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Feeling jealous

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

I've been reading through lots of profiles over the weekend and I have noticed that lots have met up with other people and they're all enjoying great sex, by the seems of it.. But here's me and I can't even get a message most days, nevermind meet up with a women for sex or coffee lol.

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No i been getting lots of the sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I used to when I first started out and then when I started using the forum. All the ‘we’re off shagging this weekend’ stuff used to get to me.

Then I had a word with myself and I felt a lot happier

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No i been getting lots of the sex

Lol yeah I'm sure lots more than I ever have

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just try a bit of rebranding Mr Blue Balls.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I used to when I first started out and then when I started using the forum. All the ‘we’re off shagging this weekend’ stuff used to get to me.

Then I had a word with myself and I felt a lot happier"

Hmm i will have to have a word with myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Just try a bit of rebranding Mr Blue Balls."

I've tried on other apps and it never works for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

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By *iss.ddWoman over a year ago

Leeds + Newcastle

You've been here 3 weeks, I don't think it's jealousy or envy, I think it's unrealistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You've been here 3 weeks, I don't think it's jealousy or envy, I think it's unrealistic expectations"

I've been on other apps for years and still nothing

I just wish I knew what other men were saying to get the attention of ladies online.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol "

Compare with what?

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol "

What is there to compare to? People meet people they want and don’t meet people who aren’t suited, you can’t make comparisons based on something you have no option in. There are loads of men I would love to have met but I am not their type, being jealous of people they have met is a waste of time and emotion.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, I don’t feel jealous or envious

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By *ondonexplorerMan over a year ago

Ascot

For most of us guys, it's too much sex.

You're doing something very wrong.

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

It's the curse of social media and why depression is rampant like never before.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"For most of us guys, it's too much sex.

You're doing something very wrong."

Not judging by the threads in here

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

People aren't likely to post about sitting on the sofa, absentmindedly scratching their bits and eating chocolate though, are they? I think it's easy to feel like you're missing out but what you're seeing is just a snapshot of the positive, sex focused stuff. I don't feel jealous of what others are up to, I could be too if I wanted to be. I'm quite happy plodding along, doing things at my pace.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No i been getting lots of the sex

Lol yeah I'm sure lots more than I ever have "
so so so so much more

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?"

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

Not at all, In fact the complete opposite.

My freetime is limited, I make the most of it when I can.

Knowing my friends are going out, having fun, enjoying their lives. That makes me happy.

I even been known to give a little cheer & fist pump when a new veri pops up on my updates.

When it's 2 friends I know even louder

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't believe everything you read in a verification

People are prone to hyperbole

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

If I see a new veri pop up I just think 'good for them'.

Jealousy or envy should never come into fab things, it's a recipe for disaster if you ask me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No, I don’t feel jealous or envious "

Yeah maybe because you are a woman. Sign in male and see how far it takes you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently. "

This is simply not true. You get what you put in. You don't need to be an adonis to get meets on here. I would also point out that veris can be sometimes be oversensationlised. You can't trust what is said in a lot of them, so you really shouldnt use that as a comoarison

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently. "

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

Comparison*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

Comparison*"
can believe mine im fucking fantastic at fucking olympic level godlike

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By *tew008Man over a year ago

edinburgh

Been here 7 years and no one will meet me, so don’t worry.

Although I never leave verifications like most anyway, hands off, body fluids yada yada.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, I don’t feel jealous or envious

Yeah maybe because you are a woman. Sign in male and see how far it takes you.

It’s not because I’m a woman at all. I’m just not envious or jealous. I haven’t met anyone new since September 2017. Haven’t slept with anyone other than my husband in a year.

No, it’s not because I’m a woman.

And no, being a man online is not a waste of time at all. You’ve already said you’ve read lots of verifications on profiles, so clearly your point doesn’t make sense. Unless you’re only reading verifications from all female meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

Not at all, In fact the complete opposite.

My freetime is limited, I make the most of it when I can.

Knowing my friends are going out, having fun, enjoying their lives. That makes me happy.

I even been known to give a little cheer & fist pump when a new veri pops up on my updates.

When it's 2 friends I know even louder

My free time is very limited too.. But that's besides the point here.

I doubt you would feel so happy go lucky, if you at the end of the day you wanted to chat with a random strange and nothing! It's allways the same. Women don't understand what it'like for men in general online.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont read the veris. Plenty of people not getting sex. Read status updates instead they'll tell you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

Not at all, In fact the complete opposite.

