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over a year ago
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Been on here, a meet for sex site for over 3 years and I either get nicely written messages:
Deleted, no reply or no thanks. Or on the rare occasions I do get a positive response they answer only once?
I really can't be that unlucky or ugly surely?
In fact I know I'm not I've had more luck in clubs when I used to go out. I only message people who are looking for people like me too. I'm also sure a lot of these four or or five word no picture profiles are fake too.
I don't get it I really don't... |
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over a year ago
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The thing is it doesn't matter how many people you mail or how much you think you match what they want if they're not attracted they're not attracted.
It's not a case of this is a sex site so it should be easy. Unless there's someone who fancies you then it won't be. |
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over a year ago
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"Been on here, a meet for sex site for over 3 years and I either get nicely written messages:
Deleted, no reply or no thanks. Or on the rare occasions I do get a positive response they answer only once?
I really can't be that unlucky or ugly surely?
In fact I know I'm not I've had more luck in clubs when I used to go out. I only message people who are looking for people like me too. I'm also sure a lot of these four or or five word no picture profiles are fake too.
I don't get it I really don't..."
You may think it's a "meet up for sex site" but no one gave you any guarantee of sex when you signed up did they?
If you want guaranteed sex you're looking in the wrong place
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It is at base a "meet for sex site". What it isn't is a ""guaranteed" meet for sex site". I think a lot of guys feel the way you do, as if somehow there's something wrong with them. There isn't, the numbers work against single men and if they join expecting to get meets they're often disappointed and disheartened.
Don't let it get you down or affect your self esteem. |
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"It is at base a "meet for sex site". What it isn't is a ""guaranteed" meet for sex site". I think a lot of guys feel the way you do, as if somehow there's something wrong with them. There isn't, the numbers work against single men and if they join expecting to get meets they're often disappointed and disheartened.
Don't let it get you down or affect your self esteem."
i don’t get many meets myself due to me not to others as am picky in who I meet tbf as I don’t wanna just sleep with anyone for the sake of it ! |
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"It is at base a "meet for sex site". What it isn't is a ""guaranteed" meet for sex site". I think a lot of guys feel the way you do, as if somehow there's something wrong with them. There isn't, the numbers work against single men and if they join expecting to get meets they're often disappointed and disheartened.
Don't let it get you down or affect your self esteem.i don’t get many meets myself due to me not to others as am picky in who I meet tbf as I don’t wanna just sleep with anyone for the sake of it !"
I don't think many people want to do that |
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"It is at base a "meet for sex site". What it isn't is a ""guaranteed" meet for sex site". I think a lot of guys feel the way you do, as if somehow there's something wrong with them. There isn't, the numbers work against single men and if they join expecting to get meets they're often disappointed and disheartened.
Don't let it get you down or affect your self esteem.i don’t get many meets myself due to me not to others as am picky in who I meet tbf as I don’t wanna just sleep with anyone for the sake of it !
I don't think many people want to do that"
yeah true but there’s more than just looks for me am after ! |
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Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say. |
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"It is at base a "meet for sex site". What it isn't is a ""guaranteed" meet for sex site". I think a lot of guys feel the way you do, as if somehow there's something wrong with them. There isn't, the numbers work against single men and if they join expecting to get meets they're often disappointed and disheartened.
Don't let it get you down or affect your self esteem.i don’t get many meets myself due to me not to others as am picky in who I meet tbf as I don’t wanna just sleep with anyone for the sake of it !
I don't think many people want to do thatyeah true but there’s more than just looks for me am after !"
You'll be ok on here a lot of people look for a connection.
I'm pretty shallow because although I need to like someone on a superficial level if I don't find them attractive I'm not taking it further. |
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"Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say. "
Are you saying that women on a night out aren't?  |
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"Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say.
Are you saying that women on a night out aren't? "
?? Have you missed a word or two out? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go gay - or maybe just help out at the weekend
There's many a bloke that luvs a fuzzy chubster
Probably not the best feedback"
Why Not?
The feedback was pretty tongue in cheek, but it worked for me when I first joined 10 or so years vack
Was already ready curious when I came here
I was fatter than I am now and hairy too - something the OP alludes to being a inhibiter in his meets
I meet guys, met bi couples, met for MMF threesomes
Did wonders for me sexually and self worth wise
OP lists TV/TS so must have some 'curiosity' too
If it is meets for sex he wants, it's a way to go
Fat guys do better with other guys than they do with women
If there's curiosity there, use it |
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"Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say.
Are you saying that women on a night out aren't? ?? Have you missed a word or two out? "
come on guys this fella some hope there’s always something for everyone ! |
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"Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say.
Are you saying that women on a night out aren't? ?? Have you missed a word or two out? come on guys this fella some hope there’s always something for everyone !"
great shout! Of course there is. |
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"Go gay - or maybe just help out at the weekend
There's many a bloke that luvs a fuzzy chubster
Probably not the best feedback
Why Not?
The feedback was pretty tongue in cheek, but it worked for me when I first joined 10 or so years vack
Was already ready curious when I came here
I was fatter than I am now and hairy too - something the OP alludes to being a inhibiter in his meets
I meet guys, met bi couples, met for MMF threesomes
Did wonders for me sexually and self worth wise
OP lists TV/TS so must have some 'curiosity' too
If it is meets for sex he wants, it's a way to go
Fat guys do better with other guys than they do with women
If there's curiosity there, use it "
Because he states he's straight for a start... So why should he have to "Go Gay" when want he wants is a lady.....
