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Adopt-a-Lurker. The Official thread

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Sorry about balls up earlier. Forget that other thread, it was a phony. Let's do this properly.

Lurkers.. If you are in, please Say "I'm in (L)".

Established members please Say "I'm in (F)".

I've not been here all that long myself so it's hard to differentiate Lurkers from Forumites from Old Sweats.

The point of this thread is to prove we're NOT "The Clique".

Other than that, what you decide to teach is up to you. Lurkers, if you're Mentor does a good job, be sure to thank them.

I will allocate Lurker to Mentor. To avoid inundated inboxes. By the end of the evening, you should have your very new, shiny partnership. I wish you luck.

All that being said..

"I'm in (F)".

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By *sm81Couple over a year ago

warwickshire

Im in (L)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don’t know if we’re considered an (L) or an (F)!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

You two are matched.. Congratulations

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By *lue NarwhalMan over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

Im an F

Is it true that lurkers are for life and not just Christmas?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t know if we’re considered an (L) or an (F)!"

(F) definitely effing F

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

I’m in (F)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, and I am not 'in'

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Im an F

Is it true that lurkers are for life and not just Christmas?"

No.. It's a two week long partnership. After that it's up to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in (F) x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can we make sure they’re local? Don’t want to do all this hard work without a chance of a run round the haystack.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t know if we’re considered an (L) or an (F)!

(F) definitely effing F

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I'm in (f)

I'll pet him and pat him and call him George...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Can we make sure they’re local? Don’t want to do all this hard work without a chance of a run round the haystack."

Nope.. It's all theory work and forum based.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in (F)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

four Forumites going spare.. c'mon Lurkers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in

Not a lurker or established member. What does that make me ??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m in

Not a lurker or established member. What does that make me ?? "

Available

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in (mainly L)

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By *inky shire guyMan over a year ago

lanark

I’m in. As a lurker......

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m in

Not a lurker or established member. What does that make me ?? "

Not in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in (mainly L)

You are paired with Rubidoux

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hang on.. last two Lurkers.. have loads of green arrow trails.. hmmmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m in. As a lurker......

Paired with Blue Narwal

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By *c1989Woman over a year ago

Manchester

Bookmarking to see how it goes.

Not around much for the next couple of weeks though so can't really partake.

Just as I'd increased my forum participation too...

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm in (mainly L)

You are paired with Rubidoux"

Damnit GK!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Bookmarking to see how it goes.

Not around much for the next couple of weeks though so can't really partake.

Just as I'd increased my forum participation too... "

I'll be your partner then. Any questions.. just get in touch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in (mainly L)

You are paired with Rubidoux

Damnit GK! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm in (mainly L)

You are paired with Rubidoux

Damnit GK!

Thanksss.. What do I do now? Haha first timer

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By *ickygirl41Woman over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm in F

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By *c1989Woman over a year ago

Manchester

"Bookmarking to see how it goes.

Not around much for the next couple of weeks though so can't really partake.

Just as I'd increased my forum participation too...

I'll be your partner then. Any questions.. just get in touch."

Thanks Mr Khan.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm in (mainly L)

You are paired with Rubidoux

Damnit GK!

Thanksss.. What do I do now? Haha first timer

I would say to message Rubidoux, she will take you under her wing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in (L)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in (mainly L)

You are paired with Rubidoux

Damnit GK!

Thanksss.. What do I do now? Haha first timer

Contact Rubidoux and let her know you've been assigned to her. Ask her anything you like about the Forum. She is very nice, pretty wise and good fun.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

My monkey escaped.....I'm back in

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in (L)"

I give you Tea Monkey. You are lucky. He's a true Alpha Male.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

F go on then

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By *VineMan over a year ago

The right place

Am I being passed over! Blimey it’s jobs for the boys!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in (f)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My monkey escaped.....I'm back in

When you catch it, spank it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Am I being passed over! Blimey it’s jobs for the boys!

Not at all.. I'm doing my best to do it in order they come up in.. sorry dude.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

"My monkey escaped.....I'm back in

When you catch it, spank it. "

I'm gunna skin it.......I need a new throw

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Am I being passed over! Blimey it’s jobs for the boys!

