid (incredibly likely) but do you actually mean a gentleman treats a lady as a flawless, perfect being? Regardless of flaws? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can find the door thing annoying, but I'm well mannered enough to keep it to myself. "
Can I ask why? I hold doors open for anyone and everyone, it's nothing to do with gender. |
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"my partner is a perfect gentlemen.
Puts my coat on for me
stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.
Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.
Lots of other stuff he does as well"
Who puts your coat on for you and who doesn't finish dinner before you????? Wot difference does that make.....wot aload a fuckin nonsins. |
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"I can find the door thing annoying, but I'm well mannered enough to keep it to myself.
Can I ask why? I hold doors open for anyone and everyone, it's nothing to do with gender."
Where it's done for everyone, it's fine. When it's only done to women (particularly when a big fuss is made), it does feel either sexist or like some sort "good guy" performance. |
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"my partner is a perfect gentlemen.
Puts my coat on for me
stands up when i leave the table and when i come back.
Doesnt finish his meal before me takes his pace from me so we finish at the same time.
Lots of other stuff he does as well Who puts your coat on for you and who doesn't finish dinner before you????? Wot difference does that make.....wot aload a fuckin nonsins."
and your a perfect example of what a gentleman isnt. By the way that is etiquette something you obviously know nothing about  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fabsteroos,
Been musing again!
I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!
My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!
My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?
Thoughts please ?
Bhubaysi
It's not exclusive a gesture towards ladies, it's good manners and a pleasant demeanor.
Gentleman? Polite, kind, considerate, compassionate and willing to help and be there.
That whole door opening thing fir women? Crikey, I know someone who held a door open for a lady who berated him for being old fashioned and a dinosaur. I hold doors open for people to be polite, not because I think women can't manage without me."
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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago
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We as a society should be striving to achieve total equality between the sexes, the term gentleman should be considered outdated; it enforces the belief that men are different than ladies, better even and how grateful a woman should feel if this superior being pays for their meal or opens a door for them or, even stands up when they enter a room. This term should be replaced with Gentle Person and we can all show respect and towards each other.
Every time I hear a woman on First Dates complaining that her male date didn't offer to pay for them when they didn't offer to pay for him, I think it's no wonder full equality between the sexes in this country hasn't been achieved. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We as a society should be striving to achieve total equality between the sexes, the term gentleman should be considered outdated; it enforces the belief that men are different than ladies, better even and how grateful a woman should feel if this superior being pays for their meal or opens a door for them or, even stands up when they enter a room. This term should be replaced with Gentle Person and we can all show respect and towards each other.
Every time I hear a woman on First Dates complaining that her male date didn't offer to pay for them when they didn't offer to pay for him, I think it's no wonder full equality between the sexes in this country hasn't been achieved."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Im a traditionalist as a gentleman, always hold doors, give up my seat ect. Most woman like this, ive had one girl recently snap at me saying i can open the door myself. She was 20ish facial pearcings and looked like a corbyn loving protester. I said suit yourself and carried on with my day... unscathed
What bugs me is when people dont say thankyou. |
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"We as a society should be striving to achieve total equality between the sexes, the term gentleman should be considered outdated; it enforces the belief that men are different than ladies, better even and how grateful a woman should feel if this superior being pays for their meal or opens a door for them or, even stands up when they enter a room. This term should be replaced with Gentle Person and we can all show respect and towards each other.
Every time I hear a woman on First Dates complaining that her male date didn't offer to pay for them when they didn't offer to pay for him, I think it's no wonder full equality between the sexes in this country hasn't been achieved."
Fair point but if you look at that from perspective
Man rules the world but woman rules the man
Therefore who accualy rules the world?
Don't get me wrong I think for the same job or task both sexes should be rewarded equally but there are some jobs or tasks more suitable for one sex or the other, obviously there are exceptions |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Thomas Crown Affair,
Steve McQueen gives a very good performance of a gentleman in the popular sense of the term
Also it’s something that you are taught, it’s not something that just happen over night
Hence the term...manners maketh the man!
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I am obviously old fashioned in my thinking....
I find it a huge turn on when guys hold a door open for me.
One guy I met rushed around the side of his car to open the door for me. He wouldn't let me pay for any of my drinks either and even held his arm out for me to walk with him.
I was taught that manners cost nothing.
I enjoy being treated like a lady. In the words of Aretha Franklin.... R. E. S. P. E. C. T |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It is definitely about respect and if a guy was to treat me like that I would feel really special and would treat him in the same way
Of course every gentleman should have a little deviance inside too  |
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By *hubaysi OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I am obviously old fashioned in my thinking....
I find it a huge turn on when guys hold a door open for me.
One guy I met rushed around the side of his car to open the door for me. He wouldn't let me pay for any of my drinks either and even held his arm out for me to walk with him.
I was taught that manners cost nothing.
I enjoy being treated like a lady. In the words of Aretha Franklin.... R. E. S. P. E. C. T"
Can I have this guy’s profile name, PM me....lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am obviously old fashioned in my thinking....
I find it a huge turn on when guys hold a door open for me.
One guy I met rushed around the side of his car to open the door for me. He wouldn't let me pay for any of my drinks either and even held his arm out for me to walk with him.
I was taught that manners cost nothing.
I enjoy being treated like a lady. In the words of Aretha Franklin.... R. E. S. P. E. C. T"
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"Fabsteroos,
Been musing again!
I had a discussion with a non fab member this week about their idea of what a gentleman is......we could not agree!
My idea of one is when they open doors for a lady, use manners, no swearing, ensure they put us in a taxi home....that kind of thing!
My friend says why do women need looking after like that...?
Thoughts please ?
Bhubaysi "
And walks to the outside of the pavement!
Jeez guess your friend has never experienced ‘gentleman’ morals, manners and principles
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Being a gentleman is an attitude towards others that usually involved a charismatic individual so polite, responsibility, a charmer, respect and tactile person.
Also someone with a good social cue, opening doors is just being polite regardless of gender but can also be romantic depending on the relationship. Being a gentleman is having a characteristic that is appreciated by others like myself
So what does being a lady entail? You need a courtesy lady in other to be a true gentleman. Ying and Yang thing affectionate, loving, knowing when to let the man be a man... |
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