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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Got me puzzled this.....
got a wink off a couple who had checked out my profile.
i checked their profile out and was interested so i returned the wink.
they then sent me a friend invite so as i was interested i accepted the invite.
I then found that they had blocked me! not sure why. If they were not interested then surely they could have mailed to say rather than blocking me.
Puzzled me it has but hey ho.  |
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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May have just been no 'feel' or connection after seeing the mug shot. Agree though a polite no after their approach should perhaps follow.
Their right it will be mentioned no doubt is not to have to.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could drive yourself potty thinking about why they dropped you after they were the ones doing to running. As long as you know you didn't do anything intentionally that put them off, then just forget about it and put it behind you. No point in letting it bother you. As the saying goes... nowt as queer as folk x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not worth worrying about mate. Happened to me a few times. All part and parcel of being an ugly bastard in my case lol. Persevere though, there are many people here who are not so shallow |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't understand why you are puzzled. They winked as they must have liked the profile, you winked back = that's not an entitlement to sex
They sent a friends request, you accepted = that's not an entitlement to sex
They decided they didn't wish to continue, no doubt to discourage any further communication so they blocked. Yes that's maybe a tad overzealous for some but its clearly how they choose to do things.
I'm puzzled at your puzzlement. I understand that you may think its rude they didn't reply. But would a message to you really have made you feel better. I suspect you would have still been miffed cos I'm guessing you bore far too much relevance on the wink and friends request ie, maybe allowing yourself to think “great I'm in ere".
Keep smiling and don't take it seriously  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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They were probably judging you by your pics, if they decided, having seen them, that you weren't their type, thats probably why.
Its much less offensive than sending a message saying 'you fugly', I suppose |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They were probably judging you by your pics, if they decided, having seen them, that you weren't their type, thats probably why.
Its much less offensive than sending a message saying 'you fugly', I suppose "
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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why you are puzzled. They winked as they must have liked the profile, you winked back = that's not an entitlement to sex
They sent a friends request, you accepted = that's not an entitlement to sex
They decided they didn't wish to continue, no doubt to discourage any further communication so they blocked. Yes that's maybe a tad overzealous for some but its clearly how they choose to do things.
I'm puzzled at your puzzlement. I understand that you may think its rude they didn't reply. But would a message to you really have made you feel better. I suspect you would have still been miffed cos I'm guessing you bore far too much relevance on the wink and friends request ie, maybe allowing yourself to think “great I'm in ere".
Keep smiling and don't take it seriously "
But ultimately in a nutshell the above is the wisest words of advice you could be given.
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"Got me puzzled this.....
got a wink off a couple who had checked out my profile.
i checked their profile out and was interested so i returned the wink.
they then sent me a friend invite so as i was interested i accepted the invite.
I then found that they had blocked me! not sure why. If they were not interested then surely they could have mailed to say rather than blocking me.
Puzzled me it has but hey ho. "
Husband looking around for single males to join them sends a wink and a friends invite.
Wife comes in from the shops and says did you find a young bloke for us.
Husband says I winked and befriended all the ones I thought you'd like.
Wife says....oooooooo look I like this one and he's said yes. Let's block all the others or we will be getting tons of mail.
Sorted.
Could be one of a million scenarios. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't understand why you are puzzled. They winked as they must have liked the profile, you winked back = that's not an entitlement to sex
They sent a friends request, you accepted = that's not an entitlement to sex
They decided they didn't wish to continue, no doubt to discourage any further communication so they blocked. Yes that's maybe a tad overzealous for some but its clearly how they choose to do things.
I'm puzzled at your puzzlement. I understand that you may think its rude they didn't reply. But would a message to you really have made you feel better. I suspect you would have still been miffed cos I'm guessing you bore far too much relevance on the wink and friends request ie, maybe allowing yourself to think “great I'm in ere".