Not at all.. I'm doing my best to do it in order they come up in.. sorry dude."

I'm shit at this.. much better at killing animals with my bare hands

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have no idea what’s going on but I like the sound of it... I think? What do I do

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"My monkey escaped.....I'm back in

When you catch it, spank it.

I'm gunna skin it.......I need a new throw

Eeeek! Be nice to monkeys!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My monkey escaped.....I'm back in

When you catch it, spank it.

I'm gunna skin it.......I need a new throw

I’ve just crossed my legs and winced.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

"My monkey escaped.....I'm back in

When you catch it, spank it.

I'm gunna skin it.......I need a new throw

Eeeek! Be nice to monkeys! "

Ooooops

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I'm in (L)"

Filters fella!

You'll have to message me

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have no idea what’s going on but I like the sound of it... I think? What do I do "

Read the post? Decide if you're qualified to help someone else.. or if youve not been here very long and need a hand. say your in as either or.

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By *ocodoughnutgirlWoman over a year ago

Sea of jelly and doughnuts

I'm in... But am I a (L) or an inbetweeny?

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

(f) a good looking one in my area if you can GK

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in... But am I a (L) or an inbetweeny?

You're still pretty fresh.. I give you Vine. He seems very keen to help out. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in (f) been here many years under different profile x

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By *ark ph0enixWoman over a year ago

Teesside

I'm in (mostly L)

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By *ickygirl41Woman over a year ago

Glasgow

So right now I'm pretty much visualising the F's as the little sea turtle from Finding Nemo when he tells them how to exit the EAC all the L's can pick if they're Dory or Marlin.

"Ok folks, do you have your forum buddy?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no idea what’s going on but I like the sound of it... I think? What do I do

Read the post? Decide if you're qualified to help someone else.. or if youve not been here very long and need a hand. say your in as either or. "

Oh ok... I’m in, definitely (L)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"So right now I'm pretty much visualising the F's as the little sea turtle from Finding Nemo when he tells them how to exit the EAC all the L's can pick if they're Dory or Marlin.

"Ok folks, do you have your forum buddy?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I have no idea what’s going on but I like the sound of it... I think? What do I do

Read the post? Decide if you're qualified to help someone else.. or if youve not been here very long and need a hand. say your in as either or.

Oh ok... I’m in, definitely (L) "

Angiebu is your new mentor.. go seek her out

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in (mostly L)"

Pickygirl41 is your new mentor.. seek her out.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Ghengiiiiiissss, I think I broke my lurker, can I have a new one please?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lovely idea

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

"Ghengiiiiiissss, I think I broke my lurker, can I have a new one please?! "

Hahahaha crying hahahaha

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm in (f) x

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By *ot-AshMan over a year ago

London

Nice thread GK...

I'm in (F)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Where’s my lurker Ghengis

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where’s my lurker Ghengis

You can have me if you like

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By *ruebameMan over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

"Where’s my lurker Ghengis

You can have me if you like

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and you can take me as no fecker wants me

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

If you get a sudden rush of lurkers I'm in (F) but it's not looking likely at the moment!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not sure i should be a mentor tho im a bad influence

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

L for Lurker and F for Established ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Where’s my lurker Ghengis

You can have me if you like

Ok, can Imhave you and Pruebame

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

"Where’s my lurker Ghengis

You can have me if you like

and you can take me as no fecker wants me

*Cough*

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By *carlettVanillaWoman over a year ago

Gloucesterish

Ok here goes I'm in (L)

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By *ik MMan over a year ago

Lancashire

Forgive me if I’m wrong but surely all this thread will do is create a (temporary) enlarged clique, until the forumites forget their role and the lurkers find out that new blood isn’t really welcomed after all.

As someone who comments occasionally and attends the Manchester Lounge Socials I’ve been told that my inactivity on the forums really gives me no right to attend the Socials. If that’s not a clique then tell me what is.

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Forgive me if I’m wrong but surely all this thread will do is create a (temporary) enlarged clique, until the forumites forget their role and the lurkers find out that new blood isn’t really welcomed after all.

