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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd leave it there unless he tries to do anything else. I think work is somewhere you should leave it be.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”"

To be honest that would be my reaction too, I don’t respond well to things like this. I’d leave it be x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I'd make it absolutely clear that there is no reciprocal interest. This helps to stop some thinking that they may be in with a chance. If someone persisted, I'd caution them, to stop it.

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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Thanks it just felt soooo awkward afterwards and later on he apologised for making it awkward which is good but I will be leaving it there xx

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By *lanemikeMan over a year ago

Bolton

Wise decision, given the circumstances.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My reaction would of been the same as yours to! just take it as a complement & hopefully you can move on from it tomorrow is another day as they say

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

don't even go there,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, troubles

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By *innie The MinxWoman over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”"

Bit odd, and a bit inappropriate unless you have that kind of flirty banter thing going on.

If he mentions it again say something along the lines of well God loves a trier but no thanks, I'm happily married.

If you dont fancy him dont leave any room for confusion.

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By *uzukiNo1Woman over a year ago

Rhyl

It's one of those wtf moments.....makes you feel uneasy, forget it, carry on as normal OP if you can......any more comments though, definitely put him straight

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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Thanks for the advice guys x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”"

Does he know you're a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

One thing to play on the scene with your partner where everyone involved knows the score. Quite another in the vanilla world. Messy messy messy

Just pretend he never said nothing and move on as friends

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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Nope lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”"

Lucky you....

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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Nope lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman over a year ago

evesham

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”"

So what advice is needed?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”"
wait till the office Xmas party then let him fuck your brains out

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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Fair enough but your the first to have an issue with it and I’ve seen it on a few profiles

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By *ewexperience83 OP Couple over a year ago

Ellesmere Port

Should of worded this better I just wanted reassurance and advice on what to do if anything else is said

Obviously I don’t want to be mean about it but curious about how others would deal with it if it was them and how to put him of in a nice way

"Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”

So what advice is needed?"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Should of worded this better I just wanted reassurance and advice on what to do if anything else is said

Obviously I don’t want to be mean about it but curious about how others would deal with it if it was them and how to put him of in a nice way

Guy at work tells me today he fancies me! I’m happily married and he is married too, and I don’t see him that way at all just see him as a friend really.

My reactions was like “oh.... thanks!”

So what advice is needed?"

Take the compliment, carry on as normal and if he mentioned it again just be honest and say thank you but no thank you. He probably won't mention it again provided you don't flirt with him.

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