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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Tonight I was out with friends. We danced the night away. Just as we were leaving I ran into a beautiful woman upset in the bathrooms of the nightclub.
She was convinced she was fat and not pretty. I'd have killed for her body and looks .
She was out with her best friend who was about to move abroad. My heart went out to her. I spent a good 15 mins chatting with her and her friend.
I just couldn't believe someone like her would see the same things in the mirror that I do when I look at myself.
It's so sad that it's easy to believe the bad stuff rather than the good .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tonight I was out with friends. We danced the night away. Just as we were leaving I ran into a beautiful woman upset in the bathrooms of the nightclub.
She was convinced she was fat and not pretty. I'd have killed for her body and looks .
She was out with her best friend who was about to move abroad. My heart went out to her. I spent a good 15 mins chatting with her and her friend.
I just couldn't believe someone like her would see the same things in the mirror that I do when I look at myself.
It's so sad that it's easy to believe the bad stuff rather than the good .
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I certainly believe the negative comments, rather than the positive but then again I have eyes and I know I'm not beautiful, or even pretty. I'm also aware that i put some people off as i have said some awful things about myself.
My appearance and how i feel about myself as a person is a major issue for me and i struggle with very negative thoughts everyday. People can use the phrase " everyone has something they dislike about themselves" or call me shallow but there comes a point when how you look or feel about your personality becomes more than just trivial worries.
I find it really hard seeing all the other women on here, and how they look, and are seen by other men as stunning etc, but i do have hope that i can perhaps change my view hence me staying on here. Joining this site has actually helped me to talk to the opposite sex, as i never put myself out there and was useless before I started using sites |
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"Tonight I was out with friends. We danced the night away. Just as we were leaving I ran into a beautiful woman upset in the bathrooms of the nightclub.
She was convinced she was fat and not pretty. I'd have killed for her body and looks .
She was out with her best friend who was about to move abroad. My heart went out to her. I spent a good 15 mins chatting with her and her friend.
I just couldn't believe someone like her would see the same things in the mirror that I do when I look at myself.
It's so sad that it's easy to believe the bad stuff rather than the good .
I certainly believe the negative comments, rather than the positive but then again I have eyes and I know I'm not beautiful, or even pretty. I'm also aware that i put some people off as i have said some awful things about myself.
My appearance and how i feel about myself as a person is a major issue for me and i struggle with very negative thoughts everyday. People can use the phrase " everyone has something they dislike about themselves" or call me shallow but there comes a point when how you look or feel about your personality becomes more than just trivial worries.
I find it really hard seeing all the other women on here, and how they look, and are seen by other men as stunning etc, but i do have hope that i can perhaps change my view hence me staying on here. Joining this site has actually helped me to talk to the opposite sex, as i never put myself out there and was useless before I started using sites "
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There is also the issue about when we feel good and believe we are looking good then get knocked around or ignored. We need to have more about us than just how we look. |
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"There is also the issue about when we feel good and believe we are looking good then get knocked around or ignored. We need to have more about us than just how we look."
I absolutely agree. Sometimes life, circumstances and experiences leave us feeling insecure about so many things.
I think there are many of us who lack confidence. For me the site doesn't help that as I'm cynical and take everything with a pinch of salt. However I'm glad others have different experiences.
I'm almost 36,I'm fat, I'm not attractive, I'm lonely and I've got more baggage than Heathrow. In that respect I suppose to me it's more acceptable to be insecure. Where as she had (in my eyes) so much to celebrate about herself.
Then again it's all perspective.
I just wished I could have helped her more than just listening and trying to reassure her .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is also the issue about when we feel good and believe we are looking good then get knocked around or ignored. We need to have more about us than just how we look.
I absolutely agree. Sometimes life, circumstances and experiences leave us feeling insecure about so many things.
I think there are many of us who lack confidence. For me the site doesn't help that as I'm cynical and take everything with a pinch of salt. However I'm glad others have different experiences.