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Told by whom? One arsehole does not make a clique, it just means whoever said that is a dick.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Told by whom? One arsehole does not make a clique, it just means whoever said that is a dick. "

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

I'm sorry that these are your feelings about the forums and the people in general, I can't and won't deny your reactions as they're yours. I will say though that not everyone feels the same as you, nor that your conclusions are correct. I do see how you came to them though. Again, I'm sorry to see that you feel like that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ghengiiiiiissss, I think I broke my lurker, can I have a new one please?! "

Yes... if there any available.

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By *icetouch83Man over a year ago

swansea

I'm in (f)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In. Born again F.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ok here goes I'm in (L) "

Suzukino1 is your mentor now.. seek her out.. Gloucester eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have no idea what’s going on but I like the sound of it... I think? What do I do

Read the post? Decide if you're qualified to help someone else.. or if youve not been here very long and need a hand. say your in as either or.

Oh ok... I’m in, definitely (L) "

Have you been snapped up yet? I don’t mind taking you under my wing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Some people in here beggar belief. New members participating in the forum are its lifeblood. It’s only through new members that it has any chance of refreshing itself and not simply becoming a graveyard for old has-beens like me. I wish those with such toxic views would wake up and stop being so blinkered and obnoxious. Sorry that is the face of the forum you got to see

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

The thing is.. the Manchester social that "Forumites" Talk about.. Has an L in the Name.. which stands for Lounge. If you don't frequent the Lounge very often.. then I'd wonder why on earth you'd want to attend a Lounge Social. Why not attend the others.

So far there are way more interested Forumites interested in this thread.. than there are Lurkers. Which tells me this whole clique thing is bollocks. You've a long list of some of the more OPEN, WARM, FUNNY, KIND and HONEST members queuing up to help.. because they WANT you to join in.

But not with an attitude you're displaying right now, I suspect.

All that aside.. I'm willing to lend you my advice in private, as part of this thread. I'm a man of my word. How long the relationship lasts depends on chemistry. Act like a knob and I'll drop you like a stone and let you sink. Behave like a gent and we could become real friends. I could introduce you to mine and vice versa.

It's not Fab. Its how you use it.

Yes.. we're all a bit self obsessed, but you're here too don't forget.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in I'm a L lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm in I'm a L lol "

Sticky Danish is your new mentor.. you can find her further up the thread. Lots of wisdom, so come correct.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I’m in (f) been here many years under different profile x"

Yay your my mentor lol

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Come on lurkers, let me take you into my bosom goddammit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Come on lurkers, let me take you into my bosom goddammit! "

And I must say what a bosom it is too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Any Lurker mad enough to wish to receive my dubious help is welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm defo not a lurker, not sure I'm a forumite quite yet either, but I'm happy to adopt either.... I'm actually a friendly bastard, honest....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm in I'm a L lol

Sticky Danish is your new mentor.. you can find her further up the thread. Lots of wisdom, so come correct."

Where’s mine

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trust me I need all the help I can get lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ive had enough drinks to call myself a lurker.only post on the stupid stuff and imaginary post on the serious stuff,so im in

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lurker I think!?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. "
sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm in(f)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In. Born again F."

What were you born as first time around

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In. Born again F.

What were you born as first time around

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perve lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads. "

Report the message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Report the message."

Or just chill and be happy...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Report the message."
I asked them to but they didnt want the hassle. They where a really nice quiet person. Gone now obviously. But it was a very popular person that sent them the message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Well I so wasn't expecting your name on that!?! As someone who everyone knows at socials and literally laughs his way around the room I'm pretty gutted you feel this way about the forums.. maybe it's a prime example of how socialising face to face is a whole different experience than online.. which is sad, when so many mutual friends do both.. if it wasn't for the forums I never would have got to the MLS and made such good friends.. yourself included. Hope you're ok x

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By *icetouch83Man over a year ago

swansea

No body wants me then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Ive had enough drinks to call myself a lurker.only post on the stupid stuff and imaginary post on the serious stuff,so im in

Miss choosy is your mentor seek her up thread..

