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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
Does anyone else feel sometimes that their primary relationship is with their phone? Between fab, messenger services, phone calls, videos and various other forms of interaction or even porn, is your phone ever far away from you?
Mine is with me most times of the day and I'm often messaging or talking at points throughout.
Is anyone else like this? Is your phone your principle/primary relationship? Is it a good thing?
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I only use my phone for whatsapp, phone calls and Spanish lessons. I have a split primary relationship in which I am a slave one half with my tablet the other with my cat  "
Well in that situation, obviously the cat is always the primary. They will defend their place tooth and claw.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes and it drives me mad.. I make sure if I'm out with family or friends my phone is out of sight and I check myself to make sure I'm appreciating my day rather than looking for entertainment. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Yes and it drives me mad.. I make sure if I'm out with family or friends my phone is out of sight and I check myself to make sure I'm appreciating my day rather than looking for entertainment."
Don't you find that you want to be sharing all those moments with your man though? |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction. "
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes and it drives me mad.. I make sure if I'm out with family or friends my phone is out of sight and I check myself to make sure I'm appreciating my day rather than looking for entertainment.
Don't you find that you want to be sharing all those moments with your man though? "
There's a balance between sharing moments and living the moments that I'm very aware of. We both have lives that take precedence and our moments fit around that. |
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I feel pressure to be accessible 24/7 and sometimes I just can’t be arsed. It can be a curse but for the most part I like how it helps me with my day to day life. Others just need to realise that my phone is exactly that and I will answer calls and messages when I have time or the inclination. Life is for living as they say not being glued to your phone and missing what the world has to offer 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction.
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is. "
I think that's more about physical distance and emotional connection. It bridges the gap and allows you to fill time together virtually. Maybe you're craving more proximity OP... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use my phone loads but it is just a tool to me. The fact it allows me to keep in contact with lots of people is a big benefit in my opinion.
Maybe it is because I use no social media other than two forums I use, so all interaction is person to person. I do think social media can make you more remote from people as a lot of the time you are not having direct conversations. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I barely use my phone, most days I don't even switch it on or take it with me when I go out. If it's on, I hate the thought that I am at everybody's beck and call, no matter what time of day. When it rings, all I hear in my mind is "TALK TO ME TALK TO ME TALK TO ME NOW". Horribly intrusive things. |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction.
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is.
I think that's more about physical distance and emotional connection. It bridges the gap and allows you to fill time together virtually. Maybe you're craving more proximity OP... "
Oh definitely, that's not a secret  |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"I barely use my phone, most days I don't even switch it on or take it with me when I go out. If it's on, I hate the thought that I am at everybody's beck and call, no matter what time of day. When it rings, all I hear in my mind is "TALK TO ME TALK TO ME TALK TO ME NOW". Horribly intrusive things."
That's exactly what Stephen Fry said, pretty much a direct quote. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction.
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is.
I think that's more about physical distance and emotional connection. It bridges the gap and allows you to fill time together virtually. Maybe you're craving more proximity OP...
Oh definitely, that's not a secret "
Nothing wrong with that  you're wanting to experience the moments with your lady rather than show her what you've missed together x |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction.
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is. "
Oh that’s a bit different though isn’t it? You have a lovely lady that you need to keep in touch with so it’s perfectly understandable- not in the cinema though
When distance is involved it’s the way of sharing each other’s day isn’t it |
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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction.
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is.
Oh that’s a bit different though isn’t it? You have a lovely lady that you need to keep in touch with so it’s perfectly understandable- not in the cinema though
When distance is involved it’s the way of sharing each other’s day isn’t it "
Definitely not in the cinema, that's my place of worship! No phones in church! |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"No I’m not a slave to my phone. It’s on silent most of the time and notifications are off. If I’m out with people my phone is kept out of sight. I don’t allow phones at the dinner table and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
I do feel so much is missed these days because of the obsession with phones. I find it a bit sad.
I was at the cinema last week and several people had their phones on during the film. They are really not that important in my opinion that they need their phone on during a film, it’s just an addiction.
I understand your points, I find that I'm using mine, not to idly chat with random folks but to be in contact with my lady which is slightly different from just checking who's responded to a thread post or what the spurs score is.
Oh that’s a bit different though isn’t it? You have a lovely lady that you need to keep in touch with so it’s perfectly understandable- not in the cinema though
When distance is involved it’s the way of sharing each other’s day isn’t it
Definitely not in the cinema, that's my place of worship! No phones in church!"
Quite right! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"...and if we’re having a conversation I want it to be face to face, not one person with an eye on their phone.
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Preach. 
I don't think it is for me. I do talk a lot to a few people but not at the expense of other things. It's nice switching it off or leaving it in my bag and just getting on with things. |
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