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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not shy. Really used to be, but became much more comfortable as I got older. It is much easier to be forward here as well.
You can also take your time and breathe properly which helps. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"hush hush, eye to eye....
Are you too shy or are you a go- getter?
Is that the only two options, think I’m somewhere in between. "
I was going to choose a third option but *ahem* someone would have said they fitted either side of the middle... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I realised how shy I actually was when we went to our first group social the other week. However if I go to something and don’t have my clothes on I’m a social butterfly  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I dont know if its shyness or just an aversion to people  "
This. I think I’ve become a misanthropist I really do . Find me a desert island for me and my dog  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont know if its shyness or just an aversion to people
This. I think I’ve become a misanthropist I really do . Find me a desert island for me and my dog "
A big shotgun if anyone passes by too closely (apart from the occasional sexy pirate)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont know if its shyness or just an aversion to people
This. I think I’ve become a misanthropist I really do . Find me a desert island for me and my dog
A big shotgun if anyone passes by too closely (apart from the occasional sexy pirate) "
Absolutely. And I may order a man in every now and then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont know if its shyness or just an aversion to people
This. I think I’ve become a misanthropist I really do . Find me a desert island for me and my dog
A big shotgun if anyone passes by too closely (apart from the occasional sexy pirate)
Absolutely. And I may order a man in every now and then. "
We will still want a shelf or two putting up for sure. Need somewhere to put the coconuts.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I dont know if its shyness or just an aversion to people
This. I think I’ve become a misanthropist I really do . Find me a desert island for me and my dog
A big shotgun if anyone passes by too closely (apart from the occasional sexy pirate)
Absolutely. And I may order a man in every now and then.
We will still want a shelf or two putting up for sure. Need somewhere to put the coconuts. "
True! And the rubbish will need putting out too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family. |
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family. "
Hmm I can somehow relate to that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family. "
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family.
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens."
Don't give up because you're afraid of being ignored. The more you practice the easier it gets. In January I spoke at an NHS event for 10 minutes in front of about 100 people. I've gone from selective mutism to that! Just keep slowly pushing your boundaries, little by little. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family.
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens.
Don't give up because you're afraid of being ignored. The more you practice the easier it gets. In January I spoke at an NHS event for 10 minutes in front of about 100 people. I've gone from selective mutism to that! Just keep slowly pushing your boundaries, little by little. "
It would be a lot easier if I wasn't right all the time, especially at swinger events. Never mind clubs, I get routinely blanked at socials. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family.
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens.
Don't give up because you're afraid of being ignored. The more you practice the easier it gets. In January I spoke at an NHS event for 10 minutes in front of about 100 people. I've gone from selective mutism to that! Just keep slowly pushing your boundaries, little by little.
It would be a lot easier if I wasn't right all the time, especially at swinger events. Never mind clubs, I get routinely blanked at socials."
Don't wait for people to talk to you, if that's what you want. Talk to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both, slightly bipolar I reckon.... 
Crackers
Faf? 
7pm?
Yeah ok
What wss this huge beautiful one you had earlier?
Eh?!?"
I think it was precipitation related..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both, slightly bipolar I reckon....
Crackers
Faf?
7pm?
Yeah ok
What wss this huge beautiful one you had earlier?
Eh?!?
I think it was precipitation related..... "
Ffs!!  so random.. the thunderstorm?!? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both, slightly bipolar I reckon....
Crackers
Faf?
7pm?
Yeah ok
What wss this huge beautiful one you had earlier?
Eh?!?
I think it was precipitation related.....
Ffs!! so random.. the thunderstorm?!? "
Fucking hope so, or I hope he's blow off by 7pm at least.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Both, slightly bipolar I reckon....
Crackers
Faf?
7pm?
Yeah ok
What wss this huge beautiful one you had earlier?
Eh?!?
I think it was precipitation related.....
Ffs!! so random.. the thunderstorm?!?
Fucking hope so, or I hope he's blow off by 7pm at least.... "
12 minutes.. optimistic!?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family.
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens.
Don't give up because you're afraid of being ignored. The more you practice the easier it gets. In January I spoke at an NHS event for 10 minutes in front of about 100 people. I've gone from selective mutism to that! Just keep slowly pushing your boundaries, little by little.
It would be a lot easier if I wasn't right all the time, especially at swinger events. Never mind clubs, I get routinely blanked at socials.
Don't wait for people to talk to you, if that's what you want. Talk to them. "
When I say people blank me, I mean I approach them, say hello and get ignored, often with a filthy look as though I've no business breathing the same air as them. And then the same people give me shit for "not getting involved". |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family.
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens.
Don't give up because you're afraid of being ignored. The more you practice the easier it gets. In January I spoke at an NHS event for 10 minutes in front of about 100 people. I've gone from selective mutism to that! Just keep slowly pushing your boundaries, little by little.
It would be a lot easier if I wasn't right all the time, especially at swinger events. Never mind clubs, I get routinely blanked at socials.
Don't wait for people to talk to you, if that's what you want. Talk to them.
When I say people blank me, I mean I approach them, say hello and get ignored, often with a filthy look as though I've no business breathing the same air as them. And then the same people give me shit for "not getting involved"."
Those people are obviously not worth bothering with. Perhaps you need to choose who you reach out to more carefully. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depends on my mood. I had selective mutism as a child and adolescent and terrible social anxiety. I'm much better now in that I've stopped caring what other people think and I'm not afraid to ask for what I want or need. I'm reserved with people I don't know, yet quite chatty and boisterous with friends and family.
Same with me, I'm fine with people I'm already comfortable with. Unfortunately, as a single male on here I'm required to make all the running so I end up feeling acutely uncomfortable because I'm afraid I'll just get blanked and ignored - which is exactly what happens.
Don't give up because you're afraid of being ignored. The more you practice the easier it gets. In January I spoke at an NHS event for 10 minutes in front of about 100 people. I've gone from selective mutism to that! Just keep slowly pushing your boundaries, little by little.
It would be a lot easier if I wasn't right all the time, especially at swinger events. Never mind clubs, I get routinely blanked at socials.
Don't wait for people to talk to you, if that's what you want. Talk to them.
When I say people blank me, I mean I approach them, say hello and get ignored, often with a filthy look as though I've no business breathing the same air as them. And then the same people give me shit for "not getting involved".
Those people are obviously not worth bothering with. Perhaps you need to choose who you reach out to more carefully. "
And yet those people are often very popular. Makes me think it's me that's the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I realised how shy I actually was when we went to our first group social the other week. However if I go to something and don’t have my clothes on I’m a social butterfly "
This ^^
I think my confidence correlates to the lack of clothing I'm wearing  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I realised how shy I actually was when we went to our first group social the other week. However if I go to something and don’t have my clothes on I’m a social butterfly
This ^^
I think my confidence correlates to the lack of clothing I'm wearing "
I think women can get away with that more than men |
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