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"I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps. My anxiety is sky high at the moment " Do you have specific triggers or coping mechanisms to use when it gets really bad? | |||
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"I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months. The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back.. Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control. It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it. " That's great to read. I think the thing that kind of shocked me was that it was going to be an ongoing fight, not a cure. | |||
"I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months. The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back.. Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control. It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it. That's great to read. I think the thing that kind of shocked me was that it was going to be an ongoing fight, not a cure. " Yeah it's terrifying when you're in the midst of it. But bloody amazing when you realise you've now stepped out of the warzone and can see it for what it is.. just getting ahead of it that's exhausting!! | |||
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"Yes something I have struggled with since I was about 15 I obsess over things even the tiniest little things and due too a recent break up it’s been at its worst constantly going over what if I had done this what if I hadn’t done that at it’s worst I thought the only option was too kill myself and took an overdose of morphine luckily didn’t do me in good friends and positive thinking have helped me suppress the symptoms of anxiety but it is a constant presence in my life my mind goes in overdrive and I can’t tell my arse from my elbow and am currently reaching out to the doctors to explore the options available to me as I really don’t want to be taking anti depressants but think it might be the only option to me " I hope that you get the help that you need. Times of emotional stress, especially coupled with self doubt would definitely be a huge trigger. Getting help is a huge step, well done. | |||
"I find high vibration music and positive affirmations work for me when my mind starts riding me too hard x" I wish I was your mind! | |||
"I was diagnosed several years ago after a severe back injury and prescription drug withdrawal. I didn't see it coming, but I lost all sense of self and reality. At my worst I didn't leave the house for 9 months. The last year has been focussed on relearning how to deal with social situations and fingers crossed I'm virtually back.. Daily medication, cbt and lots of mindfulness reading and practise have helped get this under control. It's not easy, but it's certainly manageable. Takes bloody good friends and time to really get a hold on it. That's great to read. I think the thing that kind of shocked me was that it was going to be an ongoing fight, not a cure. Yeah it's terrifying when you're in the midst of it. But bloody amazing when you realise you've now stepped out of the warzone and can see it for what it is.. just getting ahead of it that's exhausting!! " Yes, absolutely. I like that phrase 'warzone' that's what it can feel like sometimes! | |||
"ive suffered on and off with it for a few years now it got to the point where i wouldnt even go out of the house and then one day i told hubby i needed serious help and got reffered to a phsyciatrist who prescribed me meds im so much better now but still have a wobble every now and then" Well done! It sounds like it's a big positive for you. | |||
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"I find high vibration music and positive affirmations work for me when my mind starts riding me too hard x" That's a new one for me! It's all about finding what works for you though. | |||
"Some are aware I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago now. I was off work 9 months. Had to totally rebuild my confidence from the ground up. It was proper strange though, I could go to clubs etc and fear nothing, no panic attacks, no anxiety. Well, it wasn't actually that strange when you look closely at it. People in clubs had nothing to prove to me, no reason to try to trick me or manipulate me. If they want a fuck they'll ask, and in my experience people have taken rejection gracefully. They owed me nothing and I owed them nothing. I have anxiety attacks if something doesn't quite add up, if I sense I'm being lied to, if someone is trying to take advantage or take me for a cunt. I have anxiety attacks if I think someone isn't being honest with me or themselves, or if someones intentions don't appear to be what they say they are. How do I manage it? Sometimes not very well at all. I haven't worked out yet how to "be kind to myself" I'm still my own worst critic, but I've learned it's ok for me to not be perfect, it's ok for me to get things wrong, I'm human not fucking superwoman. It's ok for me to cry and have emotion, as long as I recognise it for what it is. I over analyse, I know I do. But I'm me, I'm still here and I'm loved for being me, not for pretending to be someone I'm not, or hiding behind a mask of perfection. I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me. P" Thanks for sharing that Peach, it sounds brutal but also a positive that you know your triggers and it sounds like you have a management plan. Past trauma can be an absolute bitch! | |||