Keep smiling and don't take it seriously "
No did not think i am in ere or i was entitled to sex. been on here for a fair while. just would of thought it better to get a no not for us type of message rather than just blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They were probably judging you by your pics, if they decided, having seen them, that you weren't their type, thats probably why.
Its much less offensive than sending a message saying 'you fugly', I suppose "
hey i resemble that remark |
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"Not worth worrying about mate. Happened to me a few times. All part and parcel of being an ugly bastard in my case lol. Persevere though, there are many people here who are not so shallow"
It's not shallow to not want to have sex with someone.
It's not shallow to block someone.
It's not shallow to not want to enter into a tome of excuses for not wanting to meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it's your hidden pictures.
I notice that if people live near, many do a friends thing, look at the pics, especially looking for face pics, then block and move on.
Unfortunately most single men are on the back foot on a site like this  |
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"I don't understand why you are puzzled. They winked as they must have liked the profile, you winked back = that's not an entitlement to sex
They sent a friends request, you accepted = that's not an entitlement to sex
They decided they didn't wish to continue, no doubt to discourage any further communication so they blocked. Yes that's maybe a tad overzealous for some but its clearly how they choose to do things.
I'm puzzled at your puzzlement. I understand that you may think its rude they didn't reply. But would a message to you really have made you feel better. I suspect you would have still been miffed cos I'm guessing you bore far too much relevance on the wink and friends request ie, maybe allowing yourself to think “great I'm in ere".
Keep smiling and don't take it seriously "
There is another thread running on the trouble some ppl have saying no, and a myriad on the abuse that sometimes follows a not interested message... they have clearly decided its simplest to block if they are no longer interested. |
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"it's your hidden pictures.
I notice that if people live near, many do a friends thing, look at the pics, especially looking for face pics, then block and move on.
Unfortunately most single men are on the back foot on a site like this "
How dare someone realize they recognize you or dont fancy you then decide not to meet...should be banned |
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"I don't understand why you are puzzled. They winked as they must have liked the profile, you winked back = that's not an entitlement to sex
They sent a friends request, you accepted = that's not an entitlement to sex
They decided they didn't wish to continue, no doubt to discourage any further communication so they blocked. Yes that's maybe a tad overzealous for some but its clearly how they choose to do things.
I'm puzzled at your puzzlement. I understand that you may think its rude they didn't reply. But would a message to you really have made you feel better. I suspect you would have still been miffed cos I'm guessing you bore far too much relevance on the wink and friends request ie, maybe allowing yourself to think “great I'm in ere".
Keep smiling and don't take it seriously
No did not think i am in ere or i was entitled to sex. been on here for a fair while. just would of thought it better to get a no not for us type of message rather than just blocked."
To which you reply why not...they try to be polite...wife doesnt think you are her type...you reply well she is a fat dog who couldnt get a fuck in a brothel...
OK you dont do that but i hope you get my point... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not worth worrying about mate. Happened to me a few times. All part and parcel of being an ugly bastard in my case lol. Persevere though, there are many people here who are not so shallow
It's not shallow to not want to have sex with someone.
It's not shallow to block someone.
It's not shallow to not want to enter into a tome of excuses for not wanting to meet.
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Not shallow to block someone purely on looks? Will disagree with u there granny.
I agree there has to be an attraction, but just as easy to remove from friends list and say not for me, but thanks. I'd say just blocking is a little unfair, esp as they did the running initially |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP on your profile it states “My winks mean so much more than a wink" or words to that degree.
What exactly does that mean please?
My winks mean a friendly hello. Sometimes the wink doesn't come off me (female) and it will come off my OH. He winks guys that he thinks ill like.
If I wink a guy this should not be taken as a definite meet request. It means I like something about you based on a profile and pics that are available to me. They may block me after I've winked, we may exchange a few messages and I've not liked what they've said. More often than not ill block guys who after I've winked message me constantly every hour saying 'what you doing'.
