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This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you dont want to send that face pic then dont mail. Sadly most guys either dont read profiles or think that whatever is written in them dont apply to them and mail anyway.
Having a rule like that helps single woman narrow down who is a waste of time to talk to and who isnt. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I properly wouldn't bother with first message I'm not keen on sending my face pic straight away and wouldn't expect it from a yo e else straight off but each to their own |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I properly wouldn't bother with first message I'm not keen on sending my face pic straight away and wouldn't expect it from a yo e else straight off but each to their own"
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple. "
This is exactly what I do, I'm not interested in sending tons of messages with a faceless weirdo. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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If someone messages me who ticks most of my boxes so to speak I will expect to see a face pic early on if they are serious about meeting me.
I won't waste time chatting to someone who won't.
Likewise I am happy to send mine  |
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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago
from the womb and tryout to get back |
"If someone messages me who ticks most of my boxes so to speak I will expect to see a face pic early on if they are serious about meeting me.
I won't waste time chatting to someone who won't.
Likewise I am happy to send mine "
And a very nice face you have  |
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I specify that a face pic is required. But it’s just a filter really. If a guy messages and says he will send if I’d like him to, I know he’s been polite enough to read my profile. And I usually then send mine to him first.
Sadly most messages women get are from guys who haven’t read our profile, don’t have a decent profile themselves, and is often a crap message like ‘how’s u?’. We filter a lot  |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I don't often send "cold" messages anyway, but when I do I have no problem sending a face pic with them and usually join Face Pic Friday which is essentially a forum version of the same thing.
Personally I'd rather establish if there is a physical attraction sooner rather than later, than spend time getting to know someone, build a connection with them only to find out there's not an attraction (either direction) further down the line. |
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple. "
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense? |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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Their profile, their rules. If you're not comfortable with it, move on to another that doesn't make that demand from the beginning. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We would never send or ask for a face pic first message, we both want to ascertain we don’t know the person in ‘real’ life first before throwing pics of our faces out to random hopefully strangers  |
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"If someone messages me who ticks most of my boxes so to speak I will expect to see a face pic early on if they are serious about meeting me.
I won't waste time chatting to someone who won't.
Likewise I am happy to send mine "
My sentiments exactly |
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over a year ago
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense? "
How doesn’t it make any sense? They could have them set to private, they could send you a face pic back directly through their phone...
I’d rather know straight away if there’s an attraction and not waste my time |
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over a year ago
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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Speaking from experience as a couple. We always asked for a face pic of guys as a safety thing. My ex had a lot of quite explicit pics on our profile and was naturally concerned that she didn't want to meet anyone from her everyday life via this site. We did in fact always send one back once she was assured it was not someone she knew.
It's a sellers market guys so if you want to meet it's up to you??? |
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense?
How doesn’t it make any sense? They could have them set to private, they could send you a face pic back directly through their phone...
I’d rather know straight away if there’s an attraction and not waste my time "
Most are blank profiles that contradict the rules they have set themselves. Wouldn’t you agree? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Men are happy to send "fancy a fuck" messages to a complete stranger, but are unwilling to send a face pic. The vast majority of women need to be attracted to a man, so I don't think they are being unreasonable in asking/demanding to see a face pic. If you don't like their rules, go somewhere else.
"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense? "
Then just don't message them, you have a preference to build a rapport they have a preference to see a face pic in first message, simple |
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense?
How doesn’t it make any sense? They could have them set to private, they could send you a face pic back directly through their phone...
I’d rather know straight away if there’s an attraction and not waste my time
Most are blank profiles that contradict the rules they have set themselves. Wouldn’t you agree?"
Does their profile state ‘I have loads of pictures on my profile?’ If it does, then sure. But if not, then I wouldn’t think so, in my opinion. But others will disagree |
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one. "
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X |
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense?
How doesn’t it make any sense? They could have them set to private, they could send you a face pic back directly through their phone...
I’d rather know straight away if there’s an attraction and not waste my time
Most are blank profiles that contradict the rules they have set themselves. Wouldn’t you agree?
