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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So given the trend i may be late to the game.
What do you all honestly think of me.
For those wishing to make grossly offensive or rule breaking replies please screenshot or pm as i wouldnt want to miss them if the thread got deleted  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So given the trend i may be late to the game.
What do you all honestly think of me.
For those wishing to make grossly offensive or rule breaking replies please screenshot or pm as i wouldnt want to miss them if the thread got deleted "
Hot, informative and can carry an argument out with information to back stuff up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your a straight shooter who carries a lot of blanks in his pocket. A nice guy."
Tbf after that first bike crash where i came to a stop with one leg either side of thier rear tyre its wuite possible theyre all blanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your a straight shooter who carries a lot of blanks in his pocket. A nice guy.
Tbf after that first bike crash where i came to a stop with one leg either side of thier rear tyre its wuite possible theyre all blanks"
Not intended to mean that, but I understand your humour. It meant I never get the sense with you, that you shoot to wound. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your a straight shooter who carries a lot of blanks in his pocket. A nice guy.
Tbf after that first bike crash where i came to a stop with one leg either side of thier rear tyre its wuite possible theyre all blanksNot intended to mean that, but I understand your humour. It meant I never get the sense with you, that you shoot to wound."
Yeah i got you, but that phrase would make an excellent put down. In somone who is honest but always wrong :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your a straight shooter who carries a lot of blanks in his pocket. A nice guy.
Tbf after that first bike crash where i came to a stop with one leg either side of thier rear tyre its wuite possible theyre all blanksNot intended to mean that, but I understand your humour. It meant I never get the sense with you, that you shoot to wound.
Yeah i got you, but that phrase would make an excellent put down. In somone who is honest but always wrong :p"
Yes I know, I could have left it at that,but I knew it could be misconstrued...so I had mercy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well informed, erudite, challenging, independent thinking, well intentioned, quick witted, wise beyond your years.
Ruggedly hot. Good to have around the forum I learn something from you regularly. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well seen as your asking,you can be a right **** at times,whether you aim to be or not I soppose is irrelevant,however your not the biggest ****on here, hope that helps  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OK, you asked for honest....
You have an amazing brain and curiosity, but your cynicism can be quite acetic. At times the emotional detachment that allows you to explore subjects with rationality and logic can make you look antagonistic. The fact that we've been friends for years means I know that you have a good heart and don't deliberately seek to offend, but not everyone on here has that insight and I can see why you rub people up the wrong way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK, you asked for honest....
You have an amazing brain and curiosity, but your cynicism can be quite acetic. At times the emotional detachment that allows you to explore subjects with rationality and logic can make you look antagonistic. The fact that we've been friends for years means I know that you have a good heart and don't deliberately seek to offend, but not everyone on here has that insight and I can see why you rub people up the wrong way. "
Yes,I put it slightly different to that |
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"OK, you asked for honest....
You have an amazing brain and curiosity, but your cynicism can be quite acetic. At times the emotional detachment that allows you to explore subjects with rationality and logic can make you look antagonistic. The fact that we've been friends for years means I know that you have a good heart and don't deliberately seek to offend, but not everyone on here has that insight and I can see why you rub people up the wrong way. "
So that's told you OP  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
It's better to ignore than to clash  "
I have brought that up, but it's ignored. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
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I think that you're intelligent, quick witted and sharp (at times brutally so) I think that you sum people up very quickly.
I don't think that you suffer fools in any shape or form. I also think that (a little like me) you seek to question a person but often that's taken as challenging and rubs people up the wrong way.
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I don’t know you, saw you at a distance at the MLS so just judging from the forums I think you’re quite argumentative but you’re not on your own there. I think you're not always fair or considerate with some of your comments ... they can be a bit harsh. You join in which is good. I don’t know if you’re happy, it difficult to tell from your posts. |
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"I think that you're intelligent, quick witted and sharp (at times brutally so) I think that you sum people up very quickly.
I don't think that you suffer fools in any shape or form. I also think that (a little like me) you seek to question a person but often that's taken as challenging and rubs people up the wrong way.
