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I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. |
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You have every right to have a rant and moan.. No matter what the circumstances of what your retionship is whether Fwb or occasional fuck etc you deserve to be treated in a certain way.. It will always be the case that from time to time we are taken for a ride or made to feel stupid both for men and women.. Its just awful when it's happening.
Sending hugs and vent as much as you want!!  . Xx |
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over a year ago
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender. "
Well done 
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men  |
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men "
Oh dear. Another men vs women argument. So much for equality and societal maturity! |
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Women on here are worse. I know some women that only go after married men. I think all cheating is bad. It’s like a disease. Why would you wish to hurt someone my head can’t get around that? If people want to fuck around then be single I say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men
Oh dear. Another men vs women argument. So much for equality and societal maturity! "
This rant is about a man/men
If you want to rant about women/a woman who has done this, feel free to make a post. I’d hope you’d receive the same sympathetic replies. Of course all genders lie, everyone lies about something in life |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men "
I don't dispute this and the Op has ample reason for being upset. However i've found that similar behaviour isn't as harshly condoned here when the roles are reversed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men
I don't dispute this and the Op has ample reason for being upset. However i've found that similar behaviour isn't as harshly condoned here when the roles are reversed."
It should be, but you’re unfortunately correct |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Women on here are worse. I know some women that only go after married men. I think all cheating is bad. It’s like a disease. Why would you wish to hurt someone my head can’t get around that? If people want to fuck around then be single I say. "
Yes. Damn us women. ALL the men lie and ALL the women facilitate cheating.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men
I don't dispute this and the Op has ample reason for being upset. However i've found that similar behaviour isn't as harshly condoned here when the roles are reversed."
I havent seen that many threads where a man is complaining that a woman had a boyfriend and didnt let on
Cant think why |
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If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person  sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!! |
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You have known each other for a while after all that time it's a pity he couldn't have been honest. Maybe there is more going on behind the scenes for him. And he took comfort in an old friend. Is that his his style to be a cheater? |
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I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun' |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!! "
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men
Oh dear. Another men vs women argument. So much for equality and societal maturity!
This rant is about a man/men
If you want to rant about women/a woman who has done this, feel free to make a post. I’d hope you’d receive the same sympathetic replies. Of course all genders lie, everyone lies about something in life "
Why bring men into it when it is just about one man? |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'"
On dating sites probably |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!! "
Lol I asked myself the same question half an hour ago! I just believed him without questioning it
No I won't send the photo, but I want to out of spite, but I am better than that. Karma will play its part and bite him hard on the arse |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!! "
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. "
Feel your pain. Different if you knew and made a decision based on facts. Hate people that spin you a line. Honestly forget him, no action required, he’ll get what he deserves. Just don’t let him in again x hugs x |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single "
Read up, she wanted to, I just pointed out it wouldn’t be fair to hurt someone who is an innocent person |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably "
Nope! POF is full of freaks, tinder full of men who want hook ups, bumble full of people who don't reply to a message.... er not sure what other I am on... |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single "
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not?  |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
Read up, she wanted to, I just pointed out it wouldn’t be fair to hurt someone who is an innocent person "
Yes his reaction made complete sense once I took the photo and yes I took the photo for fun
Yes I want to but I won't send it |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
Lol I asked myself the same question half an hour ago! I just believed him without questioning it
No I won't send the photo, but I want to out of spite, but I am better than that. Karma will play its part and bite him hard on the arse "
Brush yourself off, stand straight and put it out of your mind, it was one moment in time, we’ve all been there at some point and our actions after define us, be the better person always x |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably
Nope! POF is full of freaks, tinder full of men who want hook ups, bumble full of people who don't reply to a message.... er not sure what other I am on..."
Well believe me you aren't going to find a relationship on here, it just isn't that kind of place. If online dating is not your thing, use this site for whatever physical things you like and maybe try meeting someone a more traditional way offline. X |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not? "
No its not deleted.... it's actually on here  
No he is not on this website and does not know of this website (as far as I know) |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably
Nope! POF is full of freaks, tinder full of men who want hook ups, bumble full of people who don't reply to a message.... er not sure what other I am on...
Well believe me you aren't going to find a relationship on here, it just isn't that kind of place. If online dating is not your thing, use this site for whatever physical things you like and maybe try meeting someone a more traditional way offline. X"
Lots of people have found relationships and even marriage on here if you’re wanting to continue the swinging lifestyle (unsure if OP is) what better place to meet someone than a swinging site? |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably
Nope! POF is full of freaks, tinder full of men who want hook ups, bumble full of people who don't reply to a message.... er not sure what other I am on...