Does their profile state ‘I have loads of pictures on my profile?’ If it does, then sure. But if not, then I wouldn’t think so, in my opinion. But others will disagree "
A lot are photoless profiles with no mention of any to share or view  |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X"
Your questions were who would send a picture and would you feel comfortable doing this? the answers are, plenty of people will, but fuck no I wouldn't |
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense?
Then just don't message them, you have a preference to build a rapport they have a preference to see a face pic in first message, simple "
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X
Your questions were who would send a picture and would you feel comfortable doing this? the answers are, plenty of people will, but fuck no I wouldn't "
I’ll drink to that |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X"
And if those are *your* rules OP there's nothing wrong with that at all - just the same as there's nothing wrong people whose rules ask for a face pic with the first message - it's just your rules and their rules aren't compatible so either you accept it and move on, or be willing to compromise |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A good anology to have is that someone's profile is their house and your message is a knock on their doors.
They will open depending on what they see through the little peephole and their house rules apply at all times. |
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X
And if those are *your* rules OP there's nothing wrong with that at all - just the same as there's nothing wrong people whose rules ask for a face pic with the first message - it's just your rules and their rules aren't compatible so either you accept it and move on, or be willing to compromise "
I fully accept it and do move on when browsing, my question was would you be comfortable sending it to a complete faceless stranger? |
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X
And if those are *your* rules OP there's nothing wrong with that at all - just the same as there's nothing wrong people whose rules ask for a face pic with the first message - it's just your rules and their rules aren't compatible so either you accept it and move on, or be willing to compromise
I fully accept it and do move on when browsing, my question was would you be comfortable sending it to a complete faceless stranger?"
I wouldn't send it myself. But my decision shouldn't influence your own. |
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By *rx1Couple
over a year ago
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I wouldn’t expect a face picture in a first message. If it is clear the person has read our profile and has said something interesting and our profiles appear on the surface to be somewhat compatible. I would like to ask for a face picture within a few messages and would send ours in return.
However if we put a “ meet today “ on we do ask for face pictures, just to save time. |
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"I wouldn’t expect a face picture in a first message. If it is clear the person has read our profile and has said something interesting and our profiles appear on the surface to be somewhat compatible. I would like to ask for a face picture within a few messages and would send ours in return.
However if we put a “ meet today “ on we do ask for face pictures, just to save time."
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over a year ago
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We don't expect one in the first message, but if someone contacts us first then we expect them to send one first.
If we message someone then we'd send one first.
However we'd want it done early on as we don't want to waste anyone's time, or waste our own, by chatting if there's no attraction and it's not going to go anywhere. |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense?
How doesn’t it make any sense? They could have them set to private, they could send you a face pic back directly through their phone...
I’d rather know straight away if there’s an attraction and not waste my time
Most are blank profiles that contradict the rules they have set themselves. Wouldn’t you agree?"
How do you know they aren't kept private? |
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"We don't expect one in the first message, but if someone contacts us first then we expect them to send one first.
If we message someone then we'd send one first.
However we'd want it done early on as we don't want to waste anyone's time, or waste our own, by chatting if there's no attraction and it's not going to go anywhere. "
Agreed! |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X
And if those are *your* rules OP there's nothing wrong with that at all - just the same as there's nothing wrong people whose rules ask for a face pic with the first message - it's just your rules and their rules aren't compatible so either you accept it and move on, or be willing to compromise
I fully accept it and do move on when browsing, my question was would you be comfortable sending it to a complete faceless stranger?"
As I said further up I have done (both with the handful of "cold" messages I've sent and through things like Face Pic Friday) personally I'd prefer to establish if there's a physical attraction early on in conversation, it doesn't mean an end to the conversation if there's not but it may shape the way the conversation goes from there. |
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"Lots of people will send them though, so if they want to ask that's their choice and they will get what they ask for, just as it is your choice not to send one.
I like to make sure we have some rapport and we’re both not known in our private lives before I send mine. I do have some available that are in my friends section and do send them after 2-3 mails. I just put it out there to see if anyone else felt the same as I do. X
And if those are *your* rules OP there's nothing wrong with that at all - just the same as there's nothing wrong people whose rules ask for a face pic with the first message - it's just your rules and their rules aren't compatible so either you accept it and move on, or be willing to compromise
I fully accept it and do move on when browsing, my question was would you be comfortable sending it to a complete faceless stranger?