I'm almost 36,I'm fat, I'm not attractive, I'm lonely and I've got more baggage than Heathrow. In that respect I suppose to me it's more acceptable to be insecure. Where as she had (in my eyes) so much to celebrate about herself.
Then again it's all perspective.
I just wished I could have helped her more than just listening and trying to reassure her .
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is also the issue about when we feel good and believe we are looking good then get knocked around or ignored. We need to have more about us than just how we look.
I absolutely agree. Sometimes life, circumstances and experiences leave us feeling insecure about so many things.
I think there are many of us who lack confidence. For me the site doesn't help that as I'm cynical and take everything with a pinch of salt. However I'm glad others have different experiences.
I'm almost 36,I'm fat, I'm not attractive, I'm lonely and I've got more baggage than Heathrow. In that respect I suppose to me it's more acceptable to be insecure. Where as she had (in my eyes) so much to celebrate about herself.
Then again it's all perspective.
I just wished I could have helped her more than just listening and trying to reassure her .
You did your best. Maybe to her it will prove to be a big deal?"
You also said it's more acceptable for you to be insecure, is it safer for you that way? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"There is also the issue about when we feel good and believe we are looking good then get knocked around or ignored. We need to have more about us than just how we look.
I absolutely agree. Sometimes life, circumstances and experiences leave us feeling insecure about so many things.
I think there are many of us who lack confidence. For me the site doesn't help that as I'm cynical and take everything with a pinch of salt. However I'm glad others have different experiences.
I'm almost 36,I'm fat, I'm not attractive, I'm lonely and I've got more baggage than Heathrow. In that respect I suppose to me it's more acceptable to be insecure. Where as she had (in my eyes) so much to celebrate about herself.
Then again it's all perspective.
I just wished I could have helped her more than just listening and trying to reassure her .
You did your best. Maybe to her it will prove to be a big deal?You also said it's more acceptable for you to be insecure, is it safer for you that way?"
It's more logical for someone like me . I don't think it's safe for anyone but then neither is arrogance |
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"Tonight I was out with friends. We danced the night away. Just as we were leaving I ran into a beautiful woman upset in the bathrooms of the nightclub.
She was convinced she was fat and not pretty. I'd have killed for her body and looks .
Wtf.... your face photo is stunning and your body is to die for, you are one very hot lady x
She was out with her best friend who was about to move abroad. My heart went out to her. I spent a good 15 mins chatting with her and her friend.
I just couldn't believe someone like her would see the same things in the mirror that I do when I look at myself.
It's so sad that it's easy to believe the bad stuff rather than the good .
I certainly believe the negative comments, rather than the positive but then again I have eyes and I know I'm not beautiful, or even pretty. I'm also aware that i put some people off as i have said some awful things about myself.
My appearance and how i feel about myself as a person is a major issue for me and i struggle with very negative thoughts everyday. People can use the phrase " everyone has something they dislike about themselves" or call me shallow but there comes a point when how you look or feel about your personality becomes more than just trivial worries.
I find it really hard seeing all the other women on here, and how they look, and are seen by other men as stunning etc, but i do have hope that i can perhaps change my view hence me staying on here. Joining this site has actually helped me to talk to the opposite sex, as i never put myself out there and was useless before I started using sites "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is also the issue about when we feel good and believe we are looking good then get knocked around or ignored. We need to have more about us than just how we look.
I absolutely agree. Sometimes life, circumstances and experiences leave us feeling insecure about so many things.
I think there are many of us who lack confidence. For me the site doesn't help that as I'm cynical and take everything with a pinch of salt. However I'm glad others have different experiences.
I'm almost 36,I'm fat, I'm not attractive, I'm lonely and I've got more baggage than Heathrow. In that respect I suppose to me it's more acceptable to be insecure. Where as she had (in my eyes) so much to celebrate about herself.
Then again it's all perspective.
I just wished I could have helped her more than just listening and trying to reassure her .
You did your best. Maybe to her it will prove to be a big deal?You also said it's more acceptable for you to be insecure, is it safer for you that way?
It's more logical for someone like me . I don't think it's safe for anyone but then neither is arrogance"
There is a middle ground. |
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