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Is it ok to lie on here?
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
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After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
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Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
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People tell white lies/fibs all the time in normal dating - clearly some lies are more extreme, but we only meet people on this site to have sex with them.
If they lie, so long as we haven’t met with a reporter or something else as extreme, we aren’t interested in finding out. We are here for fun, nothing more. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
Ps
Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
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I also queried this since some people lie about their age to purposely bypass age filters, as far as I'm concerned they have gained sex through deception knowing you wouldn't have sex with them without the lie, I doubt it's a crime but it's morally wrong. |
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"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
Ps
Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
I also queried this since some people lie about their age to purposely bypass age filters, as far as I'm concerned they have gained sex through deception knowing you wouldn't have sex with them without the lie, I doubt it's a crime but it's morally wrong. "
Fair point, but we only meet in Clubs so any lies on an age or similar criteria can be easily spotted. We have set age filters, but when we meet people we either fancy them or not. |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
Ps
Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
I also queried this since some people lie about their age to purposely bypass age filters, as far as I'm concerned they have gained sex through deception knowing you wouldn't have sex with them without the lie, I doubt it's a crime but it's morally wrong. "
But if they make it clear before meeting/ on their profile that their age is inaccurate? |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"What if the criteria was negative STD screen in the past 2 months?"
If you caught something from them that they knowingly had and knew there was a reasonable chance of it being passed on then yes, that's illegal |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If she/He meet the person and they don't meet the criteria...ie.are taller, shorter fatter, thinner ect. Then they are going to notice this before indulging in sex, so if they go ahead they are therefore consenting to sex with the person. So no crime is committed x |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
Ps
Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
I also queried this since some people lie about their age to purposely bypass age filters, as far as I'm concerned they have gained sex through deception knowing you wouldn't have sex with them without the lie, I doubt it's a crime but it's morally wrong.
But if they make it clear before meeting/ on their profile that their age is inaccurate?"
That's different, if they still claim they are the false age just to have sex with you then it's morally wrong. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"If she/He meet the person and they don't meet the criteria...ie.are taller, shorter fatter, thinner ect. Then they are going to notice this before indulging in sex, so if they go ahead they are therefore consenting to sex with the person. So no crime is committed x"
An easily visual difference is a whole different ball game |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"If she/He meet the person and they don't meet the criteria...ie.are taller, shorter fatter, thinner ect. Then they are going to notice this before indulging in sex, so if they go ahead they are therefore consenting to sex with the person. So no crime is committed x"
Obviously
But how about marital status? |
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"If she/He meet the person and they don't meet the criteria...ie.are taller, shorter fatter, thinner ect. Then they are going to notice this before indulging in sex, so if they go ahead they are therefore consenting to sex with the person. So no crime is committed x
Obviously
But how about marital status?"
I'm not sure this is a good place to be looking for legal advice. |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"What if the criteria was negative STD screen in the past 2 months?
If you caught something from them that they knowingly had and knew there was a reasonable chance of it being passed on then yes, that's illegal "
If they hadn’t been tested then they might have an infection and not know! |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"If she/He meet the person and they don't meet the criteria...ie.are taller, shorter fatter, thinner ect. Then they are going to notice this before indulging in sex, so if they go ahead they are therefore consenting to sex with the person. So no crime is committed x
Obviously
But how about marital status?
I'm not sure this is a good place to be looking for legal advice. "
Not looking for legal advice just opening up a discussion on what is morally acceptable behaviour
Yes we are all consenting adults but consent is given on the basis of facts or lies given |
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I would be very wary of how far we go with what conditions make an act of consensual sex at the time later non consensual based on futher information. Ethics theory is one matter but crimal acts and their conciquences is completely another. I see some potentially very dodgy ground when we go down the route of being able to withdraw consent after the act due to latter finding out the other person did not meet certain criteria and/or assumptions down the line. Of course consent is golden but when we start to futher complicate the legal lines of what the understanding of consent is based on it could get potentially messy for many of us and book a lot us a slot of the sex offenders list. I'm not sure many would see non consensual sex because one party lied about the size of their bank account being anywhere near proportional or crime worthy as other horrendous accounts of non consensual sex. |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"So what if the lie has been about cock size?
Suggesting it's non consensual due to a missing half inch seems absurd"
Think that would probably be evident prior to penetration? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So what if the lie has been about cock size?
