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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify they are here without the partners knowledge.
Would you?
I have played with a married man in the past just wondering if others would "
Yes. I would |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To clarify they are here without the partners knowledge.
Would you?
I have played with a married man in the past just wondering if others would "
yep still would i feel no guilt at all its not my issue that my penis is more beautiful and useful than his  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I prefer married/attached guys. Never used to meet them then found out a lot lied anyway. The only guy I meet at the moment is attached.
I often get asked why do I prefer it? Well it's for selfish reasons. I'm attached- playing with permission. I prefer to have regular meets with very few people, like at the moment I've chosen to just meet him. I get attached to people quite easily when Im playing with them regular. Meeting a married guy is a safe option as I can be myself with him but know that neither of us are going to want to change ourlives the way they are. At the end of the day we both return to our own partners however close we become together. |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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Try looking at it this way. How would you feel if you are married, someone sleeps with your partner knowing that he is married?? If you can genuinely say that you would not care and not be hurt then maybe that is your answer. However if you think that her actions in anyway would hurt you... Then you should not do it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No - but more so because it could just be problematic or cause issues which I couldn’t be arsed with.
The reason for being here is to have non problematic sex with others - Completely NSA means no strings attached - and a partner that is unaware and being cheated on with the potential to find out is still a string, and one I’d rather not pull on. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a married couple we’d both say don’t do it... but on the other hand, as a pair of horny buggers we’d not think twice about being with married/attached lady’s and in fact we find those are predominantly our best meets.
So, yeah, we’re total hypocrites 
Do whatever makes you happy. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I've done it in the past and I'd do it again. They're adults, I'm not in the habit of making morality/judgement calls for other people. They know full well what they're doing, if they're here then I would imagine that they've done plenty of soul searching already.
I wouldn't have repeat meets though. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"I've done it in the past and I'd do it again. They're adults, I'm not in the habit of making morality/judgement calls for other people. They know full well what they're doing, if they're here then I would imagine that they've done plenty of soul searching already.
I wouldn't have repeat meets though. "
Why not? |
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"With a married/attached fabber, that's the question.
Would it put you off or not bother you? "
I’ve found the married/attached ladies in here to be the most genuine and reliable people to share fun times with   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What puts me off is men who aren’t the same wavelength as me when it comes to meeting, regardless of whether they’re attached or not.
Looking at my long standing fab friends / meets the majority are attached men. I guess we have a commonality when it comes to expectations, and that’s important to me... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From an outside perspective, no. I don't want to be named in somebody's divorce petition. In reality if she was next to me, then yeah, I'm weak. Wouldn't go looking for it basically. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find that quite a few are shocked when they realise my marital status, despite it being on my profile, and in the main anything that might have happened if I weren’t married, doesn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm in the same boat as you Doc , and it's always stated in my profile . I don't know if it will change others opinion of me .
I've always been honest about my dishonesty |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in the same boat as you Doc , and it's always stated in my profile . I don't know if it will change others opinion of me .
I've always been honest about my dishonesty "
I’m surprised how often people don’t realise until you’re actually chatting for a while. I’m still trying to figure that one out because most claim they read profiles first  |
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"What puts me off is men who aren’t the same wavelength as me when it comes to meeting, regardless of whether they’re attached or not.
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For me too. I guess we’ve all got preferences like height, build etc and married is in there too. For some, being single is the most important thing, for others it’s something else and being single is lower down the priorities. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in the same boat as you Doc , and it's always stated in my profile . I don't know if it will change others opinion of me .
I've always been honest about my dishonesty
I’m surprised how often people don’t realise until you’re actually chatting for a while. I’m still trying to figure that one out because most claim they read profiles first "
fabs biggest lie  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm in the same boat as you Doc , and it's always stated in my profile . I don't know if it will change others opinion of me .
I've always been honest about my dishonesty
I’m surprised how often people don’t realise until you’re actually chatting for a while. I’m still trying to figure that one out because most claim they read profiles first fabs biggest lie "
Maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Doc , very few people read profiles lol fab is more a visual place  "
I’m discovering even if they say they do, they don’t necessarily. Then they get blindsided by something that didn’t fit the assumptions they had about a person.