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"Some are aware I had a complete breakdown 2 years ago now. I was off work 9 months. Had to totally rebuild my confidence from the ground up. It was proper strange though, I could go to clubs etc and fear nothing, no panic attacks, no anxiety. Well, it wasn't actually that strange when you look closely at it. People in clubs had nothing to prove to me, no reason to try to trick me or manipulate me. If they want a fuck they'll ask, and in my experience people have taken rejection gracefully. They owed me nothing and I owed them nothing. I have anxiety attacks if something doesn't quite add up, if I sense I'm being lied to, if someone is trying to take advantage or take me for a cunt. I have anxiety attacks if I think someone isn't being honest with me or themselves, or if someones intentions don't appear to be what they say they are. How do I manage it? Sometimes not very well at all. I haven't worked out yet how to "be kind to myself" I'm still my own worst critic, but I've learned it's ok for me to not be perfect, it's ok for me to get things wrong, I'm human not fucking superwoman. It's ok for me to cry and have emotion, as long as I recognise it for what it is. I over analyse, I know I do. But I'm me, I'm still here and I'm loved for being me, not for pretending to be someone I'm not, or hiding behind a mask of perfection. I'm far from perfect but I'm perfectly me. P Thanks for sharing that Peach, it sounds brutal but also a positive that you know your triggers and it sounds like you have a management plan. Past trauma can be an absolute bitch! " My management plan was never to let anyone in again, not REALLY in. Fucked that one right up didn't I? 
It's scary, but I'm not prepared to let the past rule the rest of my life. I have scars yes, but I'm a fucking warrior.
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 when I first joined here I had 0 worries and was probably a bit too casual about it. Also possibly have EUPD which doesn't help! Hey ho. | |||
"I've not technically been diagnosed with anxiety, but i was told by doctors that I worry too much about my children and worry too much about the future and all the possible outcomes of situations. Then i get this self referral website for counselling and never really go any further it. But live with anxiety every day. I don't want to leave my house on my own unless I have a purpose like somewhere i have to be such as work, school runs, etc but if it's just food shopping and I'm on my own I really struggle to do this. And it is effecting the swinging side as I'm severely self conscious and worried how i look to others." I think that the worst thing about suffering is the way that you tell yourself that you're less than you are, living with that daily can be and is crippling. I would urge you to refer yourself, get the help that you need. | |||
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"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless " Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state. P | |||
"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state. P" This is part of it as well I think. There is a sense of shame (wrongly) associated with it and the feeling that it somehow shows. | |||
"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state. Trust me anyone going threw it is not weak there the strongest. Accepting was the key for me P" | |||
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"Yep I had it no I have it and always will on and off. I have done meds (off them now) Cbt few times but one day I realize d that fuck it this is not going to beat me I spent two years in hell crying all the time not leaving the house much finding the smallest things to do so so hard (eg getting hair cut going to a shop thinking people could see I had it. Then one day after I came so close to ending my life it scared me and I decided to ACCEPT it and decided to learn from it. For me once I accepted It and stopped trying to fight it. It really did lose its power over me. More I fought it worse it got. Yeah are not alone xxxx hug god bless Fuck I totally hear you on the thinking people can see it. I was thinking people could see it, and would then either be laughing at me for "being weak" or use that knowledge to take advantage of the fact I was in a vulnerable mental state. Trust me anyone going threw it is not weak there the strongest. Accepting was the key for me P" Having come out the other side I worked out how strong I am. I have the highest respect for those who find themselves in the darkness. It's a truly frightening, deflating, place. The worst thing about it for me was not knowing the timescale it was going to last. If you break a bone or have other medical all stuff going on then you're given a recovery timescale, the not knowing when or if I was ever gonna see the sunshine I was longing to witness was so so difficult P | |||
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My story is too complicated for the forum, but yeah, I've always been an anxious one, triggered by some trauma seven years ago. I'm a little unconventional in my thinking, I overthink a fuck load if I don't keep myself in check, most of my help ultimately comes from within, with a little external input, learning and self analysis.