Well believe me you aren't going to find a relationship on here, it just isn't that kind of place. If online dating is not your thing, use this site for whatever physical things you like and maybe try meeting someone a more traditional way offline. X"
Er I never said anything about finding a relationship on here.... |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not?
No its not deleted.... it's actually on here
No he is not on this website and does not know of this website (as far as I know) "
Is it the latest picture on your profile?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably
Nope! POF is full of freaks, tinder full of men who want hook ups, bumble full of people who don't reply to a message.... er not sure what other I am on...
Well believe me you aren't going to find a relationship on here, it just isn't that kind of place. If online dating is not your thing, use this site for whatever physical things you like and maybe try meeting someone a more traditional way offline. X
Lots of people have found relationships and even marriage on here if you’re wanting to continue the swinging lifestyle (unsure if OP is) what better place to meet someone than a swinging site?"
Yeah of course there are exceptions but I'm confident most people would agree that generally it isn't a website to start a relationship, and that other dating sites and traditional methods have more chance of succeeding with that than fab. I think that's fair surely? |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
Lol I asked myself the same question half an hour ago! I just believed him without questioning it
No I won't send the photo, but I want to out of spite, but I am better than that. Karma will play its part and bite him hard on the arse "
Pepper in his underpants would be better. Leave the innocent alone . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You say he creeped back into your life after you pushed him away.
It doesn't sound like it was ever a mutually satisfying or functional relationship.
I don't know why you're so outraged by the outcome |
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men
I don't dispute this and the Op has ample reason for being upset. However i've found that similar behaviour isn't as harshly condoned here when the roles are reversed.
I havent seen that many threads where a man is complaining that a woman had a boyfriend and didnt let on
Cant think why"
Stab in the dark its because if a woman is cheating on here she is usally honest about it
I'm guessing OP is more annoyed by with herself for letting this douche back in her life block him and move on |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'"
This is what I find so upsetting - the fact that you feel like you're a twat for falling for his shit. You are not a twat. He is a lying, cheating, duplicitous wanker, and you are not a twat.
Block him, get rid of him from your existence, and try not to beat yourself up because HE is the lying, cheating, duplicitous, wanker. You are not.
Tonnes of love from me xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’d think yourself lucky you aren’t his gf.
Just forget about him and move on. Getting revenge or even isn’t worth the energy and won’t make you feel better. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everyone lies.
It's the most basic self defence mechanism learned.
Most 'single' men on here are attached in some way.
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There’s also a lot of ‘single’ women on here that are attached in some way but don’t always tell the truth. |
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By *arex2Couple
over a year ago
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. "
He's a dick.... But please don't tar all men with the same brush. That's not fair. Women can do the same shit! |
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"Thanks Everyone,
I have blocked his phone number, twitter and Facebook... How do you block an email address?
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You can block emails from certain people via the email settings, it usually drops down in the read/junk/delete box, well it does on mine
Good luck with your future meets |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still.
He's a dick.... But please don't tar all men with the same brush. That's not fair. Women can do the same shit!"
Too late, have meet one to many dicks in my time to not paint them all with the same tar brush....
Just going to be a complete ice queen and invest in a bloody good vibrator |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!! "
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"Did you ask him if he was single ?
Did he say he was single ?
Yes and Yes!"
Yep. I've read through now.
I'm guessing he said something like...... 'NO i'm not married ( truth ) or YES i'm single ( truth ) or YES i'm single ( only a lie if he's commited / living with another partner )
I have a male friend but i'd shag others. I still class me as single.
All that aside I think what he did was deceitful. I think his expectations were met and yours were not. Simple as. So it's understandable you feel stung. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had similar happen and sadly more than once. The most recent I'd known for 7 years. Then had to deal with a woman he'd also been seeing who had only found out what I did 2 years ago, messaging and flinging all sorts at me, about him :/
When I found out and confronted him he denied it to the hilt, which was hilarious. I asked a male friend for his perspective and he gave the clearest answer "If he told you he'd off not been able to fuck you" and although it emoted many retorts he was right, the cheat in question knew my feelings on cheats so why admit to getting in a relationship whilst still swinging about on fab.