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What ya sayin' Bro, get out of my town, I was here first  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
He likes to clash"
Even when you ask him to leave you be.. can't say as I'd noticed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going to say argumentative, but I think someone else above nailed it with antagonistic
Oh and a bit Jack Russell like - won't let go
I tend to flick past your contributions when you've got stuck into a subject (or someone) as they often become a bit laborious to get through
I think you get away with more than other guys because:
a) you can wordily talk your thoughts through (even if they are contentious points) and
b) folk think you're hot
All that said, I think you're on the right side of the fence on a lot of issues, so yeah I'm glad you do take part, even if I don't read it all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
He likes to clash"
When you starting one of these Dash, I know you’re tempted ?! |
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
He likes to clash
When you starting one of these Dash, I know you’re tempted ?! "
Fucking Hell, don't get him started for god's sake  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to skip a lot of what you say too I'm afraid, doesn't matter how well written it may be, you tend to come across as quite antagonistic and you do pick on people without, seemingly, any understanding of another person's perspectives... sorry |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was going to say argumentative, but I think someone else above nailed it with antagonistic
Oh and a bit Jack Russell like - won't let go
I tend to flick past your contributions when you've got stuck into a subject (or someone) as they often become a bit laborious to get through
I think you get away with more than other guys because:
a) you can wordily talk your thoughts through (even if they are contentious points) and
b) folk think you're hot
All that said, I think you're on the right side of the fence on a lot of issues, so yeah I'm glad you do take part, even if I don't read it all"
True, I am verbose. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
He likes to clash
When you starting one of these Dash, I know you’re tempted ?! "
I will later,will you be brutally honest with me tame? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
He likes to clash
When you starting one of these Dash, I know you’re tempted ?!
I will later,will you be brutally honest with me tame? "
Oh I was actually joking, why’s everyone got so needy all of a sudden ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I was going to say argumentative, but I think someone else above nailed it with antagonistic
Oh and a bit Jack Russell like - won't let go
I tend to flick past your contributions when you've got stuck into a subject (or someone) as they often become a bit laborious to get through
I think you get away with more than other guys because:
a) you can wordily talk your thoughts through (even if they are contentious points) and
b) folk think you're hot
All that said, I think you're on the right side of the fence on a lot of issues, so yeah I'm glad you do take part, even if I don't read it all
True, I am verbose."
Concise is so much better than verbose! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
He likes to clash
When you starting one of these Dash, I know you’re tempted ?!
I will later,will you be brutally honest with me tame?
Oh I was actually joking, why’s everyone got so needy all of a sudden ? "
So was I, Do you really think I would start one of these,I would get eaten alive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you make interesting points. You don't seem to have a filter and you won't back down. I was going to say rottweiler but Jack Russell sounds better. Snippy but playful, not going for the jugular.
You have a great caring side that I've seen over the years. Really supportive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting! "
They'd be as good as gold |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting! "
That would be fascinating |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
They'd be as good as gold "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting! "
Lets face it, it would end up with Genghis getting spitroased on the pool table |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
Lets face it, it would end up with Genghis getting spitroased on the pool table "
I’ll chalk his cue. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
Lets face it, it would end up with Genghis getting spitroased on the pool table
I’ll chalk his cue."
I didn't have you down as the bottom type tame  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Minus points as I’m not a fan of people craving validation like this, but you’re hot so objectively you’re not overly damaged
Nancy"
Tbh i was expecting vitriol. Disappointed in you all. |
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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago
Manchester (he/him) |
"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided."
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you’re quite tenacious, if you have an opinion on something you don’t back down and put it across with lots of facts to back it up. It can sometimes come across as arrogant and argumentative. But having met you briefly in person you’ve a softer side. You also have lots of lady fans and are very photogenic x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Minus points as I’m not a fan of people craving validation like this, but you’re hot so objectively you’re not overly damaged
Nancy
Tbh i was expecting vitriol. Disappointed in you all. "
I was going to but I would have got a ban |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Minus points as I’m not a fan of people craving validation like this, but you’re hot so objectively you’re not overly damaged
Nancy
Tbh i was expecting vitriol. Disappointed in you all.
I was going to but I would have got a ban"
Where’s your Flash Dash |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting! "
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night |
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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
Lets face it, it would end up with Genghis getting spitroased on the pool table "
What did I miss. Where is my invite
V x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation. "
What would you say is the purpose of them then? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night "
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?"