As I said further up I have done (both with the handful of "cold" messages I've sent and through things like Face Pic Friday) personally I'd prefer to establish if there's a physical attraction early on in conversation, it doesn't mean an end to the conversation if there's not but it may shape the way the conversation goes from there."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven’t got a problem with them asking on their profiles for you to send one, that’s their prerogative. It’s when they message you first asking for a face photo, when they haven’t sent one or got one on their profile. Which I think is incredible arrogant. |
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"I haven’t got a problem with them asking on their profiles for you to send one, that’s their prerogative. It’s when they message you first asking for a face photo, when they haven’t sent one or got one on their profile. Which I think is incredible arrogant. "
That’s a typical scenario i find difficult to make sense of. There must be men that do send a face pic across straight away, I’d be more reluctant to do so. |
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I wouldn't meet anyone without seeing what they look like, so it's reasonable for both parties to swap pictures. However so many couples ask for pictures without being willing to share theirs, or the classic profiles which say they always reply when a pic is sent. The irony is I think they are generally the profiles that never reply lol.. |
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense?
Then just don't message them, you have a preference to build a rapport they have a preference to see a face pic in first message, simple "
This.
When my profile is active I usually have a face picture as my profile photo, so I tend to reply to messages that include a face photo also.
I do state so in my profile.
And I’ve asked in message for one before, and said politely that they’re not what I’m looking for, only for them to insult my appearance as a way to make themselves feel better about the rejection lol!
So now, I just stick to saying I’m more likely to reply to a message with a face picture in it, on my profile!  |
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By *ydnNancyCouple
over a year ago
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If someone isn’t willing to send a face pic then we don’t engage with them because of time wasters.
If someone was genuinely going to expose someone then you’d have to be C level, or a teacher for it to be even remotely a risk to your job. So I honestly don’t see the reason not to.
It is odd when someone doesn’t have a face pic themselves to ask for one without sending theirs though!
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We don't send with first message, and certainly don't demand it. Prefer to see them fairly early on in the conversation though especially after having a chat with a couple who after quite a long chat turned out to be the parents of my eldest's best friend. Had to say sorry but no at that point. |
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over a year ago
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"Nobody is forcing you to send pic. If you don’t want to send one, don’t.
And yes, I’d send one. And I have. I sometimes have my face pics to public. Other times, I don’t. If someone sends me one and I like their face, message, profile etc I’ll send them one back. If not, then I’ll either say I’m not interested or just delete their message. Simple.
I understand nobody is forcing me it just seems a little abrupt. I do have face pics in my friends photos and do send them once I’ve built a rapport with them. I just don’t understand that some blank profiles demand they see a face pic when they have none of their own? It doesn’t make any sense? "
I totally agree with this. |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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It's a great question and one that highlights the hypocrisy of the women on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've never demanded a face pic with the first message, and would ignore a profile that would expect/demand one from me.
I do/did like to exchange face pics early on in the conversation though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always ask for them (mine are on show anyway). But I like to see if im attracted to the person regardless how good at the art of conversation. If i dont fancy them I won't meet them. This isn't blind date lol |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
It's a great question and one that highlights the hypocrisy of the women on here."
How is that hypocritical? People are entitled to run their profile how they like, if it doesn't match with how you like to run yours, it's not hypocrisy it's just a sign you may not be a good match |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I say two words : Ladies first
If she's one , she'll oblige otherwise I just go to sleep.
Ps: I am not high writing this message lol"
Other way round for me. I never go first. |
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I fully accept it and do move on when browsing, my question was would you be comfortable sending it to a complete faceless stranger?"
Strangers are just friends you haven't met yet.
Everyone on here is a stranger at some point, unless you already know them "on the outside"
We send them if we like what we see and the profile seems sound.
There are many reasons people may ask for face pics right away but not have their own.
Maybe they've been stalked by an ex and want to make sure the person they are speaking to isn't another incarnation of said ex.