Good to raise this issue though, I've noticed the forum collects a lot of like minds, even if they often won't admit it.... | |||
"Proper man hug's with my mates. With this in mind, anyone (male or female) in the Stockport area want to meet for hugs and a chat about life, feel free to drop a message and lets get this sorted. Mental health is a big thing we can deal with together. I am a very confident and competitive person, so having anxiety is a bit of a shock for me and has proper hit me hard, shook me to the core, but you know what, mates and chatting about it, being honest with people, helps. " I think it's great that you have friends that you can connect with about it, for me that's been one of the hardest things. | |||
"Beautiful and brave post TM, well done buddy
My story is too complicated for the forum, but yeah, I've always been an anxious one, triggered by some trauma seven years ago. I'm a little unconventional in my thinking, I overthink a fuck load if I don't keep myself in check, most of my help ultimately comes from within, with a little external input, learning and self analysis.
Good to raise this issue though, I've noticed the forum collects a lot of like minds, even if they often won't admit it.... "I agree with you about like minded folks on the forums. There is a degree of 'you shouldn't be here if you feel like that' around, I'd say quite the opposite really, this site can be a huge source of comfort and the forums a fantastic resource if put to use. | |||
"As you know, OP, I have a number of coping strategies - one being avoiding public transport and taking my “chariot” (taxi) when I’m struggling. I often struggle to talk to people about what I really need from them though; it gravitates back into how they’d like support from me and sometimes I just can’t cope with hearing it at a time when I need someone to really *hear* me. "How would be the best way to ask you what help you needed. I have times when people are struggling and I offer company or a listening ear but dont know if that is enough to really let them know I mean it. I know when I get offered the same I always think its nice of them but never take up the offer either. X | |||
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"I've had my moments. Not something I think I wish to share on here. I've had a massive learning curve from sharing via this site. There are some awful people on here who prey on people they perceive to be vulnerable!! Lesson learned and barriers well and truly up. It's difficult to watch when they hop from one to the next and so on. Trying to manipulate because it makes them feel better about themselves. Air on the side of caution " It's almost as if you have a problem with a specific individual on here...... 
Hope you find some happiness soon my love, it's great when it happens 
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"Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it? I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life. I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread. I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive. " I had my first anxiety attack on the eve of my 2nd year (university) maths exam. As you could imagine, I did not do well. It's my anxiety which drives my depression which then drives my anxiety to create a feedback loop. I first try to manage my anxiety before it escalates, usually by taking control of my breathing. If that doesn't work and the feelings persist I will try to distract myself the best I can and just generally try to ignore it. It doesn't always work but it's the best I have. I saw thos thread last night but was unable to respond. I hope this might help somebody. | |||
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But thanks to fab ans sum friends ive made on fab I'm now no longer in a shell.
Wot got me out ?
We'll a fab social in short.
Yes i wos terrified of the thought of going to London but in the end i just took a deep breath and went.
My advice to you op wood be just go and do it.
Take a big berth.
Choo on a snikers
And just do it. | |||
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"I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps. My anxiety is sky high at the moment Do you have specific triggers or coping mechanisms to use when it gets really bad? " I wish I did have specific triggers, it’s random as fuck and I hate it. I can be having a lovely time out with friends and just crash. I can be at home and just start crying because I feel so anxious. I hate it 
Coping mechanisms when I’m at home is cuddling my dogs, it sounds so ‘meh’ but when I start crying they’ll run over with toys and jump on me to try make me feel better, it’s so adorable that it works. But when I’m in full panic attack mode I just need to be on my own, with my husband and he will just try talk me down.
