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Do you agree: Sex on first date is 'IMPORTANT if you want a serious relationship'
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By *100Man
over a year ago
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Sex on a first date is probably going to be a one night stand nsa getting to know each other and respecting each other would be more romantic for a lasting relationship don't you think |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have never had a serious relationship with anyone i have had sex with on the first date.
I rather the build up with someone i cared enough about to have a serious relationship with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I probably wouldnt have agreed before being on here. But I think it could be a great idea, you get all the info you need from a person re compatibility and know if it is something that will blossom or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would rather know what the sex is going to be like rather than go through all the getting to know you then finding out the sex is going to be crap so sex on first date yeah  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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There is not a chance in hell I will be having sex on a first date these days!
Older and bloody wiser! Not going to happen!
Can't even find a bloody man who can actually hold a conversation these days  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There is not a chance in hell I will be having sex on a first date these days!
Older and bloody wiser! Not going to happen!
Can't even find a bloody man who can actually hold a conversation these days "
likewise, I can't a find woman to hold a conversation. |
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I feel mixed about this... I like the idea of waiting.. Building up the tension and spending time getting to know someone.. Also if you have sex on the first date does that give the wrong impression.. Especially on dating sites.. (apart from tinder that's just a shag site  ) BUT I also think if you have that spark and Chemistry why wait?? Just because you have sex does that mean things can't develop... So the jury is out for me. I'll let you know if it ever happens.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There doesn't have to be any rules. Each situation and the people involved are different. I'm sure there are plenty of successful longterm relationships that began with sex on the first, second or third etc. |
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We had sex with each other on our first date and nine years later we are still going strong .
Everyone is different of course , and sex may not be important to some . But for us it is , and it’s better to know sooner rather than later that you’re sexually compatible . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I slept with my ex before we dated, ended up together 6 years and a child but it was toxic, now I get to know someone first and if they are serious about having a relationship they will wait and get to know me as a person first.... that’s why Iv been single 3 years  |
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By *ky19Man
over a year ago
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No.
I've long believed it's better the other way around, and that one contributing reason a relationship can end up failing is because the cart went before the horse.
It feels right to me to let things flow naturally. I really don't believe sex (or even a kiss) on a first date is the right measure for success i.e. it's not a failure if you don't.
I often think the pressure to have sex on a first date comes from films, seldom very realistic, in which two people eye each other then a scene or two later they're banging each other. And so giving the message that's the way it has to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldnt have agreed before being on here. But I think it could be a great idea, you get all the info you need from a person re compatibility and know if it is something that will blossom or not. "
So a fuck on a first date determines if or what a future relationship might be?
Isn't there rather more to compatibility? |
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"I probably wouldnt have agreed before being on here. But I think it could be a great idea, you get all the info you need from a person re compatibility and know if it is something that will blossom or not.
So a fuck on a first date determines if or what a future relationship might be?
Isn't there rather more to compatibility?"
Yes but there seems to be a lot of importance attached to it. It really is only a fuck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I probably wouldnt have agreed before being on here. But I think it could be a great idea, you get all the info you need from a person re compatibility and know if it is something that will blossom or not.
So a fuck on a first date determines if or what a future relationship might be?
Isn't there rather more to compatibility?"
Reading from the bottom up, I knew that would be you. Yes. The very most important thing in the world |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will fuck if im horny if im horny il flirt harder make her laugh harder and have the sex if its fantastic we meet again and again its the circle of life |
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" What are your thoughts "
You’re suggesting that the potential to have a serious relationship with someone is significantly reduced if you don’t have sex with them on a first date?
That can’t possibly be right. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I probably wouldnt have agreed before being on here. But I think it could be a great idea, you get all the info you need from a person re compatibility and know if it is something that will blossom or not.
So a fuck on a first date determines if or what a future relationship might be?
Isn't there rather more to compatibility?
Yes but there seems to be a lot of importance attached to it. It really is only a fuck. "
And I don't want to be fucking someone forever who is an ice cube in bed.
Best to find out early on in the relationship. |
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"I probably wouldnt have agreed before being on here. But I think it could be a great idea, you get all the info you need from a person re compatibility and know if it is something that will blossom or not.
So a fuck on a first date determines if or what a future relationship might be?
Isn't there rather more to compatibility?
Yes but there seems to be a lot of importance attached to it. It really is only a fuck.
And I don't want to be fucking someone forever who is an ice cube in bed.
Best to find out early on in the relationship. "
I've had sex on a first date with nearly everyone I've been in a long-term relationship with and many that I haven't. I don't think badly of people who don't have sex on a first date but plenty think bad of me because I did. Oddly I won't have sex on a first swinging date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I personally haven't had sex on tue first date, but i know of others who have and have had relationships. I also know of some who have waited and then they realise the chemistry isnt what they hoped It's up to the two people involved. If they like each other, then they are not going to care about when they have sex. I dont think it's essential. Two people want to turn it into a relationship, or they don't |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do whatever feels right!
My OH and I had sex on our first meet...3 and a half years later we're very much in love. It was a fab meet though at the time I very rarely played on a first meet! Don't regret it for one second! |
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No, I disagree. Sex should happen when you all feel ready and the situation is right. You may also not know that you want a serious relationship, so let the sex happen when you want it to.