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I ask for one for 2 reasons. It shows someone has bothered to read my profile, it also helps to establish if there is any attraction. I dont really like sending months and months of messages, i just dont have time to do that. I always send a face photo when i reply to their message if they have sent one. |
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"A good anology to have is that someone's profile is their house and your message is a knock on their doors.
They will open depending on what they see through the little peephole and their house rules apply at all times."
this is about how I see it. If I send a first message I would always attached a face photo. |
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It seems perfectly reasonable providing they they're happy to do the same. I parent post my picture publically but am happy to send it straight away. It really should a rexiprocsll |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
It's a great question and one that highlights the hypocrisy of the women on here.
How is that hypocritical? People are entitled to run their profile how they like, if it doesn't match with how you like to run yours, it's not hypocrisy it's just a sign you may not be a good match "
Well by definition it's hypocrisy by holding people to a different standard that you hold yourself to. To say you're not willing to speak to anyone unless they jump through a hoop you haven't gone through yourself is hypocrisy. |
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over a year ago
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
It's a great question and one that highlights the hypocrisy of the women on here.
How is that hypocritical? People are entitled to run their profile how they like, if it doesn't match with how you like to run yours, it's not hypocrisy it's just a sign you may not be a good match
Well by definition it's hypocrisy by holding people to a different standard that you hold yourself to. To say you're not willing to speak to anyone unless they jump through a hoop you haven't gone through yourself is hypocrisy."
No, that's just different preferences or profile requests - no-one is forcing you to comply, or saying one thing but doing a different one - you either accept their request and comply, or you move onto someone whose requirements you are happy to comply to - it really is that simple |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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i wouldnt send any pictures to a profile with no picture unfortunately their are few fakes on here |
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I like to see a pic before I send mine as I had someone follow me back to my daughter's flat once, and knock on the door, after he recognised me in the street.
He put his foot in the door when I told him to go away and shut the door.
So, I ask for a pic first, to see if I want to carry on talking, and send mine. That way he won't know what I look like if I say I'm not interested.
Also, I don't want my children's friends seeing my face on here, or my friend's children, or family members. I had a very good friend's son message me, who I wouldn't trust to not say anything, and I blocked him.
I can trust myself to be discreet, I don't trust other people. |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
i wouldnt send any pictures to a profile with no picture unfortunately their are few fakes on here "
quoting my self now forgot to say i wouldnt even be messaging some one with no pictures at all |
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If I message someone I only message someone who ticks most or all my boxes..And I always include a face pic. I don't have a face pic on my profile pics due to my job |
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"I like to see a pic before I send mine as I had someone follow me back to my daughter's flat once, and knock on the door, after he recognised me in the street.
He put his foot in the door when I told him to go away and shut the door.
So, I ask for a pic first, to see if I want to carry on talking, and send mine. That way he won't know what I look like if I say I'm not interested.
Also, I don't want my children's friends seeing my face on here, or my friend's children, or family members. I had a very good friend's son message me, who I wouldn't trust to not say anything, and I blocked him.
I can trust myself to be discreet, I don't trust other people. "
omg thats scary stuff what a freak |
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"We would never send or ask for a face pic first message, we both want to ascertain we don’t know the person in ‘real’ life first before throwing pics of our faces out to random hopefully strangers "
If you neither send a face pic or ask for one how will you manage ascertain whether you know each other? |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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I wouldn't send a message at all to anyone with demands on their profile. Canny be annoyed with folk like that |
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"We would never send or ask for a face pic first message, we both want to ascertain we don’t know the person in ‘real’ life first before throwing pics of our faces out to random hopefully strangers
If you neither send a face pic or ask for one how will you manage ascertain whether you know each other?"