My freetime is limited, I make the most of it when I can.

Knowing my friends are going out, having fun, enjoying their lives. That makes me happy.

I even been known to give a little cheer & fist pump when a new veri pops up on my updates.

When it's 2 friends I know even louder

My free time is very limited too.. But that's besides the point here.

Of course we get it. You’ve been offered advice before, people are sympathetic. Yes, it tends to be easier for women on fab. Still doesn’t mean it’s easy.

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By *illing2016Man over a year ago

Stourbridge

Okay if you feel that using the web for dating / sex is not working, try going down the pub or to a local club and see how you get on there.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being a single woman on here I could easily get a meet from a guy if i wanted, as there will always be some people agter " a quick fuck" who don't care what the person they're playing with looks or sounds like, but i definitely am with you about viewing verifications and thinking people are having a much better time than you.

I've read verificatons for women where the men use so many complimentary adjectives to describe the person they've met. I look at the ones I have or have had from pwople who've left the site and realise I was nothing more than cheap holes to use. Nobody thought i was beautiful ( No, i'm not surprised), and they didn't seem all that wbthused about meeting me compared to a lot of veris I've read, for both men and women. It doesn't make you feel good about yourself and it's put me off meeting new people which is a shame.

I think verificatons shouldn't be allowed to be made public as they can really make you question yourself. I also think it's a bit tacky to need to tell everyone what you got up to on a sexual meet. You wouldn't have to feel like you need to have proof that you net someone in text. The green tick should be enough.

Hopefully you'll fund what you're looking for soon.

I've been told in the past I'm ugly and in real life nobody wpuld find me attractive. That's true and the only reason i get messages is because of the lack of women on fab. I wouldn't worry too much. I used to think i would feel validated beinf verified here. It'll never happen

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

Comparison*can believe mine im fucking fantastic at fucking olympic level godlike

I was waiting for you to pipe up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

Comparison*can believe mine im fucking fantastic at fucking olympic level godlike

I was waiting for you to pipe up

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"No, I don’t feel jealous or envious

Yeah maybe because you are a woman. Sign in male and see how far it takes you.

I disagree, it's not because you're male and to reply to your OP, no I don't really feel envious.

Think of fab like travelling a road, you're literally just starting out, those folks getting the veris have been on the road for years, they've learnt what works for them and how to make the site work.

I said on your previous thread that you need to manage your expectations, that guys can wait months for their first meet. That is still true. It takes time to work things out, it will not happen immediately.

I will also add in a note here about social media and how it will make others appear. People rarely talk about the weeks or months that they're sat trying to organise meets.

Jealousy really is rather a toxic outlook though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I often wonder myself. I mean I'm not oil painting but I'm not ugly as sin

and I have a decent body and an above average sized penis. And still nothing. Oh well I still have real life though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jealousy creates problems. And if this is how you feel in your short time on fab then perhaps you shouldn't be on here. Life is not all about sex. Right?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t feel like I am missing out if others are having fun.

I do look at this site slightly differently though - it is a swingers site but that is different from a getting laid site. I see this as a great way to meet like minded people that may or may not end up in sex. I have made a lot of friends through this site and I am really happy to see them having fun and enjoying themselves.

Maybe try looking at Fab in a slightly different way and it may change how you feel about it.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman over a year ago

all loved up

"No, I don’t feel jealous or envious

Yeah maybe because you are a woman. Sign in male and see how far it takes you.

I fact sign into any app with male gender and see how far it takes you... It's depressing! You will think the app stopped working, because you just get blanked. I once sighed into an app with female gender to see how different it would be.. And wow! What a difference! I didn't even need to put a pic up or write a profile and I got chats no problem.. But online being a man is a waste of time. "
I know lots of single guys on here that have a great deal of success. So they would disagree with you. To be fair you haven't asked for profile advice but I'd read and say no thanks x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you..."

Well maybe you will get this.. I message you recently and you ghosted me.. Now do men ever do that to you? I guess not, you don't even have to message men, if you are feeling lonely and you want to chat with someone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

Not at all, In fact the complete opposite.

My freetime is limited, I make the most of it when I can.

Knowing my friends are going out, having fun, enjoying their lives. That makes me happy.

I even been known to give a little cheer & fist pump when a new veri pops up on my updates.