Don't read into or expect anything on this site and then you won't feel disgruntled. It doesn't matter who makes the initial contact, it doesn't mean anything |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"maybe the hubby saw ur cock was bigger than his and blocked you cuz hes jelly
always works for me 
I've seen ur sabre smooth - yes - could well be a jealous hubby "
aw thanks megs |
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over a year ago
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"I don't understand why you are puzzled. They winked as they must have liked the profile, you winked back = that's not an entitlement to sex
They sent a friends request, you accepted = that's not an entitlement to sex
They decided they didn't wish to continue, no doubt to discourage any further communication so they blocked. Yes that's maybe a tad overzealous for some but its clearly how they choose to do things.
I'm puzzled at your puzzlement. I understand that you may think its rude they didn't reply. But would a message to you really have made you feel better. I suspect you would have still been miffed cos I'm guessing you bore far too much relevance on the wink and friends request ie, maybe allowing yourself to think “great I'm in ere".
Keep smiling and don't take it seriously
No did not think i am in ere or i was entitled to sex. been on here for a fair while. just would of thought it better to get a no not for us type of message rather than just blocked.
To which you reply why not...they try to be polite...wife doesnt think you are her type...you reply well she is a fat dog who couldnt get a fuck in a brothel...
OK you dont do that but i hope you get my point..."
Well i ain't like that i can assure you. |
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over a year ago
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"Not worth worrying about mate. Happened to me a few times. All part and parcel of being an ugly bastard in my case lol. Persevere though, there are many people here who are not so shallow
It's not shallow to not want to have sex with someone.
It's not shallow to block someone.
It's not shallow to not want to enter into a tome of excuses for not wanting to meet.
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for |
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for"
It would never even cross my mind for a second to send a 'no thanks' message to someone I have not had a message from... after all, what am I saying 'no thanks' to? They haven't asked for anything. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for"
Sadly, the issue of 'no replies', 'no manners', 'pissy replies to a no thanks', 'nobody owes you a reply' are old tropes on these forums - everyone has an opinion on it and there's a widely ranging set of opinions on what's right.
Its a problem for which there is no right solution other than don't take it personally and employ your energies in finding someone who does want to meet you.
In other words...."Next...!"
Because that's exactly what the couple that blocked you were thinking when they hit the block button. |
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for
It would never even cross my mind for a second to send a 'no thanks' message to someone I have not had a message from... after all, what am I saying 'no thanks' to? They haven't asked for anything."
+1
And dont accept friends invites without face pic first... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for
It would never even cross my mind for a second to send a 'no thanks' message to someone I have not had a message from... after all, what am I saying 'no thanks' to? They haven't asked for anything.
+1
And dont accept friends invites without face pic first..."
Or one step further - don't accept friends invites without a few mail exchanges first. |
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for
It would never even cross my mind for a second to send a 'no thanks' message to someone I have not had a message from... after all, what am I saying 'no thanks' to? They haven't asked for anything."
They do say that to me when i reply no thanks to hi how are you ....
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just a no thanks would have sufficed though.not a lot to ask for
It would never even cross my mind for a second to send a 'no thanks' message to someone I have not had a message from... after all, what am I saying 'no thanks' to? They haven't asked for anything.
They do say that to me when i reply no thanks to hi how are you ....
Grapes is grapes and the sour ones come in many guises but one flavour"
OP wants a reply to a message he never received though.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"it's your hidden pictures.
I notice that if people live near, many do a friends thing, look at the pics, especially looking for face pics, then block and move on.
Unfortunately most single men are on the back foot on a site like this
How dare someone realize they recognize you or dont fancy you then decide not to meet...should be banned"
That was not the message, people like to know who else plays in their area, and only way to see is to look at the pictures is as friends. I have done it myself ... |
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"maybe the hubby saw ur cock was bigger than his and blocked you cuz hes jelly
always works for me
I've seen ur sabre smooth - yes - could well be a jealous hubby
aw thanks megs"
ur more than welcome  |
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