It makes you very guarded for future meets or it did and still does me, you can only believe what people tell you untill you don't I'm afraid. We can't expect everyone to have the same morales and respect for others unfortunately |
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men
Oh dear. Another men vs women argument. So much for equality and societal maturity! "
Yes, humans are cunts but in this instance the OP had a bad experience with a man....if a dog had of bit her would people be piping up about cats, hamsters and spider monkeys...No, I doubt it either |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. "
well 1 you shouldn't of gone snooping and 2 he won't be the first to do that & certainly won't be the Last |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. well 1 you shouldn't of gone snooping and 2 he won't be the first to do that & certainly won't be the Last "
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over a year ago
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Delete block move on..
If you don't have the guys permission (you don't, he told you to delete it) to use / send the picture there are laws against doing so.
Hope you find what you're looking for. |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. "
You sound jealous more than anything. Sending the photos sounds more like a "if I cant have him then no one can" type scenario |
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This is why I don’t do emotions. You should all follow in my footsteps. You may all love me, and sleep with me, nobody else though. It’s not for my benefit, it’s to save you from this awful scenario.
Women of fab, just know: I understand and love you all. (Though without emotions - for your own protection, of-course |
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over a year ago
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Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?.... |
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably
Nope! POF is full of freaks, tinder full of men who want hook ups, bumble full of people who don't reply to a message.... er not sure what other I am on..."
None of which are dating sites any more and certainly no more than this being a swingers site.
I've think as with fab, people use a particular 'sex' site or app as they want to use it. This can change over time too, and few think of leaving a site because their wants/needs change.
Members define a site and not its name.
Unfortunately the issue OP raises is nothing new and was going on a millennium or 3 ago. Nothing has changed. |
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"Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?...."
what's her pushing him away got to do with him being a lying cheat!!!! |
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"Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?....what's her pushing him away got to do with him being a lying cheat!!!!"
Does rather smack of double standards, dont you think?
If people treat each other like commodities how can anyone be surprised if they in turn are also treated like a commodity? |
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"Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?....what's her pushing him away got to do with him being a lying cheat!!!!
Does rather smack of double standards, dont you think?
If people treat each other like commodities how can anyone be surprised if they in turn are also treated like a commodity?"
not in the slightest. She didn't cheat |
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"Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?....what's her pushing him away got to do with him being a lying cheat!!!!
Does rather smack of double standards, dont you think?
If people treat each other like commodities how can anyone be surprised if they in turn are also treated like a commodity? not in the slightest. She didn't cheat "
Or lie and say she was single, when she wasnt |
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"Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?....what's her pushing him away got to do with him being a lying cheat!!!!
Does rather smack of double standards, dont you think?
If people treat each other like commodities how can anyone be surprised if they in turn are also treated like a commodity? not in the slightest. She didn't cheat
Or lie and say she was single, when she wasnt"
She may have simply not asked. In the age of social media, it’s pretty difficult to hide a long term relationship.
I’m against infidelity though, so take the op’s side. His was a bad lad. |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. "
I'm sure it's already been said but.....
....block and never contact again! His gf doesn't deserve your shit any more than she deserves his. Leave the drama with him, move on and learn, innit....  |
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"Is it only me who read " I pushed him away for a few years", yet when it suited you OP you made yourself available to him again.
Did you e orct him to dit there wait and one for you until you decided yo stop "pushing him away", or should he have just got on with his life in the same way you clearly have.
If people use people then people get used. It happens to both genders equally, doesnt it?....what's her pushing him away got to do with him being a lying cheat!!!!
Does rather smack of double standards, dont you think?
If people treat each other like commodities how can anyone be surprised if they in turn are also treated like a commodity? not in the slightest. She didn't cheat
Or lie and say she was single, when she wasnt"
I pushed him away by cutting all contact, refusing to respond to his text messages and advances. I have never initiated contact or text him first. Last I spoke to him was 2013/14 time then last year 2018, I caved in and replied to a text... wish I hadn't
It has always been him doing the chasing, He told me he was single footloose and fancy free.
It was even mentioned the other night and I said I am happy with being FWB as soon as he gets a GF or me a BF its over and he agreed and even first pumped/ high 5'd. I now know he was lying
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This have happened to me twice now and I should know better... Started to see this absolutely gorgeous guy and fall in love with him. He ended everything and few weeks later while d*unk texted and asked if I would just meet him for fun and of course sometimes that’s better than nothing.. So later on I get to know he actually had girlfriend when we dated... She was size 8 and it absolutely broke me and he kept text me constantly after that another guy met on one dating sites we had fantastic conversation and jokes and I met him few times and all see. to go well but one day out of blue I was blocked.... Run into him on the same dating site few weeks later and he told me he had wife and she was about to find out.. Years later I found him on here Just unlucky like that with guys in my life. |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still.
