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Forgiveness - Are you able to?
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By *UNCHBOX OP Man
over a year ago
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I watched a programme a while back that interviewed a mother whose son was stabbed to death, and how she had learnt to forgive her son's killer. I found that to be pretty powerful, as I'm not sure I could have done the same in her situation.
Obviously most of us won't be in her position, but you able to forgive stuff that has happened to you? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends if someone drank the last of ghe milk proberbly if someone hurt my child no hell dimension on earth would be worse than the vengeance i inflict
So depends |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I remember hearing or reading somewhere that forgiving helps you a lot more than it does anyone else and I tend to agree.
The person you have something against may be out there living their life Carefree of what you think about them while you are holding on to a lot of bad feelings.
Therefore I often try to forgive but rarely forget.. |
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If it involves our kids then I don't think I could no. The thought of something happening to any if my girls wife, daughters, mother and sisters gets me so protective it's beyond rediculous to the point of anger so no I don't think I could forgive someone breaking my world apart like that
But like someone said forgiveness is supposed to be a good healer
Petty things can be looked over |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.
Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!
LJ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.
Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!
LJ"
This for me too.
There are things I wish I could forget though. I don't always like my brain having an "evidence folder" for bloody everything! 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.
Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!
LJ"
so thats why i turn green  |
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I think it depends if the thing needing to be forgiven is affecting your ability to live. I think it's possible to not forgive but to continue your life without letting the incident affect you. Certain people are dead to me, I will never forgive or forget their actions but I rarely even think about them or what they did.
Indifference is a good alternative to forgiveness if you're like me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are two people that I can't forgive but no longer need to. Took a long time to realise that apathy was enough to not let them affect my life.
Minor things yes forgiveness is easy. Very little truly gets to me anymore. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think to truly move on you have to forgive, i lost someone that was a lifelong friend & dear to me to a drug overdose 18 years ago. I built up so much anger caught up with him and did something perhaps i shouldnt have which led him to addiction rather than dealing it ruined his life. Did i feel good... no i beat myself up for years over it. I eventually came face to face with him at a homeless centre i volunteered at hed become clean and was helping others. He burst into tears and thanked me, i forgave him... but didnt apologise- the 15 years of anger id carried just lifted. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do forgive I think yes. I have a habit of going back and looking at the reasons someone may have done something. It doesn't mean I'll like you for it, but there is no point in hating if at some point the person who has done you wrong if they have been wronged at some point themselves. It would make me into a person I didn't like so easier to forgive, move on and not think on it.
Not saying it would be that easy though, ie for murders etc but that is generàlly where I end up.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it depends on whether the person shows genuine remorse.
Personally I don't think forgiveness is as important for me to give. I tend to live in the moment and am able to leave the past behind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hate hurt anger resentment and all those things that we may sometimes hold onto because we feel we may have been wronged in some way....
The only person they ever hurt is ourselves.
Lifes too short and precious to hang onto all that negativity.
Forgiveness, maybe we have to, if only for our own benefit.... |
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I can and have many times
You can’t carry about too much pain in this life, for personal growth you need to learn what feelings are good for you
I’ve never had a child killed so I don’t know know how I would manage forgiveness for a heinous act, I would need a lot of help to find a way to cope with that
Whilst I’ve never done anything terrible in my life I am sure I’ve hurt people and they have forgiven me so I do similar and I’m sure many others are the same
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I always forgive but sometimes it’s for my sake not theirs and in that case i never forget what they have done.
Carrying around anger and resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die!!
LJso thats why i turn green "
Anger makes Hulk stronger 
There are exceptions to every rule 
LJ |
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