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place "
It would be like 3 alpha male gorilla's in the same room, a bit like in the lounge actually |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Minus points as I’m not a fan of people craving validation like this, but you’re hot so objectively you’re not overly damaged
Nancy
Tbh i was expecting vitriol. Disappointed in you all. "
You've been here long enough for familiarity to set in
You have attended social events
People have seen the other side of you (probably the softer, friendier, jokier side)
People fancy you
I don't think this thread would have been quite so forgiving if these weren't factored into play |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
Lets face it, it would end up with Genghis getting spitroased on the pool table
I’ll chalk his cue.
I didn't have you down as the bottom type tame "
By two straight men? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
It would be like 3 alpha male gorilla's in the same room, a bit like in the lounge actually "
So which one isn’t an alpha male?
Actually don’t answer that lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development "
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Minus points as I’m not a fan of people craving validation like this, but you’re hot so objectively you’re not overly damaged
Nancy
Tbh i was expecting vitriol. Disappointed in you all. "
I bet if you had a profile with no pics some of the responses would be different.
I looked at your profile when you first came back as I thought I recognised your posting style from before.
Can't think of a better way to say this but I don't think you're hot, you're not my type. -I like your posts because of what you say and how you come across.
Hope that makes sense. I feel I'm digging a hole as usual. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place "
Do a naked attraction kinda thing where they are revealed slowly to the audience and they only get to see each other at their most vulnerable
Then the audience could do a naked Q&A - it'd be like a weird Naked Attraction, Question Time & Jeremy Kyle hybrid
It'd be fap central - fannies fluttering for miles around  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it. "
An even mix of boredom and narcissism |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
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I've no real world issues with Tame or Carter. We all clash a bit, but at least they're both honest and unafraid. Neither have truly offensive views. I'd even hazard a guess that we might even get along in different circumstances, or given more time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
I've no real world issues with Tame or Carter. We all clash a bit, but at least they're both honest and unafraid. Neither have truly offensive views. I'd even hazard a guess that we might even get along in different circumstances, or given more time."
Just so long as we arent using Marxism to divide the bar tab :p |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
I've no real world issues with Tame or Carter. We all clash a bit, but at least they're both honest and unafraid. Neither have truly offensive views. I'd even hazard a guess that we might even get along in different circumstances, or given more time."
I imagine you'd all get along over a beer. Bromance. Heated discussion but with a lot of hearty laughs.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
I've no real world issues with Tame or Carter. We all clash a bit, but at least they're both honest and unafraid. Neither have truly offensive views. I'd even hazard a guess that we might even get along in different circumstances, or given more time."
I wasn’t really aware of who got along and who didn’t tbh I just think it would make for a very interesting evening as you all have quite strong views. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
I've no real world issues with Tame or Carter. We all clash a bit, but at least they're both honest and unafraid. Neither have truly offensive views. I'd even hazard a guess that we might even get along in different circumstances, or given more time.
Just so long as we arent using Marxism to divide the bar tab :p"
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"I like you. I think you’re intelligent and funny and speak a lot of sense.
I’d love a night out with you, genghis, TM and Tame and just sit back and watch and listen. Would be so interesting!
You could sell tickets to that! I think thats a lot of forumites idea of a great night
Not sure they’d all agree to it! We could maybe trick them to get them all in the same place
I've no real world issues with Tame or Carter. We all clash a bit, but at least they're both honest and unafraid. Neither have truly offensive views. I'd even hazard a guess that we might even get along in different circumstances, or given more time.
I imagine you'd all get along over a beer. Bromance. Heated discussion but with a lot of hearty laughs.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it. "
Yep I think you are a bit harsh and cynical at times on here but that’s part of your forum persona. I also get that it’s not in your nature, however I think curiosity gets the better of some of the forum. Both Carter and Tea Monkey probably knew they were on safe ground, firstly because they are both well grounded, secondly they have been on the forum for long enough for people to have got to know them both, in some cases, socially.
I was more concerned with the thread that started this off as I wasn’t sure how wise that was. However it may well have had the desired effect for the OP. He says it did.
I think getting open feedback in a thread of your own like this says quite a bit about the individuals though. |
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it.