When it's 2 friends I know even louder

My free time is very limited too.. But that's besides the point here.

Of course we get it. You’ve been offered advice before, people are sympathetic. Yes, it tends to be easier for women on fab. Still doesn’t mean it’s easy. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

So I didn't reply to your message? I do apologise but you're not my type. And I don't message men first so don't know what it feels like not getting a reply.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

Perhaps it is because you only write things that are steeped in self pity on here. I do sympathise with your plight, but I'll be blunt and say that doesnt tend to be a quality that many will be attracted to. You have been given lots of advice in the past. Rather than run with it, you make excuses. You can't put nothing in to something and expect to get rewarded for it OP. The successful male meeters have learnt that over time

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By *a LunaWoman over a year ago

South Wales

I’d take everything you read on this site with a large dose of scepticism. Yes there are lots of genuine folk, but there is also a fair lot of bullshitters.

Just concentrate on your experience and how you can make the site work for you, rather than reading what could be a load of made up bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

So I didn't reply to your message? I do apologise but you're not my type. And I don't message men first so don't know what it feels like not getting a reply. "

It feels like nothing i dont get that its like posting your business card out if its what someone wants they call if not u wont

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

"You've been here 3 weeks, I don't think it's jealousy or envy, I think it's unrealistic expectations"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You've been here 3 weeks, I don't think it's jealousy or envy, I think it's unrealistic expectations

3 weeks?! I thought this was a post for someome who had been here a long time. Very unrealistic.

You can't blame the women here for the lack of women on here. Also the amount of men on here doesn't actually equal lots of amazing potential meets i have found

Quality is hard to find on any site. I've found some amazing people to chat to, but they're a small percentage of the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You're really not missing anything. See how people are. They don't give a shit about men and how they feel. Would you really want to meet them?

If the site is getting you down, maybe step away from it. Life is too short to let other people get you down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’d take everything you read on this site with a large dose of scepticism. Yes there are lots of genuine folk, but there is also a fair lot of bullshitters.

Just concentrate on your experience and how you can make the site work for you, rather than reading what could be a load of made up bollocks. "

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

There’s no obligation to respond to messages.

Perhaps have a look at other profiles and see what they do to stand out.

Maybe if you are jealous of other people then Fab isn’t for you. Are you jealous of people in everyday life or just Fab?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It ain't working for me either but I don't know I still have faith

) perhaps it's just we have lots of expectations! I don't know mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

So I didn't reply to your message? I do apologise but you're not my type. And I don't message men first so don't know what it feels like not getting a reply. "

Well it feels like shit and you are not my type either.. But it's just nice to have a chat sometimes,ya know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People aren't likely to post about sitting on the sofa, absentmindedly scratching their bits and eating chocolate though, are they? I think it's easy to feel like you're missing out but what you're seeing is just a snapshot of the positive, sex focused stuff. I don't feel jealous of what others are up to, I could be too if I wanted to be. I'm quite happy plodding along, doing things at my pace."

That's weird. That's exactly what I was doing as you wrote that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You've been here 3 weeks, I don't think it's jealousy or envy, I think it's unrealistic expectations

3 weeks?! I thought this was a post for someome who had been here a long time. Very unrealistic.

You can't blame the women here for the lack of women on here. Also the amount of men on here doesn't actually equal lots of amazing potential meets i have found

Quality is hard to find on any site. I've found some amazing people to chat to, but they're a small percentage of the site."

Yes but I've been using apps for years and they're all the same in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

So I didn't reply to your message? I do apologise but you're not my type. And I don't message men first so don't know what it feels like not getting a reply.

Well it feels like shit and you are not my type either.. But it's just nice to have a chat sometimes,ya know. "

So why did you message me if I'm not your type..? I'm not getting you, OP, again. Don't think I will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"There’s no obligation to respond to messages.

Perhaps have a look at other profiles and see what they do to stand out.

Maybe if you are jealous of other people then Fab isn’t for you. Are you jealous of people in everyday life or just Fab? "

No this site just got to me. I just wanted to speak my mind.

It's life and life is a stage where we all have to play our part. I'm going to step away from this for awhile now and have a pint.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

So I didn't reply to your message? I do apologise but you're not my type. And I don't message men first so don't know what it feels like not getting a reply.

Well it feels like shit and you are not my type either.. But it's just nice to have a chat sometimes,ya know.

