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9/10 men ask to come here ..
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you find this ? I just wish more would ask me or us to theres or half costs of hotels .. Just when family around at times never easy here. Couples i find if thay can more willing to meet at theres or hotels . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yeah i get it all the time, ive said a million times it just seems to be a unwritten rule that women accommodate, every time a guy mails me they just assum they can come here but none can accommodate themselves, and i get sick of them saying its nothing to do with my kids who i have at my house like keeping this private from their wifes is more important than my kids, just double standards
Most just have a flipping cheek |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind doing that  meat say your looking for meet at there place 15th , lol "
thats all most guys want, if it involes anything more than getting in a car and setting the sat nav to someones house their brain cant cope lol
soon as i tell guys your not coming here 99% have no interest in meeting |
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Not just that.
My last meet said to me .....
Should I get condoms or have you got some ?
Anyone who thinks that's okay isn't thinking it through.
I'll spare you what I said on the phone. Phone melted though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind doing that meat say your looking for meet at there place 15th , lol "
Your only allowed one meet type option (in the meets and events bit), i'd go halves on a hotel today too!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't mind doing that meat say your looking for meet at there place 15th , lol
thats all most guys want, if it involes anything more than getting in a car and setting the sat nav to someones house their brain cant cope lol
soon as i tell guys your not coming here 99% have no interest in meeting"
I have posted something similar in a thread.
I have no problem with accomodating, but sometimes find that my personal circumstances are 'not condusive' to the lifestyle......... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't mind doing that meat say your looking for meet at there place 15th , lol
thats all most guys want, if it involes anything more than getting in a car and setting the sat nav to someones house their brain cant cope lol
soon as i tell guys your not coming here 99% have no interest in meeting
I have posted something similar in a thread.
I have no problem with accomodating, but sometimes find that my personal circumstances are 'not condusive' to the lifestyle........."
nor would i if i lved alone but i have kids and i just dont think its safe handing out my address to guys off here
Last thing i want is some guys turning up un announced while my kids are in |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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Agree with the OP, yes most do assume and I would guess about 9/10 as you say, even though Im clear on my profile about not accommodating.
I very rarely agree to hotel meets because I find it becomes a longggggg conversation and it rarely actually happens.
And then I get the offer of accommodating in his car.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"we absolutely dont mind having people back to ours.
its getting people to actually agree to a meet in the first place thats dificult lol"
I dont mind having them here .... its just i have to make sure family away .. so if others things on offer like hotel or theres we or i may go ... its just i get loads just wishing to come here all the time .. Rear to be asked to go to theres .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"we absolutely dont mind having people back to ours.
its getting people to actually agree to a meet in the first place thats dificult lol I dont mind having them here .... its just i have to make sure family away .. so if others things on offer like hotel or theres we or i may go ... its just i get loads just wishing to come here all the time .. Rear to be asked to go to theres .."
thats because most single guys on here are married so cant accommodate, which i understand so wouldnt ask, just wish they would show me the same respect |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Agree with the OP, yes most do assume and I would guess about 9/10 as you say, even though Im clear on my profile about not accommodating.
I very rarely agree to hotel meets because I find it becomes a longggggg conversation and it rarely actually happens.
And then I get the offer of accommodating in his car...."
yes i get the car thing too If saying i cant meet here. LOL X  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we absolutely dont mind having people back to ours.
its getting people to actually agree to a meet in the first place thats dificult lol I dont mind having them here .... its just i have to make sure family away .. so if others things on offer like hotel or theres we or i may go ... its just i get loads just wishing to come here all the time .. Rear to be asked to go to theres ..
thats because most single guys on here are married so cant accommodate, which i understand so wouldnt ask, just wish they would show me the same respect "
yes i feel like that too xxx do you think alot who say single are ?? i ask most say thay are not but you never really know do you. xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Agree with the OP, yes most do assume and I would guess about 9/10 as you say, even though Im clear on my profile about not accommodating.
I very rarely agree to hotel meets because I find it becomes a longggggg conversation and it rarely actually happens.
And then I get the offer of accommodating in his car...."
aaaahhh, sex in the car! that brings back memories of my younger days ha! not sure its such a good idea for us older folk tho
tbh meeting at mine is my preference, saves me all the messing around of getting dressed etc, at least i can chill in my pants then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, I have no problems with folks coming to mine. In fact I much prefer it to meeting in hotels - the tea and coffee are better at mine than the complementary crap you get at Travelodge!