Listening to Harry Potter audio books makes me feel calmer as well | |||
"I've had my moments. Not something I think I wish to share on here. I've had a massive learning curve from sharing via this site. There are some awful people on here who prey on people they perceive to be vulnerable!! Lesson learned and barriers well and truly up. It's difficult to watch when they hop from one to the next and so on. Trying to manipulate because it makes them feel better about themselves. Air on the side of caution It's almost as if you have a problem with a specific individual on here......
Hope you find some happiness soon my love, it's great when it happens
"If someone posts a post that has nothing to do with the OP and is just an obvious dig then report rather than answer so it can be dealt with. You both need to stop this please as asked on another thread. If you don't you are likely to be banned | |||
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"Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x " That's all anyone can do . You are a strong, and wonderful lady | |||
"Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x That's all anyone can do . You are a strong, and wonderful lady "Thanks slim x | |||
"Have suffered on and off since my teens with both anxiety and depression. I don’t know what my triggers are but I know it made me very vulnerable and my ex used it to his full advantage. I’ve been on these new meds for a few months now and don’t feel like I can sit and cry all day. I don’t panic at the thought of having to go out alone no more. I’ve also got two disabled sons who suffer as well so I’m strong for them. I’m not sure what the long term answer is for me, I’m just doing the best I can each day x That's all anyone can do . You are a strong, and wonderful lady
Thanks slim x "My pleasure xx | |||
"I know it sounds stupid but I've had a lot of medical issues recently , it made me paranoid and anxious. But one thing always helped me, and it even makes me well up typing this . I used to worry all day about it , until I got home, the second I open the door and I get my little furball jumping all over me , my worries seem to melt away . Stupid , I know , but I truly believe that without Pooch I would worry myself to death!!" Dogs are pure magic | |||
"I know it sounds stupid but I've had a lot of medical issues recently , it made me paranoid and anxious. But one thing always helped me, and it even makes me well up typing this . I used to worry all day about it , until I got home, the second I open the door and I get my little furball jumping all over me , my worries seem to melt away . Stupid , I know , but I truly believe that without Pooch I would worry myself to death!! Dogs are pure magic "Hes my life | |||
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"Posting this via PM from another user with their permission. I've had anxiety since childhood. Being on the spectrum it kind of comes with the territory. Fortunately, after lots of therapy and finding the right medication I've learned to manage it. A huge breakthrough was realising that I would never eradicate it, there would never be any curing it'once and for all'. I have felt much more at peace since then. Mindfulness, eating well and getting outside are essential for me to stay balanced. Also life changing was learning to recognise that: My thoughts and opinions are not facts, if I'm ruminating or worrying then I'm not in the present, Avoiding triggers reinforces the power they have to cause anxiety. Gentle exposure is necessary. That's just me and I'm sure everyone is different, but the journey I've made over the last three years has literally saved my life."
I know it's a massive cliché but feel the fear and do it anyway.
Avoiding situations that cause anxiety doesn't help in the long run. It's not keeping you safe, it's holding you back.