He also states that his weight was put on after a horrible personal experience.... I for one wouldn't be calling him what you did... Humour or not.... The tongue in cheek bit just looked like you were trying to get laughs rather than actually help him... |
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By *arl17Man
over a year ago
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"Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say. "
You gotta put yourself out there and not hide behind a keyboard fella... not a bad thing but play the odds and get out and about x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Go gay - or maybe just help out at the weekend
There's many a bloke that luvs a fuzzy chubster
Probably not the best feedback
Why Not?
The feedback was pretty tongue in cheek, but it worked for me when I first joined 10 or so years vack
Was already ready curious when I came here
I was fatter than I am now and hairy too - something the OP alludes to being a inhibiter in his meets
I meet guys, met bi couples, met for MMF threesomes
Did wonders for me sexually and self worth wise
OP lists TV/TS so must have some 'curiosity' too
If it is meets for sex he wants, it's a way to go
Fat guys do better with other guys than they do with women
If there's curiosity there, use it
Because he states he's straight for a start... So why should he have to "Go Gay" when want he wants is a lady.....
He also states that his weight was put on after a horrible personal experience.... I for one wouldn't be calling him what you did... Humour or not.... The tongue in cheek bit just looked like you were trying to get laughs rather than actually help him... "
Stating straight and listing TV's doesn't add up to me, but that's a well worn subject on many a thread
If he is straight, he can just ignore me. That's fine.
Whatever the OP's reasons for gaining weight, it's not going to get him sex here
Fat guys don't do well |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Listen fella, this place is no good for anything! In a nutshell, you're a small fish in a massive pond and it's by pure chance that someone will pick out your profile. You're better off at an event or simply a night out. Women on here are ultra picky because they can be, that's all that I can say.
Are you saying that women on a night out aren't? "
The ones looking for 420 definitely not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately mate men to woman are 1000 to 1 so they get to be picky. If it was the other way around you would be picky to because the options are there. Even the 6 pack hung like a horse super good looking guys can struggle.
I wouldn't stand a chance as a single male on here. I don't really stand a chance as a couple either it's all guys wanting Daisy.
If it helps the guys we met were picked because because they talked to me when I replied not just Daisy, they were happy to wait chatting not meet immediately for a shag + didn't disappear for a week at a time just to come back with how are you fancy a meet, they talked to us about things other than sex + I don't think they had cocks as their profile pics (don't think I even saw pics of their cocks to be honest). Yeah that means they might or might not be huge but Daisy likes variety anyway rather than always having the same.
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"It is at base a "meet for sex site". What it isn't is a ""guaranteed" meet for sex site". I think a lot of guys feel the way you do, as if somehow there's something wrong with them. There isn't, the numbers work against single men and if they join expecting to get meets they're often disappointed and disheartened.
Don't let it get you down or affect your self esteem."
Wise words.
Especially the last paragraph. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I can see this sparked quite a discussion, I don't mind being any name to with overweight just to clarify, I don't take offense, or a gate.
I'm sorry if it seemed like I was moaning it's just surprising that after over 3 years I still haven't even just gone out for a coffee lol.
I appreciate the kind words too, as for the curious I do like TV/shemale women but I don't think that makes me bi I like them as women. And trust me I've had no luck there either.
Though my second and second longest relationship was with a TV girl back when I was 18, that was my first and last time with a trans person. I don't think I'd be comfortable with just a guy or a fella in a dress and finding proper TV people are like a needle in a haystack.
Again thanks for the advice I'm incredibly shy unbelievably in person to person especially with this weight so these events I'd love to go but I'm so self conscious. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Oh and when I message people I'm never like 'wanna shag?' I have etiquette and always ask if they'd like to meet or just chat for a bit first, I make comments about their profiles so they know I've read them etc.
But I guess your right there is a lot of guys for one woman maybe I'd have more doing the lottery? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Oh and when I message people I'm never like 'wanna shag?' I have etiquette and always ask if they'd like to meet or just chat for a bit first, I make comments about their profiles so they know I've read them etc.
But I guess your right there is a lot of guys for one woman maybe I'd have more doing the lottery? Lol"
After reading the above my advice would be to not ask if they want to meet or chat for a bit first, and just start a conversation. By messaging them you've shown you're interested, so leave the 'want to meet?' bit for further down the line.
I've done ok on here and have always got to know the lady first without the expectation of sex hanging over their head. |
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Been straight single for 10 years am single parent with custody and run own business so have very little time to form relationships but am happy in an on off relationship with lady in similar situation
Only met 1 nice girl on a dating site (POF) and she turned out to be a swinger and met her at Ab Fab in Dartford, had great fun shagging in all the different rooms and seeing what people were up to, only went once but was very good and friendly maybe try one of these parties
Unfortunately the best way to meet girls is through friends and friends who are girls |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm getting a little tired of hearing " women get to be picky because there's 1000 men to 1 woman". If the shoe was on the other foot, I'd still be picky!!
Anyone would think that fab was the only place to get sex.
If things are that desperate then pay for it then you can all be picky!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Been on here, a meet for sex site for over 3 years and I either get nicely written messages:
Deleted, no reply or no thanks. Or on the rare occasions I do get a positive response they answer only once?
I really can't be that unlucky or ugly surely?
In fact I know I'm not I've had more luck in clubs when I used to go out. I only message people who are looking for people like me too. I'm also sure a lot of these four or or five word no picture profiles are fake too.
I don't get it I really don't..."
Why did you stop going out to clubs? |
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"Not another one of these threads. There's at least two a week and they are increasing....  
In which they're easily avoided.
But nobody ever learns from them. "
That's not your problem.
Your problem is the amount of threads.
Which is easily avoidable.
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