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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
London |
"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X "
It's not catfishing. How you identify is up to you but definitely be honest in your profile x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you wish to identify as a woman and explain on your profile that is perfectly legitimate. Because you already explain that your post-op on your current profile, which is different to the vast majority of the TV/TS population on Fab, who still retain male genitalia. Do what you feel is right for you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So long as it clear. Men can get quite aggressive if they feel like they've been duped.
First line or two on your bio should state that you're post-op"
It doesn’t matter if it’s the first line or not!! As long as it’s there!! Then the men need to sort themselves out if they’ve not read it!! Any form of aggression like that there is no place for!! |
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
I would suggest keeping yoir profile in the TS section. A lot of people don't read profiles and it would save having to have the discussion ad infinitum. Unless you put "post-op" in bold as your profile strapline, and probably every other line of your profile. I think it would save a lot of negativity towards you. It would stop you receiving attention from a lot of males who only meet CIS females, and may get upset (even if by their own lack of reading).
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
"I would suggest keeping yoir profile in the TS section. A lot of people don't read profiles and it would save having to have the discussion ad infinitum. Unless you put "post-op" in bold as your profile strapline, and probably every other line of your profile. I think it would save a lot of negativity towards you. It would stop you receiving attention from a lot of males who only meet CIS females, and may get upset (even if by their own lack of reading).
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As stated above, it's not catfishing as the intent isn't there to dupe. My post is purely based on making things as clear as possible and you getting the most positive experience from the site.
Good luck with the surgery btw  |
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As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is it just me, but the responsibility of the person sending the message to read the profile and if they like it to decide if they want to send a message or not!! It is Just to be clear and honest on the profile is all you need!!
If someone gets aggressive because they haven’t read a profile you wouldn’t want to be meeting them anyway |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So long as it clear. Men can get quite aggressive if they feel like they've been duped.
First line or two on your bio should state that you're post-op"
Fair point. The aggressive types don't usually read though, so no need to worry about them.
Just 'remind' them when a meet is planned in case their cock was covering the profile text and they didn't see it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me, but the responsibility of the person sending the message to read the profile and if they like it to decide if they want to send a message or not!! It is Just to be clear and honest on the profile is all you need!!
If someone gets aggressive because they haven’t read a profile you wouldn’t want to be meeting them anyway "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were"
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Surely its just a case of choosing the right profile for who you are. If your a woman your a woman. I think as long as your honest about your biological history (because that is important to many) then it's not cat fishing, it's if any thing the opposite. You are being true and accurate to who you are and the changes and life you've lived through. Wish you all the best. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it just me, but the responsibility of the person sending the message to read the profile and if they like it to decide if they want to send a message or not!! It is Just to be clear and honest on the profile is all you need!!
If someone gets aggressive because they haven’t read a profile you wouldn’t want to be meeting them anyway
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Steel best profile I’ve seen in ages love it proper chuckled |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would have thought if you were post op, that would make you a woman? If you put it in your text about being post op, i would think that would be enough. You wouldnt be catfishing at all. You are a woman  |
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"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X "
You wouldn't be the first. |
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I don't think you really need to mention it on your profile at all. I think you yourself are probably a good judge of character and would know who would be be ok with it anyway.
Would a lot of guys really even realise?
Your history is yours, you don't owe anyone an explanation as to how you arrived at where you are now. You don't demand a full history of other people do you?
Hope you enjoy yourself! |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X "
It's your profile do as you like.
Your very pretty may I add.
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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
not really sure about how gender change works [not being cheeky] but would think if you put on your profile the details then that is not misleading in any way .good luck op.and if you ever want a girlie night out drink .i would join you . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"not really sure about how gender change works [not being cheeky] but would think if you put on your profile the details then that is not misleading in any way .good luck op.and if you ever want a girlie night out drink .i would join you ."