Gentle exposure is necessary (in my opinion) to move forward. | |||
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"The only thing that keeps my anxiety at bay is Sertraline. 150mg every morning. " no it’s helping you your the one doing it | |||
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"Anxiety is for wimps and pussies. Until it happened to me. Years and years of feelings I had pushed down and ignored from my past regarding my employment and past all came out after one confidence knocking trigger. It was extremely humbling and scary to go from someone I was clearly not to a scared insecure lump of a bloke. Good friends, time therapy and a brief course of sertraline put me back together a better person. Saying things like “man up” is the worst when the shoe was on the other foot. Brave stories on here. "Personally I hate that phrase and sums up, in a nutshell, the popular opinion towards mental health and towards men too! I'm glad that you're doing better now. | |||
"I got tinnitus from it, I kinda got it under control but its surfacing again and I don't know why" Do you mean the anxiety or the tinnitus? | |||
"The only thing that keeps my anxiety at bay is Sertraline. 150mg every morning. no it’s helping you your the one doing it " Aww love that. | |||
"Yeah developed it in recent years...pretty much on self destruct the last 2 or 3 until things came to a head and I went to the doctors. Still...those meds sat in my drawer until they came for my house, i decided enough was enough and I got over the fear and popped one. I'm about 5 weeks into meds now feeling far better. Urge anyone to seek help. Don't let things slip like I did, I'll suffer the consequences for years to come unfortunately " Don't kick yourself for what happened, deal with the consequences as best you can but be gentle and kind with yourself. Anxiety makes us behave in strange ways at times. | |||
"I have for years. I don’t really know how I ‘mange’ it, I’m a big ball of mess most of the time. I’ve been in and out of therapy since I was about 15, been on antidepressants, tried most things...nah. Nothing really helps. My anxiety is sky high at the moment Do you have specific triggers or coping mechanisms to use when it gets really bad? I wish I did have specific triggers, it’s random as fuck and I hate it. I can be having a lovely time out with friends and just crash. I can be at home and just start crying because I feel so anxious. I hate it
Coping mechanisms when I’m at home is cuddling my dogs, it sounds so ‘meh’ but when I start crying they’ll run over with toys and jump on me to try make me feel better, it’s so adorable that it works. But when I’m in full panic attack mode I just need to be on my own, with my husband and he will just try talk me down.
Listening to Harry Potter audio books makes me feel calmer as well "That sounds really tough, reacting to it rather than preventing is a kind of anxiety in itself. It's good that you know what helps to alleviate it though and it's great that you have your husband to help. | |||
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"This thread is fantastic - thank you OP. There is a tendency to think that if we are on fab we must be joyfully upbeat at all times. But as mentioned, one of the things about this site is that its a collection of like minded people and I would think mental health problems might be a recurring theme among people who are sensual beings? " Quite possibly, I do think though that mental health problems are far more prevalent than many people would believe and so many suffer in silence. I've often thought that the very nature of anxiety is insidious and stops us from doing the very things that would actually help, even expressing about it can help but many are afraid to speak up. Talking, sharing and listening can help so many. | |||
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"I have mental health issues and have been fully focused at mind for last 2 years and they have literally changed my life and my outlook. They are a God send have you tried mindfulness and meditation I can recommend headspace x" Mind are fantastic, literal lifesavers. They're my charity of choice and I plan on running for them later this year (hopefully!) | |||
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"The thing that I've found more than anything is that there isn't a magical 'cure all' for anxiety. It affects people in different ways and triggers can vary massively from person to person, just as the management and treatment does. The one thing that I do know though is that suffering alone isn't the answer. If you're struggling, then please, seek help, there are people and organisations out there that can and will help. Counselling was great for me, for others it may be CBT or other cognitive based therapies. There are medications that can and will help too. It's not a weakness to seek help, it takes courage and real strength. To anyone reading this now or in the future, I'm always available for a chat, PM me, I'll always be happy to help in any way shape or form that I can. " | |||
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"I got tinnitus from it, I kinda got it under control but its surfacing again and I don't know why Do you mean the anxiety or the tinnitus? " The tinnitus is 24/7 and still relentless in my head, the anxiety has been showing itself lately and I don't know why | |||
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"More you fight it the worse it will get 1 accept you have it 2 welcome it say hello to it acknowledge it. Give it a name if you wish have a little chat with it. 3 get going and do your daily business every little thing you do will be an achievement you will feel better for it. More you do these things the more it will deminish the power it has over you. This is what I learnt after a lot of doctors and now I am good after years of hell fighting with my own brain. Odd belt of it but I can deal with it. " That's great that that works for you, I would hasten to add though that for some, getting up and about, either isn't possible or it isn't an option. Learning what works for each individual case is part of the treatment. | |||