Yep I think you are a bit harsh and cynical at times on here but that’s part of your forum persona. I also get that it’s not in your nature, however I think curiosity gets the better of some of the forum. Both Carter and Tea Monkey probably knew they were on safe ground, firstly because they are both well grounded, secondly they have been on the forum for long enough for people to have got to know them both, in some cases, socially.
I was more concerned with the thread that started this off as I wasn’t sure how wise that was. However it may well have had the desired effect for the OP. He says it did.
I think getting open feedback in a thread of your own like this says quite a bit about the individuals though."
I think you have to be very confident and grounded to do this. I thought I was but I couldn’t do this. I’m way too sensitive deep down! |
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it.
Yep I think you are a bit harsh and cynical at times on here but that’s part of your forum persona. I also get that it’s not in your nature, however I think curiosity gets the better of some of the forum. Both Carter and Tea Monkey probably knew they were on safe ground, firstly because they are both well grounded, secondly they have been on the forum for long enough for people to have got to know them both, in some cases, socially.
I was more concerned with the thread that started this off as I wasn’t sure how wise that was. However it may well have had the desired effect for the OP. He says it did.
I think getting open feedback in a thread of your own like this says quite a bit about the individuals though.
I think you have to be very confident and grounded to do this. I thought I was but I couldn’t do this. I’m way too sensitive deep down!"
I’m sure you get your feedback in a way that works for you. You can have both confidence and sensitivity and be resilient enough to receive the public feedback, but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I think you're quite intelligent although fuck knows you can waffle on with a point without actually making a clear point.
I like the Jack Russell analogy further up - snippy is a good way of describing you in an argument. You can also be a tad condescending at times. And when you want to get involved with a debate, you're like a dog with a bone.
But, I've seen the, oft mentioned above, softer side of you and you're quite likeable really. And you like to and know how to cook so how awful can you be, really?
A bit of a dick with a heart.
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it.
Yep I think you are a bit harsh and cynical at times on here but that’s part of your forum persona. I also get that it’s not in your nature, however I think curiosity gets the better of some of the forum. Both Carter and Tea Monkey probably knew they were on safe ground, firstly because they are both well grounded, secondly they have been on the forum for long enough for people to have got to know them both, in some cases, socially.
I was more concerned with the thread that started this off as I wasn’t sure how wise that was. However it may well have had the desired effect for the OP. He says it did.
I think getting open feedback in a thread of your own like this says quite a bit about the individuals though.
I think you have to be very confident and grounded to do this. I thought I was but I couldn’t do this. I’m way too sensitive deep down!
I’m sure you get your feedback in a way that works for you. You can have both confidence and sensitivity and be resilient enough to receive the public feedback, but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you."
True. I think it’s when people get personal with a hint of nastiness I don’t like it. I can handle people not agreeing with my opinions. I know by now that’s pretty much a given! |
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"You are all missing the option that maybe the thread says more about the people who reply than the people who start it :p"
Good point. All feedback tells us as much about the giver as the receiver. Often we project unowned parts of ourselves we like and dislike onto other people. That’s why feedback is a mutual process. I’ve learned a bit about myself in the feedback and contributions I’ve made in each of the three threads. However I reflect on what I post on here quite frequently as I use this place as a bit of a mirror to understand what is going on for me. It’s probably one of the reasons I’ve stuck around for so long. |
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"Didn’t think you’re the type of person to crave validation from these type of threads, but I’m
Still undecided.
I find it interesting that people automatically assume that these threads are about seeking validation.
What would you say is the purpose of them then?
Seeking feedback - we are social beings - interdependent- interconnected. Feedback is important for our growth and development
Oh I agree. But an internet forum on a swinging site isn't the first place I'd look to get opinions. Maybe I'm being too harsh and cynical. Maybe it's because it's not my nature so I just don't understand it. Thanks for giving me another way if looking at it.
Yep I think you are a bit harsh and cynical at times on here but that’s part of your forum persona. I also get that it’s not in your nature, however I think curiosity gets the better of some of the forum. Both Carter and Tea Monkey probably knew they were on safe ground, firstly because they are both well grounded, secondly they have been on the forum for long enough for people to have got to know them both, in some cases, socially.
I was more concerned with the thread that started this off as I wasn’t sure how wise that was. However it may well have had the desired effect for the OP. He says it did.