Great to have the sexual attraction and interests but if it's a long term relationship, you'll have plenty of opportunity. Don't be too formulaic, let each relationship develop in its own way |
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How many people know on a first date that they want a serious relationship with that person? If a guy agrees to have sex with me the first time I meet him does it mean he wants a long term relationship with me or not? I'm confused now  |
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On a first date? No. Granted sexual compatibility (IMO) is an important factor in a relationship but there are many other factors too. Plus sex is more likely to be better and more impressive to you both if you've had some time to bond first. So I would say sex early on in a relationship is important to judge sexual compatibility but by no means nesersary on a first date. Having said that I doesn't mean sex on a first date is bad per se. Its perfectly fine to have sex on a first date if things flow that way. |
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"Do whatever feels right!
My OH and I had sex on our first meet...3 and a half years later we're very much in love. It was a fab meet though at the time I very rarely played on a first meet! Don't regret it for one second!"
That was us too, it was just ment to be a Fab meet. One and a half years now and I can't imagine future where we are not together. Sometimes you find love when it's unexpected. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"99 % of successful relationships will not have had sex on the first date."
Seriously the amount of people here on this thread who make this statement garbage.....
How many we didn't have sex on our first date and here we are 10 years later stories are posted above, I don't remember seeing any...
Sex is good, whenever you get there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"99 % of successful relationships will not have had sex on the first date.
Seriously the amount of people here on this thread who make this statement garbage.....
How many we didn't have sex on our first date and here we are 10 years later stories are posted above, I don't remember seeing any...
Sex is good, whenever you get there!"
My sister & her husband didn’t have sex on the first date, she told me the about how she waited 10 dates to have sex with him, her and her friends had this “thing” they did, but she & one other friend were the only ones who kept to the “rule”.
20 years later they’re still together and happy.
My parents were the same too, my mom loves to tell their “love story” as she calls it over and over lol! 34 years they’ve been together and
So there is probably many people who didn’t have sex on the first date who are still together.
No posts doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen!
I don’t think sex on the first date determines if your relationship will be successful or not to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"99 % of successful relationships will not have had sex on the first date.
Seriously the amount of people here on this thread who make this statement garbage.....
How many we didn't have sex on our first date and here we are 10 years later stories are posted above, I don't remember seeing any...
Sex is good, whenever you get there!
My sister & her husband didn’t have sex on the first date, she told me the about how she waited 10 dates to have sex with him, her and her friends had this “thing” they did, but she & one other friend were the only ones who kept to the “rule”.
20 years later they’re still together and happy.
My parents were the same too, my mom loves to tell their “love story” as she calls it over and over lol! 34 years they’ve been together and
So there is probably many people who didn’t have sex on the first date who are still together.
No posts doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen!
I don’t think sex on the first date determines if your relationship will be successful or not to be honest. "
Spot on and that was my point. Having sex on the first date is an utterly irrelevent measure as to whether a relationship will be successful or not. |
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"I don’t think sex on the first date determines if your relationship will be successful or not to be honest. "
Exactly. And it's bloody selfish if just one side of the relationship demands that it happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think sex on the first date determines if your relationship will be successful or not to be honest.
Exactly. And it's bloody selfish if just one side of the relationship demands that it happens."
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"I don’t think sex on the first date determines if your relationship will be successful or not to be honest.
Exactly. And it's bloody selfish if just one side of the relationship demands that it happens."
Then incompatibility is proved on a first date. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No way sex is not important on a first date. If we are talking about looking for a relationship then I would want to get to know her in many other ways than sex!
I recently read a forum about this and a guy who was part of a couple said he loves his partner and he is happy in his relationship... He also went on to say if he was in a relationship where the woman lost her sex drive he wouldn't be with her.
Now that makes me think he doesn't love the woman who he is with.. Because if a man truly loves someone then it shouldn't matter if they lose their sex drive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Relationships are about compatability. What is with all the rules and expectations. Go with the flow see what happens if something is meant to develop it will no matter wether you shag on a first date or not. What will ne will be with effort and communication and want. |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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If i am looking for life long I wouldn't gauge it on when... more rather how and why and how good it was and if we connected on a different level.
I've done the whole wait and get to know and end up attached to someone yet the sex is shit.
It's one of those things it either works or doesnt .
I've had mates meet off pof fuck on day 1 engaged and together years down the line |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one that got away was sex on the first "date " it wasn't even a date I met him in a night club 
We ended up together for 3yrs.
I ended it for someone else - and even though it was a REALLY long time ago - I regret it.
He was a beautiful man and we would have been happy.
I'm a complete knob  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The one that got away was sex on the first "date " it wasn't even a date I met him in a night club
We ended up together for 3yrs.
I ended it for someone else - and even though it was a REALLY long time ago - I regret it.
He was a beautiful man and we would have been happy.
I'm a complete knob "
Awe you knob lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mr S and I met and didn’t have sex for 4 months!
I would never on a first date. Good things develop over time. I’m glad we waited. But poor bloke can’t get rid of me now hehe  |
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