Aww thanks & I'd love that x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
Wow, how lovely of you lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
I think that you’re wrong! This is not something that is done lightly!! It takes time and a lot of support to go through!! I have worked closely with people who have transitioned! It not a choice it is about how they feel and who they are!! |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
Hillside desolate |
"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
Luckily that's an outdated view nowadays. |
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You are definitely the woman that you have ALWAYS been. My understanding of gender dysphoria is that you've always been a woman, just in the wrong body (sorry for any clumsy language). So don't feel pressured to be anything other than the woman you are. |
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By *greygorCouple
over a year ago
birmingham |
"not really sure about how gender change works [not being cheeky] but would think if you put on your profile the details then that is not misleading in any way .good luck op.and if you ever want a girlie night out drink .i would join you .
Aww thanks & I'd love that x"
hey when dogging van comes your way later on this year to east coast will do it .dont take notice of negative comment folks have a right to air their opinion in an open forum |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"not really sure about how gender change works [not being cheeky] but would think if you put on your profile the details then that is not misleading in any way .good luck op.and if you ever want a girlie night out drink .i would join you .
Aww thanks & I'd love that xhey when dogging van comes your way later on this year to east coast will do it .dont take notice of negative comment folks have a right to air their opinion in an open forum "
Aww thanks I'd like that! And no worries, believe me I've heard worse over the years |
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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
No she's not a man she's a woman. |
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
Perfectly wrote
Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
While we’re all entitled to our opinions, fortunately most people have evolved past the bigotry that used to exist in this country. Sadly, as this post demonstrates, some have not |
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By *100Man
over a year ago
Essex |
You look gorgeous hun and 99% of people on fab would say the same the other 1% can go **** themselves, why not try 2 accounts and see how it goes and if you feel comfortable with someone you can tell them.
You do look gorgeous xxxx |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X "
Definitely not catfishing, I think listing as a woman and mentioning you're post op is exactly what you are, nothing sneaky or false about it at all. |
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
Perfectly wrote
Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
Good grief 
Telephone call from the 70's for you. |
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"As a trans lady you have as much right to call yourself a woman as every cis lady does! You are not catfishing, you are a woman who has fought very hard to become the woman you always knew you were
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Not in my eyes if your born a man your still a man even after having your nuts cut off."
this is the mind set of a true biggot , shameful comments , there's no place for you in this century |
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OP if you need a break you don't have to leave, you can just hide your profile and come back whenever you're ready.
I suggest you contact admin and ask them to change you profile to single lady as that is exactly what you are. It definitely isn't catfishing because you're not hiding anything or trying to be something that you're not. For avoidance of doubt I would leave in your profile the bit about being a post op trans lady as then nobody can claim you aren't being honest about your past. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X "
What's catfishing? |
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"OP if you need a break you don't have to leave, you can just hide your profile and come back whenever you're ready.
I suggest you contact admin and ask them to change you profile to single lady as that is exactly what you are. It definitely isn't catfishing because you're not hiding anything or trying to be something that you're not. For avoidance of doubt I would leave in your profile the bit about being a post op trans lady as then nobody can claim you aren't being honest about your past."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP if you need a break you don't have to leave, you can just hide your profile and come back whenever you're ready.
I suggest you contact admin and ask them to change you profile to single lady as that is exactly what you are. It definitely isn't catfishing because you're not hiding anything or trying to be something that you're not. For avoidance of doubt I would leave in your profile the bit about being a post op trans lady as then nobody can claim you aren't being honest about your past."
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By *aeBabeWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm thinking of leaving (need a break) but when I invariably return, I am considering just being listed as female & adding a bit about being trans in my profile text. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Would people consider this catfishing? X
What's catfishing? "
Google is your friend... Also, looking at the numerous threads on the forums will help educate you. |
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As many has posted, it is OK for you to choose F for your profile as long as you make it clear that you are a post op.
But as in real life, there are people who will be supportive as well as those who are against it.
I personally, would love if you keep in the TV/TS group - it shows that you accept who you are.
I know, many will say who we really are is a woman...but born in a man's body (I do too). But is that who we really are? We are "a woman in a man's body" - that is slightly different from a cis woman.
If people like us, they will have to like us for who we really are.
Having said all those, I am totally supportive of whatever you going to choose OP. It is your profile and do what you think will make you happier and more fulfilled.
Good luck.
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If you’re post op then you’re a woman and have lived for some time as a woman. I don’t believe anyone should go through all that and be denied or made to feel wrong for putting woman on your profile. Worth including post op trans in the text though or first message as some only wish to meet cis ladies. |
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