Other CLIQUE MEMBERS need to wait their turn.. I'm trying to do this in order of voluntary. If you feel you've been skipped or overlooked.. prove it and you'll be next one in line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads. "

Who does that?

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman over a year ago

Magical Forrest

I am in (F)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lurker I think!? "

Go see Ash1970 up thread. If you follow his advice, I reckon you could go far.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No body wants me then

lurking or mentoring?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Who does that?

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a popular formite. Im just sick of people leaving and getting upset because of what people are saying to them in private. It seems to be the worst its been

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been lurking - but only cos I wasn't able to post. (Admin have now sorted that for me - thank you!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can we have a Lurker battle like Pokemon? I've collected mine

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Who does that?

a popular formite. Im just sick of people leaving and getting upset because of what people are saying to them in private. It seems to be the worst its been"

Cowards if they pm people to be nasty. No need for it x

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By *icetouch83Man over a year ago

swansea

"No body wants me then

lurking or mentoring?"

mentoring

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

I've got a lovely lurker x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've been lurking - but only cos I wasn't able to post. (Admin have now sorted that for me - thank you!) "

I was temporarily your mentor, I now pass reigns to Lordofthunder.

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can we have a Lurker battle like Pokemon? I've collected mine

Show off! Mine hasn't got in touch

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Who does that?

a popular formite. Im just sick of people leaving and getting upset because of what people are saying to them in private. It seems to be the worst its been"

That's why I avoid gossip where possible. Prefer to take people as I find them and block with rarely a fuck given. You're right, there is No need

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Who does that?

a popular formite. Im just sick of people leaving and getting upset because of what people are saying to them in private. It seems to be the worst its been

Cowards if they pm people to be nasty. No need for it x"

. I hear this a lot! Why would someone even do that!!??

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Im guessing theres issues with adoption papers

stuff it i dont want no damn lurkers id only break thrm anyway

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lurker I think!? "

Still lurking haha

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Who does that?

a popular formite. Im just sick of people leaving and getting upset because of what people are saying to them in private. It seems to be the worst its been

Cowards if they pm people to be nasty. No need for it x"

I agree, I don't understand the necessity or the mentality to message people like that. If you can't say it on the forums then why say it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lurker here

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

Will I continue to be an occasional poster - probably. Do I care that I’m not in the clique - yeah sometimes, but I have neither the time or inclination to progress to forumite. Would I miss the forums if I left Fab - absolutely not. I think they’re toxic and ego massaging but most of all cliquey. sorry you feel like that but the forums are at the worst theyve been for ages doesnt help when regular formites pm people to tell them to fuck off posting on their threads.

Who does that?

a popular formite. Im just sick of people leaving and getting upset because of what people are saying to them in private. It seems to be the worst its been

Cowards if they pm people to be nasty. No need for it x

. I hear this a lot! Why would someone even do that!!?? "
thankyou so its not just me that heres it

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

Friend here..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have a Lurker battle like Pokemon? I've collected mine

Show off! Mine hasn't got in touch"

Mail them?

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can we have a Lurker battle like Pokemon? I've collected mine

Show off! Mine hasn't got in touch

Mail them?

I tried that! He's got all guys blocked

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Definite lurker here....in, but a bit feisty!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can we have a Lurker battle like Pokemon? I've collected mine

Show off! Mine hasn't got in touch

Mail them?

I tried that! He's got all guys blocked"

Carrier pigeon?

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

Where are you, GK?!!

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By *ydrewMan over a year ago

forest

I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

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By *ea monkeyMan over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Can we have a Lurker battle like Pokemon? I've collected mine

Show off! Mine hasn't got in touch

Mail them?

I tried that! He's got all guys blocked

Carrier pigeon? "

Good call!

*heads off to the pigeon loft, then remembers he doesn't have one*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hi everyone...I have on very rare occasions posted, but only when alcohol was involved

The rest of the time, I'm just a shy lurker ... so I would love a mentor please Ghengis

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Lurker here

hmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont want a lurker just hiding from the lame banana obsessed women

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Definite lurker here....in, but a bit feisty!!"