If this were a once off occurrence I wouldn’t be surprised, but the fact it keeps happening does. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Doc , very few people read profiles lol fab is more a visual place
I’m discovering even if they say they do, they don’t necessarily. Then they get blindsided by something that didn’t fit the assumptions they had about a person.
If this were a once off occurrence I wouldn’t be surprised, but the fact it keeps happening does."
I know I get offers to meet people for socials or more I always ask have you read my profile first |
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No
For a few reasons
1. The most important, I’d be thinking about his wife and I’d feel I was part of the deceit
2. He will not be available when I’d want to meet he will not sleep over and highly unlikely will I be going to the pub or restaurants with him
3. He’s a liar, if he’s capable of cheating he will think nothing of telling me lies
4. You risk the avalanche. You could find yourself getting calls messages or visits from a very upset partner, this is someone’s life that is being ripped apart, I’d be the bitch doing it in her eyes and everyone else’s that she chooses to tell and tbh I would be equally as guilty as him as I’d be the one that knowingly was meeting a cheat, I can’t put blinkers on and just do it regardless
5. The power of sisterhood I can’t risk hurting another woman even one I don’t know for my own gain. This goes against the grain for me
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"With a married/attached fabber, that's the question.
Would it put you off or not bother you? "
Never used to play with them but they could claim they are single but are married so we don’t care, it’s their life not ours. If they get found out that’s their problem. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"I've done it in the past and I'd do it again. They're adults, I'm not in the habit of making morality/judgement calls for other people. They know full well what they're doing, if they're here then I would imagine that they've done plenty of soul searching already.
I wouldn't have repeat meets though.
Why not? "
Because then I think you're heading into 'affair' territory and all of the baggage that comes with that would be too much to balance, it's not a moral judgement, it's a personal defence thing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've always been honest about my dishonesty "
I reckon many are not... whether it's fear of judgement or they just want to be secretive only they can answer |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No
For a few reasons
1. The most important, I’d be thinking about his wife and I’d feel I was part of the deceit
2. He will not be available when I’d want to meet he will not sleep over and highly unlikely will I be going to the pub or restaurants with him
3. He’s a liar, if he’s capable of cheating he will think nothing of telling me lies
4. You risk the avalanche. You could find yourself getting calls messages or visits from a very upset partner, this is someone’s life that is being ripped apart, I’d be the bitch doing it in her eyes and everyone else’s that she chooses to tell and tbh I would be equally as guilty as him as I’d be the one that knowingly was meeting a cheat, I can’t put blinkers on and just do it regardless
5. The power of sisterhood I can’t risk hurting another woman even one I don’t know for my own gain. This goes against the grain for me
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^^This^^ You typed it while I was trying to think what to include |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've always been honest about my dishonesty
I reckon many are not... whether it's fear of judgement or they just want to be secretive only they can answer "
true i put it on my profile to give people choices and if they feel that I'm not for them then they can pass me by x |
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The only attached people I've met have been attached to each other, so for me it hasn't been something I've knowingly done.
That said it hasn't been a conscious choice, just the way it's happened.
I would meet such a person if I was invited to do so and have mailed ladies in this situation. I've not met any of them but that's been their choice. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Married guys I find can be easier to meet due to lack of interest after a meet has happened. I have had issues with men in the past wanting more than sex which is annoying for me. Married men want sex and thats it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have done before, I wouldn't again. For many reasons I far prefer single men, or men who are meeting with their partners knowledge. "
That’s me screwed then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I believe some are turned on by it. I was arranging a meet with a woman who was fascinated by my ring and told me what she wanted me to do to her with the ring.
Sadly the chemistry wasn’t there and nothing happened. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hmmm so many layers to this one.
A lot would depend on their circumstance for me personally.
Someone who's married yet separated, or married yet caring for a spouse with an illness like dementia, to one who stays purely for financial reasons but both are aware the relationship is done etc are not an issue for me.
Those actively cheating when their other half is thinking everything is rosy and life couldn't be better, well, trust plays a huge part in the scene, and I sure as hell don't wanna get thrown under someone else's bus to save their bacon if things didn't pan out the way they expected, or if the unknowing spouse found out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer married/attached guys. Never used to meet them then found out a lot lied anyway. The only guy I meet at the moment is attached.