So why did you message me if I'm not your type..? I'm not getting you, OP, again. Don't think I will."

Lol I can't see what you don't get! Like I said it's nice to chat with someone. You don't know how hard it is for a man to talk with someone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP - on your profile you say you are not a swinger and only here for the forums.

Why are you getting irate that people are not responding to your emails and you are not meeting anyone for coffee or sex?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently.

It's not good for men? But it's good for women? I'm not getting you...

So I didn't reply to your message? I do apologise but you're not my type. And I don't message men first so don't know what it feels like not getting a reply.

Well it feels like shit and you are not my type either.. But it's just nice to have a chat sometimes,ya know.

So why did you message me if I'm not your type..? I'm not getting you, OP, again. Don't think I will.

Lol I can't see what you don't get! Like I said it's nice to chat with someone. You don't know how hard it is for a man to talk with someone. "

I don’t mean this in a harsh way, but don’t you have friends or family to talk to? If I get lonely that’s who I talk to. Unless there’s a mental health thread going on the forums at the time and someone says they are open to chat, I’d maybe message randomly for that purpose..

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By *etter the devil you knowWoman over a year ago

Lyndhurst

Maybe they exagerated how good it was though, you just dont know, you may meet someone and it wasnt that good but some one else will meet them and think it was good.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"You've been here 3 weeks, I don't think it's jealousy or envy, I think it's unrealistic expectations

3 weeks?! I thought this was a post for someome who had been here a long time. Very unrealistic.

You can't blame the women here for the lack of women on here. Also the amount of men on here doesn't actually equal lots of amazing potential meets i have found

Quality is hard to find on any site. I've found some amazing people to chat to, but they're a small percentage of the site.

Yes but I've been using apps for years and they're all the same in my experience. "

I do feel like you're making excuses OP, you're responses are all "you don't get it, it's not easy." Actually an awful lot of people do get it, myself included. I do feel like you're not actually paying attention to what's being said to you though.

Stop with the self pity, take the advice given.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's the curse of social media and why depression is rampant like never before."

This I agree with to an extent. People mostly only show the "good stuff" or don't always tell the truth about how their "wonderful life" is.

I think yoire gonna need to be proactive in getting to know people, go to a group social etc. They're a superb way of making contacts and getting to know people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jealousy is bad. Don't do it. Find a hobby instead of reading veris

But it's hard not to read them and compare lol

Compare with what?

Compare to myself. The verifications and what women are seeking is really getting to me now. This site is not good for men in general. It's made me think of things differently. "

If you're not enjoying a website don't remain, you're letting things consume you maybe :/

If it's any consolation, I've read verifications in the past of potential meets, met them and thought what the actual fuck have these people wrote...one person's great is another's gastly. I guess I'm saying don't always believe what you read.

Stop expecting anything from here, try and just take it as it comes you'll not be disappointed then.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

Nope.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman over a year ago

"Being a single woman on here I could easily get a meet from a guy if i wanted, as there will always be some people agter " a quick fuck" who don't care what the person they're playing with looks or sounds like, but i definitely am with you about viewing verifications and thinking people are having a much better time than you.

Hopefully you'll fund what you're looking for soon.

Got distracted by this post sorry, Molly listen up and listen up good , I'm not looking for a hole to fuck, I have no hidden agenda and I can honestly say you are unfiltered and beautiful. If anyone tells you differently then they obviously get pleasure from making others feel bad, which makes them more ugly than you could ever be x

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By *adeiteWoman over a year ago

Staffordshire

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

Well you've been here 3 weeks. What was your expectation when you joined? Did you expect to be drowning in a sea of pussy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Some of you should read all of the forum and people's profiles before jumping to conclusions and adding posts here. Many of you are very harsh and in cliques.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of you should read all of the forum and people's profiles before jumping to conclusions and adding posts here. Many of you are very harsh and in cliques. "

Well if you feel that way do you really want to be part of the so called cliques?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hopefully you'll fund what you're looking for soon.

Well for what it’s worth, I think you look lovely and you should enjoy the fun without overthinking it.

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By *olexMan over a year ago

Hull

Jealous? Of people i don't know? That's a wasted energy. Concentrate on being the best that you can be & don't worry about others success rates.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You aren't doing yourself any favours... I rarely go on the forums but yet I keep seeing your threads and they are depressing as fk.

Try not throwing yourself a pity party and go to a club and get a verification.