Suggesting it's non consensual due to a missing half inch seems absurd
Think that would probably be evident prior to penetration?"
Who would actually check if it got to that stage?  |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"I would be very wary of how far we go with what conditions make an act of consensual sex at the time later non consensual based on futher information. Ethics theory is one matter but crimal acts and their conciquences is completely another. I see some potentially very dodgy ground when we go down the route of being able to withdraw consent after the act due to latter finding out the other person did not meet certain criteria and/or assumptions down the line. Of course consent is golden but when we start to futher complicate the legal lines of what the understanding of consent is based on it could get potentially messy for many of us and book a lot us a slot of the sex offenders list. I'm not sure many would see non consensual sex because one party lied about the size of their bank account being anywhere near proportional or crime worthy as other horrendous accounts of non consensual sex. "
Maybe fraud rather than a sexual offence?
Obtaining goods or services by deception?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately people on here lie. It's the reason I have a pre social with them knowing nothing will happen on the first meet. That way I know if the person in front of me is really the person I want to spend time with in the future. I prefer regular meets so only meet people who I'm really sure of. People have lied and I have found them out. But usually people have been pretty honest with me |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"What if the criteria was negative STD screen in the past 2 months?
If you caught something from them that they knowingly had and knew there was a reasonable chance of it being passed on then yes, that's illegal
If they hadn’t been tested then they might have an infection and not know!"
If they didn't know then they haven't passed it on knowingly.
Regardless of the situation, lying purposely to gain sex, knowing you wouldn't get it without is morally wrong. Very few types of sex by deception would be legally enforceable but while it isn't a crime, it is shady and you are in fact changing the parameters of the consent, I'm not saying it makes it non consensual, just that they have only gained consent by deceiving you. |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
Ps
Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
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I guess it's deception and maybe even breach of contract as what was supplied was not what was expected. |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"Yes everyone lies on here"
That does seem to be the norm
And it’s one of the reasons I am pulling away from the scene.
I think it’s also part of the reason there are so few single women on here- even lower than it might seem when you exclude fakes and married women playing separately ( with or without partners knowledge)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think of the furore over women having had sex with undercover police officers, not knowing they were coppers.
Consent given doesn’t mean that consent isn’t conditional. |
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I’m going to address the 2 senerios you have stated to the best of my knowledge
If the person knowingly has caused you personal harm to a level that is legally within a chargeable offence then it can possibly be a conviction, a few cases of people passing on Hiv knowing they had the virus have been prosecuted
If it’s a infection that is cleared up I wouldn’t waste your time, put it down to experience
Absolutely nothing legally can be done for lying about your marital status and fooling a person into thinking you was single
Morally terrible and that person is a shit
But ! We live and learn, don’t trust strangers find out about the person before you get intimate, I do, I swear I’ve had so many liars try to get cosy with me I’ve just about given up |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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"Legal and moral are very different things. "
Exactly this.
Lots of people lie on here, as its the internet, they believe it doesn't really matter and no one will find out as 'everyone does it'.
I think for it to be legally enforceable there has to be 'injury' caused to the other party, is lying about having a spouse injurious? Morally it's wrong to many but legally? Highly doubtful. |
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By *zzy69 OP Woman
over a year ago
The Lake District |
"Surely consent..not given under duress is consent"
That certainly would not be the case in the medical/ surgical field.
To operate a surgeon must obtain informed consent- if full and truthful information is not given the surgeon is guilty of assault-even if nothing goes wrong! |
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"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
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Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
I guess it's deception and maybe even breach of contract as what was supplied was not what was expected. "
Breach of contract?!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Is lying acceptable/ the norm on here?
How far is ok ?
What if a woman puts on her profile “I only meet ——insert criteria here— men .
She meets a man on the basis that he has said he meets her criteria.
They get on and she consents to sex on that basis.
Is her consent valid if it is only given on the basis of a lie ?
If not then has he committed a crime?
( by the way some words are not permitted on this site)
After reading the racism thread I thought I might get an interesting debate on this .
Izzy
Ps
Don’t worry I am not a lawyer or policewoman but I am interested in ethics
I also queried this since some people lie about their age to purposely bypass age filters, as far as I'm concerned they have gained sex through deception knowing you wouldn't have sex with them without the lie, I doubt it's a crime but it's morally wrong. "
I agree.
The people who do this are not to be trusted, no doubt they’d hate it done to them. |
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