"More you fight it the worse it will get 1 accept you have it 2 welcome it say hello to it acknowledge it. Give it a name if you wish have a little chat with it. 3 get going and do your daily business every little thing you do will be an achievement you will feel better for it. More you do these things the more it will deminish the power it has over you. This is what I learnt after a lot of doctors and now I am good after years of hell fighting with my own brain. Odd belt of it but I can deal with it. That's great that that works for you, I would hasten to add though that for some, getting up and about, either isn't possible or it isn't an option. Learning what works for each individual case is part of the treatment. " 100% agree. We are all different and will find our own ways. Guess I was trying to show you can get past it. Hugs to yeah all | |||
"The thing that I've found more than anything is that there isn't a magical 'cure all' for anxiety. It affects people in different ways and triggers can vary massively from person to person, just as the management and treatment does. The one thing that I do know though is that suffering alone isn't the answer. If you're struggling, then please, seek help, there are people and organisations out there that can and will help. Counselling was great for me, for others it may be CBT or other cognitive based therapies. There are medications that can and will help too. It's not a weakness to seek help, it takes courage and real strength. To anyone reading this now or in the future, I'm always available for a chat, PM me, I'll always be happy to help in any way shape or form that I can. "
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"Seem's we have a fair few of us willing to talk via the message system if people want. I (given time) am more than happy to meet over a hot chocolate and chat if that will help. Sometime's I am really busy, but will always try to help in any way that I can. We all have those "days", so if you want, have a natter with someone on here via the message system. I have no training etc, but more than happy to just be "someone" for you. " | |||
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"Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it? I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life. I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread. I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive. " I've had it for yrs myself, I also suffer with A/f (atrial fibrillation) so this makes my anxiety so much more harder to control....i get the palpitations,sweaty hands,dizzyness and when I'm really bad I shake from head to toe,feel sick and I sometime pass out....its taken me yrs to recognise my triggers and a while lot of anxiety attacks to find them out...the best advice I can give you is...if you feel like you have one coming on go somewhere quiet, go thro what you've done that day setting or someone may have upset you or said something that you maybe didn't take much notice of at the time but your brain has stored it and it's playing on your mind, once you notice the signs for your triggers you'll manage your anxiety a lot better..but you need to be very in tune with your body listen to it believe me it does give you signs of your triggers.xxx good luck. Xxxx | |||
"Are you a sufferer and if so, how do you manage it? I was diagnosed with anxiety a little over a year ago, up until that point I had spent 6 months sliding into an awful mental mess of negativity and self criticism. I couldn't understand what was wrong with me. I cut myself off from others, I stopped doing the things that I wanted, then the things that I needed. Eventually I hit a crisis point and sought the help that was vital and probably saved my life. I deal with it on a daily basis but I've learnt to manage it. As a result I'm far more attuned to the signs in others and I make pains to open the discussion up as much as possible about mental health in general. Which is the reason for this thread. I'm aware that many forumites also suffer with this and as much as there may be a stigma attached to it, it's only through awareness and discussion that it will improve. So please, if you're comfortable to, share your stories and experiences, how you manage it and live your lives. If this helps just one person to recognise their own anxiety then that will be a huge positive. I've had it for yrs myself, I also suffer with A/f (atrial fibrillation) so this makes my anxiety so much more harder to control....i get the palpitations,sweaty hands,dizzyness and when I'm really bad I shake from head to toe,feel sick and I sometime pass out....its taken me yrs to recognise my triggers and a while lot of anxiety attacks to find them out...the best advice I can give you is...if you feel like you have one coming on go somewhere quiet, go thro what you've done that day setting or someone may have upset you or said something that you maybe didn't take much notice of at the time but your brain has stored it and it's playing on your mind, once you notice the signs for your triggers you'll manage your anxiety a lot better..but you need to be very in tune with your body listen to it believe me it does give you signs of your triggers.xxx good luck. Xxxx" I agree with you about triggers, it's hard to work them out at times and unfortunately it takes a few times to pinpoint them but once you know them, it makes dealing and managing so much easier, not fool proof (as yesterday for me proved) but easier. | |||
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