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By *enithWoman
over a year ago
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"we absolutely dont mind having people back to ours.
its getting people to actually agree to a meet in the first place thats dificult lol I dont mind having them here .... its just i have to make sure family away .. so if others things on offer like hotel or theres we or i may go ... its just i get loads just wishing to come here all the time .. Rear to be asked to go to theres ..
thats because most single guys on here are married so cant accommodate, which i understand so wouldnt ask, just wish they would show me the same respect yes i feel like that too xxx do you think alot who say single are ?? i ask most say thay are not but you never really know do you. xx"
Think when they cannot accommodate and only meet (at yours) during the day kind of gives an indication that they are married  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"we absolutely dont mind having people back to ours.
its getting people to actually agree to a meet in the first place thats dificult lol I dont mind having them here .... its just i have to make sure family away .. so if others things on offer like hotel or theres we or i may go ... its just i get loads just wishing to come here all the time .. Rear to be asked to go to theres ..
thats because most single guys on here are married so cant accommodate, which i understand so wouldnt ask, just wish they would show me the same respect yes i feel like that too xxx do you think alot who say single are ?? i ask most say thay are not but you never really know do you. xx
Think when they cannot accommodate and only meet (at yours) during the day kind of gives an indication that they are married "
true i meet evenings alot of the time ,Day times not alot .. But your right . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Agree with the OP, yes most do assume and I would guess about 9/10 as you say, even though Im clear on my profile about not accommodating.
I very rarely agree to hotel meets because I find it becomes a longggggg conversation and it rarely actually happens.
And then I get the offer of accommodating in his car....
aaaahhh, sex in the car! that brings back memories of my younger days ha! not sure its such a good idea for us older folk tho
tbh meeting at mine is my preference, saves me all the messing around of getting dressed etc, at least i can chill in my pants then"
WELL i am no good at sex in a car , lol not found it easy ... just all the time looking for police to come around the coner ,  |
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Its the same for me - meant to be single guys that dont accommodate!
I changed my profile recently as i got fed up with all the hard work involved every time i met a single guy.
Dont mind if its an ongoing friendship to accommodate sometimes.
Soon sorts the wheat from the chaff
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Im single and dont accomodate, and im not married!And I can meet evenings! Dont tarnish us all with the same brush, would be like saying single fems that dont accom are married! I dont accom due to living in an appartment with a mate and also one of my best mates lives upstairs as well so would be bit awkward bringing a couple home!
But im more than happy to book a hotel and share costs and have done so! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Im single and dont accomodate, and im not married!And I can meet evenings! Dont tarnish us all with the same brush, would be like saying single fems that dont accom are married! I dont accom due to living in an appartment with a mate and also one of my best mates lives upstairs as well so would be bit awkward bringing a couple home!
But im more than happy to book a hotel and share costs and have done so!"
well thats fine if you do the hotel thing alot dont wish to do that ... so its nice to know you do xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Im single and dont accomodate, and im not married!And I can meet evenings! Dont tarnish us all with the same brush, would be like saying single fems that dont accom are married! I dont accom due to living in an appartment with a mate and also one of my best mates lives upstairs as well so would be bit awkward bringing a couple home!
But im more than happy to book a hotel and share costs and have done so!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i dont judge men on why they dont accommodate, i dont even ask why as its nothing to do wit me, it just pees me off when they dont accommodate yet expect me to |
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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago
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"Im single and dont accomodate, and im not married!And I can meet evenings! Dont tarnish us all with the same brush, would be like saying single fems that dont accom are married! I dont accom due to living in an appartment with a mate and also one of my best mates lives upstairs as well so would be bit awkward bringing a couple home!
But im more than happy to book a hotel and share costs and have done so!"
I actually dont make an assumption that they are married - some are but some arent.
Single guys have as many reasons why they cant or wont acommodate as do single women and thats absolutely fine.
I just concentrate on the ones that match what I am looking for, and pass on the ones that dont.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah I've found the same. In fairness it suits me - means I don't have to find a dog sitter and I feel safer meeting in my own environment.
But I know what you're saying, there's an assumption there from a lot of blokes and does make you wonder. |
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By *PIUM75Man
over a year ago
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For some of us its not about been married but just like he said personal circumstances not been condusive. I am more than happy to share hotel cost on meets & i have done so on a few occasions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"does meeting in a hotel make you feel sleazy though?
almost like, i dunno, if you take someone home (either side) it kind of feels more comfortable, no?"
Depends on who you are meeting tbh. Sometimes a hotel feels sleazy and it feels fucking great! |
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