I often get asked why do I prefer it? Well it's for selfish reasons. I'm attached- playing with permission. I prefer to have regular meets with very few people, like at the moment I've chosen to just meet him. I get attached to people quite easily when Im playing with them regular. Meeting a married guy is a safe option as I can be myself with him but know that neither of us are going to want to change ourlives the way they are. At the end of the day we both return to our own partners however close we become together. "
I'm totally with you on this.
Single guys are a pain and get all needy |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"I prefer married/attached guys. Never used to meet them then found out a lot lied anyway. The only guy I meet at the moment is attached.
I often get asked why do I prefer it? Well it's for selfish reasons. I'm attached- playing with permission. I prefer to have regular meets with very few people, like at the moment I've chosen to just meet him. I get attached to people quite easily when Im playing with them regular. Meeting a married guy is a safe option as I can be myself with him but know that neither of us are going to want to change ourlives the way they are. At the end of the day we both return to our own partners however close we become together.
I'm totally with you on this.
Single guys are a pain and get all needy "
So do married ones. If they have a shit marriage they can start to see you as the way out of that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If their partner didn't know, yes. If they were part of a swinging couple, definitely not.
What’s the difference?
Discretion and privacy.
I concur "
Yep another in agreement here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If their partner didn't know, yes. If they were part of a swinging couple, definitely not.
What’s the difference?
Discretion and privacy.
I concur
Yep another in agreement here. "
I thought that until I slept with a 50 year old...he thought it was so amazing sleeping with a ‘hot, horny 20 year old’ he told all his pals  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If their partner didn't know, yes. If they were part of a swinging couple, definitely not.
What’s the difference?
Discretion and privacy.
I concur
Yep another in agreement here.
I thought that until I slept with a 50 year old...he thought it was so amazing sleeping with a ‘hot, horny 20 year old’ he told all his pals "
Yeah that's shit. And I avoid huge age gaps for that very reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends on the situation. If it’s all very genuine their only looking for nsa then yes, I’ve had plenty. If their looking for other things as well as nsa then I’m not into dramas. |
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"If their partner didn't know, yes. If they were part of a swinging couple, definitely not.
What’s the difference?
Discretion and privacy. "
No chance if you are meaning a regular cheating husband v cheating one half a fab couple when it comes to such an emotional situation you could possibly have even more of a situation
Fabbers in my experience can have very loose lips, all a disgruntled wife needs doing is checking your profile and chatting to people you have met and they could in theory get a load of information on you if her fella hasn’t already given it all that is
Plus if you attend clubs and socials you will find people talking about you too, it could be uncomfortable really
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If their partner didn't know, yes. If they were part of a swinging couple, definitely not.
What’s the difference?
Discretion and privacy.
No chance if you are meaning a regular cheating husband v cheating one half a fab couple when it comes to such an emotional situation you could possibly have even more of a situation
Fabbers in my experience can have very loose lips, all a disgruntled wife needs doing is checking your profile and chatting to people you have met and they could in theory get a load of information on you if her fella hasn’t already given it all that is
Plus if you attend clubs and socials you will find people talking about you too, it could be uncomfortable really
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There's ways round that.
People will talk anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"If their partner didn't know, yes. If they were part of a swinging couple, definitely not.
What’s the difference?
Discretion and privacy.
No chance if you are meaning a regular cheating husband v cheating one half a fab couple when it comes to such an emotional situation you could possibly have even more of a situation
Fabbers in my experience can have very loose lips, all a disgruntled wife needs doing is checking your profile and chatting to people you have met and they could in theory get a load of information on you if her fella hasn’t already given it all that is
Plus if you attend clubs and socials you will find people talking about you too, it could be uncomfortable really
There's ways round that.
People will talk anyway. "
Yes they bloody well do, best keeping to yourself or saying fuck them and their gossiping tongues |
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Think of it another way.. someone could be in a good relationship that they love their partner and their home life BUT they feel sexaully unsatisfied. I'd rather chat with a girl in the same situation and be open about what turns me on and if they met up and done the things they spoke about,they'd feel better about themselves and sexaully satisfied resulting in being happy which would benefit their home life resulting in everyone being happpier without hurting anybody. That's my opinion anyway |
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