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Amazing how some see swinging xx
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The forum post the other day said that swinging couples must be lacking something physical or emotionally to be in the game
(I had a knee jerk reaction to this and posted so but someone then pointed out that for instance in the case if a bi couple they are missing something physical from their partner I saw this and agreed however I do not accept emotional)
Me personally I love my partner completely
And am emotionally faithful to her and yer to me
Yes physically it's a no
It kinda gets to me when people assume that couples are somehow weakened or have to be seeking something
Yes I agree there may be couples out there that that applies to but it's defiantly the minority
I got to now many many couples over the years I've been in the game and not one has ever given any indication that they are less than in love
( and yes you can tell by body language for the ones that will say arrh but they might be unhappy)
We all have problems and some if us split even I'm swinging
(my last two long term swinging relationships broke up but not because if swinging )
Why do some generalise when they have absolutely no idea what swinging is or how for the majority it works to enhance a relationship ? Xx | |||
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"Cos they haven't yet learned not to possess.... " Well put.... | |||
"Cos they haven't yet learned not to possess.... Well put...." +1 xx  | |||
 if they swing, they must have something wrong in their relationship if they are on a swinging site.
Now, excuse me for been ignorant here…. but wasnt swinging originated from couples getting together with other couples. Without couples then there is NO swinging.
LOL
Steve
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"Seen a few comments recentlyn chat, off singles saying that couples cant be in if they swing, they must have something wrong in their relationship if they are on a swinging site.
Now, excuse me for been ignorant here…. but wasnt swinging originated from couples getting together with other couples. Without couples then there is NO swinging."+1  | |||
"Seen a few comments recentlyn chat, off singles saying that couples cant be in if they swing, they must have something wrong in their relationship if they are on a swinging site.
Now, excuse me for been ignorant here…. but wasnt swinging originated from couples getting together with other couples. Without couples then there is NO swinging.
LOL
Steve
"The Other thing to add to that is how do they explain the many couples who meet through the scene and have happy long term relationships and in many cases marry? Xx | |||
" The Other thing to add to that is how do they explain the many couples who meet through the scene and have happy long term relationships and in many cases marry? Xx "Good point. We know quite a few, including yourselves. Although, when 2 fellow fabbers get together and start a relationship, its always good to see them taking a step back from swinging to spend time together and getting to know each other before inviting others. Steve | |||
" The Other thing to add to that is how do they explain the many couples who meet through the scene and have happy long term relationships and in many cases marry? Xx
Good point. We know quite a few, including yourselves.
Although, when 2 fellow fabbers get together and start a relationship, its always good to see them taking a step back from swinging to spend time together and getting to know each other before inviting others.
Steve"Yep and some do leave the scene too it happens we all know Yes it's good to back off a little We didn't so much because of the distance at the moment But having said that for the first few months every time we were together ( and we actually see eachother a lot more than some think  )
We did just have us time and that is very important xx | |||
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"Seen a few comments recentlyn chat, off singles saying that couples cant be in if they swing, they must have something wrong in their relationship if they are on a swinging site.
Now, excuse me for been ignorant here…. but wasnt swinging originated from couples getting together with other couples. Without couples then there is NO swinging.
LOL
Steve
"Often a question that has crawled across my mind, "can singles swing", well yes, we just cant "wife swap" (and hold on why is it wife-swapping and not husband-swapping?, doesnt that imply that the woman is a possession (might be too many ss'ss, tired)). As for Soapy being in love and he and his partner still swinging, well as Granny said (and granny knows....) Both Soapy and said lady have moved beyond the "physical possession (see above) stage. What they are (perhaps), is emotional exclusive, physically liberal? Love is not about owning things, its about (for me), seeing the people you love as happy, content and when the chips are down, right there beside you (or behind you cowering), ready to take the hit with you (or run for help, lol). Can singles swing? Yes but really its just being promiscuous (which is ok, nothing to feel bad about), and obviously have not found someone they are willing to give up their independence for (and may never, nor be looking), perhaps, the kind of person that singles could become more emotionally involved with are "possessive" singles, who think its ok to share someone elses partner, but would refuse to do the same (i.e. happy to swing single, but change tack with a partner). I am sure this doesnt answer any questions you have Soapy and if it kills your thread (I have a habit of doing that), my apologies | |||
"Its the "let" part that makes me laugh. Noone lets me do anything i do it cause i want to" Lol Di that's why I put the let in quotes Do you really think Wendy would let me let her? Pmsl xx | |||
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"I am sure this doesnt answer any questions you have Soapy and if it kills your thread (I have a habit of doing that), my apologies" Apparently not, though my post was 'brewing' for a while..... | |||
"Its the "let" part that makes me laugh. Noone lets me do anything i do it cause i want to Lol Di that's why I put the let in quotes Do you really think Wendy would let me let her? Pmsl xx "Exactly same as me or jay letting each other do something | |||
" I also suspect that those lads (and I presume it's all lads) who tell your partner that they can get from them what they are missing from you aren't realy swingers, they are just blokes who have lost their way from the Clubs and Pubs (assuming that Swinging is different to a One Night " That bit fortunately has never been said to any of my partners ( it was said by a couple on another thread) I can see where you are coming from and realise it's perception It's just something that has always got my goat so to speak And people who are just out for a quick shag really need to to keep stum because their attitude won't really wash with many | |||
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