Most people won't meet someone who's not verified because they are usually daydreamers.

Also no one wants to be be fking Eeyore either.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

I sometimes feel like this, when I’m stuck at home rather than at a hedonistic party that several friends are attending because it’s my weekend with my kids, but then I do try to chat with friends and have a word with myself.

I had real FOMO this summer when several new friends I’d made at Cupid’s seemed to be getting on famously and merrily fucking the life out of each other in every combo possible, while I was stuck at home for a month with THE WORLD’S WORST eye infection. Then once I got the real story from each of them, not just the story told by the veris, I realised it was all a lot more complicated and full of hurt feelings, jealousy and possessiveness. Several people fell out and one couple almost split up. Veris are just the media spin.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Some of you should read all of the forum and people's profiles before jumping to conclusions and adding posts here. Many of you are very harsh and in cliques.

Well if you feel that way do you really want to be part of the so called cliques?"

I have no words for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Many of you think that we all want to be having sex with strangers in clubs and that isn't the case for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Many of you think that we all want to be having sex with strangers in clubs and that isn't the case for me "
me either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lots of sex here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of sex here"

Fucking lier.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of you should read all of the forum and people's profiles before jumping to conclusions and adding posts here. Many of you are very harsh and in cliques.

Well if you feel that way do you really want to be part of the so called cliques?

I have no words for you "

She's done nothing wrong. All her words have been wise and constructive.

She's wiser than a lot of people twice her age on here based on posts I've seen.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of sex here

Fucking lier."

I know I feel so ashamed.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of sex here"
skull fucking phil Mitchell dont count

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of sex hereskull fucking phil Mitchell dont count

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of sex hereskull fucking phil Mitchell dont count

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Alot of sheep here though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of sheep here though "
na i dont fuck sheep whos told you that its a total lie

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of sheep here though "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Alot of sheep here though

"
i see no wool

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many messages until a thread gets closed for veing too big? Bump it up as this thread solves nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many messages until a thread gets closed for veing too big? Bump it up as this thread solves nothing."

A thread needs 175 replies to be closed or can be closed by a mod

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many messages until a thread gets closed for veing too big? Bump it up as this thread solves nothing.

A thread needs 175 replies to be closed or can be closed by a mod "

It needs quite a few more replies then...

At the end of the day advice has been offered, and there are plenty of people who have been constructed. If everyone gets criticised, regardless of whether they've been slightly harsh or not then i would suggest the OP tries to delete the thread and doesn't create more threads as people have pointed out several threads in a similar vein have been made.

People like variety.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lots of sex hereskull fucking phil Mitchell dont count

Spat my biscuit out at this!

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

OP I'm not really sure what you're looking for here? Sympathy? Advice? Someone to put their arm round you and show you the way? It appears to change by the minute.

Firstly though, why let yourself get concerned by what others are or aren't doing? It's be better to concentrate on yourself rather than concern yourself with others surely?

As for not being able to get a reply to a message, I'll offer the same advice I would to anyone in that position - for starters make sure you have a decent profile and pictures, something that is interesting, alluring, piques peoples interests, shows some personality and helps you stand out - if you're unsure of what works, or how to get that across don't be scared to look at other well verified single guys profiles for inspiration or ideas of what might work for you - just don't copy outright.

If you find the approach you are using isn't working, look at how you can change that approach - that might mean deciding to go to organised socials or clubs, or perhaps using the forums more, or maybe changing the message style you use.

A negative attitude will get you negative responses - and being very blunt, this is where I see you letting yourself down - the threads you have posted are fully of negativity and as Oddball famously said in Kelly's Heroes "What's with the negative vibes man? We don't need them negative vibes" - no matter how frustrating you might find things, and how difficult it might seem - a positive attitude is more likely to get a positive response than a negative one.

Not sure what your expectations are - but you really need to set them as low as possible, and then take them down another notch

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hmm fabulous stuff

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jealousy is never good. Don't forget there is also a certain amount of bullshit in verifications sometimes. I've slept with the occasional dud who someone else has raved about! Good times are in the eye of the beholder.

There's lots of men who don't get anywhere on here. It's hard but try not to get bitter. Perhaps try a different approach in your messages? Improve your profile pictures etc (I've not looked at yours) Everyone has dry spells too sometimes. Distractions are good to have.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Some of you should read all of the forum and people's profiles before jumping to conclusions and adding posts here. Many of you are very harsh and in cliques. "

I’ve noticed some of the threads you start are very negative.

