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The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can definitely help as a distraction and stop you thinking about someone quite as much....but will it help you get over heart break?...probably not unfortunately!!
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
I'm sure that for a small number of people this works but for the majority it doesn't. You stumble into a new relationship for the wrong reasons and that makes for shaky foundations.
There is a grieving / coping process when something ends and it varies from person to person. The main idea is it's best to start something new when you've definitively moved on and are well with yourself. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
the gym and random places |
Hmm I don't know. Sometimes I think if you're nearing the point of being over the person indulging can be good as it makes you feel wanted in a sense.
When you're havin sex with someone and the other person pops into your head then maybe not as only person you're torturing is yourself |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on."
I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. |
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"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.
I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. "
it actually made me miss the person even more.. Ended up sobbing after a meet x  |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
It can be a double edged sword in many ways. As others have stated, it can help as a short term distraction but trying to replace the emotional intimacy that you're missing with sex, will only lead to further hurt and heighten the feeling of loss.
You can't shorthand or circumvent the healing process sadly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.
I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. it actually made me miss the person even more.. Ended up sobbing after a meet x "
I think this would be me...its ok while actually being under them but afterward makes you feel worse  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's a short term distraction. But it helps to feel desired again and that in turns can help people move on.
I think that's the thing isn't it. The feeling of being wanted and desired. Sometimes we miss that more so than the actual person. it actually made me miss the person even more.. Ended up sobbing after a meet x "
That would be my fear too! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. can't disconnect that easily and wouldn't use someone else to try and make me feel better.
I’m willing to take one for the team! "
Ha ha ha such a gent! |
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I should have read the thread 