I think getting open feedback in a thread of your own like this says quite a bit about the individuals though.
I think you have to be very confident and grounded to do this. I thought I was but I couldn’t do this. I’m way too sensitive deep down!
I’m sure you get your feedback in a way that works for you. You can have both confidence and sensitivity and be resilient enough to receive the public feedback, but that doesn’t mean it’s right for you.
True. I think it’s when people get personal with a hint of nastiness I don’t like it. I can handle people not agreeing with my opinions. I know by now that’s pretty much a given! "
When people project their own shit onto another person and aim their comments at the level of a person’s Identity without thought for the impact on that individual, the perverted intent of ‘I’m just being brutally honest’ can have a damaging effect. |
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Hmmmm tricky one!
Based purely on your posting style as I obvs don’t know or have met you.
I either really like you and think yep that’s a great response, interesting point of view. Or I think what an antagonistic, you’re arguing for the sake of it, twat.
FWIW...in recent times its usually more the first observation.
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From what I've seen you come across as confident yet not arrogant, but you can be blunt.
When you believe you're correct you will stand by it, which I respect, as long as you aren't tunnel visioned when people may not agree with you and accept others views may differ, but still not be wrong - just different, as their experiences are theirs alone and have shaped the who they are.
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"So given the trend i may be late to the game.
What do you all honestly think of me.
For those wishing to make grossly offensive or rule breaking replies please screenshot or pm as i wouldnt want to miss them if the thread got deleted "
You've guts to ask that in public, feedback be damned. I'm sure you already had an idea based on your interactions with people and their replies?
After 18 months here I know exactly what most people think of me. |
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"Hmmmm tricky one!
Based purely on your posting style as I obvs don’t know or have met you.
I either really like you and think yep that’s a great response, interesting point of view. Or I think what an antagonistic, you’re arguing for the sake of it, twat.
FWIW...in recent times its usually more the first observation.
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I’d agree with this I’ve seen things develop over time with a difference from Wolfy to Carter, however to be specific about those differences is too long ago. In some ways I think you come across less arrogantly than you did and with more knowledge backing up your arguments.
Like Meli said I’d like you even more if I felt you came across as less condescending. However that is probably part of me I don’t recognise at times projected onto you. |
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"So given the trend i may be late to the game.
What do you all honestly think of me.
For those wishing to make grossly offensive or rule breaking replies please screenshot or pm as i wouldnt want to miss them if the thread got deleted "
Genuinely never noticed you before. Sorry I can't be of more help. |
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"Not a fan if I'm honest.
Haha, I didn't think so
Not an enemy either. We just clash way too often.
It's better to ignore than to clash
I have brought that up, but it's ignored."
I wish more ppl got that idea. I just want a quiet life and a few laughs.... |
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My mum always said if iv nothing nice to say say nothing at all but im 39 and i mainly ignore her now
So il list good and bad points instead
Good ___________ and on occasion witty
Bad selfish mentality over opinionated like to try to dominate people because your clearly a smart guy typical chester lad if im honest
And a little nit picky over daft stuff that dont matter
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"My mum always said if iv nothing nice to say say nothing at all but im 39 and i mainly ignore her now
So il list good and bad points instead
Good ___________ and on occasion witty
Bad selfish mentality over opinionated like to try to dominate people because your clearly a smart guy typical chester lad if im honest
And a little nit picky over daft stuff that dont matter
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Im welsh and dont live in chester
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think you're quite intelligent although fuck knows you can waffle on with a point without actually making a clear point.
I like the Jack Russell analogy further up - snippy is a good way of describing you in an argument. You can also be a tad condescending at times. And when you want to get involved with a debate, you're like a dog with a bone.
But, I've seen the, oft mentioned above, softer side of you and you're quite likeable really. And you like to and know how to cook so how awful can you be, really?
A bit of a dick with a heart.
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can we please butch up the jack Russel thing
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"My mum always said if iv nothing nice to say say nothing at all but im 39 and i mainly ignore her now
So il list good and bad points instead
Good ___________ and on occasion witty
Bad selfish mentality over opinionated like to try to dominate people because your clearly a smart guy typical chester lad if im honest
And a little nit picky over daft stuff that dont matter
Im welsh and dont live in chester
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