I mean this in a good way, if this site is making you feel negative & you’re not enjoying your time here. Why don’t you leave? Or hide your profile and step away from it?

If something isn’t working for me, or I’m not getting what I went from it, I move on. Why continue doing something that is making you unhappy?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Your experience sounds very typical for new single men here op. If you compare the results of similar guys who joined at the same very recent time, you'd probably find almost all of them would have no verifications. It's better to meet no one than lots of unsuitable people too, so you may consider it success that you have not wasted time on those types of meets.

Single men need to have very high levels of resiliency and determination to invest lots of time and energy for a long time, with seemingly little to no results. Some will do better than others - they will find others who want someone like them, with their success due to many factors.

But comparing ourselves to others is often just a ticket to hell, unless we're only seeking to learn from their strategies, to allow us to improve our own. There's always someone with a bigger house, muscles, tits, whatever we perceive we're lacking etc. Emotional pain may have a part to play in our life, if it steers us on to a new course, or is the result of grief. How will yours guide you?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, can't say I do.

When I'm actively meeting, I have lots of fun, as a single and part of a couple. When I'm not, it's a choice.

If I became jealous of what others were getting up to on here I think it'd be time for me to leave personally, fab isn't that big a part of my life anymore and I think if I got jealous it'd signal that it means too much.

Don't worry about what the others are up to OP, concentrate on yourself. Take the focus off meeting and have a giggle on site, it'll happen. And if you haven't already, get yourself to a club!

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By *iss SinWoman over a year ago

portchester

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

Well you've been here 3 weeks. What was your expectation when you joined? Did you expect to be drowning in a sea of pussy?"

He wanted to be deep in clunge lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some people are more appealing than others and then that leads to more success...

No jealous or envious comments... will help you appeal to more folk, OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just want to add, I'm quite new to fab.

When I joined I thought as long as I don't post cock and body pics and send clean polite messages I'd get some replies and possibly meets.

So far that has not happened. Do sales people give up because the first few people decline the products or services, usually they keep trying and change their approach. I would like to say thankyou to all the people who have offered advice on this and know that if it hasn't helped the OP you've certainly helped me so cheers guys.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just want to add, I'm quite new to fab.

When I joined I thought as long as I don't post cock and body pics and send clean polite messages I'd get some replies and possibly meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I just want to add, I'm quite new to fab.

When I joined I thought as long as I don't post cock and body pics and send clean polite messages I'd get some replies and possibly meets.

This is absolutely spot on.

We need more men like you here!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is my second time round. Im here for the forums now really, saying that if someone/couple catches my eye then maybe id roll with it and see what happens.

Expect nothing & enjoy the ride

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By *orthantsblueeyesMan over a year ago

Northampton

I personally don't read verifications, as what went on isn't any of my business and if I met that person then our experience would likely be different.

I haven't had sex for months and I'm still happy being here for the lolz

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By *reeMan over a year ago

Paisley

Hopefully you'll fund what you're looking for soon.

I've read what you said and agree with most of it. However, never do yourself down!! I think you have a great body and you're definitely not ugly! Don't listen to those who say otherwise!

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By *ibblingnewtWoman over a year ago

by the sea

Don’t pay any attention to the verifications, most are total crap, the actual best people on here will possibly have none, it doesn’t always reflect a meet either, most just follow others and write copy cat sentences trying to outdo themselves and want great ones back

Open your eyes to this and you will see what fab is about

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hmm fabulous stuff

Right, I defended you on one of your threads but now enough is enough, stop being rude to people that are trying to help you. Stop wallowing in self pity and misery. Nobody is going to want to talk to someone who is so negative.

On your profile it says you aren't

a swinger and you're only here for the forums,that doesn't make anyone think you're actively trying to meet.

Seriously, get a grip and stop feeling so sorry for yourself, it's not attractive.

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By *he Mac LassWoman over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I think it’s easy to assume everyone else is having an awesome time at it like rabbits. In reality most of us are trudging through the daily stuff and logging on here in the hope that someone catches our eye enough to get naked with. I missed a huge Fab party this weekend because my vanilla friends always have priority and I had a case of the FOMO until I counted my lucky stars that I was surrounded by people who love me for who I am and not whether they can get a blow job out of me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

Don’t believe everything you read

The grass isn’t always greener but jealousy is a natural response to want, but what you want and what you need aren’t necessarily the same XX

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hmm fabulous stuff

On your profile it says you aren't

a swinger and you're only here for the forums,that doesn't make anyone think you're actively trying to meet.

