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Question: everyone entitle to their opinion
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For many, they think the other person will make them 'happy', and of course they can't possibly without making themselves unhappy."
That’s so true the best relationship is when you can both find your happiness within yourself so you don’t have to really depend on each other to make you happy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Restrictions , money , boredom
That’s 3 good reason which is the most common
Money"
I can’t see money really get the best out of a good relationship unless your weren’t meant to be together |
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People start ot take each other for granted. The little things start to go maybe the pat on the ass. The how's your day? and the other half really listening to the answer. Sex dwindles. Communication stops..
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"People start ot take each other for granted. The little things start to go maybe the pat on the ass. The how's your day? and the other half really listening to the answer. Sex dwindles. Communication stops..
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Unrealistic expectations
Low self esteem
High self esteem
Lack of communication
Boredom
Should never have been in a relationship in the first place
Grass is greener syndrome
Lack of effort
Mills and Boon don't publish stories about real life
Sex
No sex
Too much sex
Wrong type of sex
I could be here all day giving reasons... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Expectations and the disappointment of them not being met
Recentment
Lack of communication
Lack of trying
Lack of compromise
Think these were main ones in my marriage falling
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Communication is the main source of relationship breakdowns, almost every other cause is a by-product of not discussing your hopes and needs with each other. |
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"Communication is the main source of relationship breakdowns, almost every other cause is a by-product of not discussing your hopes and needs with each other."
I'd say that's true. Sometimes though communication can lead to the break up too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lying and cheating. "
This. Which is why I’d much prefer to be the third wheel in another’s relationship; not infidelity, though a bi couple.
This way we can all have our needs met. There’s no need to lie, cheating also becomes irrelevant. |
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I've only ever left a gf for either lying or cheating on me. Any other reason is just a cop out. And who ever puts money as a reason is sad. My best relationship was in school years so neither of us had money. |
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"I've only ever left a gf for either lying or cheating on me. Any other reason is just a cop out. And who ever puts money as a reason is sad. My best relationship was in school years so neither of us had money. "
Part of the reason I left my first husband was money. I simply couldn't contemplate a future with a gambling addict who put most of his money on the back of a horse. That may be sad but I'm a whole lot happier and better off without him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've only ever left a gf for either lying or cheating on me. Any other reason is just a cop out. And who ever puts money as a reason is sad. My best relationship was in school years so neither of us had money.
Part of the reason I left my first husband was money. I simply couldn't contemplate a future with a gambling addict who put most of his money on the back of a horse. That may be sad but I'm a whole lot happier and better off without him"
I’m sure the majority wouldn’t condemn you for that. Though I think the original interpretation was - one partner simply not earning enough. |
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I guess if you're both working hard to keep a house and kids and one person is just throwing that money away that would be very distressing so can understand that. But I don't like people that will only date someone if they have money car house etc. We weren't born with these things. Love should be about attraction and feeling, just wanting to be with that person. Regardless of status, money, possessions etc. I really hate what this world has become. Sorry, I went on a rant. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can’t comment on break up as been with my wife since we were kids. But I can say why I think we have stayed together. We laugh a lot together we are more like friends than married couple. Share things but also let each other have own space. I tell her everyday I love her kiss her every morning before leaving the house. Help with house work. Make sex interesting things can get dull if no effort put in. Be there for each other in good and bad times. Enjoy life together. |
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"Can’t comment on break up as been with my wife since we were kids. But I can say why I think we have stayed together. We laugh a lot together we are more like friends than married couple. Share things but also let each other have own space. I tell her everyday I love her kiss her every morning before leaving the house. Help with house work. Make sex interesting things can get dull if no effort put in. Be there for each other in good and bad times. Enjoy life together. "
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"I've only ever left a gf for either lying or cheating on me. Any other reason is just a cop out. And who ever puts money as a reason is sad. My best relationship was in school years so neither of us had money.
Part of the reason I left my first husband was money. I simply couldn't contemplate a future with a gambling addict who put most of his money on the back of a horse. That may be sad but I'm a whole lot happier and better off without him
I’m sure the majority wouldn’t condemn you for that. Though I think the original interpretation was - one partner simply not earning enough. "
It wouldn't bother me if they did condemn me.
However money is significant in a relationship if there's not enough of it for whatever reason it makes everything else more difficult. |
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"I guess if you're both working hard to keep a house and kids and one person is just throwing that money away that would be very distressing so can understand that. But I don't like people that will only date someone if they have money car house etc. We weren't born with these things. Love should be about attraction and feeling, just wanting to be with that person. Regardless of status, money, possessions etc. I really hate what this world has become. Sorry, I went on a rant. X "
No apology necessary  .
I think power and money is a magnet for some and a way to attract people for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Lying and cheating. "
I have always thought this is more the consequence than the root cause. You generally cheat if you are not committed to the relationship.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lying and cheating.
I have always thought this is more the consequence than the root cause. You generally cheat if you are not committed to the relationship.
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Different types of cheating as well for different reasons
Not saying any of it is right but it usually has an underlying course |
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By (user no longer on site)
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For me, I got married at 20 and he was my first proper boyfriend and while we had three wonderful children we in my opinion anyway were far too young, by the time we reached 33 we had grown in different directions, our focus was our kids but we always said we would never stay together for the kids sake and since we split our relationship with each other has gone back to friends and where we are in a happy place. |
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The relationship wasn't built on solid foundations but superficial enjoyment of secondary life experiences.
Those layers peel away over the years and leave you with your original shaky foundations which soon crumble under pressure. |
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