Deepblue2 is next in line.. find him above.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Lurker here

hmmmmmm

I am Ghengis honest I am

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

Nsachick is your mentor.. lucky you

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By *ydrewMan over a year ago

forest

"I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

Nsachick is your mentor.. lucky you"

Woohoo

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi everyone...I have on very rare occasions posted, but only when alcohol was involved

The rest of the time, I'm just a shy lurker ... so I would love a mentor please Ghengis

Thanks"

YeOldeWitchdoctor is your new mentor.. you lucked right in.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

Nsachick is your mentor.. lucky you

Woohoo

Come and let me share my wisdom. Shouldn't take long

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Any Lurkers feel I've skipped or missed them out.. let me know. This isn't easy whilst to do whilst refereeing my kids MMA matches.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone...I have on very rare occasions posted, but only when alcohol was involved

The rest of the time, I'm just a shy lurker ... so I would love a mentor please Ghengis

Thanks

YeOldeWitchdoctor is your new mentor.. you lucked right in."

I have?? Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hi everyone...I have on very rare occasions posted, but only when alcohol was involved

The rest of the time, I'm just a shy lurker ... so I would love a mentor please Ghengis

Thanks

YeOldeWitchdoctor is your new mentor.. you lucked right in.

I have?? Thanks

Yes. You'll see what I mean. You're in safe hands.

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By *100Man over a year ago

Essex

I'm in f

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Hi everyone...I have on very rare occasions posted, but only when alcohol was involved

The rest of the time, I'm just a shy lurker ... so I would love a mentor please Ghengis

Thanks

YeOldeWitchdoctor is your new mentor.. you lucked right in.

I have?? Thanks

Yes. You'll see what I mean. You're in safe hands."

Ok. I'll take your word for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

Do you post in your couples profile?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ll try and impart some wisdom

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By *ydrewMan over a year ago

forest

"I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

Nsachick is your mentor.. lucky you

Woohoo

Come and let me share my wisdom. Shouldn't take long

Show me your wisdom oh mentor

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

Nsachick is your mentor.. lucky you

Woohoo

Come and let me share my wisdom. Shouldn't take long

Show me your wisdom oh mentor"

I'm on it, soak up the knowledge, grasshopper

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

Do you post in your couples profile?"

More than on this profile!!...does that mean I don't qualify?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

Do you post in your couples profile?

More than on this profile!!...does that mean I don't qualify?!!

I think so lol.. but I admire your honesty

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By *ydrewMan over a year ago

forest

"I try join in but think I'm more a (L)

Nsachick is your mentor.. lucky you

Woohoo

Come and let me share my wisdom. Shouldn't take long

Show me your wisdom oh mentor

I'm on it, soak up the knowledge, grasshopper

Am I soaking up knowledge or drinking grasshoppers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

Do you post in your couples profile?

More than on this profile!!...does that mean I don't qualify?!!

I think so lol.. but I admire your honesty

Bugger!!! Altho I read more than I post on that profile too!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

Do you post in your couples profile?

More than on this profile!!...does that mean I don't qualify?!!

I think so lol.. but I admire your honesty

Bugger!!! Altho I read more than I post on that profile too!!

because you're so determined.. I give you LisaB45. Use her wisely.

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By *carlettVanillaWoman over a year ago

Gloucesterish

Best. Thread. Ever. Got some great advice from some new friends and found an old mentor that has just returned!! Thank you !! X (L)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Can I have a buddy plz, I have so much space in my head and so much wisdom to impart....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Best. Thread. Ever. Got some great advice from some new friends and found an old mentor that has just returned!! Thank you !! X (L) "

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Can I have a buddy plz, I have so much space in my head and so much wisdom to impart.... "

You're in line. Chill. More patient Forumites have waited longer. I can't just pull Lurkers out of arse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I have a buddy plz, I have so much space in my head and so much wisdom to impart....

You're in line. Chill. More patient Forumites have waited longer. I can't just pull Lurkers out of arse

Lmao there must be a few forumites up there though....

No worries

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can I have a buddy plz, I have so much space in my head and so much wisdom to impart....