Seriously, get a grip and stop feeling so sorry for yourself, it's not attractive. "

I didn't mean to be rude with anyone. I sent that message because i was being quick on and off and didnt have much time for the forum.. And i know it says on my profile that I am not a swinger and what I mean by that is I don't go to clubs. It also says that.. "if I click with a lady online who would like to meet for a coffee or more then all good"

I thought that was enough for women to know that I wanted to meet someone.

Anyways I know I shouldn't complain, because things could be much worse and I thank everyone who tries to give advice.

There are some very nice people in these forums and you all make alot of sense

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Hmm fabulous stuff

On your profile it says you aren't

a swinger and you're only here for the forums,that doesn't make anyone think you're actively trying to meet.

Seriously, get a grip and stop feeling so sorry for yourself, it's not attractive.

I thought that was enough for women to know that I wanted to meet someone.

Anyways I know I shouldn't complain, because things could be much worse and I thank everyone who tries to give advice.

There are some very nice people in these forums and you all make alot of sense

See, this is better. People want to be around positive people. I'd advise changing your profile text to more accurately describe what you want, not all swingers go to clubs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hmm fabulous stuff

On your profile it says you aren't

a swinger and you're only here for the forums,that doesn't make anyone think you're actively trying to meet.

Seriously, get a grip and stop feeling so sorry for yourself, it's not attractive.

I thought that was enough for women to know that I wanted to meet someone.

Anyways I know I shouldn't complain, because things could be much worse and I thank everyone who tries to give advice.

There are some very nice people in these forums and you all make alot of sense

See, this is better. People want to be around positive people. I'd advise changing your profile text to more accurately describe what you want, not all swingers go to clubs."

Yes I've been meaning to change it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

What to put though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Nope, I have what I need and then some..... I'm a proper smug bastard rn

(always try to think positively and learn from your experiences, if you see a guy who's getting this "amazing sex" you crave, then maybe look at him and try to work out why or learn from his actions or choices and apply them in small dosed to your own situation and exercise patience.....)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"What to put though "

Stuff about you. What you’re looking for, what you can offer, the type of women you’re looking for....

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"What to put though "

You need to put what you feel accurately describes you. No one can tell you what to put as then it wouldn't be your profile.

Have a look at other people's profiles, what they've written and think about what will work for you.

It can't be spoon fed to you, its something that you have to work out. An awful lot of this is about the learning curve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks again Fabsters

This may seem like a stupid question to many of you here.. But can you please define to me what a swinger is?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Thanks again Fabsters

This may seem like a stupid question to many of you here.. But can you please define to me what a swinger is?

if you don’t know what a swinger is then how do you know you’re not one ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks again Fabsters

This may seem like a stupid question to many of you here.. But can you please define to me what a swinger is?

if you don’t know what a swinger is then how do you know you’re not one ?

Well I thought a swinger was someone who is part of a couple and has sex with other people in clubs. That's not me.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Thanks again Fabsters

This may seem like a stupid question to many of you here.. But can you please define to me what a swinger is?

if you don’t know what a swinger is then how do you know you’re not one ?

Well I thought a swinger was someone who is part of a couple and has sex with other people in clubs. That's not me. "

What does that make a single guy that meets that couple for an MMF then?

In the days of the News Of The Screws, where their reporters made their excuses and left before any car keys made their way into the bowl yes 'swingers' were normally thought of as couples who swapped - however as the term actually goes back beyond that to the free love days of the "Swinging Sixties" it's origins are actually more aligned to anyone taking a 'free' view to sex rather than a monogomous one.

As for it's definition today, I personally don't think it had a single one, and it's whatever the individual ascribes it to be

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By *ickygirl41Woman over a year ago

Glasgow

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

Not at all, In fact the complete opposite.

My freetime is limited, I make the most of it when I can.

Knowing my friends are going out, having fun, enjoying their lives. That makes me happy.

I even been known to give a little cheer & fist pump when a new veri pops up on my updates.

When it's 2 friends I know even louder

My free time is very limited too.. But that's besides the point here.

Maybe that attitude is part of it OP.