I'm sure it's already been said but.....
....block and never contact again! His gf doesn't deserve your shit any more than she deserves his. Leave the drama with him, move on and learn, innit.... "
to be fair I wish when my ex had been cheating on me someone would have given me the heads up... that is why people get away with it |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still. "
FWB should be drama free.
I don't know why you'd even contemplate wanting to hurt his girlfriend: that's not nice.
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over a year ago
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"I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but women do this as well. Everyone is capable of dishonesty, regardless of gender.
Well done
Buuuuuut a woman didn’t do this to her. A man did. So her rant is about men "
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not?
No its not deleted.... it's actually on here
No he is not on this website and does not know of this website (as far as I know) "
So he asked you to delete the photo and instead of doing so, you put it up on a site without his permission? |
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"I need to vent, cannot vent on facebook and my bestie hasn't read/replied to my text... yet...
Went away the other day with a chap I've known for 10 years or so, yes it's been an on/off funny 'relationship' started dating then turned in fwb... then I had enough pushed him away for a few years and he creeped back into my life last year...
He lives elsewhere in the world now, so last saw him last year and then earlier this week.
He took me away, spoilt me had a really good day/night etc
Just got bored started nosing on his facebook... the prick has a Girlfriend!
It all adds up now, he got a text from this person and said it was his sister... He flipped out when I took a certain photo and demanded I deleted it. Along with a few other things he said/did...
Fuck sake why the hell do men do this? they tell you they are single, yet the reality is they just use you.
Yes I am on here, yes I know the difference between a relationship and a FWB, but I'd rather my FWB were not cheating on their girlfriends.
Right now I want to send a certain photo to the girlfriend and text him and call him all the names under the sun.
Reality is I will 'disappear' block and move on.... However it hurts is fucking horrible to find this out. Yes my fault for snooping but still.
I'm sure it's already been said but.....
....block and never contact again! His gf doesn't deserve your shit any more than she deserves his. Leave the drama with him, move on and learn, innit.... to be fair I wish when my ex had been cheating on me someone would have given me the heads up... that is why people get away with it "
And if they had you may be saying the very opposite now. I know of a couple of similar situations and it was a close friend who told them and in both cases they ended up also loosing their close friend over it because they got drawn into it and now no longer friends with either.
It always sounds simpler when it's not actually happened. We don't know what works we end up unearthing.
Best to say nothing and move on.
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To the OP did he know you were on here looking for other men when you just met him or was that kept secret or just not mentioned? |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!! "
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over a year ago
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not?
No its not deleted.... it's actually on here
No he is not on this website and does not know of this website (as far as I know)
So he asked you to delete the photo and instead of doing so, you put it up on a site without his permission? "
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not?
No its not deleted.... it's actually on here
No he is not on this website and does not know of this website (as far as I know)
So he asked you to delete the photo and instead of doing so, you put it up on a site without his permission?
I'm glad I'm not the only one pointing that out! "
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"I'm just pissed of with myself for falling for his blatant lies
He begged to see me and assured me he was single
This isn't the first and won't be the last time I find out a bloke has a GF is just bloody annoying how I keep falling for the lies
Where the hell are all the single, emotionally available men who actually want to date rather than have 'fun'
On dating sites probably "
You'd think so. But maybe half the profiles on the front page of POF ask the exact same question. |
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"If he is on FB why didn’t you look him up before going away with him if it was so easy to look him up after coming back? Plus why send a pic to his innocent gf, that’s just being spiteful and hurtful to the wrong person sometimes you women make me sad with your crazy ways, and that is coming from a woman!!
She didn't take the pic to send to his gf. She took a pic I'm assuming for fun and he made her delete it, I think she was just pointing out his reaction made sense once she found out he's not single
She did go on to say she now felt like sending the picture to his girlfriend. So is it deleted or not?
No its not deleted.... it's actually on here
No he is not on this website and does not know of this website (as far as I know) "
So you've posted his pic on here for all to see when you admitted he asked you to delete it.
You've displayed no respect for him and that's also probably against Fab rules too as you don't have his permission to post it.
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Reality, it's not about men, it's about the opportunity to look for something extra. There's plenty of ladies who are attached and without knowledge of their partner too on here. I cant believe that a relationship ship is impossible on here either, there seems to be plenty who manage. It seems to be that its honesty that matters whichever way. |
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