You're in line. Chill. More patient Forumites have waited longer. I can't just pull Lurkers out of arse

Can you not GK, disappointing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm kind of a L have done a few posts but could do with a mentor lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m in I would say L I occasionally pop up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm more of a lurker than a poster!!...on my single profile anyway! Not sure why!!

Do you post in your couples profile?

More than on this profile!!...does that mean I don't qualify?!!

I think so lol.. but I admire your honesty

Bugger!!! Altho I read more than I post on that profile too!!

because you're so determined.. I give you LisaB45. Use her wisely. "

Yay!! Thank you... I will use her wisely indeed!!!

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By *icetouch83Man over a year ago

swansea

That didn't take long wisdom past on done for the night

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I'm kind of a L have done a few posts but could do with a mentor lol"

I think it's Nora the Explorers turn now, though I've had a glass of wine or two. I've said it so it's done. Search the thread for Nora please and ask away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I’m in I would say L I occasionally pop up"

Xperia you are up, now is your chance. I'm taking your "Friendly" Comment as "I'm in".

Please occasionally pop over to Xperia and unlearn your lurkishness

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By *ik MMan over a year ago

Lancashire

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

But not with an attitude you're displaying right now, I suspect.

It's not Fab. Its how you use it.

Yes.. we're all a bit self obsessed, but you're here too don't forget. "

Apologies for the late reply but I have been giving great consideration to what to say in reply to the OP’s patronising offer of advice. I don’t want anyone to think I acted impulsively in my reply.

The more I think about it the more I come to the ironic conclusion that I began attending the Lounge Socials because I was interested to meet those who didn’t reply or engage with an occasional forum poster. And guess what - I found a whole group of wonderfully warm and friendly people, some of whom I genuinely call friends in this world. As a result I’ve had some amazing meets, weekends away and seen places I didn’t even know existed, and for that my experience here has been on the whole a positive one.

I have fully embraced the advice I’ve received over the years yet remain aware that my real life personality, interests, appearance and existence by far outweigh my Fab persona. The more I think about it the more I feel sure this is how things should be.

Tonight I’ve received more correspondence than ever before in such a short window - some from strangers thanking me for having the balls to stand up to the clique and for portraying how the forums are in reality to the vast majority of users, whilst others from people I have met / know / have chatted to over the years questioning my earlier unlike me outburst.

To those I would like to say thank you for making the effort to get in touch, and yes I am still completely sane. This has been brewing inside me for a very long time and having followed all 3 threads today I simply felt compelled to interject.

I am totally aware that I may have burnt a number of bridges today but if it makes some people question their forum behaviour and interactions then it may have served some good.

For the immediate future, I’ll still be sticking around but will only use the forums in connection to any events I am attending. I’ll leave your clique to it, clearly it was never meant to be.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m a complete nube so im An L

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What kind of advice is being passed on?

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm in LF???

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By *uke olovingmanMan over a year ago

Gravesend

"What kind of advice is being passed on?"

Post amusing nonsense..and try not to offend anyone

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"What kind of advice is being passed on?"

Mine has asked for a bit of profile advice at the moment, so he's getting it with a disclaimer that other advice is available

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I need to stress here that this view is not represented by the organisers fortunately and hasn’t detracted from the event.

But not with an attitude you're displaying right now, I suspect.

It's not Fab. Its how you use it.

Yes.. we're all a bit self obsessed, but you're here too don't forget.

I am totally aware that I may have burnt a number of bridges today but if it makes some people question their forum behaviour and interactions then it may have served some good.

The MLS is a friendly group.

People on the forums asking for help are told to attend socials. Yet when they do try they're either barred for not being verified or made to feel very unwelcome. General observation about social events around the country.

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By *aven RedWoman over a year ago

Liverpool

To join in threads. Be polite. Don't take it all too seriously x

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By *ydrewMan over a year ago

forest

"What kind of advice is being passed on?

Mine has asked for a bit of profile advice at the moment, so he's getting it with a disclaimer that other advice is available

And I'm taking the advice and absorbing it all in. Btw happy star wars day everyone

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