From my perspective women understand very well what it's like to be a guy in here. Is it your approach? Did we press the green arrow and see something that was a red flag?

Any jealous feelings for whatever reason are red flags for me. It highlights a sense of entitlement usually. And an overdeveloped ego often.

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By *onocamMan over a year ago

The world

Hi OP, a lot of people have given you some good advice already but I'd like to share my thoughts with you too. Maybe it can give you another perspective of what you're feeling.

Also, I might be wrong on my assumptions so please don't get offended.

Right, from your profile I feel you're not in a good place in real life. Apparently you're feeling lonely with all the work trips.

If that's the case, whatever you see in any social networks (including fab) potentialise this feeling of being lonely and missing out. This has been wildly studied and it's proven that people tend to have the same feelings as you're having when checking out other people on social media. The effect happens to people with happy busy lives and has a tremendous effect on people that are not really enjoying what they have at the moment, leading to anger, frustration and even depression.

The truth is, some people exaggerate, lie, make things up or try to portrait that they are happier or having more fun than they really are. This was pointed out by other people on the thread and it's true.

A good advice, shared here already, is... don't compare yourself to others and write thoughtful messages to the ladies or couples you're interested in chatting with. Surely you'll get an opening to show how cool/fun/smart or whatever you are to them.

Or, do what I do when travelling for work, go to the hotel bar and meet new people. It's easier and in many ways more fun than chatting online.

Finally, to give you some hope, I have a lot more barriers than you and have had great meets on fab. So good luck mate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Thanks again Fabsters

This may seem like a stupid question to many of you here.. But can you please define to me what a swinger is?

if you don’t know what a swinger is then how do you know you’re not one ?

Well I thought a swinger was someone who is part of a couple and has sex with other people in clubs. That's not me.

What does that make a single guy that meets that couple for an MMF then?

As for it's definition today, I personally don't think it had a single one, and it's whatever the individual ascribes it to be

Well I guess that makes Him a swinger too. So I guess a swinger is an individual who sleeps around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this??

Not at all, In fact the complete opposite.

My freetime is limited, I make the most of it when I can.

Knowing my friends are going out, having fun, enjoying their lives. That makes me happy.

I even been known to give a little cheer & fist pump when a new veri pops up on my updates.

When it's 2 friends I know even louder

My free time is very limited too.. But that's besides the point here.

Maybe that attitude is part of it OP.

From my perspective women understand very well what it's like to be a guy in here. Is it your approach? Did we press the green arrow and see something that was a red flag?

Any jealous feelings for whatever reason are red flags for me. It highlights a sense of entitlement usually. And an overdeveloped ego often. "

Yeah maybe both

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi OP, a lot of people have given you some good advice already but I'd like to share my thoughts with you too. Maybe it can give you another perspective of what you're feeling.

Also, I might be wrong on my assumptions so please don't get offended.

Right, from your profile I feel you're not in a good place in real life. Apparently you're feeling lonely with all the work trips.

Or, do what I do when travelling for work, go to the hotel bar and meet new people. It's easier and in many ways more fun than chatting online.

Finally, to give you some hope, I have a lot more barriers than you and have had great meets on fab. So good luck mate.

Thank you buddy

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By *en-xxxMan over a year ago

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"I'm not sure if jealousy or envy is the word for me to use here. However since I have been using this site I feel something..

When I read the verifications I feel like I've been missing out. Do anyone else feel like this?? "

Jealousy is for the weak. Deal with it dude. It’s part of life. Either up your game or just get used to being jealous

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It’s bit like Facebook envy, you see posts from your friends etc showing what a great time they are having and how perfect their lives are, yet what you don’t see is how they actually live or you don’t see the people that hardly go on there and have to update their status ever hour.

Those people you sit there and see grinning from ear to ear and think to yourself (I’ve done it) ‘why the fuck can’t I have a life like that?’ But then you hear a snippet of information that changes your outlook on life.

My suggestion is, don’t look at verifications, look at the profile blurb instead, maybe change your outlook on here, with that you have only been here three weeks, that is no time at all, look at how you fab.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes and no it's hard to explain.

My worst trait is that in my opinion if someone doesn't find me attractive that is now the automatic assumption for every other person.

50 people can find me attractive, 1 will find me unattractive and as a result I'll assume every new person I look at but don't interact with will find me unattractive.

(The statistics are made up to show my frustration by the way, even my ego isn't that big)

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