Although you can’t be 100% certain after a conversation it’s quite easy from someone saying whereabouts they live or work etc just in general chitchat that there not likely to be the neighbour, it’s worked out so far, we ask for and send pics after a couple of messages to make sure of attraction but would never demand one straight off, if after talking they wouldn’t send one or after we sent ours wouldn’t then that would be different x |
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We have it as we want to know we are attracted to the person/people we are talking to. Not about to waste our time on someone that our wont meet as they are not what we find attractive. Im sorry if this seems rude but we have clear face pics so if you message us i assume you find us attractive. |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
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Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
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This 100% |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
This 100%"
Just to point out i don't think I'm good looking, it's just the attraction needs to be mutual. If someone is messaging and happy just to chat, then I'm less concerned with seeing their face but even then i like to know who I'm chatting to. |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
This 100%
Just to point out i don't think I'm good looking, it's just the attraction needs to be mutual. If someone is messaging and happy just to chat, then I'm less concerned with seeing their face but even then i like to know who I'm chatting to."
I think your hot |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
This 100%
Just to point out i don't think I'm good looking, it's just the attraction needs to be mutual. If someone is messaging and happy just to chat, then I'm less concerned with seeing their face but even then i like to know who I'm chatting to."
Same here for us im prob a 6 at best(ashley) and em is an 8(in my eyes at least). Some people will like us others wont. |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
This 100%
Just to point out i don't think I'm good looking, it's just the attraction needs to be mutual. If someone is messaging and happy just to chat, then I'm less concerned with seeing their face but even then i like to know who I'm chatting to.
I think your hot "
Thankyou, and likewise. I just don't want the OP thinking I'm arrogant. I don't remember chatting with them but clearly I peed them off in some way. I do that a lot. |
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"This question is more out of intrigue than anything else but on a number of ladies profiles they are demanding you send a face picture with your first contact or they'll delete your message without opening, even when there’s not one of their own on their profile?
Who would send their face to a complete stranger? Would you feel comfortable about this?
Well i have face photos on my profile so i think it's acceptable for me to want to see someone's fave
Given the nature of the site there needs to be physical attraction and for me that usually comes from facial features.
There's no point in chatting for a while only to find out you don't want anything sexual to hapoen when the other person does.
I'm not physically attracted to that many people so i can be disappointed if i haven't seen their face straight away.
If I'm not attracted and we don't chat I'm not going to remember their face forever, and reveal they're on fab.
This 100%
Just to point out i don't think I'm good looking, it's just the attraction needs to be mutual. If someone is messaging and happy just to chat, then I'm less concerned with seeing their face but even then i like to know who I'm chatting to.
I think your hot
Thankyou, and likewise. I just don't want the OP thinking I'm arrogant. I don't remember chatting with them but clearly I peed them off in some way. I do that a lot. "
Lol you can rub me up the wrong way anytime |
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"The OP has blocked me anyway so they have clearly taken a dislike to me in the past.
How will I cope... "
sorry had a quick peek at your profile and have to say your not disgusting love really your not |
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"The OP has blocked me anyway so they have clearly taken a dislike to me in the past.
How will I cope... "
Or perhaps they looked at your profile decided they didn't match what you are looking for and blocked you to save you coming up in searches in future, or they mailed you without reply and did so to save mailing you again.
Blocks aren't always for negative reasons |
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"The OP has blocked me anyway so they have clearly taken a dislike to me in the past.
How will I cope...
Or perhaps they looked at your profile decided they didn't match what you are looking for and blocked you to save you coming up in searches in future, or they mailed you without reply and did so to save mailing you again.
Blocks aren't always for negative reasons "
It was for the first reason, and sorry if it has caused the lady in question any offence.
I read in a previous thread that it makes filtering of potential suitors a bit easier to whittle down that’s all. |
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I am a bit of a funny bugger about this
If I saw someone I fancied without much of a profile, I'd send a message without and see what happened
If I saw someone I fancied whose boxes I pretty much ticked, their profile was good and they were verified in person, I'd send one from the gwt go
If, however, if their profile demanded one, I wouldn't even message
Your privacy is yours to maintain
It is not up to others to dictate how you give it away, whilst holding on to their own |
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"I am a bit of a funny bugger about this
If I saw someone I fancied without much of a profile, I'd send a message without and see what happened
If I saw someone I fancied whose boxes I pretty much ticked, their profile was good and they were verified in person, I'd send one from the gwt go
If, however, if their profile demanded one, I wouldn't even message
Your privacy is yours to maintain
It is not up to others to dictate how you give it away